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  kinky_master

  11 years ago

  Unfortunately your vague description makes it very hard to tell you about the subject. Any BDSM play is based on power exchange. In a normal relationship the power is split 50/50 between the partners. They have equal say in the matter and are treated equally. In a BDSM settings the sub gives some or all of her power to the Dominant Party. It may be something as little as not being allowed to cum without permission – to allowing the Dom to do as he pleases with the sub. But at that stage the sub isn’t a sub anymore, but a slave. But, here is the thing that many people do not understand – the sub is always in control, as the sub always has a safe word, which restores her power. So therefore the Dom is only a Dom for as long as he or she does what BOTH the sub and the Dom like. A bad Dom may ignore these rules, which really makes him a kidnapper assaulting a victim – A good Dom always realises his power is only by mutual agreement – and may be very temporary. The most important aspect in any BDSM relationship, regardless how casual is trust. I used to think it was more important for the sub, as the sub is the one who can get hurt physically when a Dom ignores the safe word – but I have recently learned, by having a sub telling me lies, which caused many unpleasant spill over’s into many areas of my life that trust needs to be there, and kept both ways. So, if you have been playing with a Dom in a mask – then you have been playing a dangerous game – because the Dom should have told you clearly what he wants from you and why.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Well put KinkyMaster. Although I am not going to enlarge on the actual inter-relational parameters of these roles, I will say there are too many novice/self administered Dom males out there who graduate themselves after a modest amount of experience..This allows them a tool to engage with subs and slaves who are exploring this domain and these so called Doms score by unqualified bullshit to those unaware of the plastic front of a sly male who normally wouldn't be a desirable man (for whatever reasons - unattractive e.t.c.).Watch out for these Fakes

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