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Unrealistic expectations

June 30 2019

I was having a really good discussion with a friend of mine in the dating world, either online or traditional face to face and we were sharing a few stories. One thing she noticed was how quick men wanted to meet, sometimes the conversation was only 15 minutes before they wanted to meet up and “fuck”. Another was the conversation is going well and the person she is speaking to is being nice and respectful and then the next abrupt message of “I wanna lick you” and killed the mood. For me it’s been about distance and effort. I was once expected to drive 2 hours and although that sounds tempting, a 4 hour round trip just doesn’t appeal. Another is effort, when conversing and receiving half effort responses or trying to build something and getting little reply. What kind of unrealistic expectations have you witnessed or been involved with?

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EarthQueen

5 years ago

Let me count the ways Lots of creepy suggestions Meeting in a dark secluded park at night Meeting in a dark secluded forest at night Filming me at

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EarthQueen

5 years ago

Oops pressed send prematurely Filming me at first meet. I wear Lycra so he can rip it off at first meet. Bareback sex straight up ‘cause he’s “just been tested” So forth and so on ....there’s many more that I’ve forgotten . But I guess one persons bad idea, can be the next persons fantasy depending on boundaries. But these can always be sorted at a later date once actual rapport is made. Not in first messages. Also, not when they are unsafe and totally unrealistic .

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MsSuperFoxy

5 years ago

Where I was to be fucked under a Baobab tree in the middle of Africa with the Lions watching. Such a shame, as I was flying out to Africa the next morning. The lions never witnessed. Ms Foxy

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RHP User

5 years ago

I KNOW right... How could you even trust someone who thinks they could get GOOD footage on film and/or video in somewhere DARK??? Fucking weirdos

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Obi1kenietzsche

5 years ago

As always.. love your work! 😂

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DynamicCouple36

5 years ago

Expectations of rather Entitlement? We have had our fair share of messages in which the sender wants instant gratification as in “ I am horny and want to meet now ( as in 30 mins) for a quick fuck. Or the guys who think that they can come straight to our house (even though we have never met them) on the first date. It just does not work that way. Possibly they are horny and already have their dicks out and are thus only talking / thinking with their little brains? We once had a chap drive 31/2 hours one way (7 hours return trip) to meet us for drinks one Friday night . We made it clear that it would be for drinks only. He made the effort. 3 weeks later we spent the weekend away, close to the Vic high country town where he lives, and we got together for some fun. The moral of the story was that his un-entitled effort had paid off. There are far too many lazy males around who are after instant gratification but not prepared to put in any effort . Clear entitlement issues

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EarthQueen

5 years ago

Cavey That’s right! Being in the film industry you recognise lighting and angles are key. Devils in the detail. Also on the Lycra thing, totally unrealistic. It’s not cotton. Active wear is hard to rip. If men are going to propose textile fantasies make it doable.

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RHP User

5 years ago

@dynamic couple The time and effort one puts in is small in comparison to gaining life long friends ... those with expectations of a “quick f...” as you say are delusional RE.... We once had a chap drive 31/2 hours one way (7 hours return trip) to meet us for drinks one Friday night . We made it clear that it would be for drinks only. He made the effort. 3 weeks later we spent the weekend away, close to the Vic high country town where he lives, and we got together for some fun. The moral of the story was that his un-entitled effort had paid off. ... The drive /road has been long in an effort to find fabulous friends but a journey I would happily do once again 👌🚗🔥🙈🙊

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Samnite

5 years ago

I have quite a lot of experience chatting on numerous sites. I have observed that the relative anonymity of the internet in general enables guys to say sleazy, stupid, racist, ignorant things as it is and to generally come across as desperate. I myself have been guilty of doing this at times. Although, I am almost always joking when I do so. I think we have all experienced those moments online where people say things that they would NEVER normally do so in the real world. I have also noticed on sites like RHP and other similar type sites that there is this sense that it's a "sex site". Therefore, in their minds, all women are there to provide them with free sexual services when and where they want. Let's face it, most people on this site are here to meet someone. The reasons vary. Some people are genuine and respectful with regard to the way they approach this and others are not. Me... I would prefer to meet sooner rather than later simply because I get a better sense of who the person is at a face to face meeting.

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MsSuperFoxy

5 years ago

But wait! 1/2 the time when guys who think that they can gi straight to a persons house (even though they have never met them) on the first date is because there are women who allow it and do it. Even tho it is unsafe, kids in bed yadda yadda yadda. At the end of the day really do you blame them? The responsibilty and ownership does not always fall on them. Some women are to blame too. Ms Foxy

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DynamicCouple36

5 years ago

Garnie12 And we are glad that you made the effort, and the long drive . A good friendship and fun times is the result .

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OkeyDoke45

5 years ago

Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' But wait! 1/2 the time when guys who think that they can gi straight to a persons house (even though they have never met them) on the first date is because there are women who allow it and do it. Even tho it is unsafe, kids in bed yadda yadda yadda. At the end of the day really do you blame them? The responsibilty and ownership does not always fall on them. Some women are to blame too. Ms Foxy I have discussed this before numerous times on similar threads here (as have others) and I will ask the question again - how do we know we are not the weirdos on here? Perhaps the reason why there are so many men out there that expect ''let's drop everything right now and fuck'' is because there are at least a reasonable number of women out there for whom such a situation is entirely acceptable? Us people here on the forums are, by and large, a thoughtful contemplative bunch and prefer a bit more conversation - but are we the exception? Is it a free-for-all among many of the others? This is a sex site first and foremost, I don't care what anybody says. You can ask a little more of it than that if you like, but don't begrudge those that use this for anything other than what it says on the can (and I again invite anyone to cast their eyes on the home page of the desktop if they harbour any doubts about what RHP promotes). People will get all defensive whenever I, or others, dare to suggest that this is foremost a sex site. It's kind of like buying a sports car when all you do is drive slow, and then criticizing everybody else that drives a sports car for not driving slow. I don't harbour any ill will toward anyone that uses a can opener to, you know, open cans. Geez, I'm heavy on the metaphors today.

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RHP User

5 years ago

What is safe? You can be unsafe with someone you have known for ten years and perfectly safe with someone you have known for ten minutes. The men who "wanna fuck now" need to learn the art of seduction . But what floats one persons boat is a shipwreck for another..no Cap'n not a reference to you and the parrot :) Hugs Q

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usnow

5 years ago

We find after a few messages back and forth and all parties seem comfortable we like to suggest a meet in the very near future .This often sorts out the genuine from the " dreamers " and " pretenders " of which there appears to be many . Usnow .

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RHP User

5 years ago

Ob1 and EQ...

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Obi1kenietzsche

5 years ago

Cap’n No Beard to Qefenta: “Hey there Lass, I gots me a large Parrot.. .. see?. Now THIS is a Parrot!” (*shows Qefenta his Parrot*) Qefenta: “Looks more like a budgie to me!” Cap’n No Beard: “Forsooth! I thinks it’s a bloody huge!. But anyways, how ‘bouts you an’ me just nips over t’ ye cabin Lass, and I let’s ye walk me plank like?” Qefenta: “How ‘bouts you take a long walk off a short pier?” (And thus endeth the lesson regarding “unrealistic expectations” here on RHP!) Obi1

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RHP User

5 years ago

That parrot of yours I thought was a Norwegian Blue..Just pining for the fjords..as for planks..is yours as thick as two?..ah well ..no great expectations here just crumbling wedding cake..alas. Hugs Q x

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