Trying To Be Polite

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Be true to yourself and do what you believe is rite for you and what you're comfortable with   In the words of Abe Lincoln   ""You can please some of the people all ofthe time, you can please all of the people some of the time but you can't please all of the people all of time "   ah so very true...

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  As RHP is a cross section of the community there are people with all different standards and perceptions about what is polite or not. Do what you feel comfortable with is my advice. My experiance is that there is from very nice to very rude online. 50 Shades some may say. At the end of the day, please don't take the nasties too seriously as it says so much more about them than you.

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  VillainNVixen

  12 years ago

  For your own benefit keep them short but respectful.   You will most likely get a lot of messages being a young attractive female (& partner). Use your time on here to get out of it what you want rather than worrying about others.   That sounds selfish but if you are nice and to the point you wont hurt any reasonable persons feelings.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I'm probably part of the "you should answer" crowd... but it's clear that you never know who or what wrote that first message, and how they'll respond to whatever you write back, or don't.So, do what you want to do - a little or a lot - and what makes you happy and comfortable. Beyond that, they'll all need to just cope with it.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  If you're pressed for time, a simple "thanks but no thanks" is all that you should do...even if it is a template response - at least you have gone to the trouble of seeing who wrote, and letting them know not to waste their time - or yours - in further communications. The mere fact you do that would put you in the nicer half of those on this site. If you do more than that, whilst very nice, you risk making your time here a chore, rather than what it is truly meant to be....pure fun!

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  just remember a man can take the time to type a long message that makes you flattered...and send it to another 500 women, some of which may also feel flattered, thinking it was written for them.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I'm glad you've asked the question as I feel exactly the same. Only been here for 24 hours & I'm guessing the 'new girls' get hundreds of messages that seem impossible to return. I used the template & created a thanks but no thanks & got a rude reply :( So I find myself spending wasted time on messages to people I really dont 'like' or have an initial attraction to. People are quick to judge!! Disappointing :(- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I started off in the same situation as you, it's hard to keep up with the volume. In the end I have stopped replying to most, it starts to become a tedious task of writing personal responses to each one. Half of the time they are from people whom are too ignorant to read your profile and often fall outside what you're looking for. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I've made a template that says something like: "Hello, Thank you for your message, I really appreciate you taking the time to write. Unfortunately you're not quite what I'm looking for, so all the best and good luck! I've had 99% positive responses to that.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Thanks for all your responses! Its helped a lot! definitely feeling better about replying now haha

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  As someone who is fairly new here (less than 2 weeks) and written messages to quite a few now, it does get a little frustrating when they go unanswered. I would guess less than half of my messages are read, and of those only a quarter get a reply. Knowing the message is read, and they've read your profile is even worse. I'm sure there are some women that get many many messages and it's impossible to get back to everyone, but I agree that a simple thanks but no thanks click of the mouse would make a big difference. I don't see the point in getting angry with people either, who would that get anyone to reply to you? We're all here for a reason, and really don't want to waste own time as much as anyones. I'm sure there is an interested party for everyone, it's just getting through to them that is the hard part

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  But I'm slowly finding that I'm not getting smashed with messages anymore. I have edited my profile a lot and quite a few times now and I'm finally getting local guys that are what I'm after sending messages and not loads of other guys instead. I took the time to reply to every single message and my thanks but no thanks messages were received with only one sooky lala getting his grumps on. Good luck with your search! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I am truly sorry if I didn't get round to replying to anyone...yes, I did get inundated with requests but some are repeat offenders. It would be nice in a perfect world to have the time to reply but I'm sure most of us hold dwn a job. Initially I replied to everyone but I suppose I have gotn lazy. A template sounds like a good idea. - Posted from rhpmobile

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