To swing or not to swing?

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  swingalingson

  7 years ago

  Must be a shit topic for the forum👎🖓

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I'm a bulky guy, so I will swing, but only ensuring I'm not going to unbalance and tip over the entire play set. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  You've posted this topic a couple of times before, so you might need to wait for new people to come along.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  If you are free to do so and want the experience, then why not? That's why I tried it. You can always stop if it's too much.

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  inspirit

  7 years ago

  Coz Ive swinged and swunged. 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  While Dragon does make a good point, I have seen a lot of 'new' posters lately (how new, who knows? :-P) but I don't think I've ever taken the time to answer one. And, I hadn't even seen the topic until now. The idea of fears is a good one to have a convo about because they're real for everyone. For me, we did 'swing' for a bit of time but the whole process for me was so different from being an experimental teen in that meets weren't so spur of the moment after the looking, contacting, chatting & coffee meet... Then there were the fears of unsafe condom wearers and disrespectful of my husband men. We talked a LOT! Now we wouldn't consider swinging simply because we're happy the way we are. We have some damn sexy memories to play with and a new comfort with each other. Peachy

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  BiPlay69

  7 years ago

  Swinging is not for all, and there are many levels, from voyeurism to full involvement.From my experience, you need to be comfortable with your self, your body, and not fall into the 'try to impress' trap as it is a real rabbit hole.Respect for others and realising the realities that it is not as it is often depicted on the silver screen. There are bodies of all shapes and sizes, different age groups happily playing together, lots of laughs and conversation, I find it a fertile 'one-liner' playground as the quit witted often lighten the mood.And safe sex is a must in these situations except in very special circumstances, which are not the norm.It is very social, you meet others people who you can have conversations with, from the daily and ordinary topics to the more taboo. In fact, it is often a safer environment to experiment as there is an element of support from like-minded souls, no embarrassment to let people know you are new at this, as they will watch out for you and the men for all intents and purposes respect the 'no means no' rule. Those who don't quickly find themselves ejected and banned.Not everyone is confident in their relationship and jealousy is a real demon, so if that is an issue, I would say to choose not to swing as it will likely end badly.For me it is an environment I feel comfortable in, it is friendly, fun, socially stimulating and of course, I have some amazing experiences.To each their own, however, I always think it is great to chase our desires, to at least taste them, to see if we enjoy the flavour.

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  Twisted_Mister

  7 years ago

  You're a couple, you BOTH have to be 100% committed to it, and have had plenty of convo about pros and possible cons for each party. Otherwise it will turn to shit, and quickly. Every so often a topic comes up where a bloke, usually listed as single on his profile, asks words to the effect of 'I want to get my other half into swinging. Any tips on how to make her do it?' That is doomed to failure from the start, and so is the relationship. If you're actually single, and don't mind performing in front of others, you can take it or leave it I guess.....

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  madotara69

  7 years ago

  Ok So we are talking about swinging, principals of couples, predominantly married and have committed to spending their life together. So we are talking about two people in a relationship tackling all matters life throws along the way, the ups and downs, sickness and in health, children and family, friends. If we can forget the 'not natural to be monogamous', 'once married sex is all down hill and doomed because marriage becomes stale, or missing out having a good sex life because staying true to a partner hinders the adventurous spicy sex life aside the relationship' 'it's all about the woman enjoying herself and she should be given everything she wants with sex' I fell for Tara 28 years ago, I made a promise to her by telling her I love her, I asked her to trust me, I asked her to believe in me, I asked her to count on me in any moment that I would be there with all intensions by her side for when she needed me. I asked her to be my friend. 20 years, we lived as good friends, the very best a friendship can be, faithful, respectful, honest, intimate, committed, family, work, ups and downs, arguments and feelings some hurt, all emotions shared and maintained, what is true friendship otherwise ? We began communicating with each other on the idea 'because we enjoyed sex together so much' and this is the part with most meaning. Sharing the relationship we have as best of friends and the sexual energy, the intimacy, us.. with other's who could bring themself/themselves and enjoy us being us, them being them, with one golden rule if that's what a label must be, we swing with people who respect we have a life committed to each other, we are in love, we are friends, we enjoy sex because of it all, and don't try take all that away from us to be someone so special and so very better, the sex prodigy bringing something that will change life for the better and how to enjoy sex because never had anything like it. You are asking a question where 'some things can not be told, some things can only be shown' You are asking a question, that if you do not know the answer, it's likely you will not understand it anyhow. There seems to be this thing comes up in the swinging topics. This thing that couples are smug or think of themselves above others and time wasters with all the rules set down for anyone who might be accepted and abide to expected conditions, boundaries and predominantly by single people, yet I don't believe anyone who suggests these idea's expressed have spent time with a couple who swing and for what the meanings swinging represents. So, we can't answer this for anyone else that swings, or any other's that are swingers. We can only believe in that swinging is enjoyed by other couples who have a good friendship and life together for their choices and may relate, or for singles who have spent time with couples and experienced something shared. Don't want to answer why anyone may resent anything mentioned, it's not intended to be resented no matter how it may be perceived. Bit like asking 'why did you fall in love'..... :) Mado Mado Tara xx

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  swingalingson

  7 years ago

  I did think of different sides

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  madotara69

  7 years ago

  This is the forums, not the chatrooms, and you are our host. 'I did think of different sides' Genuinely interested with your thoughts to come to that conclusion. Aint a crack at you, singles or anyone. Better understanding is all and for whatever reason, reason is reason.

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