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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hermes,   Well according to my profile stats I get an 83% response rate to messages and a 236% response rate to flirts.   Lets tackle the latter first I dont send a lot of flirts they are just plian lazy I get flirts because I have an interesting and unusual proflie so Tip one make your self stand out from the crowd.   Ok to messages...see tip one for a start.   Tip two OK she has nice boobs and she knows it you do noy have to tell her in your message. Think like you are in a social scene. You want to start a conversation, try reading her profile and asking things about that. Ask questions that require an answer. Do not start talking about sex in your first messgae.   Donot leave a phone number or MSN addie in a first message.   Just try to be your self be flirty yes remeber that for every message you send she will get ten or more. So you have to make your self memorable, interesting or you are lost.   Just one last thing and it is my humble opinion only cock shots are fine unless they are tacky I hate to say it I would change that pic.   Mike

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Maybe they are being treated as spam? The female logic is often a wonder to behold... so many rules and conditions that it often takes the mere male a lifetime to learn. Which is hard when the rules keep changing like the weather. Wouldn't it be wonderful to have a reset button on relationships to wipe the slate clean and have another crack at getting it right. Either that of a decent Male to Female translation dictionary?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  HermesBigBoy, I must admit that, whilst I think the pic you have up is a very interesting item to some people, we females may be daunted to be so confronted by it.  I know I would like something to be left to my (overactive) imagination to construct.  Try putting your manhood into your boxers, and see if you get a response.   xxCalam

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hi Hermes,   If I saw your pic I'd send a quick "thanx  but no thanx" reply.  There is a lot more to a man than his penis !!! I'd rather get to know the man first and then explore the goods in person.  I think the type of photo you have says a lot more than your actual profile.  Either change the pic or have no pic and put the cock shot in your private gallery.   Good luck, Ms Saturn

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  that is phenomenal response rate to flirtsmy reply rate to messages is 114%, reply rate to flirts is a sorry 29%it is late and I have nothing more to add at the moment (dull, I know, but bed beckons)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  personally, I'm extremely lazy, so I'll use whatever excuse however trivial to ignore messages or if i'm guilted into it, use a form reply.   things like,   * unoriginal and boring messages * failure to provide pics that I can actually see without having to solicit for them after the initial message (i have my face on here, why should you hide yours from me plus it puts me at a disadvantage instead of an equal footing because I can't see what I'm getting but the intiator can) * boring profiles * or just plain unattracted despite fitting my requirements on paper.   circumstances where I'll respond, though by no means does it means I'm personally  interested * someone who put in an obvious effort tailoring it to me * extreme boredom * or they actually appear to be what I'm looking for and have ticked all my boxes.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  All great advice. I have changed the pic already (is that ok)  I have to be careful as I lecture at Uni and TAFE so you could imagine what would happen if a student saw my photo on RHP Thanks everyone Hermes

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Oh man! Hermes...you are a smart man...reasonably sane wtf are u doing with that pic? As Id not seen it before (restricted) I imagined some tasteful, sensual, scenic pic to tease and tantalize BUT NO...Mr penis and his two gumnuts are out there for all to see...and not ponder over....gawd! Im with my fellow threaders on this one yet again, Put ya dick away, get creative with photograhic advertising and the rest will flow on from there... love Mz J xxx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Oh dear Hermes...As has already been said and I cannot reitterate strongly enough - No penis shots! Put them in your private gallery if you must, but that kind of thing is just going to scare away the majority of females. When it comes to messages I personally try to respond to every one (except the obvious exceptions of ones that just say 'open up ur PG for me....ur are so hot i wanna fuck you' etc. etc.). Don't be generic in your messages and try to make it something memorable because a lot of people on here talk to many people at once and you need to make sure that you stick in your mind for something. Be polite and funny, but not too eager. Other than that it really depends on the person. If they don't tick off my boxes for what i'm looking for i probably won't waste my time besides a simple 'thanks for the message but you're not what i'm looking for at the moment.' As was already said, a lot of people are lazy and won't even be bothered with that. That's life!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  It's very rare that I don't answer a flirt or message but there are times when I get frustrated with the whole thing.  Flirts in particular because they only have set responses which are pretty crap and usually none of them suits what I really want to say.  Messages are better but then I guess you have to have the guts to say thanks but no thanks, when we first started on this site I had a real problem saying that as I didn't want to hurt anyones feelings... now after a few unfortunate experiences I'm alot more ruthless but still try to be diplomatic and non hurtful.  So to all those out there who don't reply, please think about it and even if it's literally thanks but no thanks at least you put ppl out of their misery.   happy hunting in 2010 K

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