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Umm... Are you a swinger?
September 19 2015
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Twisted_Mister
9 years ago
Just ask them! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Give a few hints that you might be in the swingers scene. Might make them feel comfortable with admitting they are into it. Or have rhp open on your phone. That should be a swinging convo starter. Haha
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RHP User
9 years ago
What other signs have they given you aside from the masks, like what type of comments have they made? Could just ask I suppose but the risk is you might creep them out haha you know what I mean, people who aren't into it, don't understand this life (which I quite often forget and blurt things out). Try bringing some stuff up in conversation, third person, so say you were talking to friends who were into swinging, you thought it was kind of cool, had they ever done it or considered it, matter of fact type question. Then if they say they have, you can fess up
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RHP User
9 years ago
...That you're going to a party. If they ask what type, say something like "it's kind of out there/naughty, you wouldn't be interested" and see what their response is. :)
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
They will tell you by indicating signs/ques and will be thinking the same from you if they were swingers. There's many many swingers out in the community - more than you think :) Signs being they will indicate. 1) How open minded they are - they will bring things up things in conversation-listen carefully to them. 2) Verbal ques as in Innuendo's, looking for a reaction from you. My best advise...look for verbal and non verbal signs - sit back and wait for a little while longer...if they don't give you any, don't go there as it may back fire on you both if they are not swingers. If they are swingers, they will be curious just as much as you two are - let them take the lead, they'll tell you one way or other- they normally do. Let it take it course naturally, without it being in a hurry due to curiosity. Best of luck. Ms.Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
I think a lot of things do backfire and there's a lot of negativity in the community about swinging - can be quite a Taboo subject for those who are less educated or old school morals. I have read a lot in the forums where people have been exposed, maybe due to the wrong people finding out. Especially those who are close family and friends. That's why I think/believe it's best to treat lightly and wait for signs/ques from others. to say something. Sometimes too (if one is new to the scene) they become quite eager, ego driven and expose their selves too quickly due to curiosity - then the consequences hit hard. Chickenandpotato you guys have been around the scene for a while, so I guess you know what I am talking about. You'll know what signs to look for, your intuition will tell you and the signs will be there without wanting to sound too eager. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
parties,but that they are very sexy,wait or their response,then you will know xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
Start a conversation about swinging, talk about a couple you know who you just found out do it, seem puzzled/interested/curious. See how they react, ask them directly if they've ever heard of it and what they think about it. No need to bust your cover, just have a casual chat about the subject. Even couples at swingers clubs may not be actual swingers, the only way to know for sure is to see them swing.
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Forus1234
9 years ago
Sometimes..but not all the time, women can wear a swinglet.... a silver or gold anklet on the right ankle. On the odd occasion when I have worn mine, women wearing one also have made it very obvious they have noticed mine! When we are out, we try to work out who the swingers are for a bit of fun, but you can't tell. Even the most outgoing, flirty people by nature can still be very vanilla. There is no real way of knowing unless they tell you! Maybe a few too many drinks & a bit of sexy talk may reveal!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
If the opportunity arises for you to steer the conversation in that direction, comment on wanting to go to (or the time you went to) a swingers party. They'll either quickly change the subject or if they're interested, they'll have plenty of questions. You'll soon figure out whether it's mere curiosity or whether they're keen to play. My friends know that I'm bisexual. Many of them have questions, some were keen to experiment, only two were actually up for it, all remained my friends.
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RHP User
9 years ago
We don't want to creep these guys and we're more just curious to see if our radar is any good as we had our suspicions. The most indicative quote would be a drunken offer of blowjobs from the lady that her husband made. It was said in jest but he added details like 'as long as I'm not left out'. She didn't necessarily laugh or get angry, she just gave him a 'shut up' look. I recognise this look as we've given it to each other around vanilla couples before.
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RHP User
9 years ago
totally following this topic as we are newbies! I have however used the "so a friend of mine was talking about an open relationship the other day.. do you think it could ever work?" its pretty simple to gauge a persons openness from the answer to that.
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deal4
9 years ago
Quoting 'chickenandpotato' We don't want to creep these guys and we're more just curious to see if our radar is any good as we had our suspicions. The most indicative quote would be a drunken offer of blowjobs from the lady that her husband made. It was said in jest but he added details like 'as long as I'm not left out'. She didn't necessarily laugh or get angry, she just gave him a 'shut up' look. I recognise this look as we've given it to each other around vanilla couples before. I think that all but confirms it. Next time you have a drink with them, bring up his comment, ask him what he meant by not being left out.
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JohnAnn2227
9 years ago
I think there have been a few good options mentioned for you. The anklet definitely works. I have an anklet and it has charms with a H and W for Hot Wife and also male and female symbols for group sex. We ran into friends of ours when we were out one night and I was wearing it. They noticed and the next time we met up for a BBQ they brought it up and wanted to know where they could get one. I acted dumb and said that all jewellery stores sell anklets but they said that they really wanted the hotwife charm etc. They knew we were nudists but not swingers but had wondered. The anklet confirmed their hopes/suspicions. The blowjob comment is a huge hint as well. Good luck!
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MrPlayful
9 years ago
If you're still not sure I'd go with the RHP app option on the phone. Once you have all had a couple of drinks again next time you meet, open your phone to check a text or something, then leave it unlocked on the table so they can clearly see the icon for the mobile app. It will be instantly recognisable to those on RHP, and not to those who aren't on it. And if they know of it but aren't swingers you can always just say that you're here for the forums as you find it all very interesting!
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RHP User
9 years ago
An ex gf and I were swinging at the time and we guessed one of my mates and his wife were too. It was confirmed at one particular swingers party when they walked through a play area door while we were bust with a lovely couple. In the ned we never played with them, just a little too close to home :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
and l jokingly put it out there... Jay to Sally and Tom. ( not their real name) .. can I ask you guys something ? Of course you can... I have this gut feeling you guys could be quite a adventurist pair .. smilingly adding ' I could be wrong just get the feeling... Both looked like kids caught with their hand in the cookie jar.. but come clean saying they had dipped the toe to see what it was like... That broke the ice and were then quite happy to talk about it... No big deal once it's in the open... It's the unknown that keeps it a mystery...
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RHP User
9 years ago
see if they wear swing rings ... a black ring indicates a swinger
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RHP User
9 years ago
As swingers we sometimes meet people that we think swingers but we never spoke about it.If you want to know just put some funny words in the conversation and see their answer. Swingers love the kinky side of it and to tease it make them opening the door. The problem is in being seen as swingers by people who are not. Most of single men are keen for threesome, easy to ask them. With men I do it. Single women quite more shy about it and more difficult to open the door. With women my wife does it! With couples we both try to open the door and many times just " Your wife is beautiful and very sexy. She looks so easy in communication (or shy) what do you think of mine..." If they are not into it it will turn in a very polite and politically correct answer, no trouble! LOL. If they are keen it will turn into a two ways answer which leads to a possibility. Then the glass is broken and you can start the game or not... A the end of the day you didn't do anything wrong or that can be blamed.All the best.
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