M49 F45
To Fuck or Not to Fuck?
January 20 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
ohso lucky for them.....will be keeping an eye or two out for you guys...
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RHP User
12 years ago
If we met up with a couple for drinks and found that the connection was there between us all and sexual attraction was also there and we had the desire to play...We'd play! Our desire in this lifestyle is to form friendships with just a few select couples so that we could meet up regularly, to have fun or not, but you would think that most times the fun would happen.. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
We dont mix our "friend friends" with "pleasure friends" meaning we like to keep our sexploration experiences totally separate. We have many friends who would be totally horrified if they knew what we were getting up too.....but then again, they could be doing or thinking the same things LOL....but in general, no we prefer to have normal everyday friends and sexually interested friends separate
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ohtilts, why can't you do both? We have friends we met through RHP that we have been friends with for a few years now and when we meet up we generally engage in more than just drinks and a BBQ. Another couple we have known for years (through other means) we've got the same type of friendship relationship with. We don't see anything wrong with being friends with ppl you are swinging with, in fact if you get along well outside the bedroom, it enhances the sex. I'm a bit closeted with regard to my bisexuality (family and non-queer friends don't know about it at all) so for us it's great to have friends that we can be open with and swap stories/philosophies etc.
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RHP User
12 years ago
...cross the line and do the deed and avoid the friends or friends for life bit, probably best not to clutter your life with excess people. That can get expensive what with having to send out Christmas cards or worse, maybe even buy them a birthday present...I hate shopping and a lot of my friends buy me really daggy gifts.
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RHP User
12 years ago
can't you do both,do you have a rule about this?Or is it always just one offs for you?I doubt after meeting anyone once,that you can think this person or these people will become friends for life.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You don't fuck friends... No crosing boundaries...no flirting...just friends.. Only you and your partner can decide that...you'll know. Friends for life to me means something special in your life...it can't be forced...has to happen naturally.. SuperFox xx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nice one super fox!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Stop meeting such fabulous people!! ;-) x
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RHP User
12 years ago
I pay up. Send a message. Long Skype chat. Met the lovely woman for coffee. She's cool. I come home think about it. Arrange another drink. It's going well. She seems to genuinely like me.When I ask about a being playmates I get.."But you're lovely. When I fuck a guy I jump out of bed two minutes later and have nothing to do with him for six months. I don't want our friendship to be like that."~face palm~Actually, I'm pretty sure we'll be pretty good buddies. I'd just like to be able to say goodbye each time with her taste still on my tongue and my legs a little wobbly.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have met a perfectly friendly and amazingly sexy couple. From our sexual encounters i have decided that i like them as much as i lust them and have now after more then two years become very good friends with him and her. Sure everytime i see her i get the urge to drive her through the mattress.. But keeping it reall, i know there is a time and a place for everything...and so we do the bbq, the market, the restaurant and family friend scene just as easily as we do a hot and sweaty all nite mfm... So i guess yes, in my experience to fuck doesnt spoil the friendship, it enhances the opportunities within it.
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newdimension
12 years ago
Suck a moral dilemma you have , where do you meet such people that you find super sexy and also wanna be friends for life with :-)
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Ohtilts
12 years ago
Saturn65 exactly thats our problem...!!!!! We have never fucked on a first meet or greet its usually a get together dont get us wrong 90% of the time its sexual attraction BUT.... whats more important 1 or 2 hours of passion OR a lifetime of laughs fun holidays BBQ'S .....we are selective who me meet to suit our personality maybe thats the problem....
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love being friends first and then jumping into it later!! If I don't like the people as friends how can I like them as lovers ? I have a rule that fuck buddies can be friends but friends can turn into fuck buddies. - Posted from rhpmobile
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playful4u
12 years ago
We like to meet first, then talk about the night when we get home with each other, get comfortable on the idea and decide how we proceed going forward. There is no reason to rush and a little anticipation is fun. It all depends how you feel in the moment.
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RHP User
12 years ago
As they say you can make friends out of swingers-but do not try to make swingers out of friends!!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' I pay up. Send a message. Long Skype chat. Met the lovely woman for coffee. She's cool. I come home think about it. Arrange another drink. It's going well. She seems to genuinely like me.When I ask about a being playmates I get.."But you're lovely. When I fuck a guy I jump out of bed two minutes later and have nothing to do with him for six months. I don't want our friendship to be like that."~face palm~Actually, I'm pretty sure we'll be pretty good buddies. I'd just like to be able to say goodbye each time with her taste still on my tongue and my legs a little wobbly.DARLING DARLING DARLING...let me share a little woman's secret with you...Never ask a women that question?? what were you thinking??When you ask it's like adding pressure to a woman to have sex...a turn off (for me it is any ways)It makes guys appear eager...play it cool If it's meant to be it will happen naturally...I have to agree with Mischeviouslad ...yep FRIEND ZONED! Sorry this happened...Keep your chin up - plenty more PIES out there!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
It sounds like you're worried that the sex will come between you and these new friends... Does it have to? Isn't it only society that says you can't have sex with your best mates? Or be mates with your best sex?
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
We have lots of lovely vanilla friends for vanilla fun. If we met someone we really dug both physically and mentally it would be a shame not to at least try them on for size :P And I think it is possible to scale the sex back with your sexy friends. That's the beauty of this scene it's not like there aren't options when one door closes.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
friends
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RHP User
12 years ago
We have met some amazing people from rhp and other sites. A few of those we have become very good friends with and continue to see them socially and sometimes after a fun night out that turns into more...it's very convenient hehe
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RHP User
12 years ago
We have lots of lovely vanilla friends already , I'm too old to want to make more ! :) I think if you are here as a couple , looking for sexy encounters with others , then jump in :) ..........We are friendly with lots of people we have played with before and see no dilemma really. Some we play again, others it was a once off - I don't want to be close friends with everyone I meet , but a large portion of them I'd like to fuck haha fucking doesn't necessarily ruin fun friendships ( that were sourced from this site ) maybe put in your profile that you are looking for people you can also be friends with etc ??
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RHP User
12 years ago
If the chemistry is there I'm the bedroom we attempt to stay friends with everyone when that happens but it depends on variables like are we always contacting them and chasing them around then we give up even they say they are AND appear keen we're far from desperate so prefer an equal chasing about, but saying that, the people we meet here are for that purpose and while yes they can be friends and that's great when it happens when that purpose ends we move along. We both have enough other friends as harsh as it is to say, we're here for a reason, and I'd hazard a guess in saying the people you are considering not playing with feel the same way at the end of the day, sugar coated or not.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Also saying that we've met some people that seemed kinda cool until we hit the fun and games and that's us done an dodging them.... Haha... It happens.
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newdimension
12 years ago
well we believe in letting things happen, if its right it will just happen. Sex you can have with just about anyone and for us its not about that, its more about just being us, enjoying the company and seeing where things lead. More often than not we would choose the friendship over the fuck. coz just maybe with friendship comes trust and understanding which may or may not lead to sex. It should never just be "take one for the team" but rather honesty and understanding. This life style can destroy relationships when all it becomes about is fucking as we have witness time and time again
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am here to meet people to fuck... not be friends with forever. I know my priorities.....!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I spent all this time breaking my Manipulation Habit.. and now you want me to get it back?Sheesh..No way, If a woman can't take strait up communication from me, she ain't good enough for my willy.. ~pokes tongue~
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Ohtilts
12 years ago
Quoting 'newdimension' Suck a moral dilemma you have , where do you meet such people that you find super sexy and also wanna be friends for life with :-) hmmmmmm queensland is a weakness
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Ohtilts
12 years ago
yep we are too fussy .......... a few by the looks would rather keep friends but for being on this site there is a reason that is to fuck..!! so maybe we review our lifestyle..
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
we dont see any value in the people we play with......knowing all about us. so we keep the two seperate. much easier....
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RHP User
12 years ago
No you're not the only onles to have chosen not to cross the line.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's not a problem for us we would have played before we worked out they could be friends for life....but with little ones and a busy life we don't have much time to meet people from here socially.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ohtilts' Saturn65 exactly thats our problem...!!!!! We have never fucked on a first meet or greet its usually a get together dont get us wrong 90% of the time its sexual attraction BUT.... whats more important 1 or 2 hours of passion OR a lifetime of laughs fun holidays BBQ'S .....we are selective who me meet to suit our personality maybe thats the problem.... Why can't you have both?
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