megz85g

megz85g

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Validations

February 07 2017

Do you normally leave a validation after meeting with someone? I tend to, although the dozen plus guys I've met off here not one has left one for me- should i take it i'm a dud root

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Because I can't be bothered lol - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    How funny this question is asked today..... Last week I was told I needed to be validated, today as my pg has a few pics from my adventures (no faces etc) to help prove I'm real I got roasted and shutdown for not being private enough, right on the verge of hooking up. I think I might ask for a coffee validation, as Summer_In_Sydney (SIN?) Said maybe a non sexual validation. It's not something I look for, but being a guy, we do need to stand out a bit I guess. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • DynamicCouple36

    DynamicCouple36

    8 years ago

    We prefer not to "advertise" whom we have met with, even if it's just for drinks. As such we delete any validations that we receive. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    We never do and ask that couples that we are with don't either. Some things don't need to be made public

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    8 years ago

    What they said. Validations typically read to me... like someone is seeking advertising. And who wants to advertise like some DNA footprint of who and where they've been. They're not dated, so who really knows how long ago they were written. So many of the authors aren't even on the site anymore. One person has more than 50, mostly sexual in theme. That all seems like very insecure behaviour to me.....like waving some kind of flag around to advertise their worthiness to convince others. But if you're bedding that many from here alone, how many repeat opportunities can you be taking??!! Best to live your life, and not advertise it, I feel. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I think it's a good thing, for me it's simply a way of telling the redhotpie community your are REAL and you are as your profile indicates ! I like to see people's profiles with validations , there obviously having tons of fun and enjoying there experiences on here! Even if you are a DUD root , they can always lie 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    8 years ago

    RHP is known to a majority of men as a quick root, I need to to empty my bulging sacks below my love shaft and drain my luscious cum....... coz she will just devour me, coz why wouldn't she? I don't think they want to be seen as a root rat. Just Sayin in my most humble opinion. 🙄 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    8 years ago

    ...like in 1879 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • megz85g

    megz85g

    8 years ago

    I'm not fussed either way, and definitely not going to go asking, but I do admit if I see someone has had them left I've have a peek - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    When the guy in question was worth it. If I know someone who is a nice person, good company, treats me well and weve had a great time sexually then I like to leave a validation because I just want to get it out there that this guy is totally worth your time. Its never explicit because I dont see the need. But I like the idea of validating people. You know who is genuine.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    in a previous incarnation on here, a woman left a validation on my profile, and I asked her if she wanted me to do the same. "God no", was her response. "The last thing I want to do is attract MORE attention on here!"

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I won't write one ;) I have tended to write them for single men I've played with, exceptional men that is ;) I think as a single man how else do you 'prove' you're a decent bloke :) I actually hate the generic choices for validations, I write my own, trying not to be overly explicit. And OP, it doesn't mean you're a dud root coz you don't have any. I think many people just shy away from them :) Mary xx

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    8 years ago

    I hardly gave any validation unless he was really worth it, back in the day anyway. I personally do not see the point for having a validation or validations on my profile. I know what I have to offer and do not need others' words to advertise for me on my profile! 😁 There are many reasons why people don't leave you a validation, megz85g, and one of those reasons is Guest members do not have the access to write one if they aren't a paid member. So, do not take it personal or doubt about yourself megz85g! That is self doubt and it's unnecessary! Beauty doesn't just show on our face, it comes from within ourselves too and that is far more important! Chins up, enjoy your RHP journey and don't worry about having validations or not! 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I don't have any, doesn't worry me at all - enough people from here have met me to know I'm real :) I also wouldn't publish any that were sexual - like Summer, I don't want everyone knowing my business ;) I would happily validate a friend who asked, but only non sexual stuffs.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    You must be verified.... How many men do that?? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    It's tricky, as I'd love everyone to know by return what a great guy I am, and my sexual prowess etc etc. But... nah. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Bodhi8

    Bodhi8

    8 years ago

    Agree with summerinsydney and notabormalcouple. I haven't seen anyone write anything negative about someone sexually so seems a bit pointless when it's just all positive? Plus people can be turned on and connect differently to different people, chemistry. Validations that someone is ok personality and social wise however i think can be ok. Having said all that I haven't met anyone who's mucked me around or been weird on meeting. Everyone has been pretty chilled and friendly. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...unless they are simply of a personal nature. The rest would be totally subjective and two people can click or they won't regardless of any validation. Tried it on but the results were shocking...61% said great fun, 34% said would do it again and the other 5% we just down right a pack of bloody liars. I'm actually kind of cute in a ''man cave'' way and no I did not take them to McDonalds. I'm strictly and Hungry Jacks man and tried to feed them the Whopper!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I reckon if you're here for the social aspect that many peeps reckon RHP is supposed to be in the "Attached" thread, then you'll leave validations as to a person or couples character. No validation may mean poor social skills, poor personal hygiene, they lack respect. Validation at least means they're real, can hold a conversation, and probably don't smell like pole cats. One persons "dud root" is someone else's careful lover. An "enthusiastic lover, ls wham bam, thank you ma'am" I hope if you've made my acquaintance, you'll say I'm the affable, attentive bloke I hope I am and they've enjoyed my company! I won't be at any gang bangs or bukkaki sessions I can tell you that! MD4 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    They are open to misuse and some ask what they want written. Whether you are a good root or a dud, it's a personal point of view and one person's top fuck can be mediocre with someone else. So we all know how to fuck but why let everyone know who you have fucked. But each to their own. I've never wanted to be with someone because of a validation but l have NOT wanted to go there after I've seen whom they have been with.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    The only way we would ever write a validation is if we thought that one (or both) of the individuals were acting weird, dangerous or showing no respect to our boundaries. Thankfully that has not happened to us yet.

  • dirtydomtradie

    dirtydomtradie

    8 years ago

    I highly doubt tour a dud root - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Their a bit like "likes" aren't they ? Pompous vain, and meaningless.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Just a bunch of shit..... No one is ever going to write "yeah I met this cunt, shit stain down his leg, cheesey smell underpinning the cologne..." Are they really?? If they do no one will post it on their profile.... So it's all about blowing sunshine up other people's arses... And the men that give validations there are more than likely only 2 motivators.... 1. To brag. 2. To encourage an invite back, seeing they've given a glowing validation when requested.... The only true way to tell if someone is genuine..... Is they meet you..... But most people are so concerned with just getting to their prince/princess, they forget that kissing toads are all part of the journey..... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Just read this post now - yeah some guys can't be bothered because of the verification. I leave validations because every real profile deserves a proper validation, whether or not you meet up with them again - I wish them the best. Each person has great qualities worth mentioning and once in a while, others will do the same back :) I hope you get with respectful guys. Even non-sexual validations are nice, just to know that you're not just a body and/or pretty face :P - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'that50zguy' Their a bit like "likes" aren't they ? Pompous vain, and meaningless. I liked your post

  • Starlet1

    Starlet1

    8 years ago

    Half of what makes this community work is the vetting system of trusted friends vouching for each other - it means our trust levels go from 0% to 50% when we see they've been with someone we know. Weve discovered we have similar tastes to some great friends of ours on this site... And everyone likes a metaphorical slap on the bum 'well played' after an energetic session - ourselves included 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I now have my first validation, and have also written one ;) Absolutely a friend and non sexual, but as a result of this thread Meagz :)

  • johnisfun3

    johnisfun3

    8 years ago

    Being a newbie to this site I thought validation meant that someone had met the person or couple and that they are real. I had a feeling there were plenty of fake profiles.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    The only time we would even consider leaving a validation would be if the couple we were with wasn't quite right. By that I mean that they wouldn't play respectfully or safely. I guess that would be more of a warning than a validation.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I don't know.....I've not read it and don't intend on doing so either - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Non-sexual here for me too. I've only ever written one and it was kind of ridiculous and over the top tbh. I did it as a bit of fun for someone I was seeing. But like Summer - I don't want my escapades all over here. That's my delicious memory to keep.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...kiss and tell. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Happyman10

    Happyman10

    8 years ago

    Dead root, yes, you said it 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Do you really need to boost your own ego like that. We know that this is an adult site, why do we have to know how many people you slept with. Think about it, no-one likes slops, unless of course you you like to swallow. Slops is for painting, not for publicising. Each to their own.

  • redy4fun

    redy4fun

    8 years ago

    I've had more than one woman/Cpl tell me the reason they contacted me was because I was validated and verified. Some guys have said its about showing off, well for me it's far from it. But if a woman or Cpl can determine I'm real and a decent guy, then I think it bodes well for both parties. Most validations I find are not specific rather they are suggestive. For me that's the key. And really this is after all RHP right? A little suggestive "he's a real guy with a cheeky side" doesn't put people off does it? OP I would think a courtesy if you had written one, one would be returned. But that's just me. Takes all types doesn't it, and all tastes :). redy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I once asked people not to leave them but I got a bit annoyed with people constantly assuming my profile is fake, so I've asked a few to write some words for me in the hope this might stop. I leave validations for people I see if they would like them and I find them to be nice people who are good fun. Personally I am more likely to speak with a person/ couple who has a validation or two, if someone has taken the time to leave a validation that someone is nice and good sexually then that's helpful to me. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    8 years ago

    I never leave a validation and when asked from playmates if I'd like one from them after our adventure; always a no thanks. I also don't like everyone knowing how many or whom I'm spending time with. I also find the multiple or sometimes quite excessive number of validations on people's profiles to be rather off putting. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    For people you've slept with. I left one for a girl once and she got harassed by a guy who basically said 'well you slept with him you should sleep with me' I think a simple "I've met this person and they're very genuine" etc is good but other than that I don't leave them anymore. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I feel more comfortable seeing and reading profiles being validated but you only need 1 or 2. Anymore I don't think is necessary we all say similar things in validations anyways. It's reassuring that the person/couple are genuine in meeting up and they have before. There are a lot of 'window shoppers' on here... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I was asked to leave a validation by someone I met and you have to verify your account first. You cannot do this on mobile app or mobile browser, and I do not have read access to a PC (at least one im able to access dating sites on!). The whole process was very painful and took about a week to get my account sorted. Seemed like overkill seeing as they had already verified my email, phone, had my credit card details and had been liaising back and forward with the support desk. So the good news is my account is officially 'verified' and now we both have one validation entry. I think one validation is sufficient; it says you are real, without advertising the notches on your bedpost. I feel more confident with profiles with a validation but then again it's pretty easy to put fake info up so who knows - take it with a grain of salt and do your own due dilligence in screening them and staying safe - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Each to their own. It seems that validations frustrate some people. Openminded now.......that wasnt very nice. Meeting good people is a bonus on here. I think they deserve a validation.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I would ever use one of those stupid templates, and profiles where they only have template validations are ones to maybe be wary of - Posted from rhpmobile

  • casanovastudd

    casanovastudd

    8 years ago

    ...are so over rated.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    It's like having a favourite restaurant. Do you really want to tell everyone and make it hard to get a table? I am also yet to see a validation left by a guy that didn't make me cringe a little. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Bazingal

    Bazingal

    8 years ago

    and have written a few. I prefer them to be of a non sexual nature, more so an acknowledgement that the person is real and worth the time to meet. Not everyone on my friends list or validations is a lover. Nor are all my lovers listed on my friends list or validations.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    You're browsing through profiles....come across a profile you like, but isn't validated...ok you pass on it...can't be too careful these days right?? Stranger danger mr Will Robinson... Then.... You come across a profile you like, but this one IS validated. By accepting that validation, without being able to check the credibility of the validator....you're essentially contacting a profile without a validation....essentially you're taking the words of a stranger at face value lol So why do they even matter if you need to take a stranger at face value to an extent??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I had 3 at one stage.... Never changed the amount of attention I received on its own.... Didn't convert views to contact either... Lol - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Be honest....your goal isn't to verify someone is real.....you big fibbers.... It's to avoid disappointment....plain and simple....nothing wrong with that.... Guys....here's how to fuck that up for them. We all know it doesn't cost anything to sign up to RHP...or to be verified... So get ya bff woman friend to join, verify herself, then write your profile, complete with fake pictures a validation... Then they can't not interact with you....you're real in their eyes, and therefore avoided their disappointment!!!! ;) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    It should make no difference if you have slept with one or 500 as long as you are happy with what you are doing . People always read between the lines no matter what you do.

  • nma87

    nma87

    8 years ago

    yes most definitely not sure how long everyone's been on here for but i think a few show your legit - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    It would seem to me, it's pretty clear, that I, who validate, is keen on others with validation. I see them as nice, warm tasty fruity pie, with soft and creamy vanilla ice-cream. Maybe even cookies and cream ice-cream, or chocolate bavarian. So the ones who are anti-validation, are pretty hard core, red hot pie types, not there for the whole experience. Eating red hot pie, is not an experience, unless you count burning the roof of your mouth an experience, which it is, and a painful one at that. All you taste with red hot stuff, is hot. So, for me to get the full rounded creamy, fruity flavoursome experience, I'll just seek out the validated ladies, and carry on valiantly! Easy as pie! MD4 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Machariel

    Machariel

    8 years ago

    🤔 I should get My get my finger out and get myself a validated..... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Interesting observations and judgements. I like a validation to show how genuine a profile is. Profiles that have not been verified cannot leave validations. They can receive them though. If a single guy receives a validation he might not bother to get his profile verfified. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I take no notice of validations, because we all have differing opinions. One person will think someone is a hot fuck; I might think, after meeting, that they aren't all that. So, I ignore validations, they don't mean jack.

  • ajaussie

    ajaussie

    8 years ago

    I think......single men like me are judged by looks only....I had luck with playing with one couple and they liked my company a lot.....I think a validation will have some impression on my profile that I am real, respectful and good in what i do....Cheers AJ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    MY 85 GUYS HAVE ALL BEEN MAJOR DUDS LOL FOUND 1 NOW AND IM NOT GIVING HIM UP LOL

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Noticed not everyone is into accepting or giving validations. I think validations prove you are real on a site that is riddled with fakes and time wasters. I understand your feeling bad about not being validated. I feel it's rude for someone to accept your validation and not return the gesture. Yes, unfortunately it happens all the time :( Don't take it personally. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Agree with most so far.Why advertise yourself if your comfortable within yourself. I deleted all my friends also that I've meet and shared quality time with not because I don't like them, More so due to there and my privacy.. The people who you know and are there for you don't need to be published for all to see. They have my details or can contact me via a personal message. Less is more.Privacy is sacred.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Good people are worth a validation. I love the friends and lovers Ive made on this site and would not hesitate to validate any of them. My opinion of course but Im sticking to it. Im not too keen on explicit ones but ones that say you are genuine and worth getting to know. And Ive met a few xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Hahaha you crack me up 😂 You live up to your validations 😍 so there's gotta be some truth to them, whether people think they're crap or not. Maybe people just don't give enough value either to the other person, themselves or both. I write them when credit is due - help people out on here and get them to stay in the scene if they're cool. It's then up to them if they wanna stay connected. I meet some decent guys, who are respectful even if it only turns out to be a one time thing. If they are weirdos (that look nothing like their photos anymore and something not quite right, but still harmless) then I leave asap and don't spend another moment on them. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    We don't have validations nor have we validated ... in the scheme of things I agree with most ... I don't want people knowing who and when we been with others and we really don't wish to know who others have been with. Am inclined to also say that we have also been turned off "people" when we know who they have been with! Would prefer not to know. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Personally, I think validations are tacky. I knew a lady from this site who thought validations were so grubby she wouldn't respond or contact anyone who had validations on profile. The truth is, most women don't really like it if you're seeing other women. Best not to throw it in their face and keep it to yourself.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I'm only a premium member, and I tried to give a validation for a lovely lady, who was absolutely just that, lovely... But I couldn't, I had to be verified... 😆 hahaha, So how does that work exactly. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • GingerNinjer

    GingerNinjer

    8 years ago

    Possibly a dud .... If you allefedly hook up with a dozen then why not one valudation??? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Verification is easy 😊 On the right hand side of your home page (desktop version, not mobile app) under Customer Service there is a list of things you can do. Verify my profile is one of those options. RHP will send you the instructions, with a code - you need to take a selfie holding a piece of paper with that code on it. 👍

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    i think Validations are a way to know who is reall and i do not know why it coming out in big letter lol and i like all of my

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'nsafun0727' We don't have validations nor have we validated ... in the scheme of things I agree with most ... I don't want people knowing who and when we been with others and we really don't wish to know who others have been with. Am inclined to also say that we have also been turned off "people" when we know who they have been with! Would prefer not to know. - Posted from rhpmobile I feel the same and not because I'm worried them being with other poeple, I course i want them to be, but who they've been with can be a massive turn off

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    typos. I've commented on these topics about validations before but to me they're like a report card. I don't need or want to display a running report of me as a person, they can find out themselves. I'm secure enough in myself that the only validation I need is for my partners to be happy with me, and want to see me again, and again, and again. Most of my long term buddies haven't even been displayed as friends, let alone with validations. I actually like keeping some of them under the radar. A few had shit pictures, but they were really hot in the flesh, I did offer to help them advertise themselves better, take better pictures etc., but they were happy as they were, and on a selfish level, suited me because I got to see them more lol no flies on me but the inference that people are fake because they don't feel the need to have a report card, is ridiculous

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...I'm a little surprised at the judgement. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    And vice versa. I have met with people who were validated and were suggested to me to know what they was doing. On meeting up with said people, they just were not for me. So now I don't bother reading validations and trust my own judgement, but that's just me. I have deleted validations written for me because I don't like to advertise who I've been with, and have written validations to guys I thought were deserving. It's up to them if they want to keep it or discard it but I think it helps a single guy more, to have a validation or two, than it would a woman. (We get enough attention even if we put up a pic of our little toe lol) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    they *were, not was 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    validations are an invasion of your privacy they give people the right to know who u have meet ..I had a profile before and had 10 validations I deleted my after woman I new had stalked my profile as they found it hard people guys off rhp ..so now I think its better just to add people to your friends no need for people to know how good someone is or that you have meet then even if its a 5 min meet and greet haha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Seriously if you need a validation to help get you laid theres a problem. 99% of validations I have read are some of the funniest shit you'll see on dating sites, do yourself a favor and just don't write them period. "OMG what an amazing woman. Respectful, sexy and mind blowing fun. Our smiles tell a thousand words of absolute pleasure had by all. We can not wait for more wet and wild times with this sexy unicorn" "For all you horny ladies ... this woman is a very sexy, horny, generous and skilled lover who will leave your body tingling ... wanting more sexytime with he" "WOW! This lady is amazing. Had the pleasure of spending a filthy, hot and horny afternoon with her. Certainly knows her way around a females anatomy, we held absolutely nothing back. A must for all you horny ladies out there." I mean c'mon....do your egos really require this kind of boost? =)