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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  I certainly hope there will be other Bi ladies in here who can help you, as for me, i don't think i can, however i just want to let you know that you should not let this put you off, but to always suggest that whenever you get together in a scenario like this before, that you make it a habit of taking a hot shower before starting anything, and suggesting this may ad a bit more spice to the night as well. Maybe you could actually entice the female into the shower first, and use the soap to lather her up all over and turn it into a soapy massage. If she still smells off afterwards, then something just isn't right. If we have a couples massage together, we always insist on taking a shower together just prior to having it done, just so that we both know that we are clean, and the masseuse does not smell anything that puts them off the massage, and yes, one of our regular masseuse's told us once that she had given several massages to smelly men and women, and in some cases she had to give them a hot wet towel to give themselves a wash or she would not do the massage. I would hate to be in this position, either as the masseuse or the client, could be very embarrassing for everyone.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  One thing u must learn No matter what has been arrange at any point you or your partner are Not comfortable with a play session . You should stop have a quiet word and support each other about staying or going. No need to explain it to other couple. Unless it's something u can resolve quickly. Bad hygiene is just unforgiving and hope u have a positive experience soon so u can renew your adventure. Take time to get to know who you are potentially inviting into your bed. Try a drink or social.dinner first with no expectation to play. Till u both have a chance to discuss if there is a play date next time.

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  britandtaiwan

  5 years ago

  No you're not being a sook, as the saying goes cleanliness is most definitely next to godliness!!! And that's for both sexes as no body wants to suck a cheesy cock or eat a fishy vagina. Before a meet me and my partner are both really concerned about hygiene so it's a super hot shower where we will wash those areas twice, good deodorant, nice aftershave and perfume! If it were possible we'd dip ourselves in a vat of warm honey just for good measure! As said before you're not being a sook but what I would advise is not to let one bad experience put you off, me and my partner had a pretty awful first encounter (not to do with hygiene) that was nearly enough to put us off the whole lifestyle however this encounter was followed by the complete opposite! An amazing encounter that restored our faith! As someone who's eaten one or two vaginas in my time I can tell you that the majority for the most part are well kept and don't really taste of anything nasty. One last piece of advice I'll give you is to not always make your choice of couple be based entirely on looks, we find if we get that genuine click with a couple good things will follow, let's be fair if you bond with the female half like she's your best mate she's not likely to expose you to a nasty stinking growler now is she ;)

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  Mischeviouslad

  5 years ago

  We’ve all been “there” There, being representative of any situation which doesn’t fit our preferences of enjoyment on the broad scale Where you go next is a function of your experiences versus your desires Make that decision on your own

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  Phoenix_Rising

  5 years ago

  Can’t speak for vagina (not had much and what I did have was clean & nice) but I’ve had a few bad dick experiences, only one smelly one though (thankfully!) and it put me off that person for sure but it never put me off dick for a second. I have no idea about your sexuality or how it was affected, all I can say is I can’t imagine being put off all dick because of one bad one.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  You are not the only one I have met this stunning girl about 2 years ago, she was so attractive it was surreal. We were both very far to each other so decided to meet somewhere in the middle, I booked the hotel room, I showered and got ready, she walked in, immediately got naked, it took only few minutes to realize something was not quite right down there. She did not shower before coming to meet me, I doubt she even showered the night before, the stench of sweat combined with urine was so strong I got nauseaus. And it wasn’t only that that had a terrible smell... I told her I was not feeling well and that was the end of it. I never saw her again. It was a real shame because I really liked the girl but the thought of going anywhere near her turned my stomach... I don’t understand how people don’t realize these things have dramatic impact on others..

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  curiousgirl35

  5 years ago

  Sorry you had this experience. I hope you dont let it put you off.

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  boobsandbusted

  5 years ago

  Not Wanting to get into mansplaining ,but if it was so offensive and nauseating it may have been BV,(google it ),and she may totally not be aware of it and oblivious to the smell at all ,she may have showered and attended her bits 5 minutes before hand ,it may not be about personal hygiene at all and for some women very very hard to get rid off if they know they have it ,all that said we have come across it and yes it’s not pleasent , Mr b

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  If your first experience with a man was horrible, it would not mean you are gay. You do do need to be attracted to every remember of a gender to like that gender. You just need to take your time and do what feels right for you.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  Mr 300O here. Interesting post. Okay... 1. As long as you are upfront, then not a problem if you don’t go down on her. That said, swinging is about fun and some level of reciprocity is generally expected if you want someone to please you. Using your fingers to play with her I’m sure would be greatly appreciated and more than enough, if you are comfortable with this. 2. Always meet first to minimise the risk it won’t be an uncomfortable experience 3. It’s a girl’s prerogative to change her mind. Just because you were fine a minute ago to do something doesn’t mean you have to be fine now 4. It can be awkward to extricate yourself from an uncomfortable situation, whether it involves sex or has nothing to do with sex. We don’t like offending people, so it’s worthwhile from a personal growth point of view to learn how to manage your way deals out of uncomfortable situations with quiet confidence. Not easy, but worth the personal investment 5. Not all V’s are the same, as Mrs 300O assures me not all D’s are the same. Keep an open mind. The time may come (a slight pun), or may not, when you are ready to try again. As with food, V’s and D’s(and their contents) can become an acquired taste. 6. Just because you don’t want to go down on a V doesn’t mean you are not bi. There are plenty of straight women who don’t want to go down on D. It doesn’t really matter where you fit on the spectrum, just go with whatever feels comfortable.

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  FeistyFatty

  5 years ago

  Curious as to why you continued on playing? This situation sounds terrible on few levels.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  FatFunFiesty I kept playing because it was my first experience with a woman and I was trying to give them the benefit of the doubt. You know, "maybe I'm just being fussy", "Oh, I don't want to hurt their feelings", "How do I even stop this? I don't want it to be awkward". I'm one of those people who get very timid about saying what I want, which I know I have to address within myself before carrying on with this lifestyle

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  Antjman91

  5 years ago

  Yuck thats what puts me off some couples,

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  LittleGiant

  5 years ago

  Oh my gosh, that sounds horrible, so sorry to hear you had that experience! This is like my worst nightmare. Don't let it put you off though! The first time I played with another woman I was worried about this, so we started off with a sexy shower together while the boys sat out on the couch (so there was no pressure and we could take our time). I've been with a few women whose natural smell wasn't super appealing or they hadn't bother taking proper care down there when they went to the loo...I don't go/stay down south if that's the case. But it hasn't put me off in general because most women seem to have great hygiene. As to them being too rough, definitely speak up in that case, or if you can't bring yourself to say 'gentle please, i'm very sensitive' then maybe just switch positions so they stop. There's no point carrying on with it if it's going to turn it into a horrible experience for you when all you have to do is a few simple words that aren't offensive - everyone's body is different. Miss Little xx

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  SSExplorer

  5 years ago

  I remember once mertingnup with a stunning couple, sparks were flying all around at the bar over a few drinks we were so excited where the night was headed then the guy starts telling us about his rotten back teeth! We couldn’t get out of there quick enough!

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