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  0z_boy

  6 years ago

  general populous is out at the moment but capn know it all will be in shortly :) Yeah Its shame but just the way it is

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  Curioustwo88

  6 years ago

  We prefer to let people know if they are not right for us, we feel that it’s common courtesy to do so. This however does not always happen for us so we take a no response as a no thanks and move on, it can get a little deflating and frustrating though. Mrs C Xx - Posted from rhpmobile

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  0z_boy

  6 years ago

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  We can fully appreciate people are who they are. But when your messaged 1st ,and you swap a few , before your album is unlocked...... And then crickets.....leaves one thinking "WTF" And thats cool we are pretty thick skinned so no skin off our noses....but like common sense....common courtesy just isn't so common anymore.

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  PurePeony

  6 years ago

  ... due to awkwardness. It's not easy telling someone that they don't fit the criteria and often, some people would rather ghost you than say something that might hurt someone. It isn't always about rudeness, IMO.

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  OkeyDoke45

  6 years ago

  It's possible that people don't want to be rude but there are also people who are just pic hunters. If I open my private gallery to anybody and don't hear from them again within a day I close it off again. If they are genuinely interested they will soon be back in contact again. As you say OP, when they initiate contact and you are exchanging messages with them, then suddenly it's radio silence when you open any gallery, pretty much means one thing to me. Another thing which may help - I have a rule that whichever party asks for pictures or access to galleries, they must first offer such themselves. If you get requests for access to galleries, ask them to open theirs first - this sorts a lot of pic hunters out very quickly.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Initially, I’d respond and say the “I’m really sorry but you’re not our type”. More than once this was met with a pretty push back/begging. It was not nice to be begged to “let’s just meet and once you see him in person, you’ll love it, he’s got a hide dick!”... So now, I try and avoid this conflict with me feeling terrible about not wanting to do something/someone that I have no attraction to. It’s hard being the female who needs to be attracted to both the male and other female.. and a lot of profiles really hide their Mr away.. if you swing as a couple and expect swap play, then put pictures of your Mr please! Conversely, I am a really busy person and often look at a gallery or profile, then forget that I haven’t responded.. it happens more often than I’d like.. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  MsSuperFoxy

  6 years ago

  Put nice smiling pics (the two of you) up as profile pic. That way you're giving people a choice before they contact you and it also proves there's two of you. People do not have to reply if they do not want too, especially if they have not met you. There should be no pressure to do so. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Should reply all the time nothing wrong with being polite and saying no thank you. Far to many stuck up rude people on here. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  DynamicCouple36

  6 years ago

  So if one does not reply, to an unsolicited message, one is stuck up ? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  I spent a month in NZ and I thought I'd try my luck with some of the Eastern States women by having a 24 hour stop over some where on the way back to WA. I sent out a few messages suggesting that they look at my profile and get back to me if they wanted to chat. I only got ONE reply, I wish I hadn't got any because that one reply has now blown up out of all proportion.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Think you took it out of context,But to answer your question i would say No. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  I've always found the not interested to be sort, but very respectful, most wishing good luck on here, just sayin....

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  In a perfect world, of course, strangers reply to every message they receive from strangers and knock-backs are taken with a good-natured shrug of the shoulders and a "no worries.." Good manners aren't a thing of the past, but it probably seems like they are because online dating/social media has never been as widespread in the past as it is today. And that's not going to change.People are figuring out how to behave as they go along. This is one of those things, I think, where you can't change the world...so you better change the way you react it.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  If I open my profile to anyone I let them know that it is only for a few hours before I will then remove their access. I haven't had the ghosting yet when I open my profile, but then I don't open it to just anyone either - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  I said no thanks as you are older than I like Move on Glad I didn’t meet you as you seem to get fixated on a no thanks You have to admit 64 is getting to the upper age limit for most people Mines 50

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  OkeyDoke45

  6 years ago

  Quoting 'Sweetjen7' I said no thanks as you are older than I like Move on Glad I didn’t meet you as you seem to get fixated on a no thanks You have to admit 64 is getting to the upper age limit for most people Mines 50 Now now, you two are going to start looking like the JR and Sue-Ellen of these threads...

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  The issue is not about you, or your casting aspersions, nor is it about your rejection of my pass at you and not even about you contradicting yourself.The issue, to me, is about selective moderation.Have a nice life.

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