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Underwhelming threesome...
April 30 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
would you have been better off making sure it was a MFF bi then perhaps? that way you know the girls aren't just doing it for a bit of a show , but a real enjoyment of the bi female play.I think communication could have probably been better before your play, just to nut out expectations on both sides.Ideally yes, you would expect that if a MMF is all about pleasing the woman, then FFM could be the exact mirror image.It could be if you take better measures next time.....let the girls know you would like to feel as though you are their last meal on earth, you want to be 'taken' by two women in every way imaginable. I'm thinking you would have better luck achieving mutual reciprocation if you do this with longer term playmates than one offs.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I to experiance some mff action on the weekend with a friend with Benifits and a lady we meet at a swingers club. Yes it is every mans dream but just go with the flow there was first time bi activity between the ladies, I enjoy watching but it is seeing pleasure in people eye's/body and receiving that pleasure that makes the experiance In my opinion. Expections should be left at home be it sex a concete or party with friends.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Firstly: Thanks for reading and commenting on my first post...If I organise anything on here I will definately make sure everyone is on the some page, but I didn't meet the girls on here so I couldn't really judge if there was gonna be any bi action once we got home... It was a little bit too spontaneous to really talk about how things were going to happen...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've had mixed reactions from the guys I've talked to about MFFs - in both cases it was a pure MFF, neither one of the girls was bi-sexual or bi-curious. One guy absolutely loved it as the attention was all focussed on him, while one relatively enjoyed it but said that it would have been better if the girls had 'been more into' each other and played with each other as well, rather than him doing all the work (which is what has happened in your case). However, having been part of MFFs myself where it's a bi situation - I can't agree with DGT that it necessarily means that more attention will be focussed on you, although you will have less of an obligation to pleasure both girls by yourself. I think it ultimately comes down to the type of lover you are - a giver or a receiver. Unfortunately it's not something you can really determine before you get someone into bed, unless it's stated plainly on their profile that they're 'submissive'. No one's going to openly state that they're a selfish lover. But I do agree with DGT that next time, you should tell them what it is you want - no harm in doing so - and if they don't like it, find some new playmates that will be more than happy to help you fulfil those fantasies of yours
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RHP User
13 years ago
where I said "Ideally yes, you would expect that if a MMF is all about pleasing the woman, then FFM could be the exact mirror image." was meant more along the lines of "in an ideal world" not really that a MFF bi would be all about him, only that is he wanted to 'see' more bi play then this would be the way to go.Getting 3 people to move and interact smoothly will be very hard unless you are all prepared to just 'go by feel' and stay open minded..But like you said, you could have also built this up in your mind as to how it would roll out, and you leave yourself too much scope for disappointment.Start fresh, stay open, and see the difference next time
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hey Fungames, If you automatically assume that the two girls will play with each other then maybe you are being influenced by porn a little. There are a lot of swingers and girls that are into group action but they are not necessarily into girls at all. So as said above, you either hint that is what you would like and see how it goes from there. Do you mean that they went down on you one by one? Not at the same time? Aw that is damn disappointing. That is the best... sharing a cock with another person. Girl or boy doesn't matter. Well, I suppose you will need to find yourself a MFF bi situation and then you will be able to compare. :)) xxMeeka
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RHP User
13 years ago
By the way, how do you know that you are fulfilling a girls ultimate fantasy in your threesomes? Do you ask? You say you make the effort to ensure you do all the "good stuff from the chick’s favourite MMF porn scenes" So I assume she tells you before hand exactly what she wants or expects... or the girl tells you to watch a certain porn clip? Or are you assuming that all the MMF threesomes you see on the internet are every girl's dream? See now, my ultimate MMF would be that the boys play together and suck and fuck each other. So like you, I would enjoy a straight MMF... but it would not be the ultimate experience for me. xxMeeka
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RHP User
13 years ago
I guess you can have some idea in your head about whats going to happen and how great its going to be. Though I have found that a lot of it has to do with how the three of you work together. We have had times where things just flow and you are all caught up in the moment so much that you just gel.there is no need for a plan or guidance. At the end you look back on and think wow that was hot. What just happened. It's not easy to all be desiring the same thing at the same time.A different situation and different 3rd person and it can be a totally different story.Just because you have but your self in a threesome situation doesn't mean its going to be amazing. How the three of you work together needs to be amazing for that to happen.Tim
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fungames, you say " I've had plenty of experience with the old MMF (straight guys) where I've joined a couple or met a girl where it’s her fantasy to have 2 guys. I've always tried to make the experience as close as possible to her fantasy, all the positions she wants and making sure she has multiples." Then, for your MFF, you say " It was fun but in hindsight I feel I've missed out. It really just didn't live up to my expectations. They didn't make a show of sharing me while going down. They didn't play up with each other kissing and touching etc. I pretty much had to do all the work while they got most of the pleasure... "Sounds to me like the 2 ladies in question, had no idea of what YOUR fantasies were (regardless of whether they would or wouldn't do them). I do appreciate that it was kinda a spur of moment encounter, but it seems you did not communicate what your wants and desires for this 3some, were. Did you ask them, to both share you, to take turns licking n sucking you etc etc? I am not having a go at you here, simply making some observations, from what you have actually said. I am a big believer in, "Try things, at least twice, if not 3 times, before you say nope, not for me". So, look back on your MMF 3somes, and this MFF one, look at the good things that happened, and the bad. Use all of that, and your fantasies, to come up with a plan for your next MFF 3some. And communicate these, to those participating, and get their feedback, so all are on the same page.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' By the way, how do you know that you are fulfilling a girls ultimate fantasy in your threesomes? Do you ask? You say you make the effort to ensure you do all the "good stuff from the chick’s favourite MMF porn scenes" So I assume she tells you before hand exactly what she wants or expects... or the girl tells you to watch a certain porn clip? Or are you assuming that all the MMF threesomes you see on the internet are every girl's dream? Well all of the couples I've fooled around with I've met from site like this so we have had a chance to talk about it. And the husbands/boyfriends generally give a heads up as to what the chick likes...Oh and yes they took turns instead of sharing... That was probably the biggest let down...
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Two_Tarts
13 years ago
Like most guys I spent a lot of years imagining how fantastic a threesome with two girls would be, and yes the fantasy was based on visions from porn enhanced by an overly active imagination. I think I understand Fungames85's thoughts because having lived the dream on a handfull of occasions with a few different combinations I would have to say that while it is entertaining and pretty cool, the reality and the fantasy have always been different things (although in fairness to the comparison the fantasy was pretty damn special and was always going to be hard to live up to). Too distracting with too many scene and position changes to really enjoy the sex and I want to enjoy my time with my partner and not spend it directing traffic. That and the underlying need to get multiple girls off in one session can be pretty hard work and requires significant personal management (even for someone with my extraordinary gifts - lol). If the girls were both genuinely Bi then I can see that might spread the work load, but from a male perspective while it is a hot and pornesque (like my new word?) fantasy to see girls playing together it is also nice to think that the girls might like to have sex with you more than with each other. At her command I have to add that my beautifull wife will play with other girls to keep the flow going and is happy enough to do so just for the entertainment value of it, but she does not seek it and so does not really fit the definition of Bi. So for her when she is in a threesome with a guy and another girl she has to give up some of her attention from the guy in exchange for attention from the other girl which is not what she is seeking. So while she has done it several times she does not get her best sex out of that combination either. I can't even imagine what it would cost me for her to agree to send me off with two Bi girls while she sat at home with her knitting, so that's plainly never going to happen. So for both of us we would prefer the general group thing with the odd swap and change, or a straight swap, rather than the threesome where there is the constant need to make sure no one is left waiting too long. In my opinion the very best sex is one on one when you can give your partner your undivided attention and benefit from theirs without having to rush. Now that's a real win - win! Everyone should get to try a threesome just for fun, and I'm not saying that we wouldn't do the FMF again because it is still fun for a bit of variety (like all guys, and a lot of girls, I still cling to the porn star dream). But I think that you will get better sex for yourself and for each of the girls if you enjoy them one at a time and save porn star stuff for the cheap DVD's.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I feel for you brother. There's nothing worse than unexpectedly picking up two random hot chicks, only to have them selfishly take turns pleasing you.Mr C
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm with Chickcara here, I also feel for you. How unfortunate for you - to end up playing with two selfish girls, that left you wanting.So many profiles you read have a common request when seeking women,girls play, guys watch,I don't know why it's so popular, for us, we want all in play. - Ed
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'chickcara' I feel for you brother. There's nothing worse than unexpectedly picking up two random hot chicks, only to have them selfishly take turns pleasing you.Mr C Yup, I'm sure there is a lot of guys out there really feeling sorry for you right now.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm not saying I didn't enjoy myself. It was a great experience and I would love to have more oppertunities to try it again (with different people). And I know alot of guys out there wouldn't be impressed to see I have a bad word to say about it and appreciate it is a 'first world problem'...I think we_want_to hit the nail on the head a couple times with:"Like most guys I spent a lot of years imagining how fantastic a threesome with two girls would be, and yes the fantasy was based on visions from porn enhanced by an overly active imagination."And"...the fantasy was pretty damn special and was always going to be hard to live up to."And to be honest at the time I was way to suprised, amazed, horny etc. etc. to really be thinking anything past "Holy shit I'm having a threesome with 2 hot girls!" Let alone trying to "direct traffic"...Oh and I love the new word - Pornesque... It just rolls off the tongue...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'fungames85' I'm not saying I didn't enjoy myself. It was a great experience and I would love to have more oppertunities to try it again (with different people). And I know alot of guys out there wouldn't be impressed to see I have a bad word to say about it and appreciate it is a 'first world problem'...I think we_want_to hit the nail on the head a couple times with:"Like most guys I spent a lot of years imagining how fantastic a threesome with two girls would be, and yes the fantasy was based on visions from porn enhanced by an overly active imagination."And"...the fantasy was pretty damn special and was always going to be hard to live up to."And to be honest at the time I was way to suprised, amazed, horny etc. etc. to really be thinking anything past "Holy shit I'm having a threesome with 2 hot girls!" Let alone trying to "direct traffic"...Oh and I love the new word - Pornesque... It just rolls off the tongue... Now if you're done with them can I have the phone numbers?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I really hope your joking about asking for the girls' numbers... I'm sure you are joking (I've read your profile and you seem like normal people), but I'm also sure some wanker out there will take your joke as a serious request and expect me to pimp the girls out... If I met them on here I would write a glowing validation for them (and deffinately wouldn't have started this topic) and suggest people they might like to them. But I still wouldn't give others any of their details...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Probably should mention the dry sense of humour in the profile, or maybe use more smiley faces Cheers,Mr C
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RHP User
13 years ago
Poor Fungames.... I know exactly what you mean don't worry! Dont listen to the meanies :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
Not every shag is gonna be better than your last, throw your rod in again... See what you get next time ;)
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