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Unfair
April 16 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
A Slut is woman with the morals of a man :) I have heard men referred to as sluts. To me there is a difference to some one who has many casual relationships and some one who will sleep with any one. Back to your question Guys call guys Studs for sleeping with a lot of women, it is something they aspire to so they give it a nice name. When guys call a woman a slut it is normally because the woman is not sleeping with them ! LC
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RHP User
10 years ago
But I'm confused. I never thought it was country specific. I thought it was viewed this way via gender specifics So what countries view this differently from say Australia ?
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gazpacho
10 years ago
Slut. It's a loose term. You make it sound like a bad thing. I embrace the word as a reasonable description of people who think and behave similarly to me. Bless their dirty lil cotton sox. :) Hugs Gaz - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
I am a man and I dress and act like a slut.But I dont see the term slut as derogatory.It's an interpretation by the person/s and I don't get offended when I am referred to as one. But I do not refer to anyone else by that name because I know it can be sensitive because of upbringings and that old chestnut............society
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'LoveCurvie' When guys call a woman a slut it is normally because the woman is not sleeping with them ! LC Love it, so true! Like all things in life, there will be haters, meh they don't know what they are missing out on!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Like a lot of social attitudes, it's a leftover legacy of feudal and Christian Medieval society. Chastity was an important concept in the middle ages (for both men and women). Coupled with the reality that women were always faced greater health and social risk than men from promiscuous behaviour and you have the Madonna/Whore complex.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's still out there alive and well. The term slut doesn't need to be used: I was recently referred to as 'easy' by a man (who was very busy playing the field and using every lie in the book to keep it all running smoothly). I know the term was used in a very derogarory sense. He made that very clear. His suggestion was that I did not deserve to have a man like me for me because I 'gave in to my sexual desire 'too quickly'. I would be interested to know how many guys out there are blinded to a woman's other qualities if he gets to have her on the second date? I personally did not see him as being any lesser a person because he wanted to whip his cock out... In fact on the first date. - Posted from rhpmobile
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couplefairride
10 years ago
It to try and keep women in line. Ha ha Good luck with that........ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is a woman who will fuck everybody. Except you. 😂
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RHP User
10 years ago
When I hear a lady being called a slut I simply step up and say noooo she isn't a slut she's a good sport is all :))
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
People say lots of things, it's whether you choose to listen to it that matters....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
We are supposed to get married then have sex ,be monogamous and have vanilla sex. We all know how that works out, well for most anyway. It comes from men who are brought up the same way. Have sex as much as you want with anyone you want. But marry the good girl from right side of town. That generation is slowly disappearing I hope.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Say slut is an insult,I have been told I am not slutty enough...but I do my best ...Freya Under Secretary Of Sluts R Us xx
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I'm an ethical slut thank you.....💋
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Its not so much of a double standard....when its mostly guys using the terms stud and slut. They use the term stud (do they? I don't hear it) as a brag.....but often the use of the word slut is a barbed insult towards a woman who the guy thought was fair game for his advances....but who declined him. It does little for the ego for a slut to have higher standards.
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RHP User
10 years ago
We all have a little slut in us.....just waiting for the right buttons to be pushed, licked, sucked, hummed on to be released.... It's only derogatory if you let it be......
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RHP User
10 years ago
Could you pop an application form for 'Sluts R Us' in the mail for me please? Sounds like the sort of club I'd like to be a member of :) Many thanks in advance, Elle xx
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Twisted_Mister
10 years ago
Always be judged. Always. The trick is not to LET yourself be judged. That's the issue. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You are already a platinum member😘xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Awesome! And thank you :) Much love Elle xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't use the term myself as I find it a bit derogatory and used in an angry way when I hear it come from somebody. Always thought it referred to a prostitute of old. Through my life I would have met more men than women that I would use the term slut for probably because their attitude defined them as that. The term that I liked for a woman that slept about with no abandon was bike not that I use that either. People just need to accept that we are all different in terms of sexual appetite without any names associated with it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think this way of thinking is not just in Australia, people will judge you no matter what you do. Life is for living !!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
why do you think this is an Australian thing. It dates back to even Victorian times and no doubt before that. It is what it is and it will never change - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
There is nothing sexier than a classy slut with ethics
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RHP User
10 years ago
Unfortunately the practice of naming and shaming continues.social media has a lot to answer for in this regard.Many young women are highly sexualised in their early teens,often due to sexual abuse and sex becomes a currency to seek validation of self worth,of course it usually has the opposite effect ...................... Sexually adventurous women throughout history have been vilified,accused of crimes they did not commit,for example Mata Hari who the French executed in WW1...Mary Magdalen was declared a prostitute by Pope Gregory in the 8th century because she was becoming more popular than Peter,it wasn't until Vatican 2 in 1969 that the Church said oops sorry Mary we got it wrong.......The sex lives of women have taken precedence over their abilities ,Cleopatra was an astute politician but it is her liaisons with Julius Caesar and Mark Anthony that we remember her for...Theodora was also a clever woman but when she is spoken of its not for her abilities as Constantines Queen ,it's because she was formerly a prostitute......Even Elizabeth 1 was affected by this,she was famous for being The Virgin Queen,if he married she knew that she would lose her power,so her sex life or supposed lack of it fascinates us still ...Women continue to be executed for adultery in some cultures....and in our culture if you are a much older woman and have much younger lovers you re branded as a predatory woman,a cougar...so women have secret sex lives,to have a sex life can still be a dangerous thing, xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's because equal rights are unfortunately still a long way off. A man is a player, a woman a slut.A man is confident, a woman full of herself. A man is direct, a woman feisty.A man is critical, a woman a nag/bitchy.A man is bold, a woman sassy.A man is authoritarian, a woman bossy.A man is frustrated, a woman hysterical.A man is distracted, a woman an air-head/ditzy, erratic.A man is in a bad mood, a woman must be getting her period. Just a few examples I still come across all the time. When is the last time any of you heard the words I used for women to describe a man?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is there a male equivalent for cougars, or are men who date much younger women just bachelors?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sluts are admirable honest fun ! A true slut will gladly tell you they fucked your brother ! Your best mate ! Your girlfriend and ya dad. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you have a key that can open many locks. That key is called a master key. But if you have a lock that can be opened with just about any key. Well that's just a shitty lock. * Please note this is a joke. In no way do I subscribe to the analogy . I just think it's funny. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Isn't it up to us parents to do that? Live it show our young boys and girls we as women are free and have sex as much as we want. Most parents hide their sexual side......how can the young one change when we are still stuck in the old ways?
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RHP User
10 years ago
It does come back to parents, to mould new minds to be more open and free thinking, and of course with their actions, I remember mum and dad never hugging or kissing in front of us.... It just wasn't done, it was private, kept for the bedroom.....wrong... Hugging, kissing, hand holding, back rubs, affection must be shown in front of your children, it helps them to learn expression.... I'm a firm believer in being open with my family, it's very healthy, also encourages them to be more open with me...letting me in to help them if and when they need it.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Of a cougar is a Lion isn't it ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' Isn't it up to us parents to do that? Live it show our young boys and girls we as women are free and have sex as much as we want. Most parents hide their sexual side......how can the young one change when we are still stuck in the old ways? I have 2 boys and a girl aged 9 to 12 and conversation about sexuality has always been an open and ongoing one in our home. I have tried hard to teach them that sex is awesome, that it's something wonderful their bodies can do that feels great. I have explained to all of them about the importance of respecting their and other's bodies and there has been an ongoing conversation about consent. All my kids know that if someone tells them to stop touching them they must immediately desist. That goes for sibling spats too. The other day my son came home and told me about a boy in his class who was calling one of the girls a slut because she is a dancer and had had some professional photos taken in dance gear (tights, croptop, etc). I tried hard to control my psychotic rage (this kid is an arsehole with bogan, redneck parents who's been calling everything he doesn't like 'gay' since he was 5) and explain to my son about the unfairness of this being directed at a girl for doing nothing more than showing her body doing such amazing dancing poses. I explained how society likes to keep women in their place by controlling how they choose to express themselves. I think he got it, but I also wonder how much difference my message can make when the one coming from the rest of society is so different. It's an issue I really struggle with and already I see my daughter being affected by it. She obsesses about how she looks and is constantly taking selfies. Her twin brother cares so little about his appearance, it's a struggle to get him to wear matching socks when he leaves the house! That doesn't come from me and I honestly wonder if my message is enough to cut through the noise they're exposed to everyday. All I can do it try....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Freya I can be your male slut.
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Smilingwithfun
10 years ago
That while it is gender specific to whom the name is called, both genders say it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree in part, I think women are guilty of calling each other sluts too, though hardly as often as men (#notallmenduh) do.
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Mr_MrsAraps
10 years ago
As is always the case for any word that someone is called slut, whore etc it depends of the way and intent it is used and it coming from a place of respect. Some people love being called a slut, in bedroom (me included) and I think it's an awesome way to reclaim ownership of the word in positive sense. It's when it's used in an i respectful way and without consent that it takes it to the low that society in general associates with the word and shows the true side of the person using it in that way. For me you can't shame someone with the word slut if they have already reclaimed it back for themselves in the positive sense. Cheers, W. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Men can be called sluts as well, with its negative connotations. When it becomes way to easy to get a root then the word starts to be uttered. What really matters is whether you take insult or not.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't really see it as an equal rights issue though I can see what you are pointing out Meander. I, like Litonya believe it to be an educational issue both at home (especially) and at school. I have rarely slung derogatory words about as I was raised not to be that way and besides most people have no idea of anyone's past to know why they may behave or act in certain ways. I could also make a list of comparisons to what women are called and the equivalent of the male form depending on which genders perspective and their respectfulness comes from and respect is the word that defines whether or not we CHOOSE to use different gender specific words for the same instances. I shall end with an answer to your question Meander. The one thing I have been called is erratic (and fair enough in the context it was used) but I have heard men called a slut, bossy and very often full of themselves.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oh Gaz but you a different kind of accepting SLUT arent you Quoting 'gazpacho51' Slut. It's a loose term. You make it sound like a bad thing. I embrace the word as a reasonable description of people who think and behave similarly to me. Bless their dirty lil cotton sox. :) Hugs Gaz When I joined her I was no slut but I have been a slut! or have I?..................I have heard people embrace it and embark on its journey and even had it destroy them ok well thats a bit dramatic but at times I felt because I was here I was condemned. Now I am just returning and feeling a slight bit of resurrection and confidence am I again a slut (in a good way) or a slut to which is referred.
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RHP User
10 years ago
human beings like to reward effort, and it takes a lot of work for a man to get laid... But a woman just has to say "yeah, why not?" ps. on a more serious note, as far as I'm concerned people can fuck around as much as they like as long as they're discerning and respectful (of themselves and their partners). But if they're in the thrall of some sort of compulsion then I tend to find that ugly, in the same way I find any addiction ugly.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'spides' why do you think this is an Australian thing. I don't think the OP meant to say it's an Australian thing. I read the fact he said "In this country" as him not wanting to assume his OP is true for all countries and cultures.
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RHP User
10 years ago
"slut (n.) c. 1400, "a dirty, slovenly, or untidy woman," according to OED "Of doubtful origin," but probably cognate with dialectal German Schlutt "slovenly woman," dialectal Swedish slata "idle woman, slut," and Dutch slodde "slut," slodder "a careless man," but the exact relationship of all these is obscure. Chaucer uses sluttish (late 14c.) in reference to the appearance of an untidy man. Also "a kitchen maid, a drudge" (mid-15c.; hard pieces in a bread loaf from imperfect kneading were called slut's pennies, 18c.). Specific modern sense of "woman who enjoys sex in a degree considered shamefully excessive" is by 1966. Meaning "woman of loose character, bold hussy" is attested from mid-15c., but the primary association through 18c. was untidiness.
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blackbig
10 years ago
Give me a hot sexy slut any time. The lifestyle depicts a woman power... It is a choice. Women can shaggy anyone they wish....two, three, four women or men , or both in any ratio or order.. or they could have a gangbang😝 Some men love sluts ( me too) , and some women love to live a sluts' life 😍😍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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TwoHot4You
10 years ago
Meander shows the word has an interesting/unclear history. There are many women who have started to reclaim the word (e.g. slutwalk, the ethical slut) and I personally also have a positive association with the term. When I hear/say slut I think "a woman (or man) who is proud to be sexually open minded and experienced." I believe quite a few people on this site would share a similar opinion and hope this view eventually spreads to the wider public. Men in particular should be encouraged to use the term positively. We hope/want women to be sexually promiscuous, then use derogatory terms when they are. It doesn't make sense and is counter productive to the interests of both sexes! :s
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like2watchNplay
10 years ago
So a guy is a stud if he fucks as many people as he can but a female is a slut if she fucks as many people as she can? Sounds like people that can't pleasure others come up with that shit!! Very insecure I'm guessing!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
The Slut & Stud debate always makes me think of Jim Jefferies on Studs Vs Sluts.. good stuff!
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thedevilsfantasy
10 years ago
to be a slut... but life keeps getting in the way and I just don't have the time *sigh* ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Goddess is the word I used to describe my girlfriend from a few years ago. We held nothing back. My Goddess enlightened me in the world of passion and sensuality. In that same time where she became my Goddess, I became her God. Our ex-spouses probably would have called us both sluts if we compared their pedestrian sexual activities to what we did. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think the term slut , describes a person willing to share their body with whom they desire, whether its 2 or 3 or 12 or more people, in a day or in a week or whatever. its someone that has an urge and needs fullfill it. somedays one partner is enough, other days its like , lets party kind of thing. nothing derogatory with the term , just a choice people make . Maybe slut is for women that stud is for guys, the same thing really - just a gender term How many partners can you do ? ( weetbix ad)
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inspirit
10 years ago
Studette
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd say that women are supposed to care about who they sleep with. They want seduction. Not all men are into seduction, they just want to fuck. If they find a woman who is keen to just fuck - she is a slut. He doesn't need to wine and dine her... No mind games - just fuck. IMO that's a slut. So if you are a stud - the more sluts the better. No better or worse than a slut. Just after the same thing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Slurs such as Slut or Tart or bitch are feminine and therefore used against women. Guys get called wankers, arseholes and dickheads. None mean anything unless they have a personal intent, if someone chooses to have more partners that doesn't make them a slut. Its when they have no regard for who fucks them. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Call me a slut by all means. but I'm a classy one.
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rustler
10 years ago
Is there a male equivalent for cougars, or are men who date much younger women just bachelors I think Meander they are called Geoffrey Edelstens
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RHP User
10 years ago
I mean that in the nicest possible way ....:)Jay xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's easy to be a slut but hard to be a stud! That's why sluts are looked down on.
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RHP User
10 years ago
They are called dirty old men😘xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' They are called dirty old men😘xxFreya I call them Lucky Bastards....LOL
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RHP User
10 years ago
And why would you not 😜xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' They are called dirty old men😘xxFreya Talk about shaming !! LOL and we were moving towards a more equitable world ... oops Now ... how to get the sluts and the studly dirty old men together ..... xxx Question: Are there any dirty old women ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think many women find cougar offensive ,but many don't ...are you happy with the appellation dirty old man?...I don't think any man would be...dirty old studly sluts ?...still has a male ring to it...xxFreya
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4forfun
10 years ago
Looking for bi couples mackay - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
My point is, that men get called 'dirty old .. ' which is true of both genders if you want equity, but is always derogatory to men, even when its as simple as an older man giving a compliment to a younger woman. Whereas a cougar has a 'good on you for being liberated' connotation. I really dont see that there is any liberation for anyone by useing negative names on a site like RHP. The broader community sees it differently however. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Dirty/Filthy ; either or works for me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Freddy Diddums,how many insults are directed at women,as opposed to men? ..xxFreya
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Magicmicah
10 years ago
It's easy to be a slut, it's hard work to be a stud. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
I find your comment problematic in that it represents the basis of the discussion as a typical male view of the subject. Very biased given your recent experience. I'm not having a swipe at you, just an observation.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Predatory animals who prey on weaker ones. I'm not offended by the word by any means, but I would't call it a compliment either.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Still a big pussy cat. Albeit, very nice pussies. Most hunters will prey on weaker ones. Just as women are preyed upon by stronger males, sometimes in the true sense unfortunately. I dont think the anology holds up in this case for that reason.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love sluts.... Sexually Liberated Ultimate Temptresses......
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RHP User
10 years ago
Freya, I dont know .. how could I? I'm not counting others, only me, and it's zero so far. Water off the ducks back to me anyway as name calling says more about the speakers' character than the hearer, usually. Context does count btw ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't see it as unequal at all.... There are bachelors and spinsters..... The two different words mean the same thing but address the different genders... Sluts/studs can be the same with a simple surgical procedure... 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Actually I prefer filthy, dirt is just soil, filth is much more fun !
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Any_Whichway' Still a big pussy cat. Albeit, very nice pussies. Most hunters will prey on weaker ones. Just as women are preyed upon by stronger males, sometimes in the true sense unfortunately. I dont think the anology holds up in this case for that reason. I don't like anyone who preys on others, whether they are men or women. Someone mentioned the male version of cougar is lion, so I'm not a fan of that term either.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' I don't see it as unequal at all.... There are bachelors and spinsters..... The two different words mean the same thing but address the different genders... Sluts/studs can be the same with a simple surgical procedure... 😊 The term spinster was used for old maids who hadn't been able to find a man to marry them (yet). I think not many would equate the term bachelor with "still looking for a wife". (And a simple surgical procedure? Google some pics and get back to me.)
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RHP User
10 years ago
it's 2015 not 1815. Spinster/bachelor is more commonly dished out to singles in respective of their gender... Hence B&S Balls.....they're hardly old maids - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi Meander, I agree with you. My last two girlfriends were both lady farmers who have castrated Bulls. Play nice or chop chop lol !
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RHP User
10 years ago
"Bachelor" was a euphemistic term used to describe gay men when it was actually a criminal offence to be gay...between the reign of Victoria and sometime in the '60s I think..And who uses bachelor and spinster these days...if you ain't married or attached you are single xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
You are absolutely right,it is all about the context,....the who,the how,the when xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' "Bachelor" was a euphemistic term used to describe gay men when it was actually a criminal offence to be gay...between the reign of Victoria and sometime in the '60s I think..And who uses bachelor and spinster these days...if you ain't married or attached you are single xxFreya Does Cleo magazine still do their Bachelor of the Year contest? And I think George Clooney was called a bachelor every day in the media until he got married recently. Didn't know it was used for gay men, thanks Freya.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' "Bachelor" was a euphemistic term used to describe gay men when it was actually a criminal offence to be gay...between the reign of Victoria and sometime in the '60s I think..And who uses bachelor and spinster these days...if you ain't married or attached you are single xxFreya never heard that association, only ever seen it in context of the normal usage (single male) or the old origins (Old French / Norman) meaning squire / young knight in training. Bachelor is a great term - without it my favourite TV show would be so cumbersome "Single Guy selecting from 25 women over a period of weeks" isn't so catchy ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
To the Urban dictionary,a confirmed batchelor was a euphemism for a gay man..My family always referred to my cousin Jack as a batchelor,he was about fifteen years older than me and lived with his friend...xxFreya
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him_and_me
10 years ago
Haha! Puts an amusing twist on the TV show the Batchelor! x Me.
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precious142
10 years ago
Both Koko and I have been called Dirty Old Women...........you know where to find us!!!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm a male slut, I cannot even remember how many woman (Army, RAAF, Navy and civilian women that have had sex with, but it's all been fantastic.
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RHP User
10 years ago
been called a slut before - and not always because i was spread legged either! at times it was because I'm confident and self assured, hold my head up high, know what i want, flirt a little and am able to dish it out just like a man would i suppose... and yep happy to be a slut
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ElleWould
10 years ago
How will I know when I tick over into 'slutty' numbers of partners?
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RHP User
10 years ago
The number is 4,102 😜xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' The number is 4,102 😜xxFreya I've got 4 more to go then...
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teegee
10 years ago
Found you here....nice!
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