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To reply or not to reply
June 01 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
You should reply. It's common courtesy. But when you get those who are annoyed by your reply, think of it simply as an excellent tool for weeding out the wankers that would be no fun to meet anyway...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think you need to ignore the rude people, concentrate on the nice people who can relate and understand you have a life, commitments, and that you will accommodate your free time with those that MAY deserve you. Just be your self. If they are rude now, imagine what they be like in real life, with you!
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foreign_lover
12 years ago
I can see their annoyance, the people that do respond and actually ARE making up excuses and then yours comes inbetween those. It's not so easy to see which one is made up and which one is meant to be sincere. Now, in saying that, usually i give the person another chance ( i know, i know shame on me since i get fooled twice) so if it happens again then there's no doubt anymore whether the person is genuine/sincere or not.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I struggle with this one as well...it seems your damned if you do damned dont ( reply) so now if I'm not interested I just don't...- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Paying good money for membership so you can REPLY to an advertisement ... only to be ignored is very frustrating. Ideally you should respond to every single email.Having said that I can understand (in theory :) how that could get old quite quickly. Why not write in your profile that you do not even check your messages and don't want anyone to send them - being a woman and enjoying 100% of the power here you can simply browse profiles and approach only those that interest you ??
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RHP User
12 years ago
how nice you are dear,some people will never be happy with a ''no'',and some some people will think that paying for memberhip entitles them to sex.....poor deluded things.
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sweetgem
12 years ago
Emails and flirts received from men who are aged between 35 & 40, and I DO clearly state my preferences in my profile. So if anyone choose to ignore my preferences, then they can't blame me for not being polite.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
But with people who get shirty with your reply, just ignore them they are not worth losing sleep over. You have shown common courtesy in replying.
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
So, Kiki, whst youre saying os.... ....your life is inconveniencing the selfish sexual expectations of strangers you have never even spoken to. Gee. Tell them..... Tough!!!! Then block the dumbarses who are undoubtedly speculating with a whole bunch of others in here. Some people, they just don't get it. DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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Splicey
12 years ago
Quoting 'foreign_lover' I can see their annoyance, the people that do respond and actually ARE making up excuses and then yours comes inbetween those. It's not so easy to see which one is made up and which one is meant to be sincere.But people should be able to make up any excuse they want, why would you take this personally?
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RHP User
12 years ago
and really OP...you being on here does not mean that you're obliged to reply to anyone. Just because some fool paid for a membership is not your responsibility. Do as you please and don't waste your energy feeling bad about replying or not to messages.Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' So, Kiki, whst youre saying os.... ....your life is inconveniencing the selfish sexual expectations of strangers you have never even spoken to. Gee. Tell them..... Tough!!!! Then block the dumbarses who are undoubtedly speculating with a whole bunch of others in here. Some people, they just don't get it. DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love love it everyone... I feel so much better now.! I'm still going to try and reply to every message.. I just feel that's right but not going to worry if I don't get to or when my reply isn't what the people wanted to hear... Thank you :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think you've been very courteous Kiki! Clearly you're hotstuff with a busy schedule and those lads ought to be glad you could fit any time in for response at all. After all- it's a woman's market here.
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RHP User
12 years ago
your attitude it's good to see someone with some respect for others efforts.Although having said that I am also well aware of the volume of garbage that arrives in your inbox.I always appreciate a reply even if it is obviously a template. I would write a couple, one for the garbage, "Sorry your email was quite crude, rude and offensive please don't contact me again" if this is replied too, block."Thank you for taking the time to write to me but I'm sorry your not what I'm looking for." Just for general not quite up to the mark stuff, and I'm sure you will write to those you find worth further contact.And finally, if you see a profile you really like, contact them !cheers, 50z
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RHP User
12 years ago
You can't please everyone so you may as well please yourself. I generally do reply to messages and I don't use the template but thats because the templates don't usually say what I want. You have the right to use this site in whatever way works for you, if some people don't like it really that is their problem not yours.
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madotara69
11 years ago
I guess some people think that you can just get up and go when it suits them, but it is not so so. We find some time to play up when we can, and then we go through our messages. We have been lucky and found the right message at the time and met up for a great time, other times we have had invitations from people who appear respectable and just have not been able to join them. One thing we do have is time over time, and will no doubt have some adventurous sex with good people on this rhp site, and no doubt part with friendship for the time spent. If we have not responded to messages, it does not mean that we won't. we have not had any upset messages to date. But we have not read them all either, hehe.We would rather a few good times than a lot of awkward ones.I like the forums more so than Tara, we like to go through the messages together, so that is that if it makes any sense.Mado, Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I try not to be mean, say thanks but no Its clear in my profile what I want. I also shut my profile off now and again, especially when I am not in the mood or have stuff on in my life. that way guys don't bother you. there are thousands of men here you can shut your profile when the kids are home and open when they are gone. You can order a man of RHP faster than a pizza, but be aware many will jerk you around, make apts not turn up or what ever. be tough. if they fuck around once, no second chances. soon sorts the wheat from the chaff and you also get good quality lovers and good friends from RHP if you are wise in how you use it. remember its all smoke and mirrors and don't let your ego get to inflated like me I was once a common scrubber in real life now I am Lady_Tuscan , RHP hot as opposed to real life hot!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Speaking for myself, I always appreciate a reply, but definitely understand if I don't get one. There are so many reasons for women not being able to or not wanting to reply, all of which have been discussed ad infintum in other posts. We all come to this site looking for slightly different things and we come from different backgrounds and personal circumstances. When I get a reply that is a template or a knock back, the last thing I do is take it too personally, usually I send back a quick reply thanking the person(s) for the response and wishing them luck in their search. So to answer your question.....often is its a case of "damned if you do and damned if you don't" with some people, so while I applaud your decision to try to reply to every message, I would hope that the vast majority of people here will understand if you don't. So if you have the time, know that your replies are probably more often appreciated than not, but I don't think you should feel obligated to spend every minute online replying with a "no thanks".
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