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Turned Down Due To Ethnicity?
January 15 2014
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
This has the potential to open up a nasty can of worms! It may very well be that they just don't find Mr facially attractive? Yes, he is clearly very fit - but that only gets you far and isn't the be all and end-all of attractiveness. If I don't find someone physically attractive then I'm not going to waste their time and mine. Ethnicity plays a part in that, but ethnicity alone isn't enough to rule someone out. Jess xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well you like what you like. I am not sexually attracted to some men from certain regions. That doesn't mean that I wouldn't be their best friend... Just means as a general rule I don't want to bonk them. Same as not all men like short chicks with a fat arse and big bazookas ... Meh what can you do eh?
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Taby_DK
11 years ago
Yes I know I may have opened up a can of worms, but I do not mean to offend anyone with this post. I am simply curious if race plays a factor in weather someone would turn someone down. :) I again stress to everyone reading this post I do not mean to offend anyone, I am simply curious. So please don't go crazy over it and attack me. Taby xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Im just slack at replying. Please don't take of offence. Mr pearl_necklace_x is always on my case about it. Katie x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well , i will date guys regardles of colour , i dont see colour and race as something that i based on my idea of finding the perfect date or whateva, to me if i found him attractive may it be Caucasian or Mixed Blood Boyz , i will go out on a date with him , if he is hot and my eyes loves what my eyes sees thats it really , i mean he mite be Caucasian but if he is just not what my eyes likes then it is nothin special ...i still aint gonna go on dates with him , but please send Sonny Bill Williams at my door at anytime , coz i will have him !!.. i will go with those half, Mixed Blood Brothers any day , loved them !!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have you ever considered that it may be none of your concerns about your partner but an issue with profiles that are not really who they purport to be.i.e. Couple profile with only a male driving it and no female knowledge or involvement (whether she exists or not) Given no "juicy" pics why would a male keep on looking, hence end of contact. I would not think your concerns are the real cause, judge by the comments above.
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adam_knows
11 years ago
i,v spent many weekends on the g/c with friends , a lot with islander and Maori blood.They seem to have a field day up thereI dont think there is anything better then brown skinned girls ,
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RHP User
11 years ago
It seems as though it may be a bit from category A & a bit from category B in this situation. For example, in the past on rhp we have a certain look that Sarah & I like and we don't always agree on things such as a certain look (as we both have our taste in girl & her in guys) but generally if someone either guy or girl has the right sex appeal we will generally overlook it and meet to see where it all goes. Although we can comfortably say that both mr Taby and mrs Taby fit our criteria just right ;0) Hope our perspective helps shed some light.s&s
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think there is a thread somewhere here full of women's fantasies with islander men. Personally, I think ethnicity is a plus, especially if we are going to be cooking together, with exotic aromas wafting from the kitchen. I'm culturally biased though, in a positive way. Taby_Daring, don't forget that there are fake profiles, picture collectors, men posing as women or couples, people who are shy/hesitant, or just playing with the fantasy of meeting someone but never will. Don't take it to heart too quickly. You will be someone's cup of tea.
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
MrParadis is tall, dark and handsome. Often taken for a Maori. My type, I love woggy men. But then I love blonde surfy types, and rugby shapes and gorgeous men in general. But I do have a very warm spot for gorgeous black haired men. The gold coast is our playground and you know what we have wondered the same thing. I don't think it's epidemic just that for some women it's their preference not to be with darker guys. And the Gold Coast will have more of those women than more cosmopolitan areas because it is just that kind of place... very ocker Aussie at heart... I have heaps of preferences that make me turn down men that for most women would be more than acceptable. It's just that I am after ticking my own boxes. So that's not saying I am not open to someone winning me over if we meet personally, just that I don't give that opportunity over, unless we're at a party. I'm here to fulfil my fantasies, so wherever possible I seek out partners who fit my 'mold'. MrP, not so much, he loves sexy women who find him sexy, he's got looks he likes but they're a bonus not a pre-requisite. But yes I have a first time coming somewhere in my future with a beautiful Maori guy and I'm really looking forward to that encounter. Different strokes for different folks, it's what makes life so interesting.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have to concur with Jess. I have the same issue when it comes to most Asian women. It is not a prejudice against their race or anything. I just don't find the facial features attractive. I like faces. The body can look as nice as it wants, but if i don't like face it's a deal breaker Maybe these people have the same feelings. Maybe they are intimidated by the fact he is Maori. Most of the Maori guys i know are very nice people, but they are also strong and passionate and some find this intimidating (mainly other guys). But also lets not forget that even though there are some nice people on here, internet dating/hook-up sites are a breeding ground for shallow people. Either way just don't take it to heart. Whatever their problem they are probably not a good fit anyways. Best of luck too you both. Adam xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
1. Yes 2. Yes 3. You may be interested in my thoughts, more than likely they would be misconstrued.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I really dont know any woman that would not look twice at a hot, well built, good looking Islander guy! I'm curious and please don't take this the wrong way, but why are you presuming that couples aren't responding because of HIS looks....maybe it's yours they aren't into....
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inspirit
11 years ago
Yes from me and I do struggle with it.
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Taby_DK
11 years ago
Hmmm this could be true, thanks for your perspective. However I do have full photos visible on our profile (face and body). Whereas Mr Taby_Daring only has body shots on our profile with his face photos hidden in our private gallery due to privacy reasons for his job. So if they were not interested in me they would not have messaged us in the first place or replied to our first message? We have no problems with the initial message from a couple or first reply when we send them a message the lack of communication only seems to start as soon as we open our private gallery. lol Who knows how people think, could be something totally unrelated Taby xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Who really knows, but if he is a great package, it may be a little intimidating to others
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rupamohan
11 years ago
Fitness is just one aspect of physical attraction. Facial features and color can be important. This can depend on ethnicity. Also some people like diversity some like similarity.
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sweetgem
11 years ago
Similar to Meeka, I just have a preference not to hook up with men from certain ethnicities!!! This can happen to the best of us all really, because it's a personal liking/choice. It's not about being racist I don't think, it's just like some people love eating oysters and some would run a mile to avoid even smelling them. I had turned down a few men in the past, because they have lied about their ethnic background in their profile! I simply didn't appreciate that and politely informed them that I was no longer interested, end of story! :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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rupamohan
11 years ago
To make it clear for us ethnicity can be one of the factor but is not the sole factor. We don't rule people in or out based on one factor.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am seriously wary if they are Brit or Irish (irony is I'm an English immigrant myself, oops!). Met too many disrespectful idiot "lads" and Irish mental cases. Not to say I won't give them a chance, but I'll have my eye out for laddish behaviour/thinking. I also need fluent, high-level communication skills to be into a guy, so if there's a language barrier, that's a no no for a sexual connection, but still yes for friends! Apart from that, non-caucasion ethnicities usually excite me rather than put me off. Variety is the spice of life after all :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Firstly, in my experience the ones who want to see "rude" pics are the ones to avoid. I prefer to leave it to the imagination. Where is the mystery if you know what a girl looks like before she takes her clothes off? There is an excitement in discovery. I too have run into racism here (not me because I look very white) but I do have colour in my family and I get quite insulted. Hopefully this is not what is happening. Lastly, the couples thing can be so fickle, you are trying to find 4 people who all like each other. Regardless of what is happening, enjoy and treasure the experiences with the good couples or singles you meet. Don't stress about who may or may not like you :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wonder if it is not a race thing but a more general lack of manners? We notice that some of the people that message us go quiet after our PGs are swapped. Many reasons I suspect, but I always ask that people respond out of courtesy if they don't like, some do some dont!! I don't mind if I don't take someone's fancy, but prefer to be told that. I try to always reply if we don't think we will hit it off. We have also learnt that photos, however good are never as good as the real thing!! Mostly I/we find that many people we have met are much more attractive in the flesh than photos :-) My best advice would be to write off the non reply people as people YOU probably wouldn't want to meet anyway! Have fun!! Mr InAdditionTo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
My grandma came from Maori stock who married a pom , and my fathers side is Irish, but call myself Aussie because this is where I was born and raised. In saying that ' I find myself more attracted to ethnic girls for various reasons but never knock back anyone if they interest me.. Taby, yes, there are plenty of ethnic snobs here, just as out in the real world, and I think you may of come across them guys who pose as a couple... Jay..
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RHP User
11 years ago
..and we are both caucasian we had couples sending us friends request, flirts, etc...only to not reply to our messages, after they have seen our galleries..or just never really wanting to meet...not respond to offers of meet (even if it's just to meet face to face) so don't make a big deal out of it, it happens to everyone, i think..(unless we are just so butt ugly, that seeing our face is an instant turn off, despite previous interest) you are who you are...whether is your/his face or ethnicity...if you guys are not their cup of tea, just move on...i am sure there are plenty, who would be dying to just be in the same room, as the two of your sexy selves..( us included...lol) as for the common courtesy part...yes, it would be nice to be treated with respect by others...but at the end...if their values regarding respect are so different to yours...you probably wouldn't have been a good match, anyhow...so nothing lost there, me thinks
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry but yes I have turned down men in the past .... not because of the colour of their skin ... but because of the culture they come from. Some cultures are known to abuse their own women and treat white women, in particular, as "easy" trash. A lot of it has come from media highlighting cultural differences. I know this is a sweeping statement and there are good and bad in all groups. I just don't trust men from certain ethnic backgrounds and it sends a shudder to my core to remotely think of getting involved with them either physically or even socially. Having said that, I don't have a problem with Maori or islander men even though I have limited experience with meeting them. Some are drop dead gorgeous with cheeky and fun personalities.
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
Maybe they just did not like the look of the "males" face ? That said, how come there are photos, within your public gallery, of the females face, yet the males face is blocked out ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Even though I have listed myself as Asian on my profile, I have had a couple of guys shocked in their replies to me when I've opened my face gallery with, "Oh, you didn't mention that you're Asian." Well, hello. I did if you'd bother reading through my profile. Also being snubbed cos I have kids with me fulltime, also cos I bear the markings of a mother but meh, you can't make everyone happy. It's just finding that ONE that's important. I wouldn't turn down a person for their ethnicity but whether they're easy on the eyes. The physical attraction's got to be there for me. Good luck in your search, Taby :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
To the op..... have you ever declined anyone? Of course you have..... for whatever reason..... it really isn't that different to having preferences based on height, athleticism, body hair, piercings, and even race. Know your value.... and the inconsequential judgements of people you don't even know mean.... zero DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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Languid
11 years ago
It could be racism with some (but probably not too many) and could just be that some people don't like a darker skin with others. We all see some photos and think wow and look at others and think deary me or no way. I like women with big boobs. Does that mean I am prejudiced against women with small boobs. Of course not (although just thinking about that maybe thats a blessing for them haha) but we all like what we like and dont like what we don't. Everyone has their preferences and there is little point in trying to analyse them. Usually there is someone for everyone. Well maybe not Elephant Man.
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Taby_DK
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jason_Leslie' Maybe they just did not like the look of the "males" face ? That said, how come there are photos, within your public gallery, of the females face, yet the males face is blocked out ? The photo you are referring to of us together on our profile that has Mr Taby_daring's face hidden is blocked out due to privacy. Mr has a very sensitive job and this is why all of his face photo's are only available to view in our Private Gallery. We do have a full version of that photo (with his face blocked out) in our private gallery without any blotting out. It's actually one of my favourite photo's of us together :) Taby xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Alot of people seem to be in love with the idea of it all and are just in it for the flirtation. Once you open up your PG, the logical next step is to arrange to meet and that's the stage when they disappear. Unfortunately there are a lot of dead ends with trying to meet people on these sites. Eventually though you meet some very good people :-D Adam xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
A lot people have preferences when it comes to race and attraction. As it isn't a conscious thing I wouldn't call it racism. Whether or not this is the case for you and your partner, I am not sure. There could be other things, such as your partners age vs the age of the couples you approach. The world is a vain place.
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Splicey
11 years ago
Quoting 'Taby_Daring' Yes I know I may have opened up a can of worms, but I do not mean to offend anyone with this post. I am simply curious if race plays a factor in weather someone would turn someone down. :) I again stress to everyone reading this post I do not mean to offend anyone, I am simply curious. So please don't go crazy over it and attack me. Taby xx Attraction plays a factor and some people don't find certain ethnicities attractive.
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2interestedinu
11 years ago
Couldn't see any picture of a guy, wasn't able to get past the pics of the smokin red head. Forget about why people wont respond after seeing your pg. Move on and dont try and find a reason, you'll do your head in. Just know that it happens to everyone probably more so at a guess judging by your hot pics.
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Yesyoudo
11 years ago
People just like what they like. When finding couples we both have to be happy. I don't thing its a race thing. I love girls that are a little meaty with bigger boobs. My wife loves lean athletic men and can't stand steroid freaks! I don't really think race comes into it!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Although being from Aotearoa myself I have been known to be rather partial to a well build Maori boy, I prefer Caucasians generally. I make no apologies for this and not do I think I should have to. I am simply not sexually attracted to other races and will turn someone down on that factor alone! To me, it is no different than turning someone down because they are overweight - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you'll probably just find that most people in the world (rhp people being no exception) are just rude, ignorant, scumbags. I wouldn't even worry about it for a second if I was you guys
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RHP User
11 years ago
is more than likely not just one reason, as each ''couple'' will have their individual preferences, or not really be a couple just the male half, or they think you are both too young, or too hot,and the list goes on. Many people,myself included have had lovers who are islanders or Maori,delicious lovely men that they are. Is having a preference only for pale white skin racist....maybe... but it is all about the why not about the what.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Probably thinking to this more than you need to. There is enough in your profile and pgs. Hardly believe some face pics in the private gallery would be causing this. No sex pics, will see the time wasters disappear, but so does sexy pics too. Happens all the time, the number of genuine couples, is probably a lot less than the real thing. First would be to see if they are verified, we get quite a few that give the; we are new and updating our profile and waiting for pics to be approved, then a couple of barbie dolls turn up shortly after and private gallery more barbie doll pics. Go back to thier profile a little later, two grey figures with photos in private gallery. So they are having a go at you for some pics, probably some short fat sleazy looking wanker, not that there is anything wrong with wankers, just different varieties, and that type of wanker is not being to honest anyway, Save Mr Taby from the need to subdue any such wanker because they never had any intentions other than some sweet talk for your pics. Personally Mr Taby does not look like the sort of fellow one would care to upset, even fuck with his patience. But knowing different Maori, Maori ory (spelling?) are beautiful people, honour friendship and treat guests as like vip to the family. So colour of a mans skin is just a sign their people have come from running around in the nuddy for a few thousand years in a sunny environment, usually pretty happy too, love to sing and can all play stairway to heaven on the guitar. But just in case Mr Taby sees differant and wants to give the old Haka Here's the look back ( Haka intimidate back at yer look) Finished with the old . Hope it wasn't too scary. he he Mado Tara xx Real couples should speak a little different, try see if you can pick it.
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precious142
11 years ago
I'm so with you on this one.....
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PlushVelvet
11 years ago
Please send Mr Taby down my way for a week of "evaluation".
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RHP User
11 years ago
OK, let's get it straight here... I have not been able to meet any single girls for so long, because now I know why; I'm part-Asian. I'm ignored wherever I go, as if I don't exist. If Australians really are open and friendly to foreigners like they say they are, then I like to see them prove it by having sex with a foreigner who isn't strictly white caucasian. No? Didn't think so. GOTCHA.
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passion82
11 years ago
Why not just read your profile and you will find the answer there. You have your 'Deal Breakers' and other folk have their own likes and dislikes: *DEAL BREAKERS* *We believe in safe sex and DO NOT play without condoms, no exceptions! *We are only interested in individuals who are shaved in all the right places. Hairy is a BIG turn off. *We are not interested in couples with well hung men (Very thick or 8 inches and over). Miss T cannot accommodate you. *NO* Single Men – We have NO need of you for any reason. If you contact us you will be ignored and constant harassment will result in blocking. Please look elsewhere. Why not accept that we are all different and have our own DEAL BREAKERS.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm hereing ya I get the same thing all I can say is there loss - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm of mixed ethnicity (Australian, Chinese, German) and am certain there are as many people that don't like my look as those that do. Cannot please everybody unfortunately. I'm friends with guys of different ethnic backgrounds/looks who are awesome people but I just don't feel that sexual attraction towards them. Just life don't take it too seriously :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
As a couple we have been turned down before a few times because the other party wasn't attracted to Asian women, and our own preferences for physical attraction do tend to favour certain ethnicities more than others.
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RHP User
11 years ago
In the end you cant help what your attracted to and what your not
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RHP User
11 years ago
In the end you cant help what your attracted to and what your not
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RHP User
11 years ago
We all have preferences in looks and that may appear (or in fact be) particular ethnic groups do it or don't do it for someone. I reckon it is more likely that those who you opened you pic gallery for were wanting to see rude pics.... that was their purpose and they didn't get it. You've lost nothing (except a small amount of wasted time). Close the gallery for them and don't worry. I would be interesting if you sent them a couple of rude pics if they responded... prob not... they are just pic junkies... maybe. Both of you from what I see are very hot looking people! B
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RHP User
11 years ago
All i want for tonite is sexy Sonny Bill Williams , please send him to my door !!...if you found him, Lol !
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have you thought that it may not be a racial background issue but more that when it comes to the crunch of arranging to meet after viewing your private pics that your partners muscled body may be intimidating to a lot of guys who either don't work out to the same extent or who are like me, slim build from running tennis etc but not buff like your partner and possibly feel they don't match up to the same standard...or expectations you have and back off. I think it's a different thing for female attraction although i know a few women that don't like over buffed muscled bodies and prefer slim athletic and fit as a preference. There are a fair share of profiles that simply do not reply to messages, an abundance actually, many who simply do not follow thru and run cold and plenty of false profiles on this site too. Personally I don't think it's a race issue but something far simpler.... but thats just me and that could be the answer, everyone is different with their own individual tastes and desires and you have yet to touch base with profiles that are attracted to you both enough to follow thru and meet you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Christie Brinkley still does it for me, isn't she shit hot?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a preference , but I highly doubt it's the ethnicity that's the issue , maybe it's the fact you both are extremely attractive ? To some people that can be intimidating or to good to be true!! Xxx
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Sorry mate.... but I read your comment and see a man looking for an excuse. I know Asian guys, part asian guys and Caucasian guys. And they all suck at communicating with women. I also know Asian, Caucasian and mixed race guys who communicate well because they've decided to get that part of their life sorted... and LEARN! If they can, you can. I promise! And it feels better than hiding behind what you KNOW are BS excuses ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Miss Taby have you considered it may be you ? You are a very sexy couple but I can't help thinking if the problem is that the other female feels intimidated by you and is not comfortable about bringing their partner in to play . The concern just may be not wanting to feel like they may get left out . Just a thought :) I wouldn't worry tho it's there loss Chin up and move on - Posted from rhpmobile
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Cassy_74
11 years ago
If you see someone refusing to help someone, refusing to sit next to someone or befriend someone because they are judged on skin colour or their religion is wrong, to me that's racism. If you turn someone down because you are not attracted or interested in someone regardless of their skin colour, that's natural. You obviously wouldn't go out of your way to have sex with someone just because it might be seen to be politically incorrect if you refused them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
ha! reasons are subjective for sure! each to their own.. i'm asian, but I haven't gone with asians since yonks ago. and yeah i'm possibly racist against my own race but I know how most asian men think.. something in their (or our) upbringing that kinda turns me off! like how they treat women PLUS yes it's true, asian men generally have tiny penises i'd rather just finger myself to death! hence i turn them down! size does matter to me! ;) so in a nutshell ms taby (although i could hardly see the relevance of what i said in relation to your question) each has their own reason for not following through.. I say just let it go! don't worry about it too much! i had been turned down too a number of times due to my ethnic background! some have been polite enough to confess they're racially snub and some just totally ignore! and both are fine with me! i respect everyone's preferences hoping they'd respect mine too :D and then there's many others that love my caramel skin and vajayjay haha all the best! ;)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
"If Australians really are open and friendly to foreigners like they say they are, then I like to see them prove it by having sex with a foreigner who isn't strictly white caucasian. No? Didn't think so. GOTCHA." So caucasian Aussies should just have sex with any random person (as long as they're not caucasian), who they don't find physically attractive just to prove they're not FFS...
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RHP User
11 years ago
"If Australians really are open and friendly to foreigners like they say they are, then I like to see them prove it by having sex with a foreigner who isn't strictly white caucasian. No? Didn't think so. GOTCHA." So caucasian Aussies should just have sex with any random person (as long as they're not caucasian), who they don't find physically attractive just to prove they're not FFS...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I must say, I'm an Aussie and my husband is Turkish, me have our preferences but a definite no no is other Turkish men,why you ask! There is always someone who knows someone. I personally am not attracted to Asian men, or men with facial hair, makes my skin crawl, also i dont like the aussie blokes that look my 1st husband and that would be a lot of men out there. My husband likes women his height, but he isn't into Asian women. But I think it comes down to what yours eyes see, people may not like the apperance of my husband, but I know he is a great person,
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would say its fairer to say ,, they are just too intimidated by you both,, being quite hot looking and quite fit to boot...... but then again, there is a really close minded attitude among queenslanders in general with "colour" how do we know this,, grew up in the middle of it......Magic with the touch..............
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am asian, I have experienced rejection on this site. Is it due to my race? Possibly. Do I care? Fuck no. I am who I am and I know what qualities I have on offer . As I see it, it is their loss and the next person's gain. Maybe it is because of my background that I am alot more open minded and tolerant of all people regardless of race and religion then the average joe out there. I understand you can't please everyone and that everyone has their own individual preferences. If you don't suit them then just move on. I don't see the point in grieving over it so just channel your efforts elsewhere. I've played with many non-asian women and always had a great time. Some even comment afterwards what a surprise package I am. To me, it isn't about race/colour, it is about the whole package on offer - looks, personality, intelligence, humor, playfulness (in no particular order).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hahaha Sonny is my cuzz Il send him over when he gets back Can I come too? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have met a few Aussie women one is now my partner But Aussie guys dont like kiwis maybe cause they might not measure up - Posted from rhpmobile
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MessYourSheets
11 years ago
I think it's very easy to throw the "racist" label around.. It can cause all kinds of arguments and negativity.. The simple fact is, you are attracted to who u are attracted to. If u prefer white, black or even polka dotted skin, it's ur preference... That is the beauty of a site like this, u pic out the profiles that draw u in :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
preach it!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe a bit of " look at us were so hot" whats wrong with these people going on here I think, could be your looks intimidate couples who arent cut or as fit ! Dont know really , have you tried asking them , and if you have and there not repying , well its there problem. Shit probably is racism ! Who knows what goes through people's heads. Enjoy
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MessYourSheets
11 years ago
Lol I'm far from a preacher.. But common sense should prevail. Somebody doesn't like another's pics, "let's claim it's due to our race". I just think surely u'd have to say "they must not find me attractive". Before pulling out the racist card. Rant over.... Hope u all have an amazing day ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do find that I am not sexually attracted to men of certain ethnicity. If I know their background before I see pics, I will always still look at their pics, because you never know. I also find some accents a turn off, unfortunately. It's not something I choose to dislike, it's just the way it is. And it's nothing more than a physical thing, just because u don't find a certain race sexually appealing doesn't mean I dislike them. I just don't want to have sex with them. In saying that, I think Maori men are lovely! I would have no problem with that! ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
In reality regardless of colour if you are cute you are just that cute , you may be black, white ,yellow or mixed blood , if you are a nice package , good looking with fit /sexy body ,most likely people will go for you regardless of your colour , we are all attracted to beauty , i am a mixed blood my self i have Asian Blood in me , and there is no proved whatsoever me struggling getting attention either on here or out there in real world from men wanting to go out with me , people approached me all the time , so the idea that some have said , i dont like this race or that race made me laugh sometimes , i have experienced , where i heard someone have said i dont like Asians and this and that and yet they asked me out , and i said : why you asked me out for ? i have heard you dont go out with Asians and his answered was , well Becouse you are different , and me: how so ? Him: becouse you are different kind of Asian ,you are cute Asian , ah there you go ,the answer was becouse i was cute/attractive Asian , suddenly he didnt care of me being Asian or have Asian blood in me the only thing he cared was me being nice looking and having sort of sexy body ,., so my believe if you are handsome/beautiful regardless of colour people will be attracted to you naturally , just like yesterday i went for a walk by the river and i saw a couple walking towards me , Very handsome Caucasian Boy and A beautiful dark /black girl holding hands , seeing both of them to me was like like seeing day and nite at first , but as i got closer one thing they definitely have in common it was beauty , they both beautiful looking people and colour dont exist whatsoever it was just pure beauty on displayed , and i appreciated /admired their beauty , for sure ...so my Question now is who is taking Susan Boyle out tonite ?!...as for me i am still waiting for that beautiful boy from NZ to knock on my door , lol
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Genius_Ironman
11 years ago
There is a strange phenomenon of “fakes” on sites like this. People, who pretend to be interested, then suddenly vanish when it gets to the stage of actually meeting in the “real world”. Sometimes leaving you waiting at a bar, wondering if they are going to appear. Less common with women than men, most ladies who have been active here can relate stories of this happening. Couples sometimes do this, it is a big red flag if you only interact with one half. I would avoid “couples” where the pictures are all of the female half, and all, or almost all of the communication takes place with the male half. Not sure why this happens so much, maybe there are a lot of people out there who are just seeking validation?
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Genius_Ironman
11 years ago
There are heaps of people out there whose sole aim is just to get as far as gaining access to people private pictures, after which they move onto the next target. Weird, but happens a lot.
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Genius_Ironman
11 years ago
Say they will meet, suggest a cam show THEN vanish.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You have several of your own face pics in there, whereas his are obscured / omitted.... Perhaps including at least one pic of him, maybe while wearing sunnies, will avoid the problem as other couples will have an idea of what he looks like and perhaps they will tell you earlier if they are not keen.... E
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Taby_DK
11 years ago
Quoting 'Enif_WA' You have several of your own face pics in there, whereas his are obscured / omitted.... Perhaps including at least one pic of him, maybe while wearing sunnies, will avoid the problem as other couples will have an idea of what he looks like and perhaps they will tell you earlier if they are not keen.... E A member asked a similar question earlier in the thread and the reason why Mr does not have any face photos public is due to his work because he has a very sensitive job Taby xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you say you're a couple and you can't put Mr's face pic on there, don't you think the people that you are worried about regarding his privacy will see your face and by virtue conclude that it's him on the site anyway? I fail to see the logic As for the racism thing, I doubt it, we can't help who we are attracted to, I only have a preference got Caucasian males, and I'm black, what does that make me? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not preference got, I should have proof read - Posted from rhpmobile
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Taby_DK
11 years ago
Quoting 'Nat27' If you say you're a couple and you can't put Mr's face pic on there, don't you think the people that you are worried about regarding his privacy will see your face and by virtue conclude that it's him on the site anyway? I fail to see the logic As for the racism thing, I doubt it, we can't help who we are attracted to, I only have a preference got Caucasian males, and I'm black, what does that make me? - Posted from rhpmobileSo far our relationship has been long distance meaning I have never had a reason to go into Mr work and nor would I want to honestly (Yes I know this sounds bad but there are reasons behind it and Mr understands). Mr is a private person and keeps his work and home life completely separate. No one at his work other than his business partner (who he trust's, who is one of his good friends and who knows about our swinging) knows what I look like. He runs a business so privacy of this kind is important. People at his work know Mr has a long term girlfriend and that is it and its all they need to know.I know some of you might find it weird that the people who work with Mr don't know about me, but its a really hard situation to explain and I cant go into details on here. It doesn't bother me as I understand 100% why things are the way they are. Again without explain the whole story It's really hard to understand and obviously I cant explain it on here lolJust know that we are confident that people who see me on the site, who could possibly be related to his work would not put two and two together. Taby xx
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ocean_man
11 years ago
Taby, it could be that when Mr respondent gets the complete picture of the man Mrs respondent has her eyes on his confidence takes a knock and he feels that he can't compete. Men can be fragile beings despite their bravado!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Come to cairns a lot of the ladies have a preference for dark skinned men/women, majority of the Caucasian women up here are with fair coloured/ darker skin then Caucasian.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Taby_Daring Well, that makes sense... Discretion is a priority... Then there is not much that you can do differently. Just accept that there are couples who will like both of you, as well as couples who will like only you, or only him (I doubt it though, you are drop dead gorgeous!)... As a matter of fact, many couples don't do swinging for this very reason, a couple is together for reasons which are different form pure physical attraction, therefore one might be more attractive than the other, and it would be hard to find a situation where all 4 people are mutually satisfied with the looks of the other..... And even when that happens, as someone else said above here, maybe there is an issue with confidence if they see you two are too hot/intimidating... However, manners would dictate that they respond to you and politely decline or say why it is not going to work... Unfortunately, many, many people in here as well as in real life go "RADIO-SILENCE" and that to me show they have no guts to say "no, but thank you anyway".... Not worth pursuing in my view, there is the likelihood that they will not show up at a date, be late, cancel at the last minute... One's ability to communicate effectively is a very important factor for me, it shows that they can get organized and they are responsible... In regards to rude pics, in my opinion, don't put them up! Firstly, guests can not see them, secondly, they are often tasteless and they take away the curiosity of discovering someone slowly... You can always send them via email, privately later on..... Beauty is attractive, doesn't matter what shape or color it comes in! Some Caucasians are damn ugly too! It it the overall proportions, features and package which makes one attractive or not.... So don't worry about his ethnicity. Good luck E
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just saw his pictureI think I need to put it to the test to see if I am prejudice. I think I need to test that a few times, just to make sure I agree with Meeka,. I think we all do have a type that floats our boat and some types that don't.
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gazpacho
11 years ago
Having reviewed your profile, I can only assume that it must be something to do with you. He's absolutely perfect and I, for one, truly appreciate your attraction to him. For that matter, I cannot fathom what it is that makes your prospects shy away from either of you. Perhaps they feel inadequate and outclassed? Keep up the love. Hugs Gazpacho
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've considered my racial preferences for women plenty of times..and I'vefound them to be be not particularly about one race or another..butrather the arrangement/size/angle of facial features. Skin colour and hair type don't enter into it for me. I just like a pretty face! To me.My own racial background is a 50/50 mix of pure Papua New Guinean andCaucasian Australian( scottish/euro type ).Having grown up in Australia from a very young age and attending a virtually allcaucasian primary school, I was never surprised that I'm more attracted to the more "euro type" features..thinner lips, high cheekbones, etc. in a girl. It's only natural.Though, I don't find the facial features of a New Guinean woman hot or sexy today. I appreciate youthful beauty in any race..but I'm a product of the society I was raised in.
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RHP User
11 years ago
well took a look at your profile I cant see any thing wrong with it but you have blocked his face now I have often wandered the same thing as I have been here a while now for some reason have had no interest from others I have sent messages to problem could be with the pictures and the wording of my profile but hey im still trying
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RHP User
11 years ago
one thing I have seen in online dating site is its like window shopping if they have nothing in the window you don't like you don't go in its simple really oh and I wish I had a body like your partners may be id have more luck
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RHP User
11 years ago
yes, we've turned people down due to ethnicity, and will no doubt do it again and again......its about preferences...we all have them, mines for blonde Caucasian women, my wifes is for Caucasian males. nothing wrong with liking what we like. race is no different a criteria than saying we like non smokers, or guys 6ft plus, or even women who are slim and athletic......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its the spice of life. Even though there are some race's I would avoid like the plague.. most I find interesting and would be open to anyone of any nationality I find attractive. But I do have a instinctive guard with some Arab and European cultures because of the abruptness. Just my observation and experiences. Apologises to anyone of these ethnicity. Personally I'm Australian 'but a mixture.. My mother' English and Maori ' and my Father Irish.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We approach people that ignore our interest, just the way things go. Don't take it personal. You are both hot looking. There are always a dozen different possible reasons.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think there are some looks that don't interest us but in most cases I like the idea of different race....
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RHP User
11 years ago
As you know...Most Humans lol are created with a head... sometimes its bit twisted...Its better not to be getting in contact with the twisted ones...Racism is there if we want to put a blame on it. Its always better to walk away from it... I am coloured and I respect my body and workship it.... I dont feel attracted to each and everyone in my race either.... I dont feel attracted to all white or all asians or all blacks.....that wont make me a racist .. End of the day ...Its better not to go after someone who is not that attracted to you. Not everyone is sexually compatible either. As mentioned before--- about communication, thats the tool that we all need....spend time to get to know the person ,then only you know the secret treasures hidden in them. Dont go and f..ck just for the sake of it... you better off saving the petrol and use both of your hands and dream /picture about your sexual fantasy.... I am going off topic.. thats means its time to put a stop....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seems it's just another picture collectors. We seem to come across few as well. Unless there IS something wrong with our profile or looks. Mr DVS
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OPNmarriagecpl
11 years ago
turn people down due to their ethnicity. It's exactly as another poster stated; purely preference and we certainly mean no disrespect to the people. When we have declined someone's advances due to their ethnicity I have ways been honest and said immediately that we are only interested in pursuing Caucasian members for anything other than friendship. You are both very attractive and I'm sure you will have no issues finding people on the site💞 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am a single guy on RHP, and I must say that I have often wondered if there is some degree of prejudice, so to address this I included a face pic in my profile, because although I was getting looks/observations of my profile, I had a feeling that once I showed people my photo they were making a decision based on my skin colour, and any discussions ceases progress. I know that I am attractive because of the feedback I get in the 3D world. So naturally I was concerned about the lack of response! I have, however, since come to the view that different people like different looks, and there could be a myriad of many different reasons that people do not follow up with further discussions or meeting ranging from being too busy, to simply not finding me as attractive as initially thought. I believe worrying about it is redundant, and you need to trust that you will connect with others who genuinely want to connect with you.
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