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Validations - yay or nay?
August 07 2017
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Eiliethiya
7 years ago
Anyone here is a virgin...but I don't want to know someone's list of past lovers..and their opinions of how awesome he is in bed. The same way I don't like seeing "action" sex shots in a guy's profile...just seems sleazy to me. But that is MY opinion and how I feel about validations. And to totally contradict myself... validations have been good in the sense they've shown me where NOT to go! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
At least you know this person will turn up. I used to skip past people with a few validations when I joined....big mistake. You cant judge someone by a validation. Meet, then decide. I found that out, but I know a lot of people just dont like them.
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
The validations system is flawed ... Those that take them seriously aren't for me as their logic is too lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
As with everything on this site, each to their own ... but if I write a validation for someone I've met, I personally prefer to use my own words, rather than the standard validation templates available as I feel I'm more being genuine about what I'm saying about that person uniquely. I would hope if someone wanted to validate me, they would also do the same for me. Having been accused of being 'a fake' myself on this site, perhaps a validation might help me meet someone genuine. Who the hell knows how to meet someone genuine .. but again, that's another forum topic entirely 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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swingalingson
7 years ago
Validations help so much on one pure fact. That yes..... the person is real and they will show up. And I do not care if it was for sex. That is not my concern at all. Just the fact that they showed up for a drink or meet and that they are not picture collectors and no shows. So yes I love non sexual validations that are not regarded as kiss kiss and tell kindah validations. So I can confirm and validate Perthsocialites are real and have great events!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Validations about a person's sexual prowess mean nothing to me, and I take no notice of them. Fifty other people could have said someone is a fantastic lay, but that doesn't mean I'll end up thinking the same. I go by my own personal experiences, not other people's. I've also come across a few guys whose large numbers of validations have given them a sense of arrogance and entitlement, and that is a huge turn off for me (not saying all people with a lot of validations are like this). A couple of validations including non-sexual aspects can be useful in the overall vetting process, but they're down the list of things I pay attention to on a profile.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I don't care for the "so and so is a top root" type of validations, but they're nice to know someone else thinks the person isn't an arsehole, and it's more likely that they actually exist and are reasonably similar to who they say they are.
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
We personally don't like them and will not accept / allow anyone (that we have met on RHP) to validate us. It's like advertising who you have met and or slept / played with . Something we prefer to keep private. As a result, we avoid those with too many validations. Just our personal opinion & preference. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Freaky_Fun
7 years ago
It doesn't mean they'll show up, it just means they showed up twice out of the 50 times they were asked. Totally agree with LD, especially when the accompanying message says l should be stoked that a guy like him even messaged me, because of all his validations. Wtf. They don't mean shit when the person writing the validation has no standards to begin with and like Eilie they have definitely shown me where not to go. I don't need to know about your sex life, it's not high school. As for the event organiser type validations always good to know the party etc was a hit and the people that attend are respectable.
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RHP User
7 years ago
as others mentioned before...nobody is a virgin...but to me it's not a turn on seeing just how long of a line i would get into...non-sexual validations...fine...again, as others said, at least you know that the person is real...but reading other's story about how they fucked the bed apart, just takes the mystery away
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RHP User
7 years ago
For a good time call Sailbad 0407 $$$***
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RHP User
7 years ago
If we receive messages/chat to someone who has a validation, we feel instantly comfortable that that person/people are real and are in fact willing to meet. We also validate newcomers and guys that we have enjoyed meeting for this reason. I've said it before and I'll say it again, I see validations as compliments. Now I'd like to ad a story from a couple of years ago for those with the "bedpost" mentality....I met a guy at a swingers party who needed a lift back to his city hotel, and as I was going that way I offered. Much conversation flowed so when he invited me up on arrival I agreed....I won't kiss n tell but suffice to say I felt the need to validate him. I didn't bother as he already had close to 40! My point is that had I seen his profile first I probably wouldn't have gone there, but I'm very glad I did, and not only for sexual reasons. We caught up again the following night with other friends, and he is a true gentleman in all scenarios. I imagine if he lived in this state we would be friends, for many more reasons than sex! Don't judge a profile by validations, they simply show that the person/people are worth your time! Make your own judgement in person....
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swingalingson
7 years ago
is getting good. A lot is coming out. Just like a good lil forum should be.
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Sawadee
7 years ago
The reason I don't bother reading validations are because they mainly say same thing or give similar accolade's.. Plus no one has ever asked me to validate theirs.
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RHP User
7 years ago
No one ever asks for compliments either.... Haven't you ever enjoyed someones company that much, you wanted others to know? Yes women don't really need them, but perhaps some karmic thought may influence your own journey....
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RHP User
7 years ago
Some like to use validations as an advertising tool to let others know how good they are in the bedroom or how much fun they can be. I like validations as it's a little bit of confirmation that the person genuinely reflects the profile they have created in here and not posing to be something that they're not (eg: a male with a female's profile, someone married who's claiming to be single).
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MsJonesy
7 years ago
I can live without them. I have two, one which is a reflection of me as a whole person, one sent as a shit stir after a conversation about the terrible templates that are on offer for validation. To me they are like the Verification option ....... an interesting addition to the site but the decisions I make about meeting a person are never based on validations or verification.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'swingalingson' is getting good. A lot is coming out. Just like a good lil forum should be. And nobody has resorted to personal quibbles about other responses yet, #winning!!
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RHP User
7 years ago
I used to have a validation, about my personality and character. It disappeared when the person that made it left the site. Now, I just have to hope people can see from my written profile that I'm not an a***hole... But in all seriousness, you have to judge by what a validation actually says. If they talk about the character and integrity of the person, they aren't "bedpost notches" anymore than the friends list is. Also, given that from women's experiences, even men with great profiles can turn out to be self-absorbed abusive pricks, a validation of character can help show otherwise, especially of it's from friends or people you may know or know of.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Because *some people (often couples, groups and events) do value validations to help show who will turn up, who was respectful etc at play events, you create two profiles, perhaps one aimed at play events, and one aimed at longer term social networking or finding an ongoing fwb or partner etc. The problem is, no matter what you have in your profile - your validations, your friends, your list of interests, who you are seeking - some things will be a turn off for some, and a turn on for others.
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RHP User
7 years ago
One or two is a good thing to me shows the person is legit but too many is off putting. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
...and no thank you. I had a couple hanging on my profile for a while and had RHP remove them even though they were all quite nice and a bit personal. That said, it takes two to tango so even if one person says ''Hey what a top root''....the next may feel differently. It may just say ''Hey, wow, jearzus, oh my gawd...did I get lucky with this one''! Just sayin'...
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HotNightsGC
7 years ago
As a couple seeking other couples and singles, a positive validation is generally a good indication to us of a genuine profile. There's a lot of people who claim a lot of things in their profile but are somewhat disappointing in person eg. Personality, honesty and generally lacking charm or social skills. It wasn't until we stopped contacting non-verified or non validated people that we started having quality connections with others. Works for us 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
7 years ago
I've enjoyed the company of many.. but why do I need to tell everyone else when I know we're all different ? What's magic in the moment for me , may not hold the same magic for someone else..
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RHP User
7 years ago
Validations can only be published on a person's profile if that person approves them. Nothing like the ability to only publish your positive reviews....
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yay I say! Just enough to know someone is genuine and real. As I am. a guest, my good friend from the other side of the country validated my profile with a standard statement until I found time to verify my account....And thank you Dallas, for your kind words and I didn't even ask for them 💋xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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