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Tips from couples who meet single guys
September 12 2012
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
That sounds ominous...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi ya P.P, We have also discussed this, and came to our own conclusion that the age of the prospective guy is a big thing to consider. We've chatted to a variety of single guys on the sites and found that the majority of them between 30-37 ish are only out there to claim a prize. So we decided that when the times right we would be looking for a guy who is "matured" a little more, one that can except to play by our rules with NSA. Good luck on your venture.
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RHP User
12 years ago
why dont u try looking for a couple who want to play seperatly.i find honesty is best, u can soon tell how honest they are.be tough, anyone who will put up with u being a tough bitch (but still fun and cheeky) is almost always worth it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
pick me,pick me!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't ever play with other guys unless you as a couple are ready for it.The guy should be chosen by both of you and you both should have talked about it all with the guy before you go ahead and play.I always found it was better for my hubby to ask the guy to play that way he knows that you approve for him to play with your wife.Go over your rules and never break them, if it doesn't feel right no matter at what stage of play STOP!No questions asked JUST STOP !If you want to start by play all together do that, and remember that always it is about you as a couple and not about the guy.Think of it as fun time for you 2 and nothing more.When you go home together then make love and or have hot sex while talking in eachothers ears about what just happened.Last of all, don't take it too seriously as it is all about play and not about relationships.Unless of course you want what i have and then can i tell you it is hard work, but wonderful I have a hubby and a boyfriend and we have live together or over 3 years and it works so well.Take it one step at a time...and remember it is about YOU 2 not Him.Leesa xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
What in the dynamic of a mmf situation interests you, coming from both his and her perspective?, who has initially suggested this type of threesome?. Your profile suggests the male is straight, but you have a hyperlink stating mmf, did you mean mfm?.Having read a certain individuals profile recently after checking out a different thread it is clear that a minority of males see themselves as superior when posed with this dynamic, however the age of the individual in that case suggested this was naivety more than anything else and a suppressed need to feel dominant in front of other males.I would imagine that with millions of men out there you would be able to find someone who fits the bill no matter what you are looking for, I'm sure you will get plenty of offers, however the best candidate may not appear immediately. You could try a number of different methods to find the perfect play mate, you could perhaps vet them all very strictly over the internet or take things in a more relaxed manner and try a few out over drinks and get experienced that way?.
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
LOL Davo!Quoting 'nameisinuse' What in the dynamic of a mmf situation interests you, coming from both his and her perspective?, who has initially suggested this type of threesome?. Your profile suggests the male is straight, but you have a hyperlink stating mmf, did you mean mfm?.Yeah MFM not MMF, so hard to keep up with the lingo but it's not a mistake you'd want to make Male is straight, we've had a gentle introduction to 3-somes both FMF and MFM through playing with couples where for one reason or another there's been 3 left standing so we know we like the dynamic but we imagine it will be different once the extra M (or F) is single. One of the driving factors of being interested in single males is that we've been stood up holding the hotel bill a couple of times and if single males were an option then it would be much easier to find a playmate for the night at short notice. There are many other dynamics that make it an interesting proposition...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi Mr and Mrs Paradise Pair Your question will provide many an answer I am sure, and plenty of offers too There are many dynamics that have to be discussed before you delve into this unchartered waters Your profile certainly spells it out the class of people you are and this would hopefully help in the selection / deselection criteria of applicants I guess you have to ask the question "what" it is you both want from a MFM experience After a few messages back and forth (including some pics - so all can see the all involved, no one really wants a toothless or ruthless tiger do they ?) and prior to playing, when meeting in a social environment to go thru the interview stage (as you put it in your profile - proves I actually read them !) I like to have a coffee and get to know people, I find this allows everyone to make a good decision wether or not you would all like to proceed with anything further - having said that make sure you aren't looking for such a rare and unique person that doesn't exist in the real world ie there is only one Brad Pitt, George Clooney (what ever floats your boat !!) and then plan from there Personal, I am very respectful and honoured to share a lady with another man, being her partner or hubby etc I always let them initiate play as I don't want to be pushy I don't like to take control of any situation Always like to make sure everything and everyone is comfortable and having fun whilst playing, personally I like to make sure the lady is the total centre of attention and enjoy taking turns (while the other M has a break, and is receiving oral, giving oral, kissing, massaging etc etc) an the lady is in seventh heaven I like to take a breather from time to time to enjoy and watch a little at the same time, a real life / live porno, one you can join in, touch, taste smell etc you get the idea Well that's just me I guess I always like to make sure everyone has fun and if all goes well maybe could even allow for a repeat rendezvous Would love to know your thoughts Ciao X ps I have looked at your profile several times before and love your new main pic ;-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
After many happy years of loving each other' one day we got chatting about what we should do for MrJJ for her upcoming birthday.. We were going through the normal things like most couples do ' then I jokingly suggested adding a good looking hung guy as a one off.. At first we joked about how different it would be and left it at that...We had been on RHP for awhile at the time' then one day I came across a message from a guy wanting to be friends..His face pic was good, and his profile read well ' not to mention his impressive vital statistics . We replied and got into a good convo and then he opened his cam to check him out..( clothed ) Mrs JJ checked him out and said 'why not' so we organised to meet for a coffee at a neutral place.. The 3 of us got along really well and he meet Mrs JJs criteria . We told him what we have in mind for Mrs JJs birthday , naturally he agreed .. but we wanted room to breathe before doing anything..We chewed it over for a few days ' then with the birthday day approaching we decided to step outside our safety zone and give it a whirl.. We organised a day, meet in the bar of the hotel, had a few drinks , then I seen Mrs do something I never thought she would do.. She puts down her drink and says' OK ' we had our drinks, lets go up to our room... Without going into all the details' she took control and got to experienced her first bigger than normal guy and the most unusual birthday present ever... Would we do it again... ? Dont know... but I think every couple should try it at least once.. We took it as a adventure we ticked of our bucket list.... Bottom line is you must be secure in your relationship , and you must be prepared to accept it for what it is , it is a experiment in trust , excitement , giving and enjoyment... Important thing is to do your homework and find a suitable guy.. Good luck...
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RHP User
12 years ago
We have had quite a few mmf and all had one thing in common. We never had any stringent rules on who should participate especially when it is hard enough to get it organised. Only one thing was of concern was that the man should have a sense of humour and not take himself too seriously. Having fun is the ultimate objective and doing it as a 3'some is a lot easier than trying to organise two pairs of couples to get it on. Have found that just too damned difficult. Never had a bad one yet and every 3'some had its rewards. 2 cocks are always better than one and 3 is better than 2. Get our drift?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Interesting comments..... Coming from someone who has played with couples, make sure you make it clear to the guy your seeking early, and thats including whether your expecting male on male play as well. I noticed in your profile you said you would seek single men for an interview kind of meeting before playtime, which from past experience should be over coffee or lunch rather then over a couple of drinks in your bedroom :) As for the warning signs, obviously if he is texting you asking if your husband is working and being pushy down that road. Once that 'interview' takes place though im sure you and your husband will know the guys that are genuine about playing with you's as a couple. Hope that helps... Luke
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RHP User
12 years ago
Our experiment was a straight M/F one... Mr JJ was happy to sit this one out ...Paradisepair... happy to chat about our experience if you think you can get anything from it....
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have had a few and from a man joining a couples perspective it is the most wonderful experiences you can have in the bedroom. It is such a privelege for a man to be invited to be with a couple as it shows alot of trust...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'I have my thoughts.... .... but I will be interested to see the comments form other couples who have made the same decision. Quoting 'Paradisepair'That sounds ominous... Quoting 'davo101'pick me,pick me!!!! upinthesky..... are you by chance a salesman??
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey there.. I have done it from both sides of the fence :) I have arranged it for the female in my life at the time, and been arranged for someone elses female once or twice. A few awkward moments, one of the couples wasn't stable..and shit went down.. a little. one of girls I arranged it for, CRAVED the situation...but, one the night.. she too went south.. the others were fine.. make sure you guys are strong together.. relax, and enjoy the attention. :) caveman
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yeah, I've had an ocassion where I enjoyed a sexual encounter with a couple. The experience centred around the lady. The important is that everyone involved needs to be comfortable with the sitaution and above all be relaxed otherwise, the sexual energy just does not flow. Hey..moreandmore65..loved your profile and would entertain the thought of enjoying some fun with you..mmmm
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RHP User
12 years ago
we ask them about such things as their marital status (single only for us) and whether they can host or not (getting a room somewhere feels 'tacky' to us), and things like smoking/drugs/experience etc...and we refuse to play with anyone the ages of, or younger than, our own children.... hence the 35 plus age range....the closer to our own ages the better, as we find shared attitudes and personal tastes much more interesting than not..... little things like language used and music likes, help on the evening...(i'm not the 'bro' of some 20 something, and dont see rap/hip hop or 'doof doof' music as sexy, and dont want to know all about how far someone spewed, or how quick their mums camry is) find someone you 'click' with (you'll know) and go from there...maybe do what we do...'once only'.... we see much more excitement in playing this way, than going someowhere multiple times... we dont see other males being too 'familiar' or being 'demanding' as something we want. oh, and keep the contact between the guys...dont give her phone number/msn details to any 'prospective' playmates.... thats a sure fire recipe for disaster.... as we found out when Shel was stalked both online....and around the local shopping centre...another idea is to never play with someone you already know...danger lurks there too...
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RHP User
12 years ago
My wife and I have had single males join us for a threesome a couple of times and both times it was unreal.. I just make it very clear whats going on and if it came to a point where I thought he was trying to 'claim his prize' my wife would first shut him down and set him straight then i'd just kick him out! You're the boss in a situation like this! If a single male was every disrespectful or if he tried to put it over me after i've invited him over to join us i'd let him know quick smart that Im pissed off! It can be a very uncertain situation if you're not ready and someone could really mess things up for you!! But my wife and i know that there is know one else out there that can make us feel the way we make each other feel so we are very comfortable with it.... And i just love seeing her with someone else's dick in her mouth!!! Its so hot!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DirtyCouple2226'....And i just love seeing her with someone else's dick in her mouth!!! Its so hot!! wow, may I send you a message the next time I'm around Sydney?...lol
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
Quoting 'DirtyCouple2226' My wife and I have had single males join us for a threesome a couple of times and both times it was unreal.. I just make it very clear whats going on and if it came to a point where I thought he was trying to 'claim his prize' my wife would first shut him down and set him straight then i'd just kick him out! Can I ask - if you read this - that you clarify what kind of behaviour constitutes 'claiming a prize'? I'm not really sure what that means...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe it's another way of suggesting that the medals from the high school swim meet should be left at home when driving to the hotel room to play...
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
We're still looking, ok, didn't look that hard but managed to get stood up twice! We've met enough guys to start counting on 2 hands although not all floated my boat but with the ones that did interest was shown and then nothing... Was such hard work looking (& disheartening) that I told MrPP that we should stop looking. That was months ago and I'm feeling like I'd like for us to try again. Hopeful after a coffee today that there will be a smile on face shortly, keep your fingers crossed for us I have high standards and don't want to drop them. Is it really this hard? I'm not a fugly broad, MrPP is not intimidating...
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DonnaBrett
12 years ago
They must be respectful & play by YOUR rules. So first you both need to sort out exactly what you both want out of it ..and boundaries etc. Then when you meet them be honest & upfront about your expectations & rules. If you have the slightest doubt about him...follow your instincts and say no thanks. Maybe until you get to know the guy/s don't play at your house and only give him husband's number for contact & arrangements, this is to avoid the stalker element. However all that being said we've never had an issue with guys not knowing their place and have become good friends with some. Also as someone said more mature guys are probably easier to deal with. If it's just the sex you want, maybe a married guy wanting some adventures on the side, at least you know he won't want to risk getting caught out by getting too attached or turning creepy LOL
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just come to a drinks night and meet the real people
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Keen4_acpl
12 years ago
Single males should be respectful of the couples wishes... And never over step the boundaries.... Being pushy and rude gets u no where... I hope u get that smile on ur face guys soon :) and single guys stop messing things up by cancelling and being disrespectful no shows... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Interesting thread - thanks for posting ParadisePair. : ) Respect is imprtant in life and lust. It's a two way street though and some couples fail too. I've been keen to try a couples situation for the first time. I'm straight but love to please so seems a natural fit to spoil the feminine half. So far no luck and the responses have ranged from no response, polite thanks but we have a VERY long waiting list (understandable) to outright rude and obnoxious. This bit i don't get. I'm a polite guy and approach with care, so can only put it down to some peeps get more attention than they deserve and think they can behave badly as a result. I thank my lucky starts the rude ones do respond that way as bad manners turn me right off and I wouldn't want to waste my couple cherry with them. Anyway.. back on track.. All the best on your search PPs. There are nice singles out there to suit you I'm sure, might just be a large hay stack to sift through for the right bloke.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a single guy, just about to head into my first threesome with another couple. I've met a lovely married couple - 18 years strong, and we've met together for coffee, had a long chat, and fortunately, there already seems to be plenty of chemistry and I've a pretty good hunch this could be the start of a good thing. Part of me is rather honoured that they've chosen me, so I'm really keen to be the most gentlemanly (that's totally a word!) man I can be. While this isn't their first time, I get the feeling they've had limited success in the past. I know what's most important about this whole scene is that it really is all about the other couple, so I suggested we all get dressed up, go out for a nice dinner and maybe come back to my apartment for cocktails and general chit-chat. So far we haven't really touched on intimate details and rules, and that's totally fine with me - the cafe isn't an appropriate place to be discussing such topics. I figure we'll get around to that after dinner etc. So I guess basically what I'm keen to hear from you more experienced couples - what can I do to maximise pleasure out of this experience? I'm planning really to just let things go with the flow - this is all about them, and anything I can do to enrich their night out is bonus for me. They've made a big call asking me to join them in their most intimate couple activities, the least I can do is be completely respectful in return, and show them a fantastic night. Got any other pointers? :)
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