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Too Honest?

February 20 2017

Is there such a thing? I'm a very open book, having very few hsrdlines but the ones I have are set in stone. There are no taboo topics with 7th me. I am tolerant (of everything except intolerance) & live by, "Whatever floats your boat as long as it doesn't sink mine." Fuck Buddies have become friends and friends have become lovers and over the years single, I really have been spoiled for choice. The gentleman who have come into my life, have done so and made my world a better place for the experiences shared with them (some of you are on here, thank you). I'm wondering if mystery is better than honesty? Perhaps intrigue and being enigmatic, even evasive are perhaps more alluring than transparency and the like. It is human nature to want what one cannot hav Thoughts? - Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    I've been an honest book. Shared my life story and pretty much my soul. Happy to be in that zone and feeling the emotion and passion of the relationship. Not knowing it wasn't being reciprocated and having many things withheld. Only to have my honesty used against me and damaging my soul again. Be careful who you share with. Honesty is beautiful. But it can hurt you when the person you think you know isn't quite with you on that chapter in life's big book.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I don't have the desire or energy to be anything other than myself. I don't want to mysterious or evasive - I like to think I'm intriguing ;) I know who I am and what I want - I'm not sure how I can get that by pretending to be someone/something I'm not? Agree with Annie on the need to protect yourself though. I recently had a friend who's ex tried to destroy them - it was nasty and beyond anything I had even imagined someone capable of. Luckily, my friend is an amazingly strong and beautiful person, with people who love her. She is coming out the other side stronger and more amazing than ever I think the key may be trusting your gut, knowing what you want and not settling for less. Being whole emotionally also helps. I know that my honesty leaves me open at times, but I am a reasonably good judge of character and have people around me who will let me know if their BS radar is going off

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    No 😇

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Too honest too open. Yup sounds like me - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Sing it! That is key. I do not have the slightest desire to be putting broken people back together. I'm an open book - that's me. Think it, feel it, say it. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Very guarded at the moment because of some shitty things that have happened to me. I only open up to ongoing fb's who I know and trust, but a closed book to new guys, and that won't change. I've found discretion a little elusive and I have a life, and family, to consider, so very little personal information is shared. With respect to guys I have had long term associations with, my top guys, I never knew anything about, and I didn't need to. I knew they were quality individuals and trusted they would be discreet, one broke that, but the others were amazing. They had their lives, I had mine, we'd meet for incredible sex, and go our separate ways until the next time. So the mystery suited me, and them, although they knew more about me than I did about them, didn't worry me 😃

  • swingalingson

    swingalingson

    8 years ago

    You can sit on my face anytime... just saying just saying... sorry for being honest

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    My FF took me shopping...she tried on about 20 dress outfits... and kept asking..."how does THIS One look"shit like that ok...I kept my answers standard though.."Nice.." "Nice.." "Hot".. blah blah... She finally said.. "Tell me the fckn truth you chicken shit C*** -- I am ok.. I can handle the fckn truth"I thought about this.. and ALL the warnings on the Female labels I had read.I went against them all.."I told her the truth..."I Said.."OK.. you want the truth huh?? Here it is..."Then Told her.."I have been fucking your sister too" The "I am ok, I can handle the truth...." part ???That was NOT the case.......

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    8 years ago

    And it's often confused with tactlessness 😂 Guilty fckers

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Best served warm and made from the heart.If its cold, it going to burn to the core !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    is the best policy as far as I'm concerned. Sometimes though I try not to 'overshare' as people may not be open to that. I'm also a private person so happy to keep myself to myself. It is a bit of a tightrope to walk.... and hard to judge sometimes. All the best LFF KH x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...numerous and very human arenas to consider when we talk about ''absolute truth'', these being the mental, physical and emotional make-up of our individual personalities. We can choose to support others or we can make a choice to try to tear them down. All of us will eventually meet others who have a greater mental capacity or are smarter than we are and others who may not have spent as many years going myopic reading rather useless book at uni. Smart and clever are not twins as surely as wisdom and knowledge are not relatives. As for the emotional side, I prefer to be very open and at times will slow down as I have spent time searching my inner self to understand what my emotions and feelings mean to me and will express those freely albeit in a timely manner. Physical, best of luck to each of us. We will find physical attraction where we find and define it. Whilst there are stereotypes, there is no norm or standard by which we can compare with any validity and certainly not in a venue like this where so many decision as to physical attraction are made on the basis of a few photos. Again the old sage ''in the eye of the beholder'' certainly applies for me and I could care less who agrees or disagrees with my personal choices. Old joke repeated... "Honey do these jeans make my butt look big'' ''No dear, it's the two big slices of mudcake and litre of double fudge ice cream that you eat every night that is does that''. Best ......... CM

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Out shopping with a black redhead.. we just came out the house and she asked .. how does my hair look today, i said it looked better yesterday. That didnt to down too well That was many moons ago when i didnt know women well.. i thought she really wanted my opinion lol - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    You funny fucker 😍

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'Summer_in_Sydney' Way too forthcoming with information. One poor guy told me I was scary after our date... ...one of the Spice Girls to me, Scary Summer?

  • cat_n_the_hatter

    cat_n_the_hatter

    8 years ago

    People are not like books. I do not think I have to do things that I don't wish to do, or say anything that is unnecessary. Men don't need to know my every thought and I theirs. I don't play games with men (or women) and don't expect world to run around me. I have my own world. I value solitude sometimes. Does it make me mysterious? I don't think so. OP you are beautiful because you are a warm person. (Ms)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Do I speak honestly? I do, brutally so. I endeavor to be tactful, provide a reasoned approach yet be truthful. Am I honest about who I am, mostly. I have some protective measures in place but I'm an open book mostly. I'm ruled by my heart not my head, so often I feel before I think lol. There are a handful of people from RHP that know the real me, the complete me :) They are special to me because I am the most honest version of me when with them. If they've met my family and been to my house, it means I've exposed myself emotionally to them as well, hence they get the 'real me'. My family and most of my friends don't know the RHP side of me, so I don't feel I'm living completely honestly with them but I'm ok with that :) Mary xx

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    8 years ago

    You silly bugger. You should be old enough by now to realize that even when a woman says stuff like that to you, you know that "I am OK - I can handle the fucking truth" translates to "I can handle anything you want to tell me, as long as you know I don't want to hear anything I don't really want to know". Shoulda thought youda wised up to that by now.... There are always still lines in the sand, even when you are told there are not. Just have to learn to walk over them, not through them. Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Bloody funny. I mean that if asked questions, I will answer openly and with vulnerability. I've no fear in asking for what I want, like all of us there are things that are tender that take time to reveal but generally speaking I just am absolutely myself. I say what I mean and mean what I say. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'swingalingson' You can sit on my face anytime... just saying just saying... sorry for being honest ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Well except for always keeping a surprise in mind... for the next time we meet... it could be a great bottle of wine... an gift... or even better a 180 degree turnaround in the way to greet her... to treat her... if gentle and respectful is the norm... a bit of hair pulling and a very firm grasp is a nioce contrast... and if the hair pulling is the norm... well then there is always the flowers... a gentle peck and lifting her up (without dropping her) and gently placing her in the corner of the room on her head... OH I did not mean the last bit... I meant on a nice soft bed... ahhhhh...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Always needs a companion, tact.Honesty needs to come from a caring place, too often it is a mask for spite and jealousy.We all know the truth can hurt, so what is the intention ?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...I miss you. x - Posted from rhpmobile