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Validations...giving and receiving!
July 09 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
I personally find some of them a little off putting I have no issue if someone pops up a validation saying eg: " I met Johnwhite101 and he was great looking, funny, hygienic, looks likes his profile pics and we had a great time together etc etc" a generalization stating that he was real deal as portrayed in his profile is fine by me. Its when they are quite graphic and descriptive that I just move along. As much as some of these validations are interesting reading and some are quite flattering, I just find it way too much. I personally think that some things should stay between people and remain unwritten and being a somewhat private person, I would be horrified if someone wrote one about me. But that is just me and the world, is not run for my benefit.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mainly to say the people I met were the real deal, fun and reliable. Personally, validations wouldn't affect my decision to meet. I find too many (sexual) validations a turn-off though, as it screams "Look at how amazing I am/we are" to me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yep, exactly what Meander said :) I got a validation but deleted it for personal reasons. I don't meet up with people for the validations and don't need to see validations to meet up with people. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Personally if people wish to determine my "realness" from a validation; I'm not interested in them. I'm not going to waste time on waiting for them to double check all that I say. I understand they are favourable to some; but to me it's a sign their other vetting criteria are worthless; and it's just an easy out. Besides.....how many would believe a potentially "bribed" validation?? I use the word bribed quite loosely as I have a hard time believing that IF the meeting or interaction with said person being validate doesn't go well; would they still get a validation?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1
10 years ago
Thanks ladies, I feel the same, I don't need them or write them, just wanted others perspectives.Mary xx
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
They don't carry any weight with us. What is more important is that a profile is verified. At least then the chances of said profile being fake are less. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' Besides.....how many would believe a potentially "bribed" validation?? I use the word bribed quite loosely as I have a hard time believing that IF the meeting or interaction with said person being validate doesn't go well; would they still get a validation?? Of course I wouldn't validate someone if the meeting didn't go well. Define "bribed"? Quoting 'Sukki' Its when they are quite graphic and descriptive that I just move along. You must hate mine! It was written by a good friend and meant tongue-in-cheek, though absolutely true of course. I didn't even have to bribe him.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think they are a slippery slope! Lots of validations in couples profiles , to me seem like i'd just be a notch in the belt …..AND..this scene is SMALL, and if they have been validated by someone whom I know practices unsafe sex or has other troubling behaviour, I might think twice about meeting them…..and that is not fair to them. However one or two validations especially for single guys goes a long way to me assuming they are for real and will show up! I like to keep my personal life private, which includes those who I have met. I don't want someone telling everyone I am a great fuck etc I find that tacky. I validate myself on webcam chat, and you can meet my friends when we have parties :) I don't want or list any validations , I am very willing to call, or webcam etc before we meet .
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RHP User
10 years ago
The ones that just validate the person,say that they are real....but the ones that say ...don't miss a chance to hook up with Mr.Very Big Dick,he has lots of stamina and drilled me all night.....eww...and I am curious about people's friends lists,sometimes I look at who is on there and think...omg,you are friends with THAT person... Yep,judgemental friendless me :-) xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't care if someone has validations or not...although same as some others here I am a bit turned off if they have a string of sexual ones. I've never given a validation or asked for one. The one I have I was initially going to delete, but it's not sexual so I decided to just leave it.
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Hottie1
10 years ago
I appreciate you taking the time to respond lovely forumites. Apologies sir_stir, when I responded earlier I could only see the responses from some of the ladies. Mary xx
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
Yes, I do that too! I can't help but judge people on both their validations and their friends list. Too many of either and I'm not interested! And yes, I'll admit it, there are certain people on here that if I see them (or their validation) on somebody's profile, it's an instant "Next" from me again. Picky much? You betcha!
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RHP User
10 years ago
But of course I did go and have a sticky beak :-) You obviously have a very good friend who admires your assets and one could only hope for such a fabulous validation. (His a good friend) that is different, but like Qefenta said, its those validations where everyone at the meet f**** likes a pornstar (apparently) and the graphic descriptions sound like the playdate was the opening act for Cirque de Soleil Where is the mystery ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Won't let my validations come through. A friend wrote a funny one but I didn't get the chance to accept or reject. Very disappointing. On topic though, validations do nothing for me. I don't want them, give them or read them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I see them as more useful than not when it comes to deciding on who to message. I.e. you know they are genuine about meeting people and not just looking for a bit of attention - Posted from rhpmobile
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twowithnolimits
10 years ago
Isn't it interesting how judgmental people on adult sites are, the whole country judges them for being here, and for the most part they say others don't have the right to judge them, then in turn they judge the members here LOL Too many validations, not enough validations, to explicit validations, too flattering, narcissistic.... why not accept them for what they are just one more piece of information like your interests lists and your profile text like your fetish list etc use it as you will , but don't raise it as yet another issue for divisiveness in our community.. god knows there is enough to handle with your family, bosses, workmates, the general public food for thought.. 1. duality.. for e.g. (nothing personal DC....) you can put up a cleavage pic and tell a million members you have delicious curves which is fine but if one member says you are a delicious fuck it's tacky.... perhaps we are experiencing the subtleties of the cultural obsession with image over substance? 2. if someone says in their profile "He says she is...insert positive validation here" and "She says he is...insert valedictory-statement here" which may well be very similar to what someone else says about him or her in a validation would you ignore that profile due to its sexual tackiness or does it only become tacky if someone says it about you (independent validation) rather than you saying it about yourself. Same comments, same profile should engender same rejection right? Some days i just love playing devils advocate
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'twowithnolimits' Isn't it interesting how judgmental people on adult sites are, the whole country judges them for being here, and for the most part they say others don't have the right to judge them, then in turn they judge the members here Why do I feel you're judging me for being judgemental?
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twowithnolimits
10 years ago
lmao it's called turning up the heat
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RHP User
10 years ago
Picture this.... You get to a meet; all seems a bit meh from the woman and decides it's a no go. Nothing wrong with that until male takes a bit of a dig as he doesn't handle rejection well.... Validation iminent??? I doubt it. ............. Scenario #2. All goes the same; but this time said male doesn't respond in a passive aggressive dig..... Validation affirmative. ............. So my point being validations only affect positive interactions.... Not ALL interactions..... Secondly.... Who's going to write "well he's a great guy/girl but I never fucked em!" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'twowithnolimits' Isn't it interesting how judgmental people on adult sites are, the whole country judges them for being here, and for the most part they say others don't have the right to judge them, then in turn they judge the members here LOL Too many validations, not enough validations, to explicit validations, too flattering, narcissistic.... why not accept them for what they are just one more piece of information like your interests lists and your profile text like your fetish list etc use it as you will , but don't raise it as yet another issue for divisiveness in our community.. god knows there is enough to handle with your family, bosses, workmates, the general public food for thought.. 1. duality.. for e.g. (nothing personal DC....) you can put up a cleavage pic and tell a million members you have delicious curves which is fine but if one member says you are a delicious fuck it's tacky.... perhaps we are experiencing the subtleties of the cultural obsession with image over substance? 2. if someone says in their profile "He says she is...insert positive validation here" and "She says he is...insert valedictory-statement here" which may well be very similar to what someone else says about him or her in a validation would you ignore that profile due to its sexual tackiness or does it only become tacky if someone says it about you (independent validation) rather than you saying it about yourself. Same comments, same profile should engender same rejection right? Some days i just love playing devils advocate None taken HOWEVER…saying I have delicious curves….is me owning ME…..validations are other people telling everyone I am "ok" - or telling everyone who I have fucked and how I was…..I don't need it or want it ..approval from others to impress who? I like myself, you should like me to that is enough for me
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Violetincredible
10 years ago
I look at them to see that the person is real and who their friends are. I think they are great and really appreciate the thought and time people who have validated me put into their validations. I find it really hard to word them correctly- and if someone went to the effort to do that for you they should be appreciated. Xxviolet
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well I certainly like your delicious curves, DC :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nobody has ever validated me! But then again I haven't rooted you all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
and usually ones I haven't slept with. I have met some really nice people and when we are constantly reading people whine about fake profiles, I figure it is nice to say I have at least met them, they are real and true to profile. Sex doesn't have to be mentioned.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't - it's merely someone's opinion! It wouldn't effect my decision in any way. Personally talking to someone, getting a feel of whether they are right for the situation they or you are being invited too, is far more intuitive. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Two with no limits,tell us what you really think:-) :-) xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' Who's going to write "well he's a great guy/girl but I never fucked em!" Pretty much what I did for Kizza!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have given one validation, partly because I wanted to see how it worked and also because I was happy to endorse the person. I look at the validations in conjunction with the friends list to see firstly if the person usually has contacts around the same age as myself, or not. I also am a bit wary if there is plethora of validations and horde of friends as I am concerned the person is more of a collector. PS Meeka, is that bunny tail attached or just delicately poised?
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' and usually ones I haven't slept with. I have met some really nice people and when we are constantly reading people whine about fake profiles, I figure it is nice to say I have at least met them, they are real and true to profile. Sex doesn't have to be mentioned. Still waiting for some fabulous validation (or at least an elephant stamp) that I exist after our meet and greet. coz you and Miss Blissbomb complete me....Lol (off topic) fin work to check on messages and forum. What happened to Kinkypussycat's post? Did she have enough takers? I would love to give her an elephant stomp. Hehehe. some of the men I was talking to started contacting her. Scratch them off my meet list. Lol. back on to topic.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well....where's mine ??? :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
In a world where so many people are fake or fail to follow through I look for them as proof as the pudding, especially if they're from a friend of a friend. I am not fond of the template validations though, bring some personality and imagination into it folks. I'm ambivalent around the sexual nature of a validation, it doesn't bother me at all. We've validated folks we've only socialised with but we also don't hand them out like candy. I believe along with verification they help point the way towards people who may actually end up as a match. I'm vibing with what twowithnolimits has had to say, why so much black and white thinking in such a colourful world?
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RHP User
10 years ago
They're a waste of time. People are people. Judge me on my blonde moments in the forums. Judge me on my pics. A validation won't make any of those seem more real or appealing or change someone's preferences. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' I'm ambivalent around the sexual nature of a validation, it doesn't bother me at all. We've validated folks we've only socialised with but we also don't hand them out like candy. This bit made me laugh: "Two lovely people in a wonderful relationship. Culturally astute with a non elitist disposition..." Awesome.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Not a fan. One of the great contradictions of people on RHP is that so many people seek to promote themselves as "discrete/discreet".... to somehow encourage people to lower their guard.... ........yet..... they use validations to advertise their alleged merit, showing all and sundry where they've been. Because they must first be vetted and approved by the profile owner... who can delete out the less-than-glowing-with-praise references.... they're heavily biased. IF.... people could be evaluated objectively through validations... maybe. Wouldn't we all love to read one that said..... "XYZ smelled like garlic and was 20 years, 20kg heavier and 20cm shorter than they claimed. Total fraud, and full of shit."
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Violetincredible
10 years ago
I don't think being discreet has anything to do with validations... My children don't see my profile. :) Xxviolet
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RHP User
10 years ago
actually thanked me for his validation I wrote for him because he had been getting a lot more attention than previous and was chatting to a few lovely ladies. I never slept with him but he was a very nice man and I am glad he got something out of it.
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Hottie1
10 years ago
Have enabled me to see validations in a different light. I have read some validations and what concerned me was those 'generic' comments available for RHPers to pick from. In my mind they read 'so and so is a great fuck' and the 'can't wait to meet and play again' is a bit like 'pick me. pick me'. I like the personal validations I give and receive after a play meet, however Ralf's perspectives give me another insight, for those single on this site it is beneficial. Twowithnolimits, you have hubbies vote, say it as it is, however I have wondered for a while whether to give validations, but I'll stick with my personal touch and message them personally, and get their name right! And I thought we all needed some stimulating discussion after the FIGJAM forum earlier in the week. Love Mary xx
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Two_Tarts
10 years ago
If you want to make a decision about who people are, what their values might be, and the worth to being their friends or not, maybe you should just communicate with them and find out for yourself. Make your own decision of people based on your own experience of them. A profile has a few words and a few pictures and the idea that anyone's identity, values, or worth, as a person should be judged on that alone is remarkably superficial. We absolutely believe in validations and verification as something that helps to paint a picture, but they are only words and need to be kept in perspective. The idea of to many friends or validations being a bad thing seems startlingly insecure and judgemental by people who are supposedly here with some common reason of being able to enjoy an environment which is more openminded than the everyday. We have lots of lovely friends that we have met through our three years on rhp and the many social functions that we attend. Most of them are people who we know socially. Some of them have been kind, brave, and sincere enough to say openly what they think of us for all to see. This does not embarrass us, it is not intended to impress or persuade you, and has more to do with us and them than it does about anyone else. That this in some way would be the basis for people to make negative judgements or assessments is a quite horrifying thought, but we are not going to delete them in the hope that less will in some way be more impressive to others. Be brave enough to get out there and meet people so that you can make up your own mind. Profiles are just a few words and pictures, and while they are anecessary starting point, if you make a definitive assesment just on the basis of that then you really are potentially doing an injustice to both yourself and others.
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Violetincredible
10 years ago
I totally agree with what you said. A lot of my validations mean a lot to me- they are from people I adore and I wouldn't delete them to impress anyone. So wish there was a like button. Xxviolet
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madotara69
10 years ago
Is about the only time we even think of validations. If we say that a friend validated us, it makes us look like fools, as when the members leave the site so does the validation. It is a bit annoying that our profile says we have not been validated, when we have. More so just a matter of principals to a glitch in the system that makes us look dishonest, say for these types of topics in the forums for example. Mado Tara xx
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On_Safari
10 years ago
And have two of those. One from a friend whoexperienced a few firsts whilst with me, the other from a couple who attended the last meet and greet drinks night I organised and one from a Lover whom I espoused many glowing qualities that he didn't possess (smirks) and considering he spent nearly 2yrs making love with me his validation kinda sux balls. (Shrugs) I wonder if he'd attempt a rewrite as time passes and he only then truly realises and maybe values and misses what he had with me. ~ Indy
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aldus1
10 years ago
I had 2 validations, totally unexpected at the time and unsolicited and I should add non sexual, I just took them as a nice compliment from 2 delightful friends who still remain good friends to this day.
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Tart_Du_Jour
10 years ago
Really, just a terrible human being all around. If I did have validations they would say something like "Tart is boring and smells like wee and I still haven't gotten my wallet back yet from her" Which I suppose would still appeal to a narrow demographic.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I dont want any, but I dont mind giving. I think you can validate without the overuse of "fucking" "cumming' etc, as these tend to read like an excerpt from a story in a porn mag. But if anything, they do confirm that the person is genuine and will meet, which is getting kinda rare......
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RHP User
10 years ago
- someone has a completed, well written profile. - they contribute to the forums/chat - attend meet and greets if they can and desire to How much more proof do you need to ascertain that someone is "REAL"?? A validation doesn't prove that they will turn up EVERYTIME; they only prove that they turned up that ONE time....... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' Well....where's mine ??? :p - Posted from rhpmobile Coming up!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Awww, you have to be a Verified Member in order to validate other members. I was going to write that you were a "nice guy but I never fucked him - although we did enjoy some great conversations while watching others root like rabbits!" .
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meeka you're a funny fucker :) Xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm happy to say you're a delicate flower. :-P
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nobody would be surprised with that Meander. It's true after all.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
When the term "the best things come in small packages" it had to be you....(breaks out in song) it gad to be youuuuu, I wandered around, all over town 'til I found youuuuuuu......~ Indy xx
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On_Safari
10 years ago
You've met me, whaddya reckon old cock? Given I was fragile...lol
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Tart_Du_Jour
10 years ago
Meeka has no comment on the state of wondrous odour. Harsh :(
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RHP User
10 years ago
Would you prefer Little Meeka Doll?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thumbelina is my preference. ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
No your bum doesn't look big in that!!! :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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abcplus1
10 years ago
Don't like them, just seems so not classy to have somebody's feedback rating or reference card attached to you. Also, there are some with so many validations that we choose to move along to the next profile based purely on that. Shallow perhaps, but multiple validations is actually a turn off for us. .
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PL1963
10 years ago
I think a lot of single ladies, especially "newbies" tend to check a guys profile & if he isn't validated & verified, they tend to walk, as they don't want to be the "Geuanie Pig". If person has a lot of friends & validations, perhaps they are NSA, meeting with NSA people. Cheers Paul.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Validations are very helpful , people with 100 friends and no validations are obviously not ready to meet .. this saves us a lot of time. Good feedback is green flag
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Swingingnudist
10 years ago
We organize parties and swingers weekends on the Sunshine Coast and use validations from time to time. A lot of couples aren't couples so a validation helps with people saying they have met the couple and played, then you know they are genuine couple and or not a single guy yada yada. The single guy validations are important for performance and reliability. The guys that do get invited to our parties need to able to play all night and not be a 'blow and go' type. The weekends we organize the guys who attend need to be able to perform all weekend so we choose the ones who have validations that they have 'got the runs on the board' So in answer to the question we do use validations but they are not the only means we use. Fin and Kally
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KISSINGwCOLOGNE
10 years ago
I totally agree with Sukki.To a validation is to confirm these people real and to comment on their personality, if a good time was had and keep it general. If people want to get into graphic detail put it in as an erotic story section of RHP leaving the names out.There is a time and place for graphic detail and when to hold back and show some class.
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twowithnolimits
10 years ago
For all those saying "too many validations puts us off".. What is the correct number of sexual liaisons that one should have on a swingers site? At what number or partners will you stop swinging yourselves because you have now been with too many people? Would you suddenly become some sort of ogre if all your partners ganged up and posted their validations of you?
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Violetincredible
10 years ago
My exhusband was horrified that I had slept with 2 people before him (he found there validations in the form of messages I'd kept) but he was high up in a catholic order... I wasn't expecting people to have the same prejudices on Rhp.... :( Xxviolet
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twowithnolimits
10 years ago
He thought you were a virgin, sorry but that is bordering on the incredulous these days...and high up in a catholic order, i am sure he would know better than expect there to be innocent people about ;-) Agreed it is unsettling when you are new to RHP and the like and discover prejudice, discrimination and intolerance, sadly it seems adult sites are subject to the vagaries of the wider sometimes hypocritical community.. Don;t ever let that stop you though
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cutecouplewa
10 years ago
They're basically an extra verification but by other members, not Rhp.
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PL1963
10 years ago
I agree, it's a bit like people in glass house shouldn't throw stones, since splitting with my ex of 32yrs, I plan to spend 5yrs meeting ladies and couples from different races and cultures, learning about the way they "tick" and then find the person I wish to settle down with for life, after making the mistake myself, I have urged my 18yr old son to do the same, atm he is with his high school "sweetheart", she is a great chick, but they both need to spread their wings before settling. I personally don't care how many partners somebody has had, it is all great experience and enhances the quality of the sex and relationship too. Cheers P.L.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just lol... So.... For those who haven't met me..... Am I real?? And..... For those who DO...... How can a someone be sure you didn't just "phone a friend" to be validated?? False economy of security. You can't prove I'm real; I can't prove you are real; and I can't prove the credibility of the validation that sits on your profile like a badge of honor. - Posted from rhpmobile
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
Who cares what anyone else thinks? So some people don't like validations full stop; some don't like too many validations; some don't like sexual validations.... We ALL have ways of vetting the people we wish to get to know better. What makes your criteria any more valid than mine? People in glass houses alright....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'twowithnolimits' For all those saying "too many validations puts us off".. What is the correct number of sexual liaisons that one should have on a swingers site? You don't really seem to approve of people's personal opinions, nor respect them. It's making you sound more judgemental then those admitting to it, in my opinion. If you were to ask how many validations would be to much for me personally, I'd say more than two if they were purely sexual.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'twowithnolimits' For all those saying "too many validations puts us off".. What is the correct number of sexual liaisons that one should have on a swingers site? You don't really seem to approve of people's personal opinions, nor respect them. It's making you sound more judgemental then those admitting to it, in my opinion. I don't know about others but for me, sexual liaisons and validations are two separate things. I don't care how many sexual experiences someone has, it's the public broadcasting of those experiences and who they were with that I find a little tacky.
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twowithnolimits
10 years ago
@meander re: judgement It called playing the devils advocate, if the irony of the discussion is lost on you then i guess you may perceive it as a subjective judgement re: validations then i note you are already half way there @luckdragon23 They are indeed separate i suspect that most do not get a validation from everyone they have been with... Similarly in many cases the lack of validations can be indicative of fake profiles, especially in the case of those couples where the women is always "elsewhere" or where the priority seems to be to view pics or cam sessions
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'AdventureTime' Validations are very helpful , people with 100 friends and no validations are obviously not ready to meet .. this saves us a lot of time. Good feedback is green flag Just curious, is this based on your experience that these people dont want to meet? does it matter whether there are 0, 10 or 100 friends and no validations? What about all the comments by other posters who said they dont want validations (who still got them) of any kind from anybody but still met with other people? Don't you think their experience is valid? Personally, I dont care much for validations and do not ask for any. Like some people here, the validations of the sexual kind is just a big turn-off for me.
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' You can't prove I'm real; I can't prove you are real; and I can't prove the credibility of the validation that sits on your profile like a badge of honor. - Posted from rhpmobile You are NOT real. Nobody can possibly be that evil...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm devilishly delicious..... Like sour cream and curds!!! :p PS.. I can't validate it's taste btw as that recipe hasn't been verified yet :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
@ twowithnolimits, I agree with LD. I am okay if a person has a few validations because it is good to see some "customer" feedback but when it starts getting about 6+, you have to wonder what is the point of having these additional validations on display other than an ego boost of showing that everyone loves you.
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Violetincredible
10 years ago
I have 6+ because absolutely gorgeous people who are my friends went to the effort of writing them unsolicited and it would feel horrible rejecting them just to impress people with my modesty. Xxviolet
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twowithnolimits
10 years ago
lmao one must first have 6+ validations to be in a position to demonstrate said modesty
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
Quoting 'Violetincredible' I have 6+ because absolutely gorgeous people who are my friends went to the effort of writing them unsolicited and it would feel horrible rejecting them just to impress people with my modesty. Xxviolet Plus it's been said before why on earth are people judgmental about what's tacky on a swinging site? Just being here makes you 'tacky' in the eyes 'normal society' so why bring anything but an open-mind to the table here? Are we all supposed to delete our profiles and start again once we hit X amount of encounters and friends so that other people can 'judge' us as being only slightly slutty? And yes I used the S word because I'm actually rather fond of it, and feel that jumping up and down when it's used is actually slut-shaming. As is judging people because of how many validations they may have and what is written in them.
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twowithnolimits
10 years ago
couldn't agree more, seems Australians for all their (new found sexual sophistication) 50 Shades of Grey, RHP etc are still not comfortable with frank sexual talk or language., although it does seem to be the only thig selling newspapers these days.... scratch below the surface and think you will still find a culture that says men with multiple partners are studs and don juans and women with multiple partners are sluts and skanks.... (and thats slut in a derogatory not affectionate way)
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' Just lol... So.... For those who haven't met me..... Am I real?? And..... For those who DO...... How can a someone be sure you didn't just "phone a friend" to be validated?? False economy of security. You can't prove I'm real; I can't prove you are real; and I can't prove the credibility of the validation that sits on your profile like a badge of honor. - Posted from rhpmobile Why did I read that as badge of horror? I really don't care if people have validations or not, and Stir is right - they can be from anyone (including yourself under a fake profile). I also don't care how many people have and I wouldn't make judgements about people based on the number of validations they have - so I agree with Paradise Pair and Twowithnolimits. To me, how many validations people have is a result of their personal acceptance of the validations, nothing else. I would rely on my own assessment of a person and how they interact with me online and in person. I have no idea who the person is, I have no idea of who the validator is, so why would I take what is for all intents an anonymous validation into consideration?
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Missb4u
10 years ago
I sit on the fence with this one and can't seem to move either way, I sway one way but then find myself being judgmental and swing back the other way... Hypocritical me what can I say at least I'm honest! I have written one validation. I totally meant it. I read some validations but not all and I have met people without reading their validations cause I don't always think they are important. . I haven't ever received one so I'm not sure what I would do with one if I did. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' Quoting 'ralf74' and usually ones I haven't slept with. I have met some really nice people and when we are constantly reading people whine about fake profiles, I figure it is nice to say I have at least met them, they are real and true to profile. Sex doesn't have to be mentioned. Still waiting for some fabulous validation (or at least an elephant stamp) that I exist after our meet and greet. coz you and Miss Blissbomb complete me....Lol (off topic) fin work to check on messages and forum. What happened to Kinkypussycat's post? Did she have enough takers? I would love to give her an elephant stomp. Hehehe. some of the men I was talking to started contacting her. Scratch them off my meet list. Lol. back on to topic. It never occurred to me to validate someone of the same sex! My bad! I feel very sexist now :(
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RHP User
10 years ago
Validations are important as is verification. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1
10 years ago
I love the discussions had so far and the points raised. As we (hubby and I) are relatively new to this site and swinging, I wanted to learn more about the 'etiquette' of this site. There was a thread not so long ago on verified profiles, and that helped me make some decisions about our own profile. This thread was aimed at furthering that knowledge and what I have learnt is that our personal values and experiences will dictate how we use this site and the information contained in it.I know I will continue to make my messages directly to our play mates, either through this site (personal messages) or via other means of communication (if we have exchanged numbers). I appreciate the time into responding and your thoughts. Mary xx
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DonnaBrett
10 years ago
We have left & received validations. The main advantage to them is that at least people reading a profile know straight up that the people in the profile are in fact real. With so many fakes, dreamers & time wasters on here that can only be a plus!
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