M52
Validations? Are they in the same basket as a friends list ??
January 09 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Bigocean, you and Mes are on the same wavelength! Yes, I judge a profile by the number of friends and validations. And I never send or accept friends requests.... unless I have met and liked them!
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
It's so easy to pick up friends, and validations, on this site and others, even if it's from people one has never met. We receive a lot of friend requests and also validation requests from people we have never met nor chatted to. What's the point? We don't want to validate someone we have never met as that would be against the whole point of it. The same applies to friend requests. That said people do judge one by the friends one has on here. We therefore find it better to not show our friends but to rather play our cards close to our chests as it were. - Posted from rhpmobile
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blond_gypsy
11 years ago
With the perils of women's profiles I'm usually looking for signs of a genuine person, followed by signs of a non-timewasting person. Unfortunately this gets more and more unlikely as the women get hotter. 1. Is the profile verified (she's real!) 2. Does she have validations (she shows up!) If she's supermodel hot and super interested in you you're probably talking to a bloke in Estonia who wants your credit-card details. And I like to think I do my duty in reporting these fuckheads, along with sending them my best voodoo curses in the hope they catch a bad case of genital warts.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can't stand getting friend requests from people I've never even spoken to, let alone met. All my friends I consider as friends (only got 3, poor me, lol). Some people have more friends on here than I have on FB. What is this, he who has the most friends wins? I have never validated anyone and I don't want to be validated. No one needs to know where I'm going or where I've been.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'looking4quality' What is this, he who has the most friends wins? That would be a certain green frog.
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RHP User
11 years ago
did you ask potential partners if have they any certification from a third party as to there suitability as a one nighter, fb, fwb whatever you prefer to call it, also did you ask them how many friends they have. More than likely not. Validations and friends on a website is a croc, particularly given re the amount of fake profiles on RHP. FFS you could write a validation about yourself, if you wanted to. Next topic pls...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have 51 on mine, all people I have, and still do, chat to regularly, I Skype a few, have met a few, all people I have taken a liking to or I wouldnt have accepted them as friends. I have drinks with some, went to a soccer match with one (I am a Perth Glory fan!) and yes, they are on my friends list for a reason. On the other hand, I get requests from people I have never chatted to before and dont know from Adam. Yes, I know what RHP is all about, but I think its good to also connect with people on other levels, and making a few friends along the way is always a good thing. It also helps to know that there are some lovely, genuine people on here...........Hi, Mes, I'm in!
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Covered it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hahaha, I'm thinking having a comp' to find the profile with the most 'friends' could be funny. Each to their own though. :-) . I/we went through the same phase of naivete early on after friend's lists became part of profiles on RHP. For a while I/we added any one who asked, because I/we wasn't/weren't too bothered, and thought it was just the thing to do. Then I/we went through a phase of tidying up regularly. After deleting my/our profiles a time or few, I/we refused to keep adding the same people unless they sent a request because I didn't like stuffing people around. I/we''ve had the honour of one couple revalidating our profiles over time. . I figure there's a lot going with friend's lists and making any one assumption would be failing to recognise that we are all different and do what we do for many different reasons. You know, the whole different strokes thing. . Peachy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I dont get why anyone would want to add a friend on request only. ? I need to have a chat and get a feeling about who I want to add. I could have a list that reads like a who's who if I accepted requests I've received since I joined a few years back. Over that time I've accepted only a handfull that caught my attention. In saying that, I check others friend lists because it paints a picture of what the person is all about and their likes. But then again, Im sure some add anyone and everyone... ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo'Hi, Mes, I'm in! Great work!
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RHP User
11 years ago
The more friends you have the more fridges/couches you have to move on the weekend! Think i have 2 friends .met 1 ,soon to meet the other... have not had sex with em they are just that.... Friends !I have to say... people read to much into this site ! You have been validated and people assume you have rooted all these validations.You have friends and people assume you have rooted them.You block people... people assume you rooted and booted them... Ugh....RHP the place of assumptions...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'looking4quality'What is this, he who has the most friends wins? The pleasant Kermy has 1277 friends and counting. Impressive! . *In best Chucky voice* Kizz, I'll be your friend till the end. Wanna plaaaaaay?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Being my friend might ruin your chances on here so I've been told.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's why you sent me a friends request .. so you can ruin my chances? Bwahahaha i do a good job at ruining my own chances so friends request accepted!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kizza1973' Think i have 2 friends .met 1 ,soon to meet the other...
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RHP User
11 years ago
And those with even half a brain know what Oscar (apparently) said about that assume word.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'cwhereitgoes'And those with even half a brain know what Oscar (apparently) said about that assume word..... "If you assume, leave me alone and get lost!"
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RHP User
11 years ago
Must of missed that Sesame episode
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RHP User
11 years ago
I always look at people's lists and validations to see the type of person one is attracted too ... People on my list I have meet and played with except for 2 of them .. 1 is a old FB before I joined Rhp - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hope you never curse me
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RHP User
11 years ago
Tuscan as my friend, she is the only one though, and that is because she truly is my friend.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mes.. you can be a nasty lil biatch sometimes.. tsk tsk BUT ' only when your man bashing.. Now before you start ? I say, I say' ' before you start... c'mere and giv'us some sugar...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Where the fuck did that come from? Just because you added an "a" to "bitch" and put a "" in there doesn't make it any funnier.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sad.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Paint Me next you will be validating me ! Jay me i recon most men here need regular panel beating by the women!That's why there are 100 men to 1 woman ration here.Some men just don't know how to interact with women.Women should be treated with how you treat you mum, sister or granny ,not as an object for sugar or sexual satisfaction. Mes and paint me old buddy's old pal's.... remember we getting pissed this coming Saturday
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is life that serious you need to be on guard for every single comment.. really ' you must be prepared to get some back if you like dishing it out.. ? Anyway, I enjoy the sparring... You're always good for a bite...
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RHP User
11 years ago
As much as I love and respect any woman . I treat them equal, not superior. That's where we are different here. Where you might like to say the things you think they like to hear, I tend to say it as it is, which is not as popular . But' and to put one thing straight. No one is more respectful of any woman than me. I'm really old fashion when it comes to women and manners etc, As far as saying I treat women like sex objects , that is generalising and way off kilter.
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RHP User
11 years ago
misojyny
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' No one is more respectful of any woman than me. We've noticed.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I treat people how i expect to be treated. I don't put anyone one above anyone else ,i think we are all equalIf people don't agree that's fine! I don't impose my beliefs on anyone,Or think women are superior!Think your reading to much into my reply,you should read it again ! Im glad drinks night is here next week i need a stiff drink !
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RHP User
11 years ago
You know how you can tell when someone is not respectful to women... It's the ones that have to keep justifying their actions and comments.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The conflict between me Mes, and Meeka go back long way, long before you come along. The best way to keep on side is to just suck up' and I dont do that , so that makes me a target for just about anything. Not really that phased by it because there are far more less vindictive women on RHP than not. But these 2 keep me entertained and I know they get a smile from me occassionly but would never admit it.. hehe.. Oh, I did read your comment again.. and no, I didnt miss read at all.. peace brother... Mes, sarcasim becomes you... lighten up a lil... Meek.. Justify ?? I say it as it is.. you should know that by now.. Cmon' now' big hugz with lots and lots of sloppy moments .. after all' 2014 is my year.. Oh when the saints, go marching in...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Kizza was on these forums way before I was.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Still choking my chook with old faithful bwahhaha!
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RHP User
11 years ago
And how would you know that Ms D ? You lil point scorer you... BTW, Your pic is nice , but you do have better... Uh ohh, I'm outta here...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why won't you let me validate you? . I was going to write you are refusing to bed me and I'll never get over it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' As much as I love and respect any woman . I treat them equal, not superior. That's where we are different here. Where you might like to say the things you think they like to hear, I tend to say it as it is, which is not as popular . You say it as you think it is. Big difference.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My Virgin validation being intact !
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RHP User
11 years ago
Man up Jay, you have been called up on your rudeness and disrespect, so take it like a man and apologise instead of reacting like a child. Just saying it like it is.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
opportunity knocks....
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Socsio
11 years ago
I wonder about the profiles that have validations from people that are not on their friends lists?Or They are person number 150 on their friends list, you would think if a person has given you a glowing reference they would have been rated higher on the list? Though I don't make judgement based on friends list or the validations..
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GezWouldGo
11 years ago
I don't do lists, friends, block, hot or otherwise. Who i've chatted, drank, flirted, fucked or whatever is mine and their business and not some random freak flipping through profiles.
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inspirit
11 years ago
I use to have a friends list though no more. It created a myriad of problems for me. Woman used it to gossip...
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inspirit
11 years ago
those of you who like too look friends lists give you a false sense of security.
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
Man up ? Apologise ? OMG.. . the things I write are usually in response to to comments from ppl like the one you just made.. If you or anyone don't like the come backs, don't put out .. Simple really.. You left me alone for ages, that's a good thing.. Leave well enough alone...
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RHP User
11 years ago
guessing is like poking holes in fresh air... you don't know me and it's OK not to want to.. ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I'm chatting to someone I'm happy to be their friend and as for validations I only validate people I've met and had the privaledge to get to know . Until recently I checked friends lists to see what type of people they like not to compare myself and validations to see what type of people they are . Now though I feel no need to check validations as i have witnessed ( and to be clear not by me ) a validation sent thanking for a great time when that was not the case just to keep the peace . So for me I will make my own decision on what type of person / people they are :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just can't bear to be ignored so they take the comments about others and pretend they are about them.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'pyrogirl1969' validations are to be used when you have actually met a person......i have never accepted a validation from a stranger.....and i always validate people as i have met them even before playing....so as not to tarnish my first impression with kiss and tell....the friends list is once again for those who have taken the time to meet and communicate with you.....not a fuckit list........not a string of pearls to collect to appear popular........with lots of friends and validations means a person is real and out there actively looking for other human interaction not just happy sitting at home on a computer.......i look at profiles with neither friends or validations and these days assume they are newbies or not real and definately not up to meeting...with my past experience of being stood up ....i totally disregard these profiles....
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RHP User
11 years ago
We have found friends lists are easy to make up..just sit in the chat room. Validations are a better way to rule out time wasters. If they have a few good validations, its a good sign they are real, and turn up, and don't have dramas when you DO meet. If they have access to face pics of BOTH people, and good validations, we are much more likely to message them for a meet :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not guessing anything Jay, and I don't need to know you to say what I did. Anyone who says, "I tell it like it is", actually means "I tell it as I perceive it". It's just simple fact. Everybody's reality is in fact just their particular perception of how things are, shaped by their experiences, values, culture etc., and therefore everybody's reality is different. Nobody can speak for everyone else, not even you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Speaking as a recent new member, I feel that the friends is reasonably meaningless, a bit like Likes on FB. Validations make a lot more sense however. Then again, I'm still keen to get off having zero RHP friends, but that's just a number stigma, and in no way a begging action ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't accept and don't send friend requests. Validations are helpful but prefer to make my own judgement of ppl when they talk to me via messages. If they want to judge me by my friends and validations, then probably not going to click. I'm a private person and like someone else said, prefer to keep my cards close. In saying that, when you do talk to me I am more than friendly and love to chat.
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AsingleguyWA
11 years ago
... as an extra check. Especially if the validation is from some one we know. Our own validations are only from people we have actually met (whether we have played or not). "Friends" are a different matter - as they could be people we would like to meet ... or have met ... so a "validated friend" is pretty secure. He might be the "gatekeeper" for us - but she definitely "hold's the key". Unfortunately there are too many time wasters out there - our time is precious and we do not wish to waste it. So we gather as much information as we can (friends, validations etc) and then when we start talking and/or meet up we all hopefully have a pretty good idea we will get on as friends (in the first place) and may be as "players" later on. That's just our thinking :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't have that same talent of already judging people I can't see , taste , hear , experience.. etc and I'm not talking about sex... ? I'm sure there's lots of ppl out there in RHP land who pass on good people because what they perceive they are. ? If you can , you are special and have a exceptional talent...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' you are special and have a exceptional talent... That's a lovely thing to say! She is and she does.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We,re all special... Just ask our mums... ?
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