M48

To play or not to play?

November 21 2012

Hi,I am in a relationship (12 yrs) and there are a few things I want to try sexually with extra partners, initially this idea was brought up by my partner but she since retracted her interest. It was that initial looking that got me to learn about the world of swinging and the highs and lows... It got me desiring some of these encounters, especially mfm (maybe even explore the bi-curious side) as I have already done ffm with a previous partner...I would like and open frank discussion about this? On one side I am being extremely selfish in wanting these desires fulfilled outside of the relationship, and on the other side, a friend who plays pointed out if I wait and we happen to have those encounters the relationship, they might actually hurt our relationship!... I love her very deeply and I am extremely conflicted about what to do....What would you do? Play out your desires and hope you don't get caught? Or suck it up and just enjoy the awesome life that you have?

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RHP User

12 years ago

change your name to incurious now, cos you know you think you should.Ahead of you lies a whole world of pain if you don't. I am not judging you,but it seems that you are risking a lot....perhaps wait...talk again to your partner,ask her why she changed her mind.Communicate,communicate...say it like a Dalek mantra.x R

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belladonna888

12 years ago

Quoting 'Freya13' change your name to incurious now, cos you know you think you should.Ahead of you lies a whole world of pain if you don't. I am not judging you,but it seems that you are risking a lot....perhaps wait...talk again to your partner,ask her why she changed her mind.Communicate,communicate...say it like a Dalek mantra.x R Good advise , if you have a happy life in and out of the bedroom , dont risk the heart ache . Love what you have and it can only get better :)

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'belladonna888' Good advise , if you have a happy life in and out of the bedroom , dont risk the heart ache . Love what you have and it can only get better :) I guess that is where the problem lies, although we have a great sex life, I feel unfulfilled and have for many years... I have been very open and frank with her about what I wanted and well she didn't deliver not even close... I know this is selfish of me, I don't have any other way to look at it.

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Cheekyarses

12 years ago

Stuck between a rock and a hard place..... Everyone gets curious about sexual encounters - we are only human. It all comes down to how much you love your partner? Are you willing to get caught in the swinging scene without her ? Maybe going to the couples club, a sensual ball or sexpo might help your partner!

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RHP User

12 years ago

Curiousacts, I'm in a similar position to you, I have openly spoken with him on I want and he isn't willing to try Hence why I took the chance and cheated on a number of occasions.... Follow your instincts, you have needs to be met Whether she knows or not that's your choice Good Luck with it!! P.s And it won't get better I know have been in my relationship for 15 yrs lol

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RHP User

12 years ago

Only YOU can decide what YOU'RE prepared to lose. If you're unhappy, leave. If you're happy then stay.

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RHP User

12 years ago

You've got a snow balls chance in hell without her here with you so just get used to it.

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