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February 20 2014

I have started dating a girl that has really swept me off my feet. She is beautiful, blue eyes, blonde hair, smoking body and a personality to match. Not that it is a huge defining problem, but the sex is very vanilla. Don't get me wrong - I love the intimacy and sensuality of slow love making. And the amount of sex we have is more than enough to keep me satisfied. But there are a couple alarm bells that go off in my mind. She is very self conscious about me doing things to please her, such as oral or making her cum after sex. And positions that expose her body (despite being close to perfect), make her uncomfortable and quick to revert back to missionary. I know communication is the key - but I am not exactly sure how to approach it. I don't want her thinking the sex is not enough. I had a similar predicament with my ex, and it took years to break down those barriers inhibiting her sexuality. I want some advice from women, or men who have been through a similar experience. This girl is really something special to me.

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  • Mr_MrsAraps

    Mr_MrsAraps

    11 years ago

    That it took years to break down those barriers with your ex. Is that something your up for again ?? What happens if for some reason that she can't get over those hang ups. Can you go for the next 5,10,20 years with vanilla or sex that is not satisfying or what you want? Can you handle the resentment that can grow if you just push it to one side and ignore it (from personal experience). At some point you have to explain to her (by the sounds of it you haven't yet) what exactly you enjoy. Those may freak her out or they could be something that she wants as well but was just too shy to say. Either way my theory is you should put your kink info on the table early in a relationship. I'm not talking on first date and scare her off, but it shouldn't be that someone has invested 1,2 years in a relationship only to find out ..... you like what WHAT !!! - Im out of here !!! Not having a go but just asking the questions Cheers, W.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If she's about your age , there's plenty of time to explore the many and varied avenues of sexual pleasure . She may have some self-confidence issues , if she's in her early twenties , it's quite common. She may have been a late starter. If she means so much to you , it shouldn't be a problem for you to commit to the journey of helping her break down her barriers . I can't help thinking that , as a young Male , you may have high expectations based on the fact that you may have seen a fair bit of Porn . If you take the time to Love and Honour her , you will be justly rewarded . Dont be impatient and end up regretting it . GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Beachlover1999

    Beachlover1999

    11 years ago

    Khezu a sexually journey can take years, some of us are awakened from a young age but fumble and bumble for a while. External factors such as religion, confidence, parental influence can impact on choice and desire. You need to talk, engage with her needs and desires, she may not know what they are yet and slowly progress..... Good luck ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Not sure why you would liken yourself to a cave dwelling hermaphrodite ...Khezu Anyway...how long have you been seeing her......is she younger.......what is her sexual experience......all these things could be influencing factors

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    sure as hell the second one can't be too difficult

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Let these words guide you both. Comfort. Trust. Masculinity. Inspiration. If she has, as you say... "swept you off your feet"...... there shouldn't BE any alarm bells, warning flags or reasons for concern. DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Let me answer your questions and correct some assumptions. My expectations aren't due to porn. I am fairly against mainstream porn. They are from experience, inside and outside of this site. And previous relationships i have had. I have been seeing her for about 6 weeks. And it takes a brain to sweep me off my feet, not a pussy - so, the sex isn't stopping me from liking her any more than I do. And the sex is great - but she is self conscious when it comes to feeling pleasure herself. In terms of experience all I know/have asked is that She has been in two long term relationships. I am not saying I want her acting like a pornstar. That is very far from the truth, (been there done that :P). I want her to feel comfortable about herself during sex - and help her in doing so, without making her feel insufficient. And believe me, she is more than enough!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    And DG, there is nothing perfect about what I find perfect.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I used to be a scared boring frigid thing in the sack. It took me over 6 months before I'd let my partner see me naked when we weren't having sex. Fast forward 10 years and he reckons I'm a nympho in the sack. You name it and we've tried it. Communication and honesty is what really works for us. Good luck mate. She sounds like the prefect chick - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    Would be, nothing you say will help her. It will come with time as she learns to trust you and actually believe that you do find her gorgeous and mentally stimulating as well as physically stimulating and satisfying. Actions will always speak far louder that any words you mutter. Don't rush it. Don't push her. Let it develop. Maybe your statement about "alarm bells" was a poor choice of words, but if you do have alarm bells I would be going slowly and sussing her out on any kink you are interested in. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If she's self conscious, build her up. Tell her she's beautiful/sexy/cute/whatever at every opportunity. BUT, dont say it just to get her to fuck the way you want her to. Build her up for no other reason than you wanting to make her love/like/appreciate herself as much as you do. If she feels like you're buttering her up for your own reasons she will shut down and you won't even get to broach the subject of breaking away from the vanilla.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Dude, give her some time. Younger women can be a little self concious. How about you give her a bit of time to get you know you better before you start talking about alarm bells. 6 weeks is nothing. Seriously!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Personally for me, knowing someone for 6 weeks is absolutely nothing. I have seen men for 3 months before I even bothered to tell them my real name!

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    11 years ago

    May I ask Khezu, how soon did you and girlfriend started having sex since you have only been dating for 6 weeks? Who initiated the sex, you or your girlfriend? How younger is your girlfriend? All these factors might contribute to her fear of opening up to you sexually and physically, because she doesn't really know you yet, yet you guys have already gone intimate! She might not even sure where would she stand in the relationship, and whether you're in it for real too. Just the day before the Valentine's Day, I heard on a radio station where they had this segment about a girl asked the radio DJ to help her find out if she and her boyfriend were officially dating, after they have been seeing each other for 3 months!!! So, for young age women (girls are those before they lost their virginity lol), security and trust play a big part in their relationship with their partners. And your girlfriend might be having this kind of insecurity??? I don't know her and I am not her, so I don't know for sure, but I suggest you start communicating with your girlfriend, at the right time though. I know you've asked for tips on how to make your girlfriend feel more relaxed about sex with you, but before you jump to that stage, I think you need to make communication with her first! That's the first step! :-) Good luck Khezu, remember good things come to those who are patient :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    @sweetgem she is not my girlfriend, we are simply dating. For me personally, I like to tick everything off the list before asking someone to be my girlfriend, sex included. We took a break from seeing each other for a few weeks whilst I was in France recently, but still talked every day. I know for a fact she speaks to other guys, and it doesn't bother me as she is not my girlfriend. I remember seeing a dating app called tinder on her phone - and it didn't phase me the slightest. No one initiated the sex, it happened quite organically and after the second date. As stated before - we are the same age and she has been in a couple long term relationships. Thanks for your advice. I know communication is key - and I think I have decided to approach it by setting up a very open and honest environment. And putting sex into the equation later on, when I feel she is ready.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    And for me, 3 months isn't long, at all. I don't need a label to know how to behave or treat a girl. And I take making it official very seriously. If I ask someone to be my girlfriend, it means I am in love and can see myself being happy with said person for a long, long time. And if you think about it logically - there really is nothing constructive about making it official after a few dates, as to what a lot of people do and see as being normal.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Dude, it was nice to meet you at the Sydney Meet & Greet. You come across as a very intelligent and sensitive young man. I'm sure this woman is quite amazing to have captured your interest. I also stumbled upon a piece of writing here which blew me away. Please feel free to come join us and share more of your words on the Poetry Slamming thread! I just checked out your profile and it didn't mention any kinks as such. Just how great a divide is it between your sexual interests and hers? I have an assumption I work on, in that people's histories are filled with all sorts of inhibiting factors, and wherever they are at, be it a boundary or a comfort zone, it is probably an act of bravery to go there with someone else. It may take a bit of winding back for you to meet her where she is at. My impression is that she may require deeper levels of intimacy to be established before opening up to becoming more explorative, and thought maybe Tantra would be one way of exploring deeper realms of intimacy and connection with her. I found myself in a situation where my FWB has BDSM interests whereas I have only a theoretical interest there. It played on my mind that after a while she may find my sexual company a little ordinary given her kinks and a liking for pain's sharp edge which takes her to ecstatic and expansive places. She calls it 'subspace'. How could I compete with that? Not one to be outdone, I wanted to see how far I could take her in the exact opposite direction, how deeply I could get her to go within and let go of absolutely everything through sensual touch and deep relaxation to reach expansive and ecstatic spaces. Being influenced by Tantric ideas, a 90 min very slow full body massage followed by a Yoni massage (google it) did exactly that. Maybe your partner would respond to a slower approach to feel deeper states of connection? I guess my point is that it's a different road to the same destination. Just a suggestion.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Khezu..... I had another guy ask me a kind if similar question a few weeks back. He didn't want to listen though, and sought to push it onto his woman instead of taking responsibility for his own input. You..... seem to be more intelligent and have significantly less of a self interested agenda. Refer back to the words I listed..... BE masculine.... lead like a Man and inspire her.... Use your voice, your presence, your masculinity.... Send me a PM if you'd like to know more.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    @unrushed1 thank you for your kind words and advice. My subscription to this site ends in March, I will still be here - but from a distance. I want to concentrate on my passions - other than sex. I wouldn't label myself as kinky, I have dabbled in almost all possibilities that sex can provide. Ffm, mmf, mmf(bi), bdsm, tantric sex, sex magic, couple swap, group, women older, women younger ... Just to name a few. I would not describe myself as kinky or a deviant. I am simply curious. And that curiosity has dwindled a lot since embarking on my journey about a year ago. I have met some special people who use sex as a tool to enhance their lives.. and some flakes who use sex to fill a hole that cannot be filled. I have decided to take the pieces of advice from everyone that fits into who I am, and what I see as right for my situation. Patience, masculinity and complete openness. @dg you are correct in what you say.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Let these words guide you both. Comfort. Trust. Masculinity. Inspiration. If she has, as you say... "swept you off your feet"...... there shouldn't BE any alarm bells, warning flags or reasons for concern. DG This irony here is that sex is not mills and boon like on the tv. Her head is not around what you want, here is the nice girl that all you guys marry and then wonder what the fuck , when you don't get the sex you want. Believe it or not, you having the nice vanilla sex, the intimate sex that we all thought was normal sex. And back in the day it probably was for most couples. You were lucky there to find an orgasm, especially from women. Now we have sites like this that say your not having normal sex unless your taking it up the bum , or having double penetration. life is not like that, its easy too go fuck strangers and have porn sex for ten minutes. you may never get the kind of sex you want from this woman, but you may get all the other things that make you happy. Nothing is perfect, there is no sexy goddess that cooks your meal, has your kids and then slips into latex and gets you to clamp her nipples while she swings of the shower and whistles Dixie. people on here are not where you look for answers kiddo, you ask her, that woman who is in your real life. your young, shut the computer and go to work on your relationship. As for us this is bullshit heaven kiddo if our sex lives were that good, would we be sitting here all day long? or trolling for wet pink bits or the mythical fwb? if your looking for rocking horse shit you came to the right place. as for her body image, Christ, have you ever read a woman's magazine all those pages of airbrushed women and diets?no wonder young women are so brainwashed about their body and there is still the double standards out there, as in nice girls don't fuck like a whore on heat and suck you like a vacuum cleaner. she has been conditioned like so many women, its a hard thing for you to undo all the damage done. Its only when you get to that age when you have nothing to loose, and you don't give a rats arse what men or women think of you, that you can really be free enough to enjoy yourself to the max. and even then some idiot will stick a label on you like slut and shoot you down and kill your sexuality. LadyT running short of hormone patches

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I could go all serious and say sumthing worth while but NAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH ,being the eternal joker ima going wit ,try chocolate chip or rasberry ,i hear mango is pretty tasty too lol,jamie

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Is in your statement. "She is not my girlfriend". And she probably won't let her guard down and allow herself to be vulnerable until she feels secure in the relationship.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Ladyt thank you for your reply. Although I admit I did not read all of it (haha I am a busy boy). I found it a great insight into the females perspective on the females perspective. And genuinely adds to my empathy on the situation. Key point - she makes me happy. And I am happy with that :). Jsk - try to use humor next time. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    If she make you happpppey then what is the problem?? Seriously, get off here and go what makes you happy! Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'ApolloThirteen' Is in your statement. "She is not my girlfriend". And she probably won't let her guard down and allow herself to be vulnerable until she feels secure in the relationship. No woman whats to hear that shit! In my eyes it soooooooooooo passive aggressive. Foxy

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    11 years ago

    I meant no offence with my previous comment. But your responses to my comment display a defensive message and attitude towards what I said! :-) I didn't say anything to doubt about you being young or your capability of treating a girl right, or knowing what a serious relationship means, etc. but you were quick to jump to defending yourself, why? :-) You may be a mature man and have accomplished so many sexual adventures at your age, you are still a decade behind me after all! Besides, I was only trying to paint a picture to help you see things from a female's perspective, because you have asked for our opinions and I am one of the Forums participants! So, am I wrong to say what I think might be a possibility in your situation? :-) I hope the girl you're dating now, whom you've claimed that is not your girlfriend, isn't on RHP and reading this Thread too, otherwise your statement of "she is not my girlfriend" would not do you any favour! :-) Good luck :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Khezu, I read your original post and then your other 2 comments in response to Sweetgem; in my opinion it sounds like you're contradicting yourself. You say she has swept you off your feet? How so? As you go on to say she isn't your girlfriend and she talks to other guys and has a dating app on her phone etc If she isn't your girlfriend then why does it bother you that she is vanilla or seems so? As for her being conscious about her body, I agree with Apollo's comments. Also, could it be that you're sending her mixed signals? One minute you say she has swept you off your feet next minute you say it's just dating and it's cool she talks to other guys (I'm assuming you mean she is having sex with other guys as talking to other guys is no biggie) and that it's too soon to decide if you want her to be your girlfriend Maybe it's too soon for you to start worrying/wondering about her vanilla tendencies, after all you're just friends with benefits, right? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Stop trying so hard...If you are really taken with her, just let time build...Why so serious.. You sound very over confident and so much experience bla bla bla.. Stop and appreciate what you have and you need to build the climax, set the scene, go out in the world, get frisky. You are way too serious and reading too much into certain things. Take time to grow together. You could have everything. bsx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    @sweetgem no offence taken. Pinky promise, I liked what you wrote :)! @shazza it doesn't bother me, but it is something I would like to work on, as I feel it is due to insecurities - which I feel I can break down. As for the tinder thing and talking to other guys - it doesn't bother me because it is very hard to make me jealous. Also I am very secure with where I stand. We are not friends with benefits - as we do not have a label yet. I can see her being my girlfriend in the foreseeable future, but at the moment we are just spending as much time together as possible. Getting to know each other in every way possible. I hope that makes sense now.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You dont like ice cream, pfffftttt lmao lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Apparently your "intelligent" and "sensitive", so described by a fellow peep. Reading that evaluation, and your own admission that this "girl" is really special to you, I'd hate to think it will take years to break down the barrier - again. You have already done that once, and where did that get you. No where actually. That would mean you have spent a lot of years on two "girls" that didn't come round to your way of thinking. Alarm bells for me rang when you stated that you have started dating, but the sex is very vanilla, have you ever thought you may be the one that has the "problem". Sex addiction is recognised these days. It is 2014 after all. Maybe time for a pinky promise on self appraisal

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    FYI, found out she has to go back to Ireland in November (working visa ran out) - ended it.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Did she end it or did you?? Is it over??????? Foxy

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    11 years ago

    Tissue box lovers. Sigh. There is no cure. Too many mills and boon and rom coms as a teenager. Next. Hugs Gazpacho

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    We both talked about it. She still really wants to see me. And I told her I felt the same. But with her - I cannot do casual. What we share is too intimate. We can have an amazing night watching lord of the rings whilst having sex and talking about almost anything. And I hate LOTR. I told her I would think about it - but at the same time I know what I will have to do. It is definitely over between us.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes having time apart can be a good thing. It may not be a good choice sometimes and it does hurt, however it does help sort through emotions and stuff like that. Foxy

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Khezu' We both talked about it. She still really wants to see me. And I told her I felt the same. But with her - I cannot do casual. What we share is too intimate. We can have an amazing night watching lord of the rings whilst having sex and talking about almost anything. And I hate LOTR. I told her I would think about it - but at the same time I know what I will have to do. It is definitely over between us. To me..... that sounds such a confused statement. If you decided its over (youve said so twice now),..... why tell her you have to think about it?!Thats just being disrespectful by stringing her along. DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Trust me, I am the one being stringed along, she wants to see me 3-4 times a week. Meanwhile is dating other guys.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I said I would think about it, because casual sex is all I have done for the past twelve months and I do really like her. But I am not going to be someone's cuddle bitch when there is no possibility of a relationship. It was the emotional connection that kept me coming back, not the sex. Sex is easily attained.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Khezu...... Im not buying that. The wording of your profile says... "Currently only looking to meet those I've met, and those I plan on meeting. You have my number :)" And you say you "cannot do casual"??? Hmmmmmm DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    DG the last time I updated my profile, replied to a message or flirt was about 6 weeks ago. And in the context of this girl - I cannot do casual. Because of the emotional connection and what our nights consist of.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Right.....So you want her all to yourself...... while leaving your options open for casual sex with others. Your posts.... as pointed out by Shazza... are riddled with contradictions. Not buying it. DG

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    It sounds like to me reading your posts in this Forum, your emotins are a little over the place and appear a little indecisive about a lot of things. May I suggest make some time for your self...you will find the answers you are looking for inside yourself, complete happiness. Women will come and go in your life, some will leave a big dent in your heart and others will not. They will have a piece of you and you will have a piece of them. Good Luck with it all. Foxy XX

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have not slept with anyone since seeing her... Did you not read my last post? I kept my cock in my pants till figuring out what exactly was happening with us. Do you really think you struck gold when reading my outdated profile ? If you read the paragraph directly above the sentence you copy and pasted from my profile it reads something along the lines of "heading to France on the following dates". You'd make a great reporter for today tonight and obviously not too good at reading outside of a narrow agenda. Of course I am not going to completely cut off the friendships I have built, as some of those people I have been friendly with for almost a year. But I have not seen any of them face to face since dating this girl. I simply made the decision to zip up my pants. On and off this site. If it turned out a relationship was on the horizon, I would have taken the next step of completely cutting off those friends I have made from RHP. And yes for to be seeing two other guys on the 2 or three days a weeks she is not seeing me - does disturb me, and is really something I am not going to stick around for.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    We've met and talked at meet and greets, and I think you're being upfront, though confused. I was going to add my two cents, but think everything has been said. Sorry there will be no happy ending, but let her go now. "Thinking about it" while you know the outcome is not fair to her or you. I have to ask though: you watch LOTR whilst having sex? Now that's kinky. ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    No please elaborate? I saw this girl as someone I could be in a relationship with. Found out it wasn't possible, so I have made the decision to end it. It was her words not mine, that it couldn't be anything more because of her situation. I agreed. But with me and her, it isn't casual. In fact sex is on the side lines. So how am I being contradictory? How am I confused? And how am I stringing her along, and leaving my options open unjustifiably - if I am not the one dating two other people? And yes, she is obsessed with LOTR.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I see a man who feels deeply, and sure, is confused, but that's the nature of these things. Has no one here ever been in this sort of state themselves? Khezu, I just have to add, if she is getting hot over Orlando Bloom, yes, she's vanilla. If it's over Gimli, that's way kinky! ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Not Orlando bloom. Lol, a little too paranoid to state which actor she has a crush on. But probably the one you'd least suspect. Also I feel my head is pretty clear on this. It is over between us. Simple.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Everything is going to be OK. I'm sure some people here have walked the shoes you are walking in right now. Some will empathize and understand you, some will not. You are courageous and brave posting. :) *sighs* To me, any relationship with another is hard work, emotionally, physically and mentally. Keep your chin up. Foxy xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I see the only contradiction I made was caring if she was seeing other people. That changed when I found out a serious relationship was not possible. It didn't change intentionally. I am sad that my last posts are me defending myself on open ended statements with nothing to back it up or paraphrases. Ah and FYI, the whole name change thing was to make my profile harder to find - Slickz xx

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    11 years ago

    Now you don't have to worry about working on your ex-date's vanilla sexuality anymore, because it is over between you two and however she enjoys her sex is no longer your business, even if you guys remain as friends :-) The world is larger than any of us can imagine, and even the wisest people on this planet, or those who have climbed to the peak of Himalayas, still cannot say that they have seen it all in the world! So make some times to yourself and go traveling around the world for a year or so on a working holiday visa, then you will realise that what you're worrying now (for whatever concerns you might currently have) is only a small matter added to your growing up, or life journey if you prefer to call that :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    @sweetgem I am hurt, but I am a big boy. And not silly enough to let this impact my life. But thanks for your concern.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Where did you go?? I hope you are OK?? Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' We've met and talked at meet and greets, and I think you're being upfront, though confused. I was going to add my two cents, but think everything has been said. Sorry there will be no happy ending, but let her go now. "Thinking about it" while you know the outcome is not fair to her or you. I have to ask though: you watch LOTR whilst having sex? Now that's kinky. ;-) Meander... Is watching people having sex really that kinky in this day and age? Whether it be same room sex or full swap or a guy giving your girl a good hard fucking....in my book, they are all ''standard horny acts of swinging'' Yum!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' Dude, give her some time. Younger women can be a little self concious. How about you give her a bit of time to get you know you better before you start talking about alarm bells. 6 weeks is nothing. Seriously! Yep... Listen to Meeka, give her some time, keep things fun and simple!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'ScorpioMike1979' Quoting 'Meander']I have to ask though: you watch LOTR whilst having sex? Now that's kinky. ;-) Meander... Is watching people having sex really that kinky in this day and age? Whether it be same room sex or full swap or a guy giving your girl a good hard fucking....in my book, they are all ''standard horny acts of swinging'' Yum!! I think you misread my post? I was talking about Lord Of The Rings... Actually I watched a few dozen people have sex last night and it did nothing for me. Not sure if it was because I wasn't in the right headspace or just totally blasé. Good luck, OP, I know you're ok. And you'll be back. You like these forums way too much x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'ScorpioMike1979' Quoting 'Meander']I have to ask though: you watch LOTR whilst having sex? Now that's kinky. ;-) Meander... Is watching people having sex really that kinky in this day and age? Whether it be same room sex or full swap or a guy giving your girl a good hard fucking....in my book, they are all ''standard horny acts of swinging'' Yum!! I think you misread my post? I was talking about Lord Of The Rings... Actually I watched a few dozen people have sex last night and it did nothing for me. Not sure if it was because I wasn't in the right headspace or just totally blasé. Good luck, OP, I know you're ok. And you'll be back. You like these forums way too much x OhI see...well that is a tad kinky...''and my axe'' lol!