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Validations.... a different angle
November 29 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
... how many of those validations are from people who are still on their friend's list. .
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inspirit
10 years ago
One - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
10 years ago
Validations mean nothing to me. My perception of a person can be very different. I have seen validations of a person and in my experience the person validating is a tool. Sometimes..Never believe everything you read. Just saying.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
1 is 1 too many
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RHP User
10 years ago
a couple of fake accounts on RHP and give myself some AWESOME validations?????I mean.. I RECKON I am n AWESOME fck... I thoroughly enjoy every damned sex sess I do.. even the ones I ONLY do myself on... I reckon therefore, I SHOULD be able to validate myself..
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RHP User
10 years ago
I believe you can only receive validations from profiles that have been verified. But I suppose you could validate yourself. Who says you can't love yourself? ;) To answer your question, OP, I feel that one or two is fine. Any more than that can be off-putting. I don't bother with reading validations these days. I have met guys with no validations who were great, and I have met guys with a validation and recommendations who did nothing for me. We all like different things. Although I must admit I have handed out validations to guys who I believed deserve it, to prove they are for real. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
10 years ago
Cavey, you can send yourself a flirt, put yourself on your own hotlist, which is great for the home feed, why not mention you are a great fck on your very own validation, make it saucy too. Mado Mado Tara xx
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novababy
10 years ago
but that is saying Im not a good person..... I believe I am, I try to be anyway
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RHP User
10 years ago
More than two are a turn-off for me, especially when they are of a sexual nature. I just want to know that someone is real. Whether they are a sex god or not I'll decide for myself, thank you.
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platinumblonde69
10 years ago
For me personally, validations have always been a huge turn off, especially if they are of a sexual nature. Just because someone is a great fuck with one person doesn't mean the same connection will happen with every single person they meet. I don't mind reading them if they say they are a great person etc, but once someone starts saying sexual comments, and theres a few of them, it becomes a meat market. I have two validations, both are not of a sexual nature, but I choose not to make them visible. Just because they think Im a nice person doesn't mean everyone does. I have always felt strongly about this topic. Im not a prude, but i prefer to make up my own mind about someone. Most guys who I have been in contact with who have had validations, I have not met. Why? Because they seem to think because they have validations sex is a sure thing and they totally big note themselves. eg. "Go read my validations. Im a great fuck." Plat
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RHP User
10 years ago
Validations don't make any difference in the decision to contact people.... So... It really matters not if they have 1, 2, or 50 validations. Unless you match the criteria with which they seek, you won't be selected... I thought even you would've known that DG.... :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
Sexual validations are a turn off. Yes most people call this a sex site, but some things should be kept private. I don't need to know who you have had sex with and whether you rocked their world or not. But for those people who are just here for sex, I guess they rely on other's reviews to have some idea of what the product is like before they try it out for themselves? You can't please everyone! 😉
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Circe
10 years ago
Huge turn off.
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Violetincredible
10 years ago
This has been covered. As I have said I love all my validations and all the beautiful people who went to the time and effort to write them - I'd live to have 100 beautiful friends who wrote them and I'd write them for them. And if someone judges me on my validations I really couldn't care less. Xxviolet
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6exxy
10 years ago
Every word, validation or verification means the world to us yet we have not even met this person face to face. The analysis of information on RHP is quite interesting and it does say a lot about each individual. However to respond to the op I don't even look at them. That is someone else's opioion and I need to see for myself.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just what you said. Also agree about the guys who message you and say "check my validations" as if it guarantees them a "yes, Ill shag you, you must be extraordinary in the sack". I have validated people, but not in a sexually graphic way, as Meander says, if youre a sex god it stays private. They are just meant as a validation of that person being genuine?Some of them ( eg he has a huge throbbing savage beast of a cock that can cum 20 times a night) are actually quite funny to read
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RHP User
10 years ago
Everything on the forums has been covered. Everything. ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its what I and they think at the time.. I always found validations a bit odd ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
More validations = More hook ups ? Someone ping the Oracle. Stats on this may already be available
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On_Safari
10 years ago
But each to their own. I like the ones not of a sexual nature, or not written in a manner that screams you're a fucking fuck machine you should try this one; and not all validations given are sexually based. Some people will validate others because the petson just happens to be genuine. Who would've thought?
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
Whats our root concern about the quantity of validations? (exclude the pun) We all want to ensure our naughty lil activities are done safely right?....yes sure we can protect ourselves and we should....But Do we subconsciously think that an individual who has had multiple multiples are a greater risk?......Sure the law of odds would suggest that to be the case wouldn't it?.....OR would it?.....would a person who has been in an ostensibly long term monogamous relationship present less risk once they broke up......OR would they present more risk?....why did they break up?...infidelity ?....was their unfaithful partner practicing safe sex?......We can not be sure that the member who has honestly displayed 30+ validations are more or less risk than someone who has none, thus it should not follow that we perceive this to be a safety issue........so if its not a safety issue - what is the problem with 30+ validations?......is that person just a SLUT?......I hope not that would make me one hell of a naughty slut......& fuck its been fucking fun too....(include the pun)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree, if they have more than a few it is a turn off. I don't give or accept validations. No one needs to know where I've been or where I intend going
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mine all say I'm frigid - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Unless it's a sex club, party event profile or even a gang bang/orgy profile..I understand that, but a person?? Nope a total turn off. Actually I've turned down several men for their valuations alone. I do have self pride. Foxy
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
Now thats a legitimate argument, i like it!!..And honestly brings me to ponder online privacy / data security...hmmm... OP privacy for the individual. A tick from me.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
When a profile says " I am discreet" and there's like over 5 valuations...Foxy
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
I've been off in a different playground, overseas where the pool of players is huge in comparison to here in Oz. There validations have value, they weed out the fakes and timewasters. I appreciated that, as here I use them the same way. I knew no-one and validations helped me decide who to meet. What was a bit odd was how graphic people got in their validations. But you know that doesn't bother me, because I'm not a slut shamer. For members of a sex site I can't help but feel the not so silent minority should look at the hypocrisy that comes from judging others for their exploits and whether or not they enjoyed themselves enough to want to either show their appreciation or to proudly wear the appreciation of others.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy'Actually I've turned down several men for their valuations alone. We talking market, fair or intrinsic?
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Tart_Du_Jour
10 years ago
Frankly I am great and the more people that know this and can back up my claim the better as I'm concerned. If people don't tell me how will I know what I'm worth? Self esteem is such a fickle shallow thing.
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RHP User
10 years ago
to be "validated" Once a RPH Member meets me, he'll know I am for real !!! In fact, I don't want to be "validated". Why announce my "private" activities to Members that I don't even know ? As far as I am concerned, "validations" aren't necessary. I take no notice of them. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'KiwiBred' 1 is 1 too many As in totally irrelevant - preference being to form an opinion without being influenced by anyone else's
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RHP User
10 years ago
considering the amount of people who piss and moan about people not turning up, I would assume anyone with a lot of validations has at least got the balls to show, they are obviously real and well each to their own about who likes who or which ones are the sex gods. I could care less how many validations people have and good on them if they can rack up a few, at least they are out there meeting people and living life instead of hovering behind the monitor.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Shit you meet some one, you fuck them, its all good, not perfect, but who am I kidding lets do that again. Nobody needs validations, no body believes validations. Fuck talk to me, or just look at me and Ill say you are ten times perfect A, just suck my dick and I am more than happy to say it was fun at the zoo. Remember I need my back scratched too. We all know that its way to small a world to be bragging about who knows who. God really I am but two kisses from you. That fucker totally pissed me off, yes my tongue is out but he keep rejecting my sneer (back stabbing bitch) finally I worked it out.
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rc_80
10 years ago
Well it seems we're fucked, with 14 validations. We've not had a sexual encounter with any of them.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67'Nobody needs validations, no body believes validations. ut he keep rejecting my sneer (back stabbing bitch) finally I worked it out. Wouldn't it be interesting.... if ALL validations were posted... not only the handpicked ones the profile owner thought were good PR.
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Violetincredible
10 years ago
Well they are half popular.... Why haven't they got 30 yet? They've been on here for a while!😉 lol And Mischievious lad if they have enough to pick and choose from then good luck to them- me I accept whatever people have been kind enough to put the time and effort into writing. Xxviolet
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RHP User
10 years ago
Good arguements from BOTH sides of the wall.. Do we? or don't we? BUT.. If someone gets bent out of shape because someone else said we "Fucked like a Volcano" ?? Would we REALLY want to be so shallow??ADVERTISING works!! THIS is why the Trillions of dollars each year are spent on it..Personally, I will NEVER enter a "Chickn treat" outlet EVER in my life.. because I HATE that fckn fat horrid stupid CHOOK!! But.. if I hear a girl is GREAT in bed.. Fck yeah.. I WANT that..
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Can't it just be between the individuals showing appreciation for each other? Yer the full blown sex ones are kinda off putting for some, me included.... BUT if it's well worded appreciation for the time spent together in appreaciation of each other, be it sexual, social or companionable WHY THE HELL NOT say thank you? Ok once it becomes a public validation it's there for all to see or all those who view your profile in depth and how often does that happen here really? 😏 Not everything has to be viewed as jaded, tacky or tasteless self-promotion. Sometimes it's just people expressing their enjoyment at having met you, enjoyed you or even just liking the person you are. I'm sure if your dinosaur, mermaid and rabbit could type they'd have validated you also DG and anyone else out there dubious as to the motivations behind such gestures.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Ahhhhh... but I wouldn't have accepted miss mermaid, miss t rex or miss bunnys validation. I just think they're like a fingerprint..... and Id rather not leave that kind of DNA all over the walls of RHP... and Im not overly interested in people covered in the advertised DNA of others. Just my view.... but I started the topic to observe the views of others. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think one or too and you know they are real and not wasting your time. I would only give then to people I would trust my best friend with.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
@DG fuck I always assumed that miss t rex and miss bunny were misters, that's why you didn't have validations from them and we all know mermaids don't give them... Sorry my bad, now I know....💋
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Just another perspective my friend.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
There's no DNA or fingerprints on this lil Wayward Angel dear. Just friendships made and valued. 😉
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RHP User
10 years ago
Too many is a turn off, but I'll tell you a secret like most of the ladies on here we dont 'surf' for ppl and validations etc, we are too busy returning messages and chattin.......
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have no need for validation. I shop therefore i am.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Being fairly new to the site, i actually like reading them on profiles im interested in. Yes, its someone elses opinion of the person and on their personal " encounter", but i still use it as a tool to learn a bit more about the person, and who they are attracted to. sometimes its shown that i dont think im up to their standard of women if their validations are all very hot ladies. and so i wont persue it.and that can also work the opposite, if i think the women are a bit... hmmm really? If they have a large amount of validations, i just assume they have been on here for several yrs, i dont judge them for having too many.i dont think of them as sluts.it doesnt turn me off them either.im sure in a few yrs time if im still on here, i will have a lot more. I have a couple on mine at the moment and i believe since having them on my profile,its actually shown ppl viewing my profile what and who i am attracted to. Yes call it advertising. But im happy with them being there. But i can totally understand the above reasons that some people are not wanting them, not giving them, and not wanting to read them. Its all a personal choice. So glad we are all different, or this place would get boring lol.
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RHP User
10 years ago
my opinion is that if you write a validation write it simple and don't say to much about the person and if your going to right be willing to wright one back to the other person ,,I noticed that with other profiles ,,who can say what your really like it all fun at the end of the day ..live laugh have fun xxx bunny
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RHP User
10 years ago
A validation I posted for a friend of mine convinced another RHPer who liked my forum posts to contact him because she valued my opinion. We're all friends now so it worked for us. I don't like the template ones or ones that say 'he/she shags like a minx' but something that says 'nice guy' 'respectful' 'lots of fun' tells me something about the person and will factor into my decision to either make or return contact. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am immediately turned off by validations with sexual connotations . Its like meeting up with all the person's ex partners and having them divulge every sexual and intimate experience they have had with the person you are interested in, without you asking for it. Too much information I think. If I want to know how a person is in the sack I will find out for myself.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have to agree with the minority here, validations can be off putting. I do have one myself and ever since it's been put up I have hardly got any interest. I guess as most people have been saying, the validation should be more about what the person is like as an individual, then how great they are bed. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Validations don't really worry me at all, I like to read them too...I don't have mine displayed because I personally don't see the need and I would agree with L4Q, I don't need everyone to know who or what I'm doing. I have a lovely friend who has plenty, and yes reading them convinced me to meet with him, really how can so many people be wrong....💋
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cutecouplewa
10 years ago
We don't care for validations one way or another. If they have some great, if not, that's fine too. We have talked to a lady on here before who wouldn't spend their time on us unless we were validated. That's fine if they're like that. Everyone has their own rules. But we're not some product. If you need a stranger to review another stranger before you'll talk to them then that's probably not the kind of person we'd be interested in. They're basically a way for us to tell if a profile is real or not. We don't put much stock into it past that.
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Ahhhhh... but I wouldn't have accepted miss mermaid, miss t rex or miss bunnys validation. I just think they're like a fingerprint..... and Id rather not leave that kind of DNA all over the walls of RHP... and Im not overly interested in people covered in the advertised DNA of others. Just my view.... but I started the topic to observe the views of others. DG and a good thing you did start the topic......its topics like this that give the members real value add....is it possible some or even just one of the 30+ validation members haven't fully considered their choices?...... Congratulations on being aware enough to raise the issue and smart enough to word it well.
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
Quoting 'Lovinit28' @DG fuck I always assumed that miss t rex and miss bunny were misters, that's why you didn't have validations from them and we all know mermaids don't give them... Sorry my bad, now I know....💋 I had another issue I was going to address above but(t) this butt completely distracted me....
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6exxy
10 years ago
Well said 😀
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RHP User
10 years ago
That new photo.....? I am lovinit! It makes me feel all bitey 😈
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have a couple but have never posted them. To me they're like a personal note written just for me , we don't need to share everything 😜
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abcplus1
10 years ago
Very off-putting is mostly how we view them. We're not prudes but we are not interested in someone who seems to sleep around with anyone, some validations seem to be just like a review/rating. Have seen some that go along the lines of "xyz was a great root, you should have sex with them". The person who actually wants that on their profile is probably not for us :-)
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
You say the sweetest things....😜
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't read them or even notice. What someone elses encounter may have been with a person is just that, their encounter. Mine is bound to be different.If someone was (having just looked a couple of them) a deviant in the bedroom or a pure gentleman..... al that may depend on chemistry of individuals and the mood they were in at the time. As for the number... well you have to be a verified member and a lot of people aren't. I would never think of giving a validation to be honest... that to me is a bit like kiss and tell. I have a number of people on a friends list, but 90% I've not got with in any way other than an on line chat. Variations, to my way of thinking are after you have met, an opportunity to recommend that person. That doesn't sit well in my head
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RHP User
10 years ago
lol I am a woman a real one and if I post a validation it because I have actually meet this person in real life ..u can say you have meet someone it doesn't mean that you have fuck or what you have done in the bedroom ...its up to every individual with who and what and how they validate or if they except it or not ..im here for a good time not a long time everyone has there own point of view with what ever they right about or talk about in life its all gossip and presumptions of that person or persons ..miss bunny born a miss lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
I never want any validations my reason being I don't think others need to know who I have met up with :) And if I read a profile - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
The best way to validate is simply in person ? No bull shit no hassles just a face to face meet regardless if you have sex or not! That's the only way to be sure. Just my thoughts anyway
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RHP User
10 years ago
Seems the general consensus is its a turn off by most except for those who have 50 hehe
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