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To be Bi or not to be Bi
October 06 2012
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
But any male on male action... Yes. Maybe if he was a sex maniac who would put his dick in anything at all and had no mental desire, only an urge to poke then maybe not (I'm not even convincing myself with that argument though). Funny because years ago I had a bi boyfriend who argued that because he was only ever the fuckee not the fucker that meant he was straight.
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RHP User
12 years ago
bisexual adj 1. sexually attracted by both men and women. I assume that he likes to perform anal because the guy('s arse) turns him on, and not because it is just another hole? Then I vote 'yes' too.
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RHP User
12 years ago
accidently fucks another mans arse does that make him an accidental homo?
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RHP User
12 years ago
i dont think being bi is tottaly a sex thing ,,,,,,,,,im bi n my interpretation is a guy or girl that would have a loving relationship with either sex ,,, just my opinion ,,,,,,,,,xxxxxxxx catherine ,,,,,,,,
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
You either like it or you don't! But really who cares whether you are straight, bi or gay! Why label it?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '0zboy' accidently fucks another mans arse does that make him an accidental homo? I'm too busy laughing my ass off @ Ozboy .... hahahaha!!! ..... "ooooops"!! ....hahahahaha
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Almost_Ready
12 years ago
Quoting '0zboy'accidently fucks another mans arse does that make him an accidental homo? Did he say Whoopsie! In answer to the questions 1 Yes & 2 No
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'CheekyArses' You either like it or you don't! But really who cares whether you are straight, bi or gay! Why label it? my pet hate is the labels..... I like to be with in ffffmmmm or what ever, though I'm finding it hard to call myself bi.
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'catherine_ts' i dont think being bi is tottaly a sex thing ,,,,,,,,,im bi n my interpretation is a guy or girl that would have a loving relationship with either sex ,,, just my opinion ,,,,,,,,,xxxxxxxx catherine ,,,,,,,, I would have a loving relationship with a man though not a girl.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you like having sex with men and women, you're bisexual - even if you wouldn't have a loving relationship with one of the genders. Labels are bad when they're used to judge or discriminate, but sometimes they're just used to describe. You know, like cars - a sedan, a wagon etc. Or food - salty, sweet. I think we have to be careful not to be so precious about our sexuality that we agonise or argue over every little detail or word used to describe it. More time spent on tolerance and acceptance, less time spent on semantics, I say :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hear ya, i too was very uncomfortable with the label. Up until recently I always said that I was straight... Except that I occassionally play with girls in group situations. But I have come to realise that its probably a little more than that. Lol. Meh, lots of people make the distinction as would you be able to fall in love with both sexes. Or would you play with the same sex one on one? Because just doing it in group situations is different, etc etc. People have different definitions of what it means.
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RHP User
12 years ago
As for your questions about men. Does it make them Bi-sexual that they fuck men's asses or if they like to have their ass fucked. Well yes, I think it does. To me they like to have sexual contact with both sexes. Besides you simply can not call him straight. Can you? Apparently in SMB there is a whole raft of questions around it. If you let another guy suck your cock are you gay or bi? I really like bi boys :)
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ruby_blossum
12 years ago
Opportunistic Sensualists maybe ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I cannot remember who said it, forgive me. I. A forum a while back that was discussing heterosexuality through to bisexuality and I think all the way through to gay, had a post from someone wiser than I. They said something along the lines of "it's a continuum, a sliding scale". After pondering a little, I think they nailed it. I think much like Halcyon, they were thinking in terms of a descriptor rather than a classification. That makes a lot of sense to me, take the example of DP. It is almost guaranteed that someone's male bits will touch someone else's male bits at some point and yet both men can be straight, however there is physical contact between two men. I saw one of those motivational posters a while back. The picture was a pool table focused in on the triangular arrangement of balls prior to the break. The caption read..."It's gay.......balls are touching". It may be a bit zen, but if you think about it, that sums up the need to label many things. I say each to his own, love free or die ;) and the short answer is yes.
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sydney_tradie
12 years ago
if a male fuks another males arse....his either bi or gay personally i dont think theres any such thing as a bi male i think its gay or straight and not sure why so many gay men want a straight guy....?
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I hear ya, i too was very uncomfortable with the label. Up until recently I always said that I was straight... Except that I occassionally play with girls in group situations. But I have come to realise that its probably a little more than that. Lol. Yes it appears there is a little more to it than that lol.I had my first Bi Sexual encounter when I was 15 one on one. Was hot! I had always called myself Bi sexual untill I joined RHP. My thoughts on the matter began to change as I was becoming more of a sexual deviate therefore I started questioning the term. Think I am just confusing myself now lol
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inspirit
12 years ago
LIKE! Quoting 'ruby_blossum' Opportunistic Sensualists maybe ?
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playful4u
12 years ago
I think I can see where the bi boyfriend was coming from and I am sure there are other guys who think like that. It is all justification of their actions and denial. There are also guys who like to be sucked and fucked by guys, but won't return the act because they think they will lable themselves as bi or gay. Funny how the mind works :) Quoting 'Paradisepair'But any male on male action... Yes. Maybe if he was a sex maniac who would put his dick in anything at all and had no mental desire, only an urge to poke then maybe not (I'm not even convincing myself with that argument though). Funny because years ago I had a bi boyfriend who argued that because he was only ever the fuckee not the fucker that meant he was straight.
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playful4u
12 years ago
Quoting '0zboy'accidently fucks another mans arse does that make him an accidental homo? Haha, thanks for the laugh, that is so funny
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'brave__heart' If you like having sex with men and women, you're bisexual - even if you wouldn't have a loving relationship with one of the genders. Labels are bad when they're used to judge or discriminate, but sometimes they're just used to describe. You know, like cars - a sedan, a wagon etc. Or food - salty, sweet. I think we have to be careful not to be so precious about our sexuality that we agonise or argue over every little detail or word used to describe it. More time spent on tolerance and acceptance, less time spent on semantics, I say :) Bi-- Amorous ..... lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
"If a man fucks another mans arse by accident does that then make him an accidental homo?"I guess it could make him biproxy. :D♋
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RHP User
12 years ago
liking anal sex doesnt make you bi....liking it with other males does...as others have said..............if your attraction is that its with another guy, and not with a woman, you'd be dreaming if you called it anything other than bisexual...its a 'curiosity' only until you've done it....its 'friendly' if you are accepting of others bisexuality...without indulging your own... being bi just means you get to explore the best of both worlds, and if theres contact while playing in say a threesome situation.... it puts you in a position where you can explore all the options at hand...and to have much much more fun...
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RHP User
12 years ago
i think we all have forgotten about thte trisexual ,,,,,,,like try anything sexual ,,,,,if it feels good ,,try it again ,,,,,,,pmsl ,,,,,,catherine xxxxxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'playful4u' I think I can see where the bi boyfriend was coming from and I am sure there are other guys who think like that. It is all justification of their actions and denial. There are also guys who like to be sucked and fucked by guys, but won't return the act because they think they will lable themselves as bi or gay. Funny how the mind works :) Quoting 'Paradisepair'But any male on male action... Yes. Maybe if he was a sex maniac who would put his dick in anything at all and had no mental desire, only an urge to poke then maybe not (I'm not even convincing myself with that argument though). Funny because years ago I had a bi boyfriend who argued that because he was only ever the fuckee not the fucker that meant he was straight. it's not always the case, sometimes it's not all about denial and the thought of being labelled. Some guys might have different levels of curiosity or attraction with the same sex... eg,, a guy might want to suck a dick but have no interest in anal sex, and yet to kiss that same guy he might find this act repulsive, just curious to suck his dick ... weird isn't it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
1.. yes2... no, (unless your actually a bloke)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I believe that sexuality is a continuum and while labels as descriptors might be useful they can also be limiting.Perhaps like monogamy,sexuality can also be a choice,in our relationships and chosen liifestyles. I am mostly attracted to someones mind,how they look is far less important,as is age.I am not as attracted to women as I am men,but would never say never.
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie' 1.. yes2... no, (unless your actually a bloke) Bend Over for me
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Quoting 'coodi_yowie' 1.. yes2... no, (unless your actually a bloke) Bend Over for me 1. a bucket load of lube2. something to bite down on 3. actually measurements!4. a steady hand5. an ice pack for later on...but probably more than anything, some time to think it over
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie' Quoting 'inspirit' Quoting 'coodi_yowie' 1.. yes2... no, (unless your actually a bloke) Bend Over for me 1. a bucket load of lube CHECK...Black Jack will do 2. something to bite down on CHECK...Paddle3. actually measurements! CHECK ....about average4. a steady hand CHECK...Stocks are ready5. an ice pack for later on CHECK...Blue or Pink ...but probably more than anything, some time to think it over PICK YOU UP AT 17:00
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is it acceptable if everyone High Fives after it ans says " no homo". Could be classed as a bro mance.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is it not a male or female who has sex with both, if a male fucks or sucks a nother male or lets a nother male suck and fuck him than I say yes he is bisexual.. Because this is what a bisexual is and you cant change that..... The only reasion its bisexual is they dont have Trysexual on here.... Old say: I'll try any sex... I dont know how a male or female can say they are straight when they have sex with mm or ff.... I vote yes: on the grounds that they are nether straight or homosexual so they must be bisexual!!!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
For me it's neither. I beleive we are humans first, sexual beings second and the genders third. It's just a sexual attraction/interest to me and a stronger preference for one or the other or the 'labelled BI middles" have no preference and just enjoy the physical and mental connection with another human regardless of gender. I don't really care as I'll continue to enjoy the pleasures of both and the added bonus of meeting a majority of people who are comfortable as they are - Just the same way as race, gender, religion, size and age etc...mean nothing to me as it's the person that matters. I have even had meets with people and not progressed further than a cuddle and kiss but actually got more from that than a sexual encounter (starting to get off topic I think) anyway kep on keeping on folks and spread the love hahahaha Imjames
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inspirit
12 years ago
great posts and yes you are all correct. This spirited one is just going through the whole mid life crises thing me thinks. Understanding me is what its all about. i am happy to calll myself bisexual.....
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cbteager
12 years ago
I went to a sex therapist recently with an ongoing problem, he asked what I was into, I said I have been married for 30 years and had sex with only her. Now I am single I am experimenting with bisexuality. Long story short, he asked if I could LOVE a man, I said NEVER, not even sure I could kiss one but I do get hot for a hard cock, love em. He said "You are NOT bisexual" His interpretation is that hetro can only love the opposite sex, homo can only love the same sex and bi can love either. Having sex with them doesn't seem to enter into it. I shall assume that he would know given his professional degree in the subject. He didn't say what I am but I think omnisexual is a good title. I like sex and care not whether there is a penis or vagina on the other person/persons. Steve
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'cbteager' I went to a sex therapist recently with an ongoing problem, he asked what I was into, I said I have been married for 30 years and had sex with only her. Now I am single I am experimenting with bisexuality. Long story short, he asked if I could LOVE a man, I said NEVER, not even sure I could kiss one but I do get hot for a hard cock, love em. He said "You are NOT bisexual" His interpretation is that hetro can only love the opposite sex, homo can only love the same sex and bi can love either. Having sex with them doesn't seem to enter into it. I shall assume that he would know given his professional degree in the subject. He didn't say what I am but I think omnisexual is a good title. I like sex and care not whether there is a penis or vagina on the other person/persons. Steve Yes that is what I thought as well ...... l have bisexual female friends and they have relationships with other woman. Where as I couldn't.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'thehiddentiger' if a male fuks another males arse....his either bi or gay personally i dont think theres any such thing as a bi male i think its gay or straight and not sure why so many gay men want a straight guy....?that's just the thrill of obtaining the unobtainable, seriously most gay guys when confronted with a straight guy who says yes ok will loose interest quickly. Straight guys for most of us gay guys are the epitomy of masculinity and that's all they are seeking, when they discover you're just like every other man then they move on quickly. Its mainly cause for most of their lives gay men feel they lack masculinity. As a "masculine' gay man Im always getting hit on by guys who assume I'm straight as soon as they realise im not they run.I would say that although Im looking at finding a suitable female/ male sex partner atm, I could never imagine falling in love with a woman. That has always been my personal belief on "labels" Fucking is just that fucking, intimacy and love is what makes you what you are.
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'rg1234' that's just the thrill of obtaining the unobtainable, seriously most gay guys when confronted with a straight guy who says yes ok will loose interest quickly. Straight guys for most of us gay guys are the epitomy of masculinity and that's all they are seeking, when they discover you're just like every other man then they move on quickly. Its mainly cause for most of their lives gay men feel they lack masculinity. As a "masculine' gay man Im always getting hit on by guys who assume I'm straight as soon as they realise im not they run.I would say that although Im looking at finding a suitable female/ male sex partner atm, I could never imagine falling in love with a woman. That has always been my personal belief on "labels" Fucking is just that fucking, intimacy and love is what makes you what you are. Nicley put!
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RHP User
12 years ago
"If a man likes to fuck a male arse does it make him Bi?"it all depends on how much of a smile he has on his face at the time i think that just because you like anal sex with a guy it does automatically mean you're Bi, i'm sure there are plenty of "Bi" guys out there who would much prefer anal with a strap-on from a lady...i'm Bi and i know i would being straight, bi or gay is both an emotional connection as well as a physical attraction.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Any same sex intercourse is of a gay or bisexual nature. That doesn't mean the participants can't still be very close to the heterosexual end of the bisexual range.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There are so many labels that they all become a bit meaningless after a while. Sexuality is a continuum, some people are dead straight, others are dead homo and the rest of us float somewhere in between those two extremes. I think it really depends on how we define ourselves as to what our sexuality actually is.
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jordy666
12 years ago
Quoting 'johnniebravo' if a male fuks another males arse....his either bi or gay personally i dont think theres any such thing as a bi male i think its gay or straight and not sure why so many gay men want a straight guy....? I agree that he is probably at least bi or maybe just a little experimental but there is such thing as bisexual men and it is becoming more and more common. The reason that gay guys want straight guys is because a) its the classic we all want what we cant have and b) I'm guessing you have probably been propositioned by gay guys and the reason is that there is so many experimental guys around these days that the fantasy of bedding a straight guy isn't an impossibility anymore. I myself have met quite a few straight guys on RHP that are either experimental/curious or just horny and want their dick sucked.At the end of the day sex is sex I'm totally gay but have been known to sleep with women from time to time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum'Opportunistic Sensualists maybe ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
If he wants to perform double penates ruin or lick my clit while I'm been poked by another cock would this make him bi couriou ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
ahaha how do you accidentally have sex with a mans ass?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would never have thought that so many from an adult site would be so narrow minded. Labeled Hetro,Bi,Gay or what ever shade in between is just stupid. From my experience its the ones that label them selves on either side Hetro or Gay that are the ones that have issues. Taking anything up the ass or giving it does not mean anything at all but that you enjoy anal sex.It is up to the individual to label ones self, not others. Were do we get the right to label, were do we get the right to think we know another's mind. Only ones mind sets who you are, the id is what you really are and that is suppressed by the super-ego. Its so sad that many have to suppress the id. I blame our unenlightened culture for this madness.So please all don't label. It's makes many post's on this thread seem so bigoted. Grow up.
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RHP User
12 years ago
because they forgot to switch the light on
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RHP User
12 years ago
i posted this elsewhere, its from 'psychology today'........... "Straight men who have sex with men do so for a variety of reasons. Some have been sexually abused and are compulsively reenacting childhood sexual trauma by male perpetrators; some find sexual release with another man more accessible; some have sex with men because it's easier and requires fewer social skills than those required to have sex with women; some are "gay for pay" and get financial rewards; some like the attention they receive from other men; some like anal sex, which they're otherwise too ashamed to talk about or engage in with their female partners." i'd tend to agree....liking anal sex doesnt make you gay or bi....it just means you like anal sex....if the only way for you to experience this is with another guy...then its no less about the act than if it were with a woman, its only ever going to be other peoples judgements and prejudices that will lead to it being unfairly labelled....its easier for some to act in ways that are discriminatory, if they can first identify their targets of hate, with some kind of 'label'......
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Cassy_74
12 years ago
Quoting 'Otori'There are so many labels that they all become a bit meaningless after a while. Sexuality is a continuum, some people are dead straight, others are dead homo and the rest of us float somewhere in between those two extremes. I think it really depends on how we define ourselves as to what our sexuality actually is. Yep I agree. Just because you may have played once or twice with a member of the same sex, shouldnt be mean that you are bi-sexual. As like Otori said you may float in between and quite happy not to have a label, kinda like myself.
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RHP User
12 years ago
i like to befucked by a girl with a strapon but i am not bisexual
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '2GuysWithRespect'ahaha how do you accidentally have sex with a mans ass? The orgy I recently attended was so packed, it could have happened! (Though since it was a bi orgy I'm sure neither man would have minded).
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RHP User
12 years ago
would make him lucky if he was fucking a males ass while you fucked his ass. a devils threesome with a twist
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'd like to suck a girls cock ?
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fazz70
12 years ago
I'm not into classifying it.... the only reason to describe it is so potential partners on here know if they should or shouldn't send you a message! Having said that tho I've been approached by many men on here that state they are straight. I've also given oral sex to men who said they are straight just like getting head from men??? Bottom line is for me... if it's good... don't stop to worry bout it just have fun!
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RHP User
12 years ago
"Bisexual: a person who is sexually attracted to both men and women." It's pretty simple. Bisexuality has nothing to do with love or relationships (regardless of what sex therapists might think). A sociopath who can't fall in love is not therefore asexual. Their sexuality is dictated by whether they're sexually attracted to men, women or both, despite their inability to develop feelings for a partner.So yeah, if a guy likes fucking other guys as well as girls, he's bisexual. If he likes you fucking him with a strap-on, he's just open-minded.
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RHP User
12 years ago
And must repent!!!!!!Ahem...Opportunistic sensualists. It's long, but finally a label that makes some sense!
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inspirit
12 years ago
and i'm a sexaholic
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you are doing both sexes... does that make you Bi-sexual, YES. however... does that make you gay, NO. If you are doing only the same sex, does that makes you gay, YES. Whatever your preference... if you enjoy it, who really cares... only you should, and the recipient.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sometimes we need labels, to let people know what we may/may not be up for, for instance, we need categories for searches on here, your looking for a particular "type" of person, the site must have these to filter, same as age, body, hair etc... Bi-Sexual, wow could mean 10,000,000 things, but one things for sure, they are non judgemental and will try anything once should the right opportunity present and they feel that desire. But everyone in this bucket to different level of participation. Category formula: Straight = I do opposite. That's what I like. Gay = I do same. That's what I like. Bi-Sexual = Open to the thought of exploring boundaries because I might like given the right situation. Or straight = I am too shit scared to admit it because it might freak out the people that don't understand that we aren't looking to push that situation, unless the desire is two way. For all the people who are judgemental on sexuality, how do you play in or outside your relationship with others and laugh at the people who don't understand/frown upon it and/or don't appreciate how liberating it can be? For you are doing the exact same action?...
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you like it..... whatever floats your boat.... hanging out for my 1st bi 3som3 ;-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
That if a guy wants to fuck his girlfriend up the arse, that makes him bi. Bi imo is if a man has an attraction to having sex with another man in whatever form that takes. I'm not talking about two men touching bits during a threesome with a woman, that seems to me to be a beautiful example of a lack of homophobia. The focus being the woman.
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BJVAN69
12 years ago
you can bend me over and fuck my arse anytime. Labels? Who cares! We only live once so have fun and make the most of it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
he likes a guy up there then yes he is. If he likes it because its a chick he's kinky.. If he like it becuse its a horse well ... Mike
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been with some very straight men who love anal play, and these days it is becoming more and more common. Yes, some of them have been bi-curious or acted on their fantasies but not all.As for male on male sex, I think that a guy can still be straight after being with another male. They may have been curious, tried it a couple of times but thought no more of it. If that were the case I'd say they would label themselves as straight, as they can lead the rest of their life knowing they tried it but are not interested in persuing it any further. However if they continue to practice it and enjoy it then I would say they are bisexual, yes.As for the comment about 'there are no bi males' I know plenty of them, and they are definitely bi. It shits me how guys LOVE bi girls and girls can totally be bi, yet it is a struggle to get the male brain around the fact that their fellow species can be bi sexual as well??????I love sex with women but would never date one. I can happily identify as being bisexual. I may not be with a woman for a year or so, but it doesn't mean I don't enjoy it or that I don't think about it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Personally, if u guys touch each other while dp me, last thing on my mind would b the Hail Mary but wouldn't mean yr gay either!!
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