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To Reveal Or Not To Reveal? That is the question

January 10 2017

Identity. I keep flopping about on this one. I am in the entertainment industry so being a progressive, sexually free woman is neither here nor there. In fact, it's largely expected. It worked for Mae West, Madonna & Marilyn (until it didn't) to name a few. My problem is, I am predominantly attracted to conservative men, professional men and also to defense guys (hello boys 💋). Show my face or no? - Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    never, only agree to meets that involve balaclavas, paper bags or large blindfolds

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...have any concerns at all with broad scope identity then you also have the right to your privacy. Pick the folks that you select through a process of inclusion rather than exclusion. The good ones will understand and accept that and the rest don't matter. There was a time when I was a fairly well known public speaker and topped over 3000 attendees per year but then again, how many of them would be on this site? Don't even ask about the smaller gatherings and limited ''by invitation only'' clubs. I have no clue and damn if you have a face like mine that don't forget you! Best...... Midnight

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I choose to be discreet and only show my face to those that I'm interested in (usually on kik). I don't believe people really care here, unless your meeting up. But I think some people like some mysteriousness. Teasers are great 😉 even on guys profiles. I don't have private photos cos then people ask to see them, I can't be bothered with saying no when they ask. I've had some drama with men when I say no...block. But that's just what I'm comfortable with. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    8 years ago

    It's your call on this one. Only you know how important it is, or is not, to keep your face private on here, nobody can decide that for you 😊 but I always tend to think that, if anyone I know in the real world sees me in here, then that means that they are either on RHP too, or searching for some kind of adult sites. So, what right do they have to point their fingers at me?! 😊 and really who cares what other people say or think about me?! 😊 I choose to hide mine simply because I do not want to attract any unwanted attention, as I am no longer here for anything more than the Forums 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    8 years ago

    Just mix it up. Tho I know and possibly for you too, face pics draw a lot of attention from those type of men you described. I don't have a problem showing a face pic tho depends on the mood and I'm in and the type of gent I am trying to attract. :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    8 years ago

    I'm not in the entertainment industry, but I do have a career, I'm also a mother of adult and school age children. I choose to show my face, I don't mind who sees it, I don't have/do/say anything in here that I wouldn't in RL or that I'm ashamed of. What I do in my time is my business, as long as I doesn't affect my everyday life, my work or the lives of my children then I don't see a problem. What I like sexually has no bearing on what kind of person/mother/worker/human I am. Geez I also have my face on another site and it's a little more graphic than this one. 💋

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    There is always the PG

  • soretongue

    soretongue

    8 years ago

    Agree with Hank about use of private gallery and restricting access if comcerned. Can't remember which scary movie (#2?) it was but there was the scene where the chick had a paperbag over her head. So it is do-able. At least thats what the girls tell me just before they put the paperbag over my head! 🤔😳😜

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    It's entirely up to the individual's personal choice. Nothing wrong with holding back your pic's. If you can't come accross as intelligent, witty within your messages or profile then a pretty pic is just wasted material.Unless she or he is that shallow they only goes for looks. (then not Intrested!) Would have to say that some mystery goes along way. That's what your private gallery is for ? or Kik if thing's look like progressing further. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...is if your not doing anything wrong, then what have you to fear. But only you( as I do for myself.. ) can decide what's "wrong". Hiding things in the cupboard doesn't make them go away or become accepted quicker, I think.

  • usnow

    usnow

    8 years ago

    Just put them in your private gallery , then your in total control .If you don't want to do that just meet guys without them seeing your face , they will all jump at the chance as they are so desperate . Usnow .

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I don't do blind dates and agree with kool, if you're not doing anything wrong, why hide. If they're on here looking, they're here for the same reason you are, or maybe because they're stuck in a relationship, frustrated, not necessarily active, but makes no difference, they're still on here. I have also wavered with my feeling about this though. There are those low individuals who will try to harm you off this site, once they know your identity, or think they know 😉 but for me, my resolve to be me is stronger than the fear of what people can say about me. Quality people don't listen to gossip anyway. A regular user on here once said it's a choice whether we choose to let peoole upset us or get under our skin, that works for me. I don't listen to gossip, and figure who really cares what is said, how will it affect me? The answer is it doesn't affect me at allzcmight make them feel good, but makes zero difference to my life. If it's expected almost lol within your industry or common place, what would you have to be worried about?

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    8 years ago

    Not into Blind Dates - not what I've heard.... What about the Blindfolds being used, hmmm ? Tall

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    8 years ago

    I believe all viewpoints have been reasonably covered, and in saying that, if you still can't determine which way suits you, perhaps then do as a few have suggested. Reserve your full face pics for your PG, and if you trust the people asking you, you always have the option. Tall

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    8 years ago

    I agree with lovinit. i have my face visible on all sites I'm on. Personally I think getting rejected after opening pg that contained my face would be pretty rough.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Maintain the mystery ..why not. Q

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    lol only after I've gotten to know them and trust them, then I'll go blind or get blind 🍻 burp 😇

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    And it wouldn't damage my career in any way if people knew I was on here, and in fact some do. But I like to control the flow of information about me, so I keep my face in my private gallery. And I keep my real name (no, sorry, I'm not really Rick Blaine) for when I open my private gallery. Which is actually pretty quick off the mark if I'm interested in someone...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    What a crock...

  • Paradisepair

    Paradisepair

    8 years ago

    It's the exception not the norm so if you're unsure that it's right for you don't sweat it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Yes, and one of the main reasons I made the choice to show the whole me, particularly with the age difference most commonly sought, I thought it best to not leave them wondering. I also hate rejecting after face pictures are shown, that's not nice, but what other choice is there. My general opinion is that a lot of people don't show very much for a reason, not all, it is a sweeping comment, but a large percentage who later show their face, well it ends there quite often. The face is, much as I hate to admit it, being a body person lol, but the face is where the main attraction is. Not my greatest feature 😉 but oh well, I am an old duck now 😊

  • DonnaBrett

    DonnaBrett

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'Missb4u' I agree with lovinit. i have my face visible on all sites I'm on. Personally I think getting rejected after opening pg that contained my face would be pretty rough. Totally agree Missb4u. We find it frustrating getting messages or flirts from people without seeing their faces in that initial contact. We never like to sound mean or superficial but at the end of the day there does still need to be some kind of physical attraction. So when someone contacts us without showing themselves upfront and then we ask for face pics but that attraction isn't there and we decide to decline we feel awkward about it. No one really likes rejection and knowing it may solely be on your appearance can sting. With us what you see is what you get.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Definitely agree that you should open your private gallery showing current face pic's if your interested in someone and sending messages. Rejection is never nice and can be hurtful yet I'd prefer honesty upfront if I'm not there cup of tea. Nothing to do with having anything to hide in your public gallery, just a personal choice not to have your face in the public arena. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    a major obstacle with your target audience (particularly professionals and defence personnel) is a matter many here simply do not seem capable of comprehending; that being the risk management and security issues which go hand in hand with such positions of responsibility. Indiscretion and/or compromised privacy can (and often do) utterly devastate individuals' careers, future employment prospects, valuation of businesses, current business deals, future business prospects etc etc etc (the list of potential consequences goes on). I know many here would likely blow this off as being somehow melodramatic. Those individuals would reveal themselves to be naive in the extreme (and likely quite immature, not very knowledgeable and not very worldly). Sadly, I've seen the hallmarks of such qualities in several individuals' posts. It is possible to meet and enjoy the company of other, like-minded people. However, it is necessary to properly appreciate the matters that will be a source of concern to your target audience. (Otherwise, you will likely find your desire will never become reality).

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Would love blind date, both parties blindfolded and rely on the other senses to guide you. - Posted from rhpmobile