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Vanilla Dating Sites
August 01 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
Can't say as I know why you're having any difficulty at all. You should be able to manage fine in the real world and ignore cyberspace. I don't know that many men use this site in search of any lasting relationship but given that I'm on here and not searching for anything at all, I'm probably not the best judge.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Soz Blue eyes but I am not sure if this is the area for relationship hunting. I believe most of the guys are looking for casual sex not a serious thing. That said I think some men are here to find some one for more than just casual sex. I have tried the sites you refer to and the women can be really fucking strange. I am looking for company and sex! Its not always about the sex, for me I need something besides a pair of wide open legs to connect with. Good luck with the hunting. Mike
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are there people out there looking for LOVE or companionship? Yes there are , but they are called women. Am I doing something wrong or am I so unappealing Your on an internet date site, the vanilla date sites are the same guys as on here. Just over there they pretend they do not want to just fuck you. Am I suppose to play cutsie pie little woman? Yes do the five date rule. No fucking or sucking at all till you have been out five times. Do not go out with a guy who has not been separated for less than two years from his wife. He still will have buyers remorse over his marriage. Yes men want a nice woman in the kitchen and to introduce to his mum,friends or kids. He does not want a sexy slutty woman to be his partner. He finds those on here while he is married and the nice girl has stopped opening her legs, and he loves porn sex anyway. What are guys looking for in a partner? (maybe I can do that lol The are not looking for a partner on RHP. Well non that I know of anyway. Picture this, you meet a guy and go to a BBQ and find out just by chance you have fucked three of his mates that are also on RHP...surprise :) Go out, and do stuff, go dancing join a club of some sort chat up men when you walk the dog internet relationships are like rocking-horse shit
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RHP User
12 years ago
Funny first I was thinking I would need to spend more time at the other sites but your right the second thought that came to mind was to meet people in the real world. Can anybody show me where that door is please...LOLI will find it when I am ready.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is all about numbers...the more men you chat to,the more men you meet,the more chance there is of finding someone who you connect with, whose wants and needs are similar to you..hmmmm..sounds like a full-time job reallyx Hugs H
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Insomnian
12 years ago
I'd say it's hard for you to find anything if you close yourself off to it.Same as though, why would anyone on here ( male ) actually try, when as soon as a thread like this opens up, the ...." oh no they don't exist", "oh no you won't find them here there or anywhere else." If you are driving down the road, and you close your eyes, you won't see the road. The same with any site, if you close yourself off to the possibilities, you will never see them if they did arise. Now for those that want to backlash, bullshit, crap, poppycock, we all have opinions, we've all experienced different things, we are all different, if we weren't, the world would be boring place.
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
Wow, tuscan,please do not judge all men as the same.As a man less than 2 yrs seperated i have now been pidgeoned holed, bullshit. Women are not the only ones able to want love & companionship.We are all individuals & deserve to be treated as such. Just because some men on here behave in a certain way, its not all,same as the behaviour of some women on here leaves a lot to be desired.Judge us as a individual not a group.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sometimes in the past I have attempted these more vanilla sites. I never get much response to them either. It seems that the men are like us ladies...like a good perv while they shop. "Window shopping" I must admit to meeting my man on a more naughty site. Yes they are out there looking for love. They just want sex until Mrs Right-Now comes along.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your playing in a different ball game once you enter the vanilla dating sites.Girls having a good old time on this site because of the guy to girl ratio is massively out of balance. On the vanilla sites the numbers are much more even and usually tilt the other way.You might not like hearing this but you might have to work harder, be a bit more patient and if you don't already consider being the one who initiates the contact.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hello Beneath :) I'm looking for love and I'm unwavering about that. I've chatted to and even met a few men who are looking for the same, though sadly the chemistry wasn't there for us. I do think it's a numbers game, and I do believe strongly that a woman needs to accept what a man says about what he's looking for or offering. So often we hear things we want to hear, not what a man is actually telling us. I found a truly wonderful love on here some years ago. A man who dreamt of making a beautiful life with the woman of his dreams. Unfortunately I screwed that up, but still, I'm proof (as are many other men and women on here) that it's possible to find love on a dating or sex site. I will say that the more vanilla, regular dating sites are fraught with problems. There is more game playing, especially by men, and a lot of pretense around wanting to date, when often the men really just want sex. Either way, in either place, stay true to what you're looking for, trust your instincts about the men you talk to, be willing to meet and take a chance, and don't lose hope xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
A few nice guys looking for love I am a bad girl, I came here for da SEX Those other internet sites are the same. this would be my profile: You have my permission to love me for a couple of hours. We can even pretend were married I will lay with my legs wide open and read a book and say, are you there yet? You can grind into me a few times, and announceee your cumming like the second cumming of Christ. I will go back to reading shades of grey as that as as close to an orgasm I will ever get. TR feeling a little snippy this evening, goes to throw on ten hormone patches. Insert tongue in cheek here ( ) or any other parts of me you want to insert. You can find what ever you like in life, if you do not give up looking, but you need to look around you off-line. That cute guy that taps away on his computer all night may be your lawn mowing guy or even your flat mate, or the guy who fixes your car. We need to notice men when we are out, I do not think there is enough of it these days. try it , try the flirt with a stranger Men if you want to meet women, learn to dance as they say its a vertical expression of a horizontal desire.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yeah we all have...its part of being single...and one goes on these "dates" in the hope that eventually being single may in time become a double....the thing is that theres 7 billion people in the world ...how in the hell are you able to find the "Rite One" from just a few dates ???....you dont.. you just keep your expectations to a minimum, be realistic and just enjoy the nite out for what it is and if my some chance you find that special someone ...then YAY !!!..hell I havent been asked out on a date since like 2002 !!! Are there people out there looking for LOVE or companionship ? Absolutely..both men and women - more than likely, long term both sexes are craving this, but until it comes along, via a site or a chance meeting in Aisle 7 at your local Coles store, well you just enjoy each encounter on the way...people (Ive heard) do actually still meet significant others at pubs, carparks, via friends, parties, thru work etc..it does happen - some of perhaps though need to remove our selves from behind our keyboards and get a life outside of our avatars Am I doing something wrong or am I so unappealing No I dont believe you are doing anything wrong or that you dont appeal - you have a nice profile and look to be a attractive lady......you just havent found the rite person for you yet...I truly believe this..that one day someone will walk into your life who will make you forget why it never worked out with anyone else - but yes one has to be patient..meanwhile dont let that define you..just enjoy each day that comes your way..dont keep actively searching...let them find you !!! Am I suppose to play cutsie pie little woman? Im not sure exactly what you mean by this comment...just be yourself...thats all there is to it....and remember a partner will not make you happy only you are capable of making yourself happy...a partner is just one of life's bonuses.. What are guys looking for in a partner? I cant answer that..only a bloke can - I can only assume that what they are looking for pretty much runs parallel to what we females are looking for....but we all have differents wants, needs and selection criteria....as for me...Ive been fortunate enough to have found "it" a few times....and perhaps thats all that Ive been allocated.......some people never find it...some people find it strait off, some of us never experience it again....but more importantly thru the past year since I was last partnered, I found myself........again............and Im a ok person to know...........
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G' What a bunch of fucking weirdos. ROFLMAO !
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been on vanilla internet dating sites for 7 years now and only recently have taken a jump to the darker side LOL.For some reason, I'm reasonably popular on vanilla sites and don't have to work hard at all, despite stating I'm after friends with benefits - GASP (maybe because the competing males are busily carking it in my age demographic or maybe women find my photos - and extended profile - attractive - I don't know). On RHP, I've had to work far harder as it appears that the women are inundated with requests. I'm sure on RHP, if I hadn't become a Platinum member and sent out lots of messages, I wouldn't have met a single woman, whereas on the vanillas, my inbox ticks over quite nicely. There are plenty of people on there looking for long term relationships. I guess I did that for many years and had a couple of long terms (2 years and 1 year), but had to sort through a lot of unsuitable people both before and after I had been to bed with them. This has allowed a huge accumulation of great stories I can tell against myself about bad choices that were made. It's a great pity Tuscan's coffee event is women only, although I have already bent her ear (and she mine) with a raft of funny stories. Recently started to have an overwhelming desire to be involved in something far more raunchy than what I'd ever done in the past. And acted on it by joining here. And investigated. And found that some situations have drawn me wayyyyy outside how I would normally behave. Others left me unmoved too.I think Tuscan is not pinning what I want out of this (acting as an advocate for all males is an unwise action, so I'll leave it as a personal view). Ideally, I would like someone from here (rather than a vanilla site) to be a long-term partner. Someone with a more spontaneous and wild sexual side, but most importantly, someone who can behave when needed (i.e. in front of the kids). I've seen many of the same faces here as on vanilla sites (7 years and a good memory for faces) and it's actually a delight to see the more honest approach here. I think a shared approach to adding friends to a relationship is more the way forward in my life, rather than a fixed one on one. And I think there is plenty of room for love under those circumstances. Just because a two people have a higher and wider sex drive than average doesn't mean that they don't want a home base to revolve around and include in play. The things that left me unmoved (see above) were those events that involved lots of mechanical and anyone-will-do coupling. The shag shag shag shag.......next......shag shag shag shag etc etc stuff. No tenderness, no caring, no respect, no-one actually cums, endless erections (hmmmm nobody on Viagra....yeah right). I found these events (although quite titillating if viewed as internet porn) not something that excited me live. And did that ever surprise (and embarrass) me. Maybe I'm a bit shy in the face of what I saw ; maybe I need to get more comfortable under these circumstances. Or maybe, just maybe, some people actually want more than that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
something along the lines of "Not looking for a serious relationship, but if the right person comes along..." maybe just respond to these men who are open to a relationship. If you are attracted, then progress to meeting with the proviso that you aren't jumping into bed, as you want to find someone who you have more than just a sexual connection with, then take it from there, I guess if you progress to the sex stage and the 'I really like you' stage, then you have to deal with the whole situation of what type of relationship do you enter into once you both want to be 'exclusive' will it be real exclusivity and you both log out of RHP for good, or are you both allowed on just for forums and perving, or will you have an open or swinging relationship. I do think that alot of the men on here are looking for a relationship, but don't want to commit to that until they find out what type of fruitloops they are dealing with... when women become too clingy too fast, it can scare them off, you just have to let it be their idea to have more than just a fuck buddy relationship... if you are their cup of tea and you're not an obsessive weirdo, then they will come around eventually, on their terms, if the chemistry is right. Good luck xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
A lovely person to know
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RHP User
12 years ago
It may happen eventually. You need patience and just have the attitude of having fun and meeting new friends. From my experience, I'd stick with the non-vanilla sites, so many varied weirdos on the vanilla sites! Plus if you both know you're not so vanilla, you can expand your bedroom sessions later on
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G' What a bunch of fucking weirdos. Cant but help agree with you Krissy_G
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RHP User
12 years ago
There will be 1001 different opinions on your topic but i think when it comes to these sites really anything goes and anything could happen. The difficulty is everyone is an individual so everyone has different wants. So straight off each one of us (including yourself) will probably not be compatable with about 85% of individuals. We are all already behind the ape ball before we start lol. Just try to enjoy having a look without to higher expectations and see what happens. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
...in a way that shows you're fussy. But be clear about what your looking for. I just read it and the picture I got from your profile, on a glance, and what you've posted here do not leave me with a sense of congruency. Possibly tidy up the typo too. They slip though pretty easily :-)For me, a casual but ongoing lover should possibly have an interest or two that I can share. While sex reminds us that we are alive. I want to feel interested in someone while I'm getting my breath back. I'd like them to be interested in me too. I'm guessing plenty of other blokes here feel the same. So think about that as you write.Maybe these casual relationships just run their course? Maybe they grow? But you have to be part of the Journey to find out.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I ttink it is possible to find someone for real... my sister got one and I got another....dont know I guess you have to be really clear of what are you looking for.I was looking for fun only... but I found this incredible person and I can tell is gonna be for long.probably because I not allowing any bullshit this time, must work for me or just is not good enough.Had a few dates... not all of themn very successful.I have met very interesting men... boring men... extremely sexy and hot men... I am keeping the one who is the right for me ... for now.I did an A list. intelligent, secure.mature, honest, caring,helpful , I thought it was impossible but he keep on ticking the right boxes....mh so girl I THINK IS STILL HOPE.keep on looking!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Correct me if Im wrong' but isnt this site for ppl wanting to look outside the square and venture into the erotic side of their personalities ? Its easy to see a problem erupting when a girl or a guy come here looking for love and companionship when the majority are wanting to experiment with the sexual side of them once considered taboo ?Easy to see how both would clash when the needs are different.. Not forgetting the time and effort wasted...You dont go to a chemist if your looking for tyres , whats the difference ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think stick to your guns Blueyes. I'm sure there are plenty of blokes who would enjoywhat your offering, in the type of relationship, that is.I was one myself.Otherwise I reckon LRE said it pretty well.I checked out your profile as well, saw Waggy in your friends listand thought ooops she wouldn't be interested in me....of course we don't match anyway, but at least I didn't see that guy with the Harley bike tank...lol...he seemsto pop up all over the shop, he must be one of the 5 percenters....lolCheers Felonius
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RHP User
12 years ago
Dont be mislead by Waggy he's a really sweet guy. And I did state that when I was interested in dating I went elsewhere. Although I do know of a couple who met here I am not sure if this would be my spot to find a partner, for many different reasons. I was just trying to tackle the question of if men on vanilla sites are really looking or as many have suggested playing the game of dating and fucking. I have found the guys on this site to be far more polite and respectfull than vanilla sites.I found it curious when I first visited the vanilla sites and listed my interest as dating I was getting messages such as lets fuck now! I often replied if I wanted that kind of attention I would be on another site (this one) and so I would come back to where I felt I was treated nicer.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I really didn't mean any offence to Waggy or Yourself, its just me reading between the lines. I often look at the people on friends lists to see if I gell with what they like, and view the people on friendslists as representative of what they like, and add that to the decision makingprocess as well.I do however think that this is a great place to make any sort of relationshipanyone would so desire, be it Fb, Fwb, Ons, or Ltr.Lets face it, and we have all seen the "fall out threads", and many have lived them 1st hand, Sexual compatibility is pretty important, especially when its not happening for one of the parties involved.Rhp seems like a good bet to nail down that aspect of a relationship as far as possible, and certainly more sothan on a vanilla site. I think though you do have to give people a go, and participation is key.Cheers Felonius........Bear in mind the Husband store, and the Harley guy is pure observation...lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
ive been on and off here for about 6 years ..for a site that is for swingers and peoplethat advertise they want fun of all sort whether it one one , gang bang, or some sort of fetish ,im met very few that actually follow through with action on here ..as for those so called vanillia sites ,in the last 2 years of being on one of them ,ive met more people ,had more fun ,more sex then i have being on here..i think the sane normal people ar eon the other site and all the cock teasing .bullshit weirdo's are on here
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RHP User
12 years ago
Was on a vanilla dating site some years ago and while there were some nice guys on there you had to wade through a large amount of guys looking for Mrs Right and guys that couldn't get a root in a brothel with a fist full of $50 notes.I was enjoying my single state and playing up a storm on here and a couple of others like it when I met my partner and soul mate. I suppose it depends entirely on who you meet and not what you start out looking for.
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
Well country meat just put me off meat.... Ive been on here off and on fpr 8ish years meet guys for fun friends and FB... one guy was great suited our kid situation at the time Then i meet the man of my dreams lasted 5 years turned out a bit of a nightmare in the end still friends thou. Ive made so many friends that i go out with,, shopping ,,coffee,, sex club or a good cry. There really good people that dont judge i like that amd i like honesty why lie on here it is what it is ask for what you want. Saying that... im after a regular friend/FB to spoon with chat to take out for some public sex a swingers club or sometimes vanilla... dont have time to play the singles game atm with teenagers at home. I want a manly man.. who knows what he wants as soon as he sees it... is my pfofile to off putting to guys am i scaring them off? I just hate all the bullshit
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RHP User
12 years ago
my threat isnt ment to offend it ,just a oppinion..at end of day it doesnt matter what sort of site your on,you going to have all sort try make contact..you may have to meet a few frogs before you find your prince or princess but thats life in general whether it on the internet or real world. if you dont tak e the chance and .dont meet people.how will you ever meet your perfect partner
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RHP User
12 years ago
I wouldn't say the difference between a vanilla dating site and this site is like going into a chemist to look for tyres, I would probably say it's more like going into a cafe that does strictly your normal coffee, when you're really looking for a full-bodied, rich, chocolatey-mocha made with real molten chocolate rather than crappy chocolate powder, or vice versa.I was on a vanilla dating site for four years on and off, and met about the same number of weirdos as I have on here. There were an equal number of guys who were masquerading as looking for a potential partner while actually looking for a shag, and those that wanted to have a long-term serious relationship after the second date (which had me screaming and running for the hills). Surprisingly, I've found the quality of the guys on this site a lot better than on the other site, and it's comforting to know where things stand, in that they state straight up that they are looking for sex. Some also state that they would be open to something developing further with the right person, and these men are probably the ones you should be targeting.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You knew what I meant... so no need justify... Unlike you' I never tryed any other sites' vanilla or otherwise. This site alone provides me with more than enough insight to realise any other site would not be much difference..My success rate here is not as good as in real life but still a entertaining way to find that someone who might tick my boxes... So far' only one girl has been able to do that and she lives in Perth... Face to face and eye contact is where I feel most comfortable and have the most success. As most ppl come here to explore the sexual side of their personality. I find it strange that someone would come looking for love and companionship in the first instance.. If by chance they find this love and companionship along the way... good for them.. I can only imagine the more vanilla sites cater for those needs...Oh' btw. I also prefer my coffee with full bodied rich chocolatey- mocha made with molten chocolate also. does that mean I dont settle for 2nd best ? I think it does... thats why Im happy to bide my time for some sexy thing to come along who is the real deal... not just talk and loaded with all sorts of criterias...
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RHP User
12 years ago
those who are saying that the quality of men on here is better than those on vanilla sites. Have a real close look ladies.....many of the men on this and other adult sites are the same ones as on a vanilla site. On here they are saying they dont want a permanent relationship...on the vanilla site it is all roses and love ever after. Is this the old double standards? Girls on a site like this are only for sex and NOT to take home to meet Mummy? Guys...I will let you in on a secret...you know all the girlies on the vanilla site are looking for exactly the same thing that you are on here looking for...because we are on here as well.
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RHP User
12 years ago
i dont know how people can judge a person by what site their on..we all know this is a swingers site..play ground for anyone looking for good time..we put it in our profile and chat about it ,we discuss things on the forum we wouldnt talk about in public....but then you find the exact same people as handmaiden has said on other sites.there they get picky on who they chat to,,most say they arnt into player's or one nighters and dont do online sex..which site do you beleive when it come to wanting to meet people
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think Jay_me is confused...................when I am here I am here for SEX I state when I go to the vanilla sites I have issues and as others have addressed that is because most guys are spreading themselves around on all sites with alterior motives.My thoughts were is there any chance of finding a relationship on a vanilla site. It had nothing to do with dating on this site and as Handmaiden states men dont tend to respect women enough from this site to sustain a long term relationship. It has been covered in other forums with men saying ""OH well you know were we met".Its a total double standard ofcourse as just when I start to believe I am a woman in control of my sexuallity I am very often shocked backed to the realisation just that I am a weirdos or a slut.If you want to go hit on City Kitty do it elsewhere and Meat lover you put me off my meat too!!Anyway my conclusion is interent dating is just a pick up place for sex I will find what I want eventually and when I am ready. In the mean time I will explore and enjoy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
and u say im confused... ? omg? Have a good read at your own post. For the record, i am on this site only... So i can only guess that vanilla sites are no different. After reading yours and other posts above, im not wrong. As far as your silly comment regarding hitting on city kitty is concerned. You are well off the mark. Ive had exchanges with City K in previous posts. We take subtle swipes at each other, but nothing more than that. I dont take her too serious and i think she does likewise. Its all part of the RHP experience, isnt it. ? Me thinks you need to chill a little before you post...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is it wrong of me to be enjoying this???
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Correct me if Im wrong' but isnt this site for ppl wanting to look outside the square and venture into the erotic side of their personalities ? Its easy to see a problem erupting when a girl or a guy come here looking for love and companionship when the majority are wanting to experiment with the sexual side of them once considered taboo ?Easy to see how both would clash when the needs are different.. Not forgetting the time and effort wasted...You dont go to a chemist if your looking for tyres , whats the difference ? As you have never been on a vanilla site, I can kind of understand your thought process in making your comment Jay. However, as other posters have stated, its mostly the same people just different stories on all flavours of sites.I sort of understand your attempt at the analogy. Perhaps a better one would be going to a church meeting looking for a long time love/partner - one who was in to kinky fuckery (yes yes, sorry couldnt help it "50s readers will smirk). I would expect your chances of finding a long term partner at a church might be high, although not sure how many would think outside of the 'square' as you put it.I would of thought this was one of the ideal sites for finding a long term partner who had the same sexual interests?Same as someone looking for a partner to swing with others. Sexual compatibility is a huge factor in so many long term relationships. However people view RHP and what it's purpose is for (heaven forbid anyone read any of RHP's own marketing which yes shock horror, states adult fun friends AND relationships) as long as everyone is upfront and honest, wouldn't that make it a lot easier to find what you are looking for (and to find those who are looking for the same?). A bit of open-mindedness would appear to go a long way in more ways than one.
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MissSarahCurious
12 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G' What a bunch of fucking weirdos. LOL I joined one because lots of submissive girls I know are on it and they get lots of messages from "dominants" on there so I figured maybe there would be a few sub males on there too... A week later I thought FFS what am I doing here, 2/3 of these people are desperate, dishonest or generally fucked in the head and the other 1/3 are already in relationships with people they met on here but are just in the habit of 'shopping' through the profiles. It's definitely not for me. Give me a straight up sex site anyday. At least I might find a few ethical sluts.xx Sarah
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree' I'm enjoying this also' .. Good discussion between different posters with varieing veiws. I can see where both are coming from and both have made some sensible comments... just goes to show how differently people interpret things... Mrs JJxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Because I've never ventured onto any other site except RHP, I could only assume there would be subtle differences in the kind of person each site attracts..The only education I really received on this subject is from other posters ... Til then' I could only guess some may use this and other sites because of the greater chance of meeting more people. I have since learnt that many on here are also on the so called 'vanilla sites ' .Maybe I used the wrong analogy when I stated going to a chemist for a tyre. But Im sure most understood what I was trying to say. To those who took offence, I apologise... Maybe I should have said ' going into a chemist for a bunch of flowers or a condom. ? This could mean one thing or another depending on the buyers intentions...If he bought flowers alone, I would say his intentions are fairly honourable. If he bought flowers and condoms it would likely be for the lady and what he may get in return.. If its condoms only.. well... say no more... As I said in one of my posts, if someone finds love and companionship... good for them. If I have it wrong with thinking RHP is for open minded ppl looking to explore their sexuality.. that is only my opinion. Judging from many of the above posts Im not wrong.. But to those who think I am wrong' they are entitled to their opinion which I respect..
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been on vanilla dating sites for 7 years. The truth as I see it, is that any man worth his salt is after sex. And the same applies to women. Let's be serious - how many of you would be prepared to put up with an asexual relationship?However, the difference between a gentleman and a wolf is simply patience. I've learned to be patient, and many on dating sites would do well to learn that valuable lesson (actually, don't read that last sentence, as a predilection of wolves suits me just fine - skews the market nicely in my direction).OK, then let's take it for granted that we are looking for a relationship involving some sexual activity. So, what is the difference between vanilla dating sites and what we have on RHP?On RHP, there is an element of honesty as to what sexual practices are really desired, sure, but the truth is that you have to have sex with someone. Here, the intentions of less "ordinary" sexual activities are not frowned upon and, indeed, act almost like a normalising force (i.e. you can chat to people with similar desires and experiences to assist/guide you with future and past experiences). On vanilla sites, the mention of a non-serious intention (i.e. not looking for long term) or less "ordinary" sexual desires almost invalidates you as a punter (i.e. you are marginalized as being unworthy, because you are just apparently looking for sex without any attachment). If you are looking for vanilla sexual activity, there are plenty of takers on vanilla sites - trust me, I know, despite being old and ugly LOL. However you may find yourself busily sawing the branch you are standing on if you try and mention that you like swinging or some apparently unusual activity. Sure, there is an overlap between the two types of sites (indeed, there are plenty of surprises when one sees the same people on both types of sites, but with their true intentions unveiled here. Or are they?Is the real, long term aim of people on here always sexual activity at arm's length (i.e. desperately trying not to get attached), or is there an element of sex as enticement to commit? Maybe both apply - help me here, forum members. Vanilla sites are like leaping into a black hole as far as sexual likes/dislikes are concerned (i.e. they are the equivalent of a profile without a photo) where even asking about sexual predilections may seriously offend (You like to do WHAT!!!! You freakin' pervert!!!). Thoughts?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've read quite a few of the comments and they are all really really enlightening. I've been on RHP for 2 years now and had a wowzer of a time😊 Met my man here on the first date And we were together and played extremely well and all my kinky dreams were fulfilled. He is now my ex but we remain great friends. After a very busy 2 years, I must admit I have grown tired and need something with more substance. A loving partner for everyday stuff like concerts, trying out new restaurant,etc etc etc So,I joined a vanilla site and there were quite a few guys who recognized me from here! Yes, we are normal human beings that need love and cuddles. Wham! Bam! Sex just makes your genitals happy but it's the connection afterwards. The holding of each other afterwards is lovely. Yes, lots of hours trolling through the site looking for the 'perfect' man, passes the time anyway😊
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'countrymeat'ive been on and off here for about 6 years ..for a site that is for swingers and peoplethat advertise they want fun of all sort whether it one one , gang bang, or some sort of fetish ,im met very few that actually follow through with action on here ..as for those so called vanillia sites ,in the last 2 years of being on one of them ,ive met more people ,had more fun ,more sex then i have being on here..i think the sane normal people ar eon the other site and all the cock teasing .bullshit weirdo's are on here Yes there are lots of people who bullshit on here. I tend to follow through , unless I am not attracted to a person. That is the best thing about RHP, its up front. I was on those other sites and I lost count of how many men ask me for a fuck over a cup of coffee. That is why I never do a date as in dinner date, as your then stuck with an idiot till you finish your meal. I learnt to pay for my own darn coffee on those so called relationship sites, and also that a lot are married guys. Now I do not give a fig if a man is married and just wants some hot sex and is up front about it. What I do not like is those married men sucking in women who want an emotional connection, just so they can get a fuck and that is the common thread on vanilla sites. stick to RHP where the PREMIS of the contact is sexual. That is the difference, we all know the aim of the game is to have sex without the whole would you likea movie or fries with that. A friend with Benefits is just that, a friend that will fuck your brains out when you need it. Do not think of everyone as a cock tease if your cock is not what they are after.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Here are some of my great vanilla dates: sipping my soda , a guy says after half hour, ok you will do, how about you sell your house I will sell mine and we can take a caravan around Australia. Me: errm no I don’t think so Him: well your not getting any younger , honey what man is gonna want you? sob!!!! How about the guy turns up in safari suit and sox to his knees and is my friends, very happy married law mower guy A guy turns up, we sit down to coffee He has a gift, the first time we meet ( I am thinking warning Will Robinson) So I unwrap a very sheer nighty in the middle of the Dome, that sent snickers through the wait staff. I could go on but I would get Post Traumatic Date Syndrome
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ho! hoooo! You are so funny tuscanred and soooo accurate. I've only just started 2 weeks ago on Oasis and so far have not met any man. Lots of mobile chats and then nothingggggg! After having a tsunami of man choices here on RHP, and then dealing with Sahara desert on Oasis, it's like a wake up call ! They all just want sex! Did meet a nice guy and now he's off to Europe with his brother. Shagged him on the first date. He was really good. Needed to make sure he was good in that department before we carried on 😉 All in all, we're just chasing our own tail. Should just leave it to the Universe to lead me gently to my perfect mate😊 I know, dream on....
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relaxxx
12 years ago
hahah ahha haha this is a swingers?/sex? dating site !!?! ... i find my girlfriends on the other sites ,, just come on this site for a look and a laugh
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RHP User
12 years ago
Relaxxx's opinion appears to be that the two types of sites are mutually exclusive. I'm not sure that is correct. The other underlying assumption is that "bad" girls are not girlfriend material, they are playthings. Hmmmmmm I would have said an almost medieval attitude to a lusty member of the opposite sex (and often heard mentioned when I was young within certain ethnic groups in Melbourne who considered it OK to shag an Australian woman, but they would never marry one (the truth was that their mama wouldn't allow then to)). Hopefully hypocritical attitudes like that are changing a little. And the believers in that attitude may be why sooooooo many women have low self esteem.I wonder if Relaxxxx mentions to any women who contact him that they aren't girlfriend material before he shags 'em and forgets em? I'm guessing maybe not.
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RHP User
12 years ago
....is that maybe Relaxxxx is trolling!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I bet Relaxxx drew his profile picture all by himself! Your Mummy must be so proud of you! Idiot! When you grow up you might actually get a shag from this someone on this site. The nice girls on the other site want exactly what the honest women here want it's just sugar coated, just like the men! I have had some great banter here with some great fun guys and that is what it is really all about! Sure I could fuck everone of them if I wanted to, but that's not what it is all about.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Or relaxxx is just a dick head :) .........too many options ......but I'm going with that one ! ......my husband married a lusty busty sexual woman , never ever tried to "tame " me, and together we have had 22 years of hot sex and a loving marriage .....us sluts can make awesome homemakers if you fuck us right :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
I’m on two dating sites and I’m absolutely looking for a long-term relationship. As a divorced man with a young child (and 50% care) suitable matches are hard to come by… So I find myself on RHP and have friends with benefits because I have no intention going without sex while waiting for a suitable match. As “Seeking134” has pointed out – there is a big difference between this site and dating sites. It is easier to get sex from a dating site, if you’re dishonest with your intentions and many men are... Interestingly, my longest partner since my divorce has been from RHP. I've also found it difficult at times dating women from the dating site and often wonder to myself ... "How can I take you seriously, things are going so slowly, I lost interest awhile back... but I was interested initially" There are a lot of guys here looking relationships but they are probably looking for sex first – then if the boxes stack-up will think about what is possible long-term. And for anyone that has read “Women are from Mars, Men are from Venus” –(I'm quoting) Women need to feel loved to want sex – Men need sex to feel loved. Hence, men in general, will seek sex first and if they are happy with the sex and the person matches will seek love.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Luv it when you talk like that... lol
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
Quoting 'DeliciousCplBris'Or relaxxx is just a dick head :) .........too many options ......but I'm going with that one ! ......my husband married a lusty busty sexual woman , never ever tried to "tame " me, and together we have had 22 years of hot sex and a loving marriage .....us sluts can make awesome homemakers if you fuck us right :p Yes we do make great homemakers....sluts arent all bad ;-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Relaxxx, you are going to marry a nice girl, have a couple of kids and then your wife is going to go right off sex as she's so caught up in the kids and making a home for you, you'll be left frustrated, wanting for more and screwing around... Okay, so maybe it won't happen, but it seems to be the norm for alot of couples. Divorce rates are sky high and ONE of the main reasons is a differing interest in sex, in most cases the woman loses interest. How many times have you heard this from men on this site and others, and also in real life? It's well known that a large percentage of women feel this way about sex eventually. If you can meet someone with a similar sex drive or kinks as yourself, then you are probably going to be more satisfied with your sexlife for many more years to come... "What makes a good wife? you need to be a chef in the kitchen, a maid in the loungeroom, and a whore in the bedroom" ~ Jerry Hall. Oh and Tuscan, can I steal this for my profile? Quoting 'tuscanred' Do not think of everyone as a cock tease if your cock is not what they are after.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Many years ago I used to catch a bus to uni - an hour long trip. I befriended 3 Macedonian women and started to hear about their lives and attitudes. I found it fascinating - arranged marriages, Aussie women for sex, Macedonian women for wives. On the shelf at 21. Even experienced the father of one of the women dropping my hand like a hot potato after he was informed I was an Aussie (I do look a little Middle easternish).No offence was directed - it's a cultural difference i find anachronistic. But not something I would approve of if directed at my kids.
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
Were all freinds here del couple and myself and thats what we call each other and her hubby were all the same and a few others like our laughs about our nights out... were ladies sluts homemakers workers tax payers ... so are the men as well... here for a good time ... not a long time Quoting 'beachbelle' Quoting 'WHY_NOT_LOOK' Quoting 'DeliciousCplBris'Or relaxxx is just a dick head :) .........too many options ......but I'm going with that one ! ......my husband married a lusty busty sexual woman , never ever tried to "tame " me, and together we have had 22 years of hot sex and a loving marriage .....us sluts can make awesome homemakers if you fuck us right :p Yes we do make great homemakers....sluts arent all bad ;-) Im sorry but I dont like this term. Are men sluts too? Its not about being slutty, its about enjoying sex and all it has to offer. Its the same for men as it is for women. Men who call women sluts are idiots. Looks like its ok for them to sleep around but the women cant? Who are all these so called 'sluts' sleeping with? Lmao. Were all the same so stop labelling each other. But I do agree that relaxxx is an idiot for sure if he thinks that this site is any different from the vanilla sites. Its the same people, its just that they're more genuine on here in what they are looking for as this is considered a sex site not a dating site contrary to what people will tell you. And as if his 'girlfriends' would come on here for a laugh, who is he trying to kid really? They're here for a reason same as everyone else on here is. Who'd even want him for a boyfriend? Hes dodgy, he has no visible pics and he only wants cam and naughty chat lmao. Hes dreaming for sure. He just screams attached in my books. And agreed seeking134 they are not mutually exclusive at all, they are the same people looking for the same things. Even the so called 'bad girls' got married in the end. And I'm from one of these ethnic groups too so I know how they think although my parents weren't quite as bad as that. I cant believe that men in this day and age still think this way. Who cares how many partners or how much sex we've had? Who cares how much sex we like? It doesn't make us not worthy of being girlfriend or wife material. Men like this are neanderthals. Its a double standard for sure. Keep them away from me, Id run a mile from any idiot who thinks this way. Quoting 'seeking134' Relaxxx's opinion appears to be that the two types of sites are mutually exclusive. I'm not sure that is correct. The other underlying assumption is that "bad" girls are not girlfriend material, they are playthings. Hmmmmmm I would have said an almost medieval attitude to a lusty member of the opposite sex (and often heard mentioned when I was young within certain ethnic groups in Melbourne who considered it OK to shag an Australian woman, but they would never marry one (the truth was that their mama wouldn't allow then to)). Hopefully hypocritical attitudes like that are changing a little. And the believers in that attitude may be why sooooooo many women have low self esteem. I wonder if Relaxxxx mentions to any women who contact him that they aren't girlfriend material before he shags 'em and forgets em? I'm guessing maybe not.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think Relaxxx has been good for this thread, certainly kept it going, he must have taken his bat and ball and gone home, ( to bat of course.LOL). Funny I don't think of my self as a slut, just a horny wench who wants to feed my needs, cut the bullshit and get my rocks off. I get messages all day long but have only actually come across one guy that I have wanted to fuck!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Same problem... When u express ur interest on date finder.. No reply or follow when I msg them! But don`t why on first place provide dates for anything after they do not show up...But fake and guest profile are hard to get reply... Chatroom ppl r talking to ppl they already know but hard to keep conversation going or pmsl... I am always admirer of sex!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I saw mention of a couple of vanilla dating site experiences somewhere or other, and thought I'd add a couple of odd ones of my own - both associated with women who had a Masters in Psychology, incidentally.The first one was a coffee date only. Generally, I greet a person the first time with a gentle hug and a peck on the cheek. A handshake screams "first date" to everybody in the venue, in my opinion, and the response to low grade intimacy is always illuminating. The date was very awkward and the woman concerned was quite obviously uninterested, so after I got home, I fired off a message which said thanks for the date, but her interests quite obviously lay elsewhere and I wished her good luck with the search. OMG - did I get an interesting response - firstly, apparently I had kissed her on the cheek so hard that she had gravel rash throughout the date (I must have blacked out during the light peck on the cheek and grabbed her pssionately whilst unconscious, as well as having my vision impaired afterwards so I missed the classic gravel rash glow on the cheek) and secondly, I was far too boring for her (funny - that is the one comment that has never been levelled at me before or since LOL). I mentioned the date to my daughter and it so happened that the woman concerned was my daughter's supervisor during part of her course and apparently I was lucky to be well out of there, as it was difficult to tell if she should have been staff or client at the establishment she worked at. Matched my experience too. I suspect she was sooooo miffed that my message of rejection turned up first, that she had got angry.The second worrying date was with a woman who knew I was already in a fading short term relationship. I was invited to her place for a spa (clothing not optional) on a first meeting to discuss the situation. And so, I'm ashamed to say the inevitable happened and the date extended on for 24 hours or so, when her major health problems were revealed. This really worried me, as one of these problems involved the very real possibility of leaving her either hemiplegic or worse. I couldn't enter into a relationship under circumstances like that, as I have 3 kids at home and would be unable to devote the time to care properly for a person if disaster happened. So I bailed.The phone calls I received after that......OMG! I was not even second rate in my profession (maybe she did a survey?), she had a son-in-law in the Coffin Cheaters and she knew where I worked and I had better be careful, she wished she had never let me lay my filthy hands on her, yadda yadda yadda. A lttle troubling to say the least.We are all fragile - we all have a duty of care. I kick myself regularly for responding to the siren call of the second woman, as I violated my own motto mentioned there.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Met a rather nice woman who had a 60 day rule (no going to bed before 60 days have elapsed from the first date). Now these rules just make me laugh. Why not 64.35 days? Of course one had to ask if time off is given for good behaviour. NO. Had anyone made it to the 60 day limit? Yes, just one. Apparently the big day arrived and there were claw marks in the wall by that time. Things started to get pretty warm and she excused herself to change into something more comfortable (and from what I saw at the one and only date, that would have been like viewing an oasis across the shimmering desert). She sidles up to him and he suddenly stops her and said that he doesn't do anything like that. He was just going to sleep. So he pops out to the car and returns with a suitcase. She thought that he might have had something interesting in mind that was about to unfold from the suitcase, but........NO. He pulled out his CPAP machine, donned it and said goodnight with the appropriate Darth Vader voice and appearance. Apparently she spent the whole night staring at the ceiling and cursing. Then, met a woman who had a 6 date rule. The dates had to be different activities (so 6 coffee dates counted as 1 date). And you weren't allowed to combine activities on one date and count them as 2 or more dates. I lasted 2 dates.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Saw a very attractive Italian woman of about 60 appear online one time and knew that she would possibly cause the dating site server to shut down with increased demand. But, in the immortal words of Mr Tattersall, "Ye've got to be in it to win it, young John".So, it came to pass that I sent away a contact request with the presumption that I would never get contact in return.Well, it turned out that she wanted to meet. She and I chatted quite well on the phone with some reservations on my part, mainly concerning the vast amount of money she seemed to have.So, we had arranged to meet at a local cafe. I'm waiting there and about 15 minutes after the appointed time, I see her through the front window and then walking through the restaurant.It was like the heavens had opened and the holy choir was singing at the same time. She had on a cheesecloth dress with nothing on underneath apart from a G string (hands are getting shaky just recalling this), a pair of FMP's and a haunting perfume.Patrons of the restaurant were staring. Pools of slobber were being mopped up from the floor as she wafted past. Did I mention the 36DDs and that the cheesecloth seemed to be missing a large amount of material in a V shape in the chestal region?Because I certainly noticed and responded with dread and I'll tell you why, gentle readers.I knew, that for the next several hours, that there was only a small window that I would dare to look at. And that window was bounded by the top of her head and the bottom of her chin. Not once did my eyes slip in a Southerly direction - they were riveted to hers the whole time, despite what I'm sure were 2 siren-songs calling me to look just a little downwards.After a couple of hours, my eyes were watering and sore. But it was she who cracked first, and started to tell me about her breast augmentation and how they had been increased from BB to DD. What did I think of them?Dear readers, I never really believed the Penthouse Forum stories until then.....True story - keep smiling!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Had been chatting to a woman with a rather attractive profile photo and interesting way of writing, so agreed to a date at a local Turkish restaurant. She turned up on a bicycle. In badly home made clothes (looking like an extra for Robin Hood, but with the seams of her clothes sewn inside out). The profile photo had been extensively Photoshopped, I suspect, with the "dewrinkle" filter.Anyway, we sat down to eat. But first, she had to go through the constituents of every freakin' single thing she might possibly have been interested in eating in case it contained gluten. Our waitress was a Swedish student, however, and couldn't be of much assistance. Not good. Interest was fading fast when it turned out that beneath the hippy exterior was a relatively unpleasant and intolerant person also - not a lot of "peace and love" there (certainly none of the latter likely from my direction). By then, I was just praying I would get hit by a meteorite. Eventually, I suggested that I had to go and check on the kids. Offered to drive her home, but she was quite happy cycling in the dark, so off she went.I was so drained, I had to have a large chocolate infusion at the Freo chocolate shop. Why is it that so many of these aging hippies personas disguise self-interested and unpleasant people. Was it always this way, I wonder, when they weren't aging?
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