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Unsatisfying trysts... how to cope
December 20 2011
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RHP User
13 years ago
You have 88 friends surely he must realise your busy I am not sure what kind of friend he is but if you're not having any kind of fun you need to move on and find the guy that does it for you.If he kisses like a lizard OMG thats it for me I wouldnt be going back. If you were pleasing him i am sure he would be going elsewhere.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Frack_Me, I sympathise with you totally. Sites like this are full of selfish people who only think of themselves and many people discover that being on here is a big disappointment. Unfortunately that's the way it is and always will be. I think you should be able to tell what a guy is like during your first encounter. If you think that there is a chance that he will eventually get the message and show you some respect, I would suggest that you persist. I you feel the guy is a total loser, then I suggest you give him the flick and try and find someone else. Good luck in your search. Chris.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Why is it demoralising Frack_Me? There are heaps of guys out there who couldn't give a fuck if the woman they are with cum or somem who don't realise that woman are supposed to cum as well. And before you go off at me boys, that is not meant to be a man bash thing in particular. Some people are blood inconsiderate when it comes to sex or just quite frankly bad at it. Frack_Me, is this someone you have slept with more than once? Fort me three strikes and your out. That is my rule, if you LIKE HIM ALOT. If he is someone you ain't too fussed on, I say a big fuck off NEXT!!!!! xxMeeka
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sorry, I was all feisty in my response then and as a result there are heaps of spelling errors. Sorry.. but hey it is probably your fault anyway, cause I came in my pants. xxMeeka
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi hon Well just chalk this one up to experience....despite all the talk sometimes it just doesnt happen between two lusty adults no matter what.........chemistry lacking, too much alcohol, timing, whatever the reason, ..I would say, quoting you - say "Next" and move on....if he was worth a toss, no matter what his faults were (bad kisser etc ) he would have at least tried to satsify you in some shape or form or at least asked after your needs/wants/desires....., the fact that he appeared not to even attempt to do this, well in my opinion, his not worth your further attention.....but should he ask, (do they ask ??) be honest and tell him where and how he was lacking bla bla bla ( you could be doing him and his next partner a enormous favor) ....he may genuinely also want to know. I dont think your role is to enducate unless you think his a keeper (and he has expressingly asked for your help etc) and his worth your time and effort and you so want to go there........you sound like a gorgeous gal, so yep move on and really get into and enjoy your next lovely encounter.
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RHP User
13 years ago
There's only one thing left to do Miss Frack_Me....... You need a satisfaction threat lol either he makes sure you are satisfied BEFORE he cums, or he gets a choice of a cold spoon each time he gets close and you aren't.........or just keep a really tight clothes peg in your hand and tell him it will go on the whatever loose skin you can find down there only jk But I do think even making a joke about it with the person with something like this is at least one approach to letting them know half baked won't be good enough from now on. Best of luck xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
if anything, the chances of disappointment are increased here. people who you wouldnt normally meet, and would never ever consider play with, suddenly become other than what they are....internet bravery? and the 'hero' syndrome takes over...... but...we discover they are really 'zero's'.....and were never worth the effort.... when ultimately they mistake their aspirations with their abilities and fail to live up to expectations and promises. stop and think for a minute, before meeting that guy who seems to be 'so perfect', and ask.....why is this guy here, and why is he single.............you may surprise yourself and actually see through the facade and expose his inner wanker or dickhead............lol just saying.....we as a couple strike it unlucky more often than otherwise....and encounter the 'loser'...........which is a real shame..........theres a smorgasbord of at least partway eligible guys out there.... so try again...until you stumble across someone who actually does offer some options.......
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RHP User
13 years ago
Im a single lady and I find most guys are only out to please themselfs.Maybe you will find if your in a relationship your man would please you.But Im happy being single and just please myself.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' There's only one thing left to do Miss Frack_Me....... You need a satisfaction threat lol either he makes sure you are satisfied BEFORE he cums, or he gets a choice of a cold spoon each time he gets close and you aren't.........or just keep a really tight clothes peg in your hand and tell him it will go on the whatever loose skin you can find down there only jk But I do think even making a joke about it with the person with something like this is at least one approach to letting them know half baked won't be good enough from now on. Best of luck xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe you need to do a little more screening.... Instead of telling him what you want him to do ask him what he'd like to do to you. If it involves classic lines from the back of a porno dvd such as 'I want to fuck your brains out' or 'Cum on your titz' maybe just take a step back and rethink. . If he tells you he wants to spend a few minutes circling his tongue around your ear until you have goosebumps, then follow the trail of goosebumps down your neck with his lips while his hands stroke your body at least you know he's got enough of an active imagination to get you wet before he starts his random jackhammer attack, or best case - might actually be a half reasonable lover.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Frack_me sorry to hear I have always been a "ladies first" person and more into ensuring my partner gets as much out of it as i do, but then again i'm very selective and chemistry has to be right!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
... do you just say next and find someone who can satisfy you, or perserve and hope to god eventually he gets it right? . Absolutely positively say "next" and find someone who can satisfy you. Unfortunately, it really is as straightforward as that. Everyone deserves goosebumps. . In saying that, if you are having sex with someone and your primary focus is on your own satisfaction (as we women can sometimes get when we are in pursuit of the Big O and define satisfaction as having one) rather than the mutual satisfaction you speak of, then you're at risk of short-changing yourself. The best sexual experience is often the one that doesn't result in orgasm but sees both of you experiencing pleasure from the sexual experience. . But if you're not experiencing any pleasure at all, then yep, as the other ladies have said, keep moving. It's too hard when you're connecting with someone purely for sex without all of the other good feeling that might come with a more in depth relationship. I see no point in not cutting right to the chase and finding the satisfaction you're craving. . Flirty x
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Moment_In_Time
13 years ago
Stole the idea right out of my mind! OK, your words are better than I could have written and you thought of it first, but! Frack Me, people tend to try their best on first times so feel free to judge their performance as it is unlikely to get better. If they have reached their high point and left you short, tell them and ask for more. If there is any hope in the coupling they will immediately work to fulfill you. If their answer is a snore, then kick them out the door without giving them time to get dressed! I wonder if RHP would allow a negative validation? "This guy is a 30 second wombat!"
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RHP User
13 years ago
seem to be able to talk the right talk, but when it comes down to it... cannot put theory to practical. One guy listened to me...and I hope to see him again, but with his work and a kidlet as a single dad... I doubt it. Well at least I have the gym.
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RHP User
13 years ago
i cant say i ALWAYS DO IT but i loe to make the girl cum (Oral) before i even Fuck her... But sometime i am as guilty as other WAM BAMMERS
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RHP User
13 years ago
One thing I discovered - if they don't know how to kiss, they don't know how to do other things.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Naw honey. What can i say...........my method is research, research, research.....sus em out well and truely before even meeting and then one kiss will tell me what i might be getting into. If he/she kisses like a sucker fish or a lizzard or any other cold blooded creature I KNOW they are going to both suck and blow (and NOT in a good way) in the sack. That being said, women can be very difficult to get off but...alas...if you're not sexually compatable you're just not and nothing can change that.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Something I stole from facebook:What do women do after sex? 2% eat, 3% smoke, 4% take a shower, 5% go to sleep and the remaining 86% finish the job them-self.What do men do after sex? 6% smoke, 4% sigh and talk a little, 8% go to sleep right away and the remaining 82% dress in a hurry and drive home Too true :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'BoobsInspector' Quoting 'D_G_T' There's only one thing left to do Miss Frack_Me....... You need a satisfaction threat lol either he makes sure you are satisfied BEFORE he cums, or he gets a choice of a cold spoon each time he gets close and you aren't.........or just keep a really tight clothes peg in your hand and tell him it will go on the whatever loose skin you can find down there only jk But I do think even making a joke about it with the person with something like this is at least one approach to letting them know half baked won't be good enough from now on. Best of luck xx So is joking . Back on track though, Frack_Me if this isn't an ongoing thing, I wouldn't be spending much time trying to remedy anything to be honest, but like the others say do a bit of extra screening to try and prevent you missing out the next time around. It has to be about mutual pleasure.
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RHP User
13 years ago
how hard at it do you need to go to get it to smoke ?????that sure sounds like a dry rubbing to me ,,,,,,, Andy xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
umm.. I have been with a girl or two who, once we started.. it becomes obvious it isnt going to work.. Three options for him... 1) Carry on, blow and leave... 2) Stop and leave 3) stop.. reassess, talk have a coffee, whatever.... who knows what can transpire from there... :) three options for her... 1) allow it to carry on and you get where you did 2) stop and tell him to leave 3) stop him.. reassess, talk, have a coffee, whatever.... who knows what can transpire from there... :) Frack me: a lot of guys do so badly on here (speaking from experience :) ) you may have been his VERY FIRST.... He might have been soo scared and unsure.. HE COULD have turned out to be your BEST ever... if he wasnt so nervous and scared. Good luck girl!! xx your caveman
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RHP User
13 years ago
you ROCK girl! caveman
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RHP User
13 years ago
I suppose you could give specific directions play videos in the background and have charts and signage around your pussy area... POSTIT Notes to the rescue! Thanks 3m:) Think I have come up with a new game, postit notes with numbers and instructions strategically placed around your body??? Bugger you then need to make sure he can read! Other alternatives and possiblities exist, maybe he deliberately wanted to disappoint? Bad day at the office? His style could suit someone else perfectly... It is christmas time so lots of sales on at the moment I have always felt that women selecting playmates can be compared to going to a mall and walking past all the sales. Always a sale on if you a female on rhp. D_G_T mutual sex mmm selfish sex has it's place problem is you need to find a 50/50 guy although we all have our 90/10 moments!
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Onlylivetwice
13 years ago
...people are here for satisfying trysts - but some only want to satisfy themselves!Someone who satisfies mentally, sexually, emotionally in whatever depth of each of those individual things is what you're looking for. Some like a lot of this and don't need much of that. Both people have to match those wants.Personally, I think if you're looking for a satisfying lover then you cannot beat going on a non-sex coffee date.Make it clear that there's no sex on the first date. Meet him over coffee, see if you click verbally and mentally together. Does he respond to your thoughts and emotions or is he just trying to impress you? Does he engage you or simply talk at you?If your boxes are getting ticked (no no, I don't mean metaphorically - at least not yet) then let him kiss you intimately when you say goodbye. It's true that "It's in his kiss" (that's where it is, uh huh!)You should know by then whether he's going to be a worthwhile lover. And if he's not, you're at a coffee shop feeling in control rather than naked in bed with a freshly closed door behind him thinking how unsatisfying that was.The "no-sex coffee date" followed by a "hot-sex second date" is seriously under-rated on RHP as a way of meeting a good lover.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ok, for me this is a sex site only. So I do not look for the warm fluffy stuff. Its primal. I look and then may chat a little on the net or pref not at all. Nor do I do the text crap to entertain some kid wanking under his desk at work. Nor do I do the phone sex as much as I like it, its also a time waster. The mistake in this is that you get all excited about a person that may not even attract you, nor them to you. One word CHEMISTRY You know if its there in one second , if you listen to your primal self Cut out all the peripheral stuff, like the wine me dine me piss in my ear Just look, get up close and kiss, some you do not even need to kiss as you know that its not going to happen. Good in bed is like how long is a ball of string If he kisses like a lizard then he needs to be matched up with a woman that likes that If he goes like a rabbit then find a bunny to match( I mean you have to be a bunny to like that) Do not end up in bed with a guy that does not get you wet in a kiss. Your wasting his time and your own. Men cannot give you pleasure, you have to find that in yourself first If a man gets off before me, it means I turn him on a lot so I just get him to stay inside me if he can and I finish off myself It turns me on to do it and it turns them on to watch it Problem solved Some men just do the fuckem and chuck em. I think ladies should keep that in mind that sweet talk and build up is the nice chase, but if you want to keep them longer just try to hold of the finish for them, Get them to stop now and again and get soft again then start again, keep that going and they will stay in bed longer Once they are done, they are done. Same for me so I don’t care if they want to go, I will hand em their pants and thank them for the nice time.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can't even recall the last time a woman had actually managed to satisfy me sexually. If the options and getting used, and nothing, I'll take getting used any day.
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RHP User
13 years ago
A woman cumming is the best part! I am stunned there seem to be so many guys not interested in that most erotic of things, the female orgasm.
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