Trying to find where we fit - please help

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  My first experience of a swinger club as a couple was a pleasurable one and we had many more after it we always found the other couples to be respectful and polite. There's also nothing wrong with going to a club and not playing. Many couples and singles go just purely to socialise and watch and this will not be frowned upon. If you log onto a swinger clubs website they always have a section on club etiquette which is always worth a read. Hope this helps :)

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  FredAndGinger2

  7 years ago

  Try going to a swingers with another couple you are comfortable with. There's no obligation to play, even though at times you may find some people a little too forward for comfort. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  DynamicCouple36

  7 years ago

  Swingers clubs in Melbourne. Most have a nice bar area & lounge. There are no expectations and you are not forced to dress down nor do anything. They are like any other cocktail bar. With a difference of course :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  FredAndGinger2

  7 years ago

  Cock .. and tail! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  gazpacho

  7 years ago

  Pack all your sexy gear, go and take a look. The most difficult part is walking through the door. After that, you’ll realise that it’s all just people like you, looking to get their freak on. You can spend all night watching if you want to, but I’ll bet you won’t! Hugs Gaz - Posted from rhpmobile

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  megz85g

  7 years ago

  Have to do anything you are not comfortable with, see it as a night out having a chat and being a bit extra flirty , and see how you go. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  P69D69

  7 years ago

  We are long term married, & seeking some fun as well, not wam bam thank yous, but something meaningful. We attended a swingers party from another adult match making page last night, anyway it was in South East Queensland of which the group of regular rotate between locations. Anyway, this was our first time at this location, we had been to another one of their parties approx a few months ago at another location. We arrived, were welcomed in, the hosts had the home owner show us around, a very polite funny man. Anyway we jumped into spa, stripped down, wife in her sexy bodysuit, me in my boxers, we chatted in spa with another couple, wife was not comfortable and was sensing the guys woman was possibly not happy. They left the spa and we followed some minutes later. As we walked in, it appeared the woman was talking to the male host about us and went silent. Approx 10min later we walked into one of the open sex rooms to see what was going on, one of the guys told us to come in and watch, said it was fine, said we didnt need to take cloths off. Standing there for a few minutes and the male host approaches my wife, basically says if we dont play not to turn up to next one, says people feel its rude to be watching them even though we were invited in. Yet there was another two couples who where fully dressed and chatting all night and looked like they didn't recieve the same attitude. Wife felt so unwelcomed, so we left. This was one mans words and attitude, so we don't hold anything against any of the others. We won't be getting involved with that group. We will just keep trying to find mutual connections on here or at nightclubs. Best of luck, hope you find a better reception. So much for their events this is a part of their description of their event. [[[[[ "Meet other sexy couples, ladies and a few selected single guys in a relaxed social environment. No pressure. Come and play or just mix, mingle and check out the swinging scene. Newbies most welcome. If you just wish to visit, relax and chat with some new friends and not participate in anything else, you are very welcome. The first time visiting our type of party can be a little daunting. Just remember that there will be others who are also there for the first time." ]]]]]]

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Hello ToeDippers, I thought your question was great and the responses were so honest and helpful... As a couple who have not attended a club as yet, I would love to hear how you went as first timers. Annie x

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  Mr_MrsAraps

  7 years ago

  There is no obligation to play with anyone at all. It’s totally okay just to go as a fly on the wall and have a look and if you feel in the mood it doesn’t have to be others, you both as a couple can get rev’ed up in the sexually charged atmosphere find a room, lock the door and have get set as a couple together. Can also just watch others having sex which is always hot, hot hot. It’s also a great place to find and experienced couple and just chat with them. Most couple are more than happy to talk to newbies and answer some questions you have and point in some o the right directions in terms of avoiding the pitfalls. As one poster mentioned already the hardest part will be summoning the courage to walk through the door. Once your inside and talk to people you will see they are just ordinary people just like you. As a final note I would also say if your planing on playing with others then stick to that during the night and not get carried away with the moment if someone sexy asks you into the play rooms. There is always next time but imho its best especially on your first time just to take baby steps and that also gives you plenty of chance to take things slow and talk and talk some more (so important) with each other as you take each step and your comfort levels. Good luck W. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Hi Toedippers, The best advise we can give as a relatively new swinging couple of a about 2 years. Having made our own mistakes, but overall having a great time. Is to simply communicate well between yourselves first. Have clear objectives of what you are seeking and what you are prepared to allow each other try. If you both don't agree, then don't do it until such time you are both on the same page. Set clear boundaries and expectations for each other and just importantly share these with people you meet. Good communication keeps everyone on the same page and limits those unwanted awkward moments. Also allow your boundaries to expand as you become more comfortable with what you are doing. Your priority is to each other and your own journey. The people along the way are on their own journey, if everything clicks, then it can be a very enjoyable experience. For us personally as a couple, we prefer the more social connection that can be made by having couples that we can see on an ongoing basis. BUT each to their own, there is no right or wrong. Good luck

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  ToeDippers

  7 years ago

  Thanks all for the replies As many as you have said... that first step... Would anyone have a recommendation for a venue in Melbourne on a Saturday night Preferably somewhere with the safety of a bar area where we can station ourselves and not feel "stressed" Most important factor though would be a low (no) pressure environment. We'll be staying the CBD but can be mobile :)

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