M42
To Validate, or not to Validate?
March 31 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't like for the whole site to know who I'm fucking. I value my privacy very much, and frankly I find more than two validations on one person's profile tacky.To me it says "Look at me, I'm awesome in bed!" Not hot. My one validation on my previous profile was of a non-sexual nature, just to show I am real and a nice person.My current one was written by an actual friend and I accepted it because it made me laugh out loud. (Still does.)
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RHP User
11 years ago
they can be too fake sounding, especially the ones already made up, they sound so insincere. I do make a special validation for those who I have been happy with, up to them if they accept it. Guests can't validate people which is shit, if you have paid for membership, you should be able to receive validations even if they are from guests, maybe they shouldn't be given to guests instead. Sounds weird, hope it makes sense.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks a lot for your feedback, and making the time for a double post! I will have a look at the link too :) x
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
form experiences on here...no more written validations from me and I don't want any either. I wrote one for someone and to this day I believe used me just for a validation (ego boost), they were in such a hurry to have it. That's not on in my eyes. I'm worth more than that. Not only that I like my privacy too much. This place is so incestuous, so do you really want to know who's with who or who has done who or who's not done who? Seriously I have better issues to worry about than a validation. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I'm sorry that happened to you on more than one occasion. Seriously, you are probably worth more than a validation and a few simple lines. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for your response. A few things: definitely not using this girl as an 'ego boost', shes lovely and I respect her a lot, hope to remain friends, keep in touch and catch up again. I'm more just wondering how validations are perceived I guess? I guess my thinking has been skewed by the chat rooms on here, which is a good case in point. I can spend all night in those chatrooms, with my webcam on and everything, and no girls will look at me or click my cam....until some other girl does. Some other girl says I'm cute or nice or funny or whatever and BAM - all of the sudden 5 girls are watching my cam...even some I tried to initiate contact with in the chatrooms but previously ignored me completely are now on my cam complimenting me purely because some other girls opinion of me! So I thought perhaps validations work in a similar way, if a girl sees other girls saying he's a good guy, then he's probably a good guy, right? So far it's the opposite - they seem to be a burden, perhaps its a blessing in disguise having few or none at all? I dunno! just asking the question, and the response is good so thanks ladies :) So far they seem to be a burden, perhaps its a blessing in disguise having few or none at all?
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RHP User
11 years ago
...I should read over my comments before I post them, or maybe I just like repeating myself?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Two things,she possibly didn't want to share...afteral a validation can he a bit of advertising,she probably did have a great time,just didn't want to tell other women.......or she didn't want a validation because she would rather not have the world know who she bonks xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
Awww Tigeroo that is terrible. Let Aunty Meeks kiss it better for you...... you hunk of spunk.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Men see validations on a woman's profile then think she is a sure thing. As a woman I don't see the need for them. Maybe they feel that you are making a claim on them or something? Not sure how men view them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's sort of like a huge ego boost for a guy and a slap in the face for the girl.Women will always be given labels...I have only validated one guy...my first. And one woman verifying I know she is who she says she is and she is a nice lady to boot.I don't think it needs to be sexual comments either.I have met heaps of guys just for a coffee or beer....do you validate them too?I mean .Where do you draw the line.Yes. I have met this person and yes hey say who they are is true.Do we really need to say 'Great fuck..had an awesome time?'
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
To me.... they seem like a self selective resume for the purpose of convincing others you're the person you want to be described as. ...... consider if the site included validations that others didnt have to authorize but were otherwise genuine. Hmmmmm DG
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madotara69
11 years ago
Women are complicated. Beautiful But you know that, he he Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its like friends list, my list are my friends and maybe the odd play mate at some point in time. But still keep in contact to say hi and some people may not know about validations and where to find them pending. Don't take it to heart just be happy and enjoy RHP and don't over think it too much. I'm sure the ladies had a great time.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Keep up the good work on the eastern front my friend !! A gentleman never tells !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
11 years ago
People use them against you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Can you validate me :) Of course that would mean Ide have to have you do certain number of sexual acts to me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
And yes her validation does seem a bit cold. I am a bit weird. I wouldn't want validations praising how awesome I am in bed, I'd much prefer something like hers but not as cold. You know yes you've met me. I'm real and fun to hang out with our something to that effect. But again, I'm weird so I can't speak for most of the ladies in this site :-) Ooh what I wouldn't give to meet you and leave an awesome validation about how good you are in bed though - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me I feel the truest and most positive validations come from the forums and the way people make little remarks about each other within :) all mostly without stating there user names :)) I have my list of true validations all be it small it's honest way to validate
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sweetgem
11 years ago
Q. Firstly, do you like it if a guy validates your profile? * I used to like it when I first joined, but not anymore because some people saw it and abused it! Q. would you prefer to keep everything a secret and pretend that you've never met anyone on here? * In my case, it's not about keeping everything a secret or pretending that I have not met anyone on here. It's more about keeping away from attracting the unwanted or wrong type of attention, especially from men who don't fit into my preferred age group. Q. Do women think they might be chastised as 'sluts' if there are too many male validations on there? * I can't speak for all women, but for myself and given the way some people think of RHP's nature, I think I would be seen as an "easy access hole" target for some men to get laid, if I had too many validations on my profile. Q. IF a guy has lots of validations on his profile, do you think to yourself: "What a manwhore" OR "Oh wow look how many girls enjoy this guys company - he must be lots of fun!" * My reaction would be "geez, what a man whore" I'm afraid. I met a man last year (whom now has nearly a dozen of validations on his profile), we had only had a brief foreplay and nothing else (because we both didn't have condoms at the time, and were meant to meet again the next night for a proper longer play session), and he asked me to give him a validation, which never happened because 1) I don't know him enough to say anything good about him; and 2) he did something quite rude to offend me the next day, even before we met up again, so why would I want to turn a blind eye on his behaviour?! Not to mention, this man kept harassing me for a meet up again even after I have asked him to stop! I had no choice in the end, but to tell him to leave me alone otherwise he would be sorry! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
They don't read much different... Probally a " I'll give you a rap and you give me one " Besides' why would you want to advertise someone if you respected their privacy ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tigeroo' So I thought perhaps validations work in a similar way, if a girl sees other girls saying he's a good guy, then he's probably a good guy, right? Yes I agree. I think someone verifying that you are a real and a good guy is a positive thing. Although I would suggest that if you had a validation that was overly sexual or commented on your 'skills' between the sheets it would work against you. Also if the woman validating you is super hot, that will put women off as well because they figure they will never be able to compete with her. (that is how I would think anyway)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Warning69' For me I feel the truest and most positive validations come from the forums and the way people make little remarks about each other within :) all mostly without stating there user names :)) I have my list of true validations all be it small it's honest way to validate I disagree as lots of forum people have never met face to face and we all know that people pretend to be something they are not on here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would rather have no validations and so far...so good. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The validation a that I have, they come from good people.... However, I do admit to looking at the one sexual one thinking, is this going to cause me issues, then I realise it hasn't so far!! Well at least that I know about :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tigeroo' Thanks a lot for your feedback, and making the time for a double post! I will have a look at the link too :) x Sure!I asked for the link to be removed the second I posted it, as the regulars had all answered on that thread and I realised I was denying them the chance to give fresh perspectives.It took over a day though for it to be deleted though, so too late.Sorry.
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madotara69
11 years ago
If the validations are written to verify those people are who they claim to be, then great. Can't really come back against anyone for those reasons. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's such a shame the women weren't able to.reciprocate your validation, but there are plenty of reasons why they might not want to, from not knowing how to accept it, to wanting complete privacy. I, evidently, like to receive validations. I haven't had the problem of too many validations, and I'd like to hope I'm not viewed as a mega slut, but I also think you can tell with what someone says in a message. Just ignore rude messages, as you would without validations. I haven't noticed many validations for men I've spoken to, but enjoy giving them to those I've met but only if I've particularly enjoyed their company. Maybe you could talk to these ladies about validations personally to gage their view and then decide whether to send one xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm a guest on here at the moment, I was a full member previously. Still deciding on whether or not to renew as I haven't been back for very long yet... my validation is real, and from when I was a full member. I think anyone should be able to validate, but I um'd an ahh'd about accepting the validation. It doesn't mean anything really when you think about it. It's a moment in time with one person, couple etc Not everyone connects the same. What may be amazing for one may be considered tame for another, therefore is a validation 100% accurate ?? Is it misleading to an extent ??? I have recently encountered a constant request to be validated, I would have more prefered to "choose" to validate and then it's up to the other party should they choose to accept it or not. Is it viewed as a personal reference lol. There is no harm in asking, just refrain from badgering tactics. And how many do you want, need ? Do you delete the old ones for ones with others ? It opens a whole can of worms. I'll watch this thread with interest to see where it goes 😆 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well I guess as you out it that way I agree with your comment to mine... Does meeting someone confirm there true belonging ?? Not sure it does as I've a nice honest friendship with a lady here I intend on keeping it's more about the logistics that has slowed that down... Personally (just my view) I can tell a lot about another based on there words either via message or ph
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry I forgot to add I respect ur way of thinking re this post :)
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