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Transsexuals are not all Shemales you know!
August 31 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
That is an amazing post. I know about a dozen transexual women and one man through my line of work, but I'd never heard this particular phrase: "That's what they are, not a guy with a mental problem, but a woman with a physical one." I will be using this quote the future, if that's ok.
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RHP User
11 years ago
well put christie,,,,,i hope a few of the homophobic people from the wa chat room that have been harrassing bme read this post ,,,and learn to be more accepting of people like ourselves xxxxxxxxxxx catherine
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RHP User
11 years ago
Tranny's mmmm I love them!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Cath you are right bloody homo bi transgender bashers in the chat room though I ark them up more by throwing it in their faces "hey fag poof" etc my reply "nah mate half gay/poof" "do ya take it up the ass" "yeah love it what's it to ya" Stand ya ground & give it back loud and proud Cath. They soon rack off back into their closets. You are a woman Cath and we would treat you as nothing less. Xx The comment not a guy with a mental problem but a woman with a physical problem is so true and needs to be put out there. Matt The Funky Two- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
How do you feel about your orientation saying TV/TS? I can imagine with Transvestite and Transexual being such different things it could be offensive for some. If we're trying to educate people on the difference, wouldn't it help to separate the terms completely? Or am I nitpicking?
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inspirit
11 years ago
Your words put a real spin on how it actually is. Cath xxx those kind of people will never understand as I believe their own lives are probably miserable and insecure. (((HUGS))) FOOK EM!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some transsexuals I've been with insist on being called a transsexual or t-girl but not a girl.
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RHP User
11 years ago
others insist on being called a woman. I love them all and adapt to what they want to be called.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Def right though I think all sex sites have only one option which is tv/ts so the education starts with the simple process of separating these two "genders" just like for str8 and bi genders. So well said and not nick picking at all :-) Matt- Posted from rhpmobile
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shyvoyer
11 years ago
If this had "Like" like in facebook I would be able to show my support for a lot of theses posts lol As is you are all gorgeous people and if only those closed minded people get over their homophobic views and get to know the person within they would like the person on the outside also
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RHP User
11 years ago
In total agreement Christie and Cath! If I can I might just quite you in future, you put it perfectly!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Very well said.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you all for your comments, personally I just see myself as a woman, I object to the classification of TV/TS because one is done for pleasure, the other is done in pain. When I grew up people didn't know the question and there certainly were no answers to what I felt and why, the Internet both set us free and manufactured another label because the questions are too hard for those to answer. So we are lumped into the transgender basket. I do not despise those who are transgender but not transsexuals, they are what they are, but they are not me. Alas, try to find a man who understands, or a woman who cares, as complex as the problem is, we keep looking for the same thing every woman wants. Love.
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RHP User
11 years ago
As do we all Christie, as do we all :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
As a kid we had a boarder in our house (Sydney) who was a lesbian of the extremely butch variety, anyone who saw her in the street thought she was a man. From the age of say 12 to 18 my family Sunday BBQ's always consisted of Transsexuals, Transgender and many more walks in this rainbow we call life. To me, in my formative years, this was all normal. I now live in regional hell full of bogans with crappy attitudes towards anything that isn't *insert appropriate word here, I can't find it in my vocabulary right now*. I was chatting with my 6 year old son on Friday night. He said that his mate was gay. I asked him what that meant. He said dumb. I corrected him and said gay meant two men that loved each other were known as gay, it isn't a bad word, just a word to say it's a male/male relationship. He looked up at me surprised. "You know, like Aunty Damien has a boyfriend." "Oh Yeah" he responded. Instant perspective, hopefully I'll keep the bogan out of him!!! I know off topic OP, I just wanted to share that understanding is sometimes taught, and I hope we all raise our kids to be more understanding and compassionate. It needs to be discussed openly from a young age.
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RHP User
11 years ago
And all I can hear is Cindy Lauper singing "girls just wanna have fun" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ok, I know, this is an adult site where most things seem to orientate around sex, about how we are perceived and the desire to be wanted, I am no different! But there are some really lovely people on here too, you may have to throw the rubbish out but when you find nice people be respectful. They are few on the ground when hormones are in abundance! To those who want no more than a laugh or a friend, a coffee or just to be acknowledged, I hear you! 5 mins of sex is no substitute for someone who cares.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Christiets'5 mins of sex is no substitute for someone who cares. 5 minutes? You are meeting the wrong people!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would say don't settle for anything less than someone who is willing to in the least gawker you out to dinner. It can't feel that good to be anyone's closet sexual interest. Thank you dor your insight and honesty!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Mesmerised, 5 mins? It's been a while since I had that! As a transsexual you have the problem of being isolated sexually, men generally are fascinated but frightened that it's catching, women are generally sympathetic but decline a transsexual, lesbians seem to have a real problem with TG, seem you are really despised and abused as just a guy in a dress. So sex seems to pass us by. Sadly.
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RHP User
11 years ago
to arrive here today as the true sensual being you know yourself to be. Has it always been this way~could it ever have been different? Of course not. Full acknowledgement from us for being the siren of a gal you are.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ahem, that was meant to read 'to take you out to dinner', as in someone who would hang out with you in public. Enjoy company & conversation. Christie & Catherine, in my view, the whole TS/TV labeling thing is an oversimplification of what is an enormous spectrum of possibilities. Gender identification is certainly different to sexual orientation, yet both are broken into 2 polar categories, with an 'in between' for those outside the bell curve. Boy, TS/TV, girl. Hetero, bi, gay. The 'homophobia' you are experiencing here is quite possibly people who can't wrap their head around those polar concepts, let alone the kaleidoscope of possibilities of personal preference of the people 'in between'. Check out the 'Are bi guys really gay?' thread for illustration of this point. It's a wild and diverse mix of people in the area between poles, and there is good reason that the colours of the rainbow are used to represent the LGTBIQ population. -Hugs-
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RHP User
11 years ago
In having to live as a transsexual, one watches as you past is airbrushed out, having to remain silent when you know and have experienced so much. So much that you cannot say. So much you can no longer do. In its place is the knowledge that you never really had a choice, that if you are icky to pass in stealth mode, you have a life in which you can smile. It's tinged with sadness too, loss of friends, family, status and dignity, all for the sake of who you are. There is no other condition that is so damming, that drives so many to despair yet is so fantastic to come through. Welcome to my world.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I dress quite dramatically at times - wigs and way out outfits. One night, I was playing with a friend who is transgender and afterwards a guy asked me if I was a man or a woman. I suddenly realised what my friend had to put up with. It was his first question and while I wasn't worried about being mistaken for either, I felt dehumanised. I am a person first so why could he not have talked with me and found out who I was not what I was.Also, I am surprised at the objections that are raised by our play even in the swinging scene - to me we are a couple of friends having a good time but others find it offensive. Why? I really don't understand the prejudice but I know where you are coming from Christiets
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RHP User
11 years ago
Gayely, thank you for sharing such an observation. People believe because we have been outed we are fair game and normal rules of engagement no longer apply to us. How many times have I been asked deeply personal and offensive questions by people I thought good friends. Would I ever ask what sex is like of a friend? Hardly, yet for some reason people think that we have no right to a personal life, that normal standards should not apply because we are not seen as female, so no need to be nice, not seen as male, so we can be despised. I live in stealth, I can smile when asked how many children I have, or when a woman asks me if I have a spare pad, or when a man smiles at me. I have my dignity, but a smile in irony too.
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RHP User
11 years ago
and brave Christie...the post and you x R
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP consider your self lucky to be fit and healthy. Fortunate that you live in a progressive country, that is actively seeking to improve the lives of transgender, intersex, and gender diverse individuals. Rejoice that you have the fortitude to keep going against the ignorance of the majority.It is unfortunate that prejudice still exists, but that is the human condition. Inequality is unavoidable, most of it is subconscious and bereft of malicious intent. You are part of a small minority, as there are many minorities, and thus must suffer in the face of the misunderstanding and in the discomfort of others. How do we tackle this issue, many will say via education, a lofty ideal but impractical in the face of human diversity. Should we parade the minorities one after another in an endless stream, exulting their virtues, ponder and debate their difference, instill understanding into each person. I think not, that is the role of society, the ever so slow progress of civilized humanity.We teach, say even preach, that respect for all, no mater who they are, is the solution. But true respect can come only from understanding. I requires empathy, a willingness to learn, to know what it is like to walk a mile in another's shoes. What great injustices have we committed under the shadow of misunderstood respect. Universal respect from each is another dream of perfection.But their is another type of respect and comes in the form of law. We live under the rule of law, laws born of the needs for all. It is far from perfect yet it evolves and adapts as humanity diversifies, discovers, and grows. It is an idealized entity, it struggles with the process of implementation. its very nature is lumbering and dimwitted. Yet laws change via the actions and voices of individuals and groups. People like you. Law give you respect from all, not from the imperfect individual. It is the base line and your cause to gain respect benefits all in the end.Generalize not on the nature of similar, though you have unique insight you are but you alone. Expect not understanding from every individual it is an impossible dream. Use not pity as tool. Forgive ignorance as one can never know all. We, each and every one off us suffer being in the minority of one. Are we not equal you and me.Stand tall and let it be known that you are you, proud and confidant. Scream to the world, I would wish to be no other than me and thank fortune that made me so.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Freya, thank you but I cannot claim to be brave, for I didn't really have any choice in the matter, courage comes from knowing what must be done, knowing the consequences and still doing it. I paint pictures with words, they are all I have, beauty? As they say, is in the eyes of the beholder. Thank you for understanding my prose, it's nice that some see further than the label. Like every woman I see my flaws, wish I was beautiful and have the insecurities of life as that woman, I am judged at work as a woman and not for my worth, the irony of life, to be not discriminated against as ts, because no one knows, but to suffer discrimination because I am a woman. If it wasn't so perverse it would be funny!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with Freya. I think bravery is also accepting the cards you were dealt, without choosing denial or finding ways to escape. You seem to have faced your challenges head-on, and then some. Respect.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I honestly thought Rhp would have a transgender *something* by now... Where's all the ftm's eh? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I know nothing of hatred,intolerance, racism, sexism, bigotry, indoctrination, homophobia or prejudice. I don't yet understand things like love, compassion,integrity, tolerance, human decency, or truth. For the first, most important formative years of my life, all I will know is what you teach me.... Choose Well...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Where do I find a horny older guy looking for young bi guy?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Utterly disgusting - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Whats disgusting?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Trop fest winner and comments were utterly disgusting. European Bliss posted on facebook about it. I'm sure she'll elaborate more soon. I cannot begin to understand the torment of your life, but I will say this, same as I have just said to my friend Europian Bliss, your personal strength of character and the desire to be true to yourself is inspirational. Just yesterday, I discovered, via an old high school friend who I had not kept in contact with, posting a pic of me when I was 17 - that I actually went to school with Europian Bliss! We were even in the same home room for at least 3 years! The other friend was surprised to see I had changed my first name since High school to Anna. (she also knows Europian Bliss) I then sent this to Europian Bliss by pm.... "I have been pretty selective with who I have on Facebook. Now the old school friends finding me was nice, but it troubles me! I feel intruded upon! I keep my FBook vanila and boring. Rhp is where I spend my free time! WOOT. The nervousness I felt when wanting to tell everyone on facebook and family that I changed my name! Now, this lot are just finding out.. What gave me strength to shout it outloud was thinking of how hard things must have been for you to announce you're changing your name! .. And body! Why? To show the real you inside!! You are an inspiration to me and I love your take on life. You believe in yourself and you've changed to suit you, not what anyone else wants you to be. That is a rare gift in people. Love ya long time babe you're special! X"
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RHP User
11 years ago
To a novice like me, and with no disrespect, when I see TV/TS I think Kinky. I thought Transgender was post op, and I know TV is a man liking to dress up as a woman... I didn't know what TS was, so presumed it was along the same lines... so a lifestyle, a lil kinky, naughty and nice! Whereas post op gender change (why I thought the term was trans gender) That is your Life! not a lifestyle! You chose to be the real you, but you didn't choose to live that life! Now that I have been educated more, I'm thinking that TV could also mean pre-op? Which is why I guess both TV and TS are put together. It may be politically correct, but to the average guy and gal on the street, its not very clear, SO NEEDS TO CHANGE! xxxxxxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
The thought of what you go through, the thought of what you have gone through! Breaks my heart! You have corrected a major physical condition, bravely undergone major surgery - then left branded as something not quite normal? How dare we! The thought of what school must have been like? Boys gym locker rooms, having to play footy, when all you wanted to do was the same as every other teenage girl - girly stuff! The loneliness, isolation, confusion, misery... each and every day. The secret you kept close to your heart and no doubt feeling you couldnt even talk to your own mum and dad about? I can picture it, but I can't or never will fully comprehend the enormity of living it. Now even on a dating site, a site for me personally, I use to escape reality for a while... even Here you are judged! Thats soooo wrong right there! We have been taught over the years to unlearn the discriminatory prejudices we hold against people of different race, colour and sexual orientation... I thought we had also been taught about sexual equality. Its who you are... not what lies between your legs that matters!! I thank you for this thread. We need more open discussion on the topic to help break down the barriers. But that also means throwing yourself open to questions, as people try to grasp an understanding of it. To put TV/TS down as your gender, is opening the door..... BUT If you don't want to do that, that is YOUR personal choice, and I personally dont see a need for it at all, simply state your sex as man or woman, then deal with interested people on a one to one basis. I do believe in truth though... so be upfront about it. No different to having TV/TS on your profile, they have just messaged you instead to hear it. If that person is interested in You, then they are interested in all of You, your history and background, if they don't like it when they know the pseudo-reality? they arent worth knowing! Next! You might not be everyone's cup of tea... (I know I say that to guys all the time because of my large frame), and that's fine, Good luck in your search... Next! To leave yourself exposed to Everyone by describing yourself as TV/TS, then it is going to attract good attention, sure, but it also puts a target on your heart, for any Tom Dick or Dickhead to hurt at will. To feel you are required to put that down because you have had the Op and are, or are pre-op, is wrong. It is no-one else's damn business, until you decide to make it so. If you want to be the flag bearer for awareness on transexual issues, or if you are loud and proud and ready to slap anyone down who dares ridicule you, then GO FOR IT! I imagine for most though, that's not what you are here for on this site I would love to hear what others think about it too! Oh yeah and the "thats GAY" thang, I heard a young boy say it once at a friends place, knowing full well he had no idea what he was actually referring to, and knowing he was saying something sucked... I said "Oh Is it Good yeah?" he said no "Gay" means bad... I said matter of factly, actually it means "Good" and until you are old enough to understand why you shouldn't be saying Gay that way, I suggest you don't" Meh it was a friend of a friends kid and I didn't want to start anything, but it shut him up. XXXXX
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RHP User
11 years ago
Annazon, everything you indicated about my life was essentially the way it was, the locker room? Oh Christ, the showers? God help me, I used to go in last after the others had gone, telling parents? Awful, hearing your mum ask you if it was her fault? Rebuild a life. But I am so lucky. I have had the chance to be successful as a guy, and now as a woman. I am revitalized by life, blessed. I watch as my history is airbrushed, understand the discrimination of being a woman. Yet still I smile. Some people never know about such things because, well, they don't care, it hasn't touched their lives, their family, so it's easy to ridicule what you don't understand. I gave up trying to educate everyone, but concentrated on being the best me and try to do it with pride in myself. It's not easy, it's not nice but it's better than how it was. Thank you Annazon for such inspiration.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love meeting new people on this site! I always thought I was broadminded and knew what was what in the world... but then I started meeting people from rhp, cyber or real, from all walks of life, and even countries, and wow I've learned so much! And its from people like you, who share something uniquely private - that is the best buzz. I think because it is so personal, I try to stand in your shoes for 5 minutes to see if I could ever have the strength of character to walk a mile in your shoes. You have inspired by sharing your journey, thank You. xoxoxoxoxox Anna xxxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
So sad Christiets that its seems hard for folk to step up and be loving. Personally I am hugely attracted to those who are crossing gender boundaries, in which ever way. There must be others like me, truly, you will meet someone one day who thinks you are the bees knees. Thank you for opening a conversation around this topic, I have deeper insight now than before I began reading.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Spacious, thank you for the kind words, I doubt many understand and fewer still care but as long as humans have inhabited this world there have been women like me, born with a penis. I make the distinction because despite the ignorance of society, fueled by a righteous few, indignant that their idea of morality is endangered by some who do not choose to be the way we are but are condemned and ridiculed because of it. Labels are society's method of discrimination. Perception rules, facts are irrelevant. One day they will discover the physical reason why transsexuals are not suffering from a delusional psychological ailment, but a physical construction issue. I am not the same as a TV, a CD a shemale or any other transgendered person. I am a woman sadly with a penis looking to get rid of it so I can live my life with respect, without stigma and ridicule. I fought a battle I could never win because ultimately when you look in a mirror your head tells you what is right not what's between your legs.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you for this post, has turned out to be a lovely thread. I can't imagine the crap you have been through to become the woman you are today, you have enormous reason to hold your head up high. You are very articulate and look lovely. I hope you find many like minded and open people on here to share your life with. I also love your quote.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanku so much for opening your soul here I am more open minded after reading this. It is true that ignorance creates a lot of judgments and beliefs and I'm thankful that I have learnt a little about you as a person and more importantly about your journey with becoming a woman. I feel compassion and a sense of wanting to know you as a friend so you never feel that horrific loneliness and judgement again. I'd have coffee with u any day and it would be an honor x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanku so much for opening your soul here I am more open minded after reading this. It is true that ignorance creates a lot of judgments and beliefs and I'm thankful that I have learnt a little about you as a person and more importantly about your journey with becoming a woman. I feel compassion and a sense of wanting to know you as a friend so you never feel that horrific loneliness and judgement again. I'd have coffee with u any day and it would be an honor x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lovely to get such a response, and yes I would love to take you up on the coffee! I did try leaving my email address on the forum but the post was removed, I guess they don't allow which makes it all but impossible for guests to meet up. So I will just have to sign up and upgrade! Be in touch soon..
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Christiets' Thank you all for your comments, personally I just see myself as a woman, I object to the classification of TV/TS because one is done for pleasure, the other is done in pain. When I grew up people didn't know the question and there certainly were no answers to what I felt and why, the Internet both set us free and manufactured another label because the questions are too hard for those to answer. So we are lumped into the transgender basket. I do not despise those who are transgender but not transsexuals, they are what they are, but they are not me. Alas, try to find a man who understands, or a woman who cares, as complex as the problem is, we keep looking for the same thing every woman wants. Love. are who they are. To lose the labels and all that jazz Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I take your point and who could replace the what in my post, but labels exist and no matter what we do there will always be those who condem through ignorance. I gave up trying to educate the world years ago because nost don't want to hear or just don't care. In characterizing difference within the transgender basket one has to accept firstly that there is difference, a transsexual is different from a Transvestite or a crossdressers for a singular and earth shattering reason. Put simply, a transsexual defines themselves as someone who believes their gender is not matched by their body. it's about who they are not what they do, about identity and the realignment of body to mind. A tv/cd does not want to change his or her sex, but they get sexual / emotional satisfaction by cross dressing.it's what they do. Therein lies the difference, It's who I am not what I do.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think this is turning into a personal blog!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Personal blog Christie... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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madotara69
11 years ago
That makes sense.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' That makes sense. Not the personal blog post. Just in case Mado Tara xx
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gazpacho
11 years ago
I thought I had some kind of an appreciation of what it is to be a transexual... on gender identification, on sexual identification, on the differences between preference and choices... but a shemale.... that's the part that has got me confused. I'm not so accepting of the idea that a transgendered person is a man with a mental problem. I suppose you didn't mean it that way. I've never cared much for the categorisation of individuals for the sake of sociology or biophysics... it's a live and let live kind of world I seek. Can we all still dress up for fun? HugsGAzpacho
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madotara69
11 years ago
Maybe to help you understand me/us a little better to all this. We have some friends, a little only to their privacy, though this is something they enjoy sharing with the right people I guess. They are a couple in love, a woman who once had the body of a man. She had the operation (genitals) and now has breasts, she is happy and in love with the man that use to be his/ her best mate at work for years. She still likes to talk about the footy and probably knows more to it than most blokes, go figure. All just people to us, just is a big word though. These friends went through everything together to finally have some peace to it, hearing it is much different than trying to imagine it. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Madotara, ahhhh now you get it. Indeed, I have a past, now airbrushed out so none can see. The pain is there, it's cruel and real for we give up the things we love more than life itself to be who we are. Dignity and respect are foresaken relaxed with doubt and disdain. Friends of years no longer friends at all. The one you love in pieces on the ground, nothing will recapture the love or the moments shared, now gone. You would have to be mad to think this is a lifestyle choice, we had the love of a marriage but now only the love as sisters remain. But never ever role a ball to my feet, for I will juggle it on knee, shoulder, feet and head.. Something's you cannot erase, spirit, love and honor remain.
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RHP User
10 years ago
What about half and hour of sex with someone who might care? Lmao
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Hello to all of the cd's, TV's, ts's, ts's, t-girls, girls, women. Wether they are labels you have taken or have been given willingly or grudgingly. Remember they are just that, labels or tags. That what society does, in all fields. Sometimes you can accept, sometimes adopt, sometimes loath. We are who we are. Sometimes because we choose, sometimes there is no choice. But what we must do is accept ourselves for what we are because once you do that, the rest comes a little easier or perhaps just a little less harder. As I grew older I accepted me. I created and finally began to love me. It took time and a journey that covered 40 years of trying to be a female in one form or another. From crossdressing from pre teens, to living as a girl for some years in my late teenage years. You think it's hard in this day and age, the times of acceptance? many will have no idea how hard it was 35 years ago. NO FUCKING IDEA AT ALL..I have endured violence, persecution, blackmail both in the legal sense and mental sense both from strangers, friends and family. I had to give up my dream of being more of a woman due to many of those reasons as well as medical reasons as my body rejected the hormones. To go from being a woman in one sense one day to a man the next day makes one want to give up. Luckily I survived and began to accept that I could only follow my dreams part time and much of that just in my own company. I've long accepted it, learnt to love myself and learnt to accept what society wants to label me. Call me what you want, I don't care. It's so much easier these days but those of us that remember past times won't be so fussed about the labels. Yes, in a perfect world you would have your own section in society, on rph, and whoever else. Fight for that right but for some of us, we have moved on. Live life love life, love yourself. You are all beautiful people and deserve it. Love you all, Annie xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Unless you have had to go through it, no one rally knows or can appreciate the anguish, loss, discrimination you endure. For the idiots and bigots, for the uncaring or those who have never give it a second thought, do not dare to call this a lifestyle choice. Labels are society's means of discrimination. Think about that for a moment. It allows one label to voice an opinion of righteousness over another, but morality belongs to the present, the moment, not the past. You can no more apply todays morality to values held 100 years ago than you can without the understanding of the medical advances that change society. Courage is required on such a journey, not labels. Congratulations on being who you are and at peace with yourself, it's by far the most important milestone in the journey ....
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Quoting 'Songbird_uk' Unless you have had to go through it, no one rally knows or can appreciate the anguish, loss, discrimination you endure. For the idiots and bigots, for the uncaring or those who have never give it a second thought, do not dare to call this a lifestyle choice. Labels are society's means of discrimination. Think about that for a moment. It allows one label to voice an opinion of righteousness over another, but morality belongs to the present, the moment, not the past. You can no more apply todays morality to values held 100 years ago than you can without the understanding of the medical advances that change society. Courage is required on such a journey, not labels. Congratulations on being who you are and at peace with yourself, it's by far the most important milestone in the journey .... Thanks Songbird. Writing that certainly knocked me back a way for a short time. Had tears in my eyes as i reflected whilst writing that. I went to a very dark place for a day after. Hoping that i may have given someone else the strength to endure and refocus on their own destination. But always good in the long run to look back to make yourself appreciate how far you have come. Everyone's journey is different and if you can assist a fellow traveller along the way, its worth it. Have seen so many "girls" endure the hardship, most are still here but a few sadly did not arrive and my thoughts are always with them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Many do not make it. The suicide rate for transsexuals is extremely high. Evidence points to the fact that as many as 50% actually try at some point to end their life. It is an extremely dark place they find themselves in through no fault of their own. I ask you how many other groups on this place match that statistic because of sexual orientation or lifestyle choice? Answer... None. Everyone has a journey, but there is no set road to follow, for each and every one of us is different, circumstances, people or life in general where ever you may be. As difficult as this country can be, it's so more advanced and accepting than so many others. The care we get and the support given is excellent, and for those who complained for the hoops society requests one to jump through, they are a small price to pay for the opportunity to be who we are. Alas discrimInation through a lack of general understanding is rife, unless a situation affects them or theirs personally, people don't care and don't want to know, much easier a basket or a label. The real discrimination comes from family or friends, from employers or institutions. Annie, some take the journey but never finish, whatever the reason, but the longest journey starts with the smallest step. The length of the journey is not important, the fact that you are still on it is.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hey sweets . Im not going to even pretend i know what youve been through but .. i know what you are today .. and it is a gorgeous proud and awesome individual with the best personality anyone could ask for ! Absoloutely live for our chats and the laughs from them . You are just amazing Annie .. gorgeous , strong with a very deep and beautiful soul . Keep being you as you are one person anyone would be damned lucky to have ! ;) :)
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Your making me blush! Making friends like you makes it so much easier to forget life's crap. And that's what life is really about. The bad times makes you appreciate the good times and good friends so much more Thankyou
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RHP User
10 years ago
I hope that was to moi .. & if so .. your welcome .. ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'EuropianBliss' Utterly disgusting - Posted from rhpmobile We agree with you totally,you are either a woman or a man.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'BellaRH' Quoting 'EuropianBliss' Utterly disgusting - Posted from rhpmobile We agree with you totally,you are either a woman or a man. EB called Tropfest disgusting, not transsexuals. If you're going to quote someone, do make sure you get it right. And I say there are more than two genders.
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RHP User
10 years ago
What happens if you are intersexed? That is you have both sets of plumbing, or characteristics of both sexes... Where does that fit into your little black and white world? Unfortunately for your perspective the world is not as black and white.. Sadly and I really do mean sadly, many are born with attributes of both. I was. If you cannot differentiate between black and white, there can be no color in your view, it's the same in life whether or not you like it or appreciate it does not change the facts. That's the way it is, burying your head in the sand and saying it isn't so, is as disgusting as you try to make out it is. But you are entitled to your opinion, however misguided and incorrect it may be. You cannot point to the oft used maxim of what's between your legs as the benchmark, some have a penis and a vagina, and who are you to ridicule by ignorance those who, for not fault of their own, where born this way? To attempt to conveniently pigeonhole those who have a female mind or body, as male? Transsexual is about gender identity, who you are, not what you do. A transvestite or crossdressers loves the sexual satisfaction gained from the eroticism of dressing in another gender. An interested person has physical attributes of both sexes but has the mind of a one. Unfortunately for all concerned they are lumped by society, into a single basket called transgender. An easy label for a variety of totally different conditions and situations. I hope you get it, really do... But somehow I doubt it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'BellaRH' Quoting 'EuropianBliss' Utterly disgusting - Posted from rhpmobile We agree with you totally,you are either a woman or a man. EB called Tropfest disgusting, not transsexuals. If you're going to quote someone, do make sure you get it right. And I say there are more than two genders. The bigots tend to be cowards and act with a herd mentality. They feel safety in numbers... when they mistakenly think someone is siding with their ignorant views it's such a priceless moment XD But thanks for the insight into your personalities BellaRH! I (and I sure hope others) will remember what have you said when you thought it was safe to air them when you are on the wrong side of history as scientific evidence begins to mount and mount against your mere opinion.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Problem is finding them in Newcastle...Either in hiding from the overtly bogan attitude here, which I can understand, or choose to play in Sydney...sad for this of us who find them an incredible turn on...and also really interesting and genuine people.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you want a crossdressers with a cock, or a shemale then that's your taste and preference, but please understand that all transsexuals just want to be rid of it, not play with it! Hence the point, transsexuals just happen to have a cock and do not want attention drawn to it. So good luck finding a transvestite or shemale in Newcastle, I doubt you will find a transsexual who will be happy you want them with a cock...
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