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To the Grey ghosts
September 25 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
When a grey ghost who has no pics in their gallery, no original text in the body of their profile and offer nothing to arouse any interest then it is just a waste of my time and theirs. LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
FARK has there been an influx of newbies lately, if so bloody fantastic but please change your ask me's to meaningful information. I bet they are the ones that whinge that they get no where. I messaged a guy 2 days ago said heads up fill in your info, he replied thanks and still hasn't done it! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Means the topic gets addressed without my profile being a distraction or being used against me. Of course that brings in a whole other raft of assumptions. Too bad.
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
Just window shoppers. No substance . No imagination. Zero effort. We block them. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Crackatini
9 years ago
Hi Freya I have a profile pic at times and sometimes not. Sometimes I hide my profile too. Personally I prefer the meet n greets and chat rooms etc to interact as I do value my internet privacy. But still it would be a long hard road I reckon for a bloke without a picture who is relying on only messages to meet people. CT
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Chillymofo
9 years ago
Having been a member for many years now, i have had a profile pic and used to regularly contribute to forums, back when the forums were actually goodUsed to like to contribute, and ask questions and was well rewarded with banter and info Nowdays just seems to be a raft of self obsessed and biased contributors, ready to flame you at the first opportunity - especially if you are not part of the "Clique" Then having hundreds of dumb arsed guys sending the standard "Cookie Cutter" template wink or messageJust couldn't be stuffed anymore - so removed photos, contribute when i feel like it Got more important things to do these days
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's very rare for me to reply to a grey ghost or a profile full of ask me's these days. It makes me wonder what are you trying to hide? I understand privacy but some kind of pic and effort in your profile is better than nothing. Call me picky but that's just me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Languid
9 years ago
Well I am just on here for the voyeurism (unkindly souls would probably say perving haha) of hot pics, profile pics and to read the forums and not to actually meet anyone. Usually find the pics on here much more interesting than straight porn. One thinks well that's a real live woman. Makes them much more beautiful and sexy. And one can then dream of what could be haha. Am a grey ghost because would not like to be recognised. So being a grey ghost doesn't really matter. I rarely get profile views never alone flirts or messages. And dont expect to receive them. Altho did get messaged and then propositioned once. This in something like four to five years haha.
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Insomnian
9 years ago
If they can't be bothered to put a pic on their profile, and the writing is some what boring, or all templates and asks me, it's a block / ignore.
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RHP User
9 years ago
But some of us remember the pool man😜xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
I get msgs from grey ghosts. The ones who deliver it with access to their pg do get a response as long as it says more than 'hey sexy' - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
9 years ago
If the profile indicates there are no pics at all then I generally ignore any contact. I'm not interested in having pics emailed of texted to me.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yeah I dont understand when they say they dont have any pics on here for privacy reasons, but are happy to email or text them. Cant work that one out. Thats what pg is for
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm not a black or white type person so I suppose it kinda suits me to be grey.I'm sure my hair will turn that colour one day, lol. My profile was very different when I was meeting men from here but now I'm no longer meeting any men online and my profile reflects that by stating that I'm only here for the forums. At the moment it is also hidden anyway.Therefore at this stage I do not feel that I need to show photos in my profile.If I feel like once again meeting men online, I will definitely update my profile and describe myself in my own words as I do not believe in using those meaningless templates!I would then of course add some photos as well. Historically though I do not find that photos make any difference to the amounts of messages and flirts I have received.And I never found that having photos on a profile made a difference in the types of men who messaged me or which age groups message me or anything like that. Anyone and everyone just flirted and messaged whether they matched me and my criteria or not, lol, but I don't really mind as I would consider on a case by case basis as you never know just who might turn out to be ideal! Vampa.
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RHP User
9 years ago
My grey ghost profile is working just fine for me.
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sweetgem
9 years ago
They have a well and properly written detailed profile about who they are, what they seek and what they want out of this site. Then coupled with a well written and respectful message (to me) that is composed in the writing language instead of the lazy text message language, then I would be interested to chat otherwise it will only be a "thanks, but no thanks" reply from me. However, having said the above, I will cease the message conversation instantly if a complete grey ghost member asks to see my PG without having any to show me first, even if he can write and is polite! It is my rule that if you initiate the contact first, then you need to be fair and show me what you look like first as I would do the same if I am the one to create the contact. Simple as that really! :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Usually we ignore. However, we have made exceptions where the person(s) have sent a well written, No-BS message
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RHP User
9 years ago
I havnt been here long. This is my first post. It seems to me i have a hard decision to make as to what photos to put in. Never been called a grey ghost. Thought they were parking inspectors.
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RHP User
9 years ago
To the forums Purdy...you will have more success here with photos...particularly if you have a nice face pic. xxFreya
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Welcome aboard. At least as a guy, you need something to stand out from the crowd. And as others have said, no piccys in your private album as well, no chance Annie
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RHP User
9 years ago
I will ask if they have pics in their PG because I do understand people want discretion, for whatever reasons. But if they want to send to my email or phone, they will be ignored. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Before I let my membership lapse I contacted many grey ghosts. But only if their profile description interested me and there was a pic or two in their private gallery. The ones that I do not understand are those that say must have a pic yet have nothing at all themselves and have ask me on everything, oh and use the generic profile writer. That to me just makes no sense at all.
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RHP User
9 years ago
And yes I am happy to reply to a grey ghost if it is not a complete greyout
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inspirit
9 years ago
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RHP User
9 years ago
My couples profile is currently a grey ghost. Why? Because I want it to be different to my personal profile. So currently having fun with the camera. So sometimes its not a privacy issue its a "what do I put up" issue. After all there's lots of fantastic profile pics on here. That's Willowtree_2 im looking at!!! Wow
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RHP User
9 years ago
We joined a few days ago and we just ignore any profile with no pictures. Why waste our time if we don't even know who we are talking too? Tam and michael - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
No sexy pictures to distract from the words on my profile.
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Inspirit 👍🏽
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Tam & Michael, may all your RHP dreams come true 🌈 Indy
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RHP User
9 years ago
I wanted to bump this, because it's something that I've actually been thinking about a lot recently. I've chosen for quite some time to keep a picture off here. This is mainly because I can't compete with the jacked bodies and abs here, I'm a little overweight and I wouldn't want to push my bare stomach onto someone without warning. And while my face is arguably my selling point, I'm somewhat paranoid about being 'spotted' on here. I already recognise one colleague and ex-colleague on here, factor in randoms browsing around RHP and I can just see the uncomfortable questions coming my way. I suppose as cool as I am with the idea of seeking out sex on a site, I'm not so cool with it being linked back to my work or family life! That said, I know my face is my primary attracting point, I know no pics basically means no attention, and I have seen so many brave people share their faces on their profiles, so I am still toying with the idea of going unmasked!
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RHP User
9 years ago
But few will get to read it..many women wont even reply to a grey ghost...I know it can be awkward if someone you know finds you here, but they are in the same boat..put a face pic up,it will increase your chances..and you are single....it seems that all of your generation are on hookup sites anyway,no shame in that 😉xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
At the very least you should consider putting a couple of pics in your private gallery, that you can open up for women you chat with. In the 'real world' we like to put a face to the person we're talking to and for most people on here it's no different. Also, for a public pic it doesn't have to be limited to either your face or your abs, there are other creative options you can try. Frankly, the shirtless chest & abs shots are a dime a dozen on here and I find them pretty boring... something different will catch my eye and suggest that you're a guy who can think outside of the box.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If a man is a grey ghost but has several pics in his PG, it's not an immediate no for me as long as he's willing to open them with his second message at the latest. When there are none, I'm afraid the contact ends for me before it has begun.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'SugarSirenxx' but please change your ask me's to meaningful information. - Posted from rhpmobile The don't ask is NOT an option.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for the encouragement! I've decided to put up a few in my PG. I was going to be really bold and put my face up on my public, but I chickened out, haha. I reckon I'm going to do a creative shot from my holidays for my main, it's just a case of picking one! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nice one!
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RHP User
9 years ago
But I've turned into a grey ghost, so have many other regulars that I can see (or rather, can't see any more 😔) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Did your membership expire? You are a guest so don't get to see any R rated pics...
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think it's the mobile app. Almost every profile is a grey ghost to me, including my own :( On the main site, everything's as normal as it can be. - Posted from rhpmobile
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