M38
Turning 30!..
July 02 2016
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RHP User
8 years ago
you're asking the wrong person here, I still haven't grown up and I'm getting more immature by the day I've commented on the forum many times about how turning 30 was the worst for me, I struggled big time leaving my 20's behind. So you're not on your own with that thought, the 20's are special and no, we don't get them back again. My way of coping is pretending I'm in my 20's and having sex with guys in their 20's Takes away some of the pain of so many more years having elapsed sigh
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madotara69
8 years ago
it's been proven that having more birthdays, you live longer Mado Mado Tara xx
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Lovinit28andKC72
8 years ago
I remember turning 30, fuck it was sooooo long ago now. I hated it, everything about it, I couldn't get my head around it at all. I had my mid life crisis when I turned 30, left my husband, started drinking, running a muck, wouldn't do it again for quids, thankfully I got back on track. Every year after that initial 30 has been a breeze, 40 wasn't a problem and 50 is just around the corner. It is what it is, Dirty 30's, Naughty 40's, Fabulous 50's, Sexy 60's, Silly 70's and after that I don't know nor do I really care, can't stop it, so I'm just going to enjoy the ride. 💋
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RHP User
8 years ago
that I've come to realise in the years since turning 30, is that 30 is still really young. For some reason society still seems stuck in the mindset that 30 is old and once you reach 30 it's all downhill, which might have been the case when the average life expectancy was around 50 but it's a bit higher than that these days (in countries like Australia anyway). Most people are still quite healthy and active well into their 60s and even older these days so 30 is nothing to stress about. So I know it's hard to get over that psychological aspect but believe me OP you still have plenty of time to do the things you want to do. Sure it might be a good idea to look into those practical things like life insurance if you have kids (I don't so I haven't bothered with stuff like that), but as for other areas of life you can still do just about anything. I'm just about to finish a degree and go into a completely new profession at the age of 38 and there are people in their 40s and 50s doing the same thing these days. Plus I still have heaps of other stuff I want to do like travel. So don't let it get to you, still plenty of time to get amongst it.
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Lovinit28andKC72
8 years ago
I think you've hit the nail on the head with your writing. 👍
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lovman8
8 years ago
But turning thirty is a milestasone that makes you reflect on life. The trick is to see it positively as just another stepping stone in the wonderful journey of life. While turning thirty did cause me to gulp a little, for me life did keep getting better as the years went by. I found sixty to be a difficult one and as a man found may waning phsical powers hard to deal with. Not being able to run jump and lift as well and slight loss of erectile function all contributed to making me slightly depressed and negative in my outlook. Strangely finding I have prostate cancer at the age of 64 ( I am currently recovering from surgery to remove my prostate and looking at a bout of radiotherapy) has given me a much more positive outlook and while doubts about my masculinity do exist I have much more zest and joy of being alive.
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RHP User
8 years ago
What's wrong with turning 30??? Like it or not it really won't make your life any worse or better.....best be putting your big girl panties on, and making the most of the life you have instead of worrying about something like your age. After all, while you're worrying about it, you can be hit by a bus tomorrow and then what have you got ?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
30 is a hard age some people either have kids or you want them , thinking about the future what's in store .... For me I really grew up in my 30s husband kids working , mortgage . Now I'm in my 40s for some reason I feel great the harder years are over , don't get me wrong my 30s were fanatic too just in a different way . I really hope my kids grow up by 30 with all that's out there who knows there future . I have never been one of those mums who think that my kids would never do anything wrong , I never judge anyone for there mistakes be cause no one is perfect ... Sorry Birhday boy for going off topic 🍰
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RHP User
8 years ago
For me turning 30 was the best! I finally felt like a woman and not a girl anymore. Came into my power if you will. So liberating. Although most people's 20's were fun, it's more soul satisfying knowing who you are and what you want and like and seeking whatever it is out. I read somewhere that most people don't truly know who they are till they're at least 35! I personally think life is about a journey of constant self-improvement (my life anyway), so the older we get the better we must be (if effort is put in of course!)?! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Although I will be turning *clears throat* 55 yet there is good news all around. The average life expectancy for men in Australia 82 and as noted by Luck_Dragon we are living a more healthy and active lifestyle than ever before. Just a point of reference, when I started my career in a business that pays attention to longevity as an issue, the life expectancy was barely over 72.... we've come a long ways in a very short time. Enjoy your day and celebrate well!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Lovinit28' I think you've hit the nail on the head with your writing. 👍 OP, please read what Luck_Dragon wrote.For some unknown reason we all feel uneasy as our 30th birthdays approach and I still don't understand why.It's actually so young, it's a wonderful age and as I've found, life just gets better and better as you get older.The day after you turn 30, you'll wonder what on earth you were concerned about and again when you turn 40, 50 etc you'll think "why the hell was I ever worried about turning 30??"It's a wonderful time......have a very, very happy birthday, celebrate big.....we'll all be having a drink with you in spirit. Best wishes.
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teejaylongsword
8 years ago
Thirty is still young mate. Don't worry about it. The number itself isn't that special. Its your attitude that counts. Why worry? Worrying want change anything and we are all getting older. If your age is prompting u to set things up and be more organised for your family - then that's a good thing. I still feel young and I am 47. I dont love my age, but I don't hate it either. Best of luck
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Bazingal
8 years ago
I was in the best shape of my life had a wonderful family, job, etc....40 was a little harder on my own, but I believe it's much better than the alternative. Life is a gift, enjoy each day you're given :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
...my life is much richer now than when I turned 30. As it should be. It wasn't bad, by any means, my 20's were just.....unmemorable.I always remember a friend who was the same age as I, same demographic, on the eve of his 30th birthday, saying to me,"Dave....I'm turning 30 tomorrow. And I feel....I feel like I haven't done anything with my life."Jeezus! Talk about melodramatic! He was quite serious, so I just smiled and nodded my head sagely. I'd hit 30 about a month earlier, and for me...it felt just like being 29 and 28. That's all.Perhaps it's because I was never the prettiest, fittest, fastest, had-the-most-hair, whatever that I didn't pine for the glories of youth.I was a skinny, young man who smoked cigarettes and weed and lived a carefree, week to week existence in my 20's. Now? A bit flabbier, but bulkier and musclier too, and I quite like that. Less hair...but short shaven was long the fashion for men with afro-type hair, so when it started receding it wasn't really missed. I'm confident and I enjoy rich relationships...the closer one with my remaining parent best of all...that's something I avoided in my 20's.Valuing Life more in my early/mid 30's...wanting to live an active life longer...by giving up the smokes, learning to exercise, manage my Epilepsy, giving up sugar more recently. Something changed in me...I wanted to live longer. But I haven't given up good beer or motorbikes or other things. I've gotta have my passions. But I can give up the superfluous stuff. The great thing is that I want to.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Dont sweat it, its not that bad. Just remember you're only as old as the woman you feel.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I too went though that struggle when I was turning 30 , changing into the next decade seems like a huge deal. But I reminded myself getting older is a privilege denied to many. Google if you're turning 30 and freaking out there is an interesting article on psychology today about it, plus numerous other google results about the same thing, seems its quite common. Happy birthday regardless :) and yes, life insurance is a great idea if you have children.
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RHP User
8 years ago
As it happens you share a birthday with my old Mum, she'll be 94.You'll take it in your stride and life will go on until the next milestone.There's a lot of good posts here already...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is that perfect age.I actually cannot remember that birthday,I remember my thirty -first birthday but not my thirtieth .Lots of interesting things happened to me in my thirties. I wish I could have remained there. It was my best decade. Age Is not just a number.Its the sum of all your experiences,the good.the bad,and the bloody awful.The important thing is how you deal with them. Thirty is adulthood ,you are on the cusp of life,as LD said.you have choices,make of life what you will ,enjoy the journey lucky you 🎁Happy Birthday Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
A lot don't make it to that age. Every day is a bonus!
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Single_Guy4U
8 years ago
That once you turn 30 the amount of sex you get decreases exponentially with your age...... You should be happy. In 10-yrs time you will be 40, another 50, another 60, another 70........ until you die. When I was 30 I thought couples of my parents age (mid-fifties) had probably stopped having sex because they were too old. I was wrong. (The sex is better)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think LD was spot on. Turning 30 really depends on your mindset, how well you've aged physically, and what you enjoy doing - for me it's been a benefit that I've stayed looking younger, since that gives you more longevity in sport. Every so often you'll probably get the pangs of "I'm not all sorted, what's up with me" from people who've done the family/settled career/etc thing earlier when you see their facebook posts. If you're not active get active, and if you are active stay active - of the guys I know who stopped being as active as they were, they "got old" MUCH faster than those that didn't.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' If you're not active get active, and if you are active stay active - of the guys I know who stopped being as active as they were, they "got old" MUCH faster than those that didn't. I would add not just physically active but also mentally active. Keeping your brain active helps to protect against things like dementia and other cognitive declines that can come with ageing.
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
But only in the sense that I felt like I was getting old but I had nothing much to show for it. I had no wild younger days stories to reminisce about or awesome holidays to fondly remember. I was married at 22 and had 2 young kids by 24. My actual 30's have been good...and getting closer to 40 now, I'd say my life is much more fun, satisfying and I'm so much more happy in myself. I'm not dreading 40 the way I think I did 30!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Single_Guy4U' That once you turn 30 the amount of sex you get decreases exponentially with your age...... You should be happy. In 10-yrs time you will be 40, another 50, another 60, another 70........ until you die. When I was 30 I thought couples of my parents age (mid-fifties) had probably stopped having sex because they were too old. I was wrong. (The sex is better) Well if the amount of sex I've had as I've got older has decreased, holy shit Batman, I must have been rootin' my brains out when I was 30 hornier and smarter now smart enough to embrace the slut hehe
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Eiliethiya' But only in the sense that I felt like I was getting old but I had nothing much to show for it. I had no wild younger days stories to reminisce about or awesome holidays to fondly remember. I was married at 22 and had 2 young kids by 24. My actual 30's have been good...and getting closer to 40 now, I'd say my life is much more fun, satisfying and I'm so much more happy in myself. I'm not dreading 40 the way I think I did 30! I'd be lying if I said I didn't have regrets over my 20s and early 30s which featured a string of bad relationships and some serious mental and emotional upheaval. I'm slowly trying to move on from that and do the things I want to do, finishing uni will be a big step and then I'll work towards some of the other stuff. It is a slow journey but I'm hopeful that I'll get there.
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