Vanilla or Swinger parties?

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  when you say vanilla party, do you just mean a normal party, muggle style, like in the real world lol If so, I would struggle in that environment, I'm just too horny, and that's not a comment to get attention, it's the way I am. I struggle anywhere in public because I'm so horny. So I find myself incredibly bored at normal life things. I would be hitting on someone to get action. But I also wonder if you find taking your clothes off boring, how do you think changing the venue or party type will help? I think it comes from within, or maybe the people don't turn you on, but changing the venue I don't think is the answer, due respect, I like you, and love your topics and comments, so no malice here, just wonder if you haven't quite found what turns you on?

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  sorry, forgot to say would definitely be swinger parties, but singles, not remotely interested in couples, and am put off by how indiscreet people are, so the parties I attend will be my own parties only. Really put off by the circle of people who gossip on the forum which spills out into the party scene, my privacy is everything to me and I tend to avoid parties in Perth for that reason. If I were elsewhere, I'd be full on into the parties, no question

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I appreciate both and accept that they are two separate experiences and I enjoy both as different types of fun. And like anything both swingers parties or vanilla parties can be lots of fun or both can be boring. Depends on the people that go, depends on my mood, depends on the venue. Just depends I agree with ITM that you most likely have not found what turns you on. I like large swingers parties that are more wilder or more like orgies with lots of people rather than what you probably mean by "swingers party". I find parties were the couples stick together and play together and there is no bisexual play between the men as definitely not as exciting (ok I agree they can be boring) but that's because I prefer other types of play. A few whips, a few ropes, a few subbies, lots of unhibitied men that have few boundaries - that's my thing. Those sorts of parties can be very social experiences too with lots of flirting and chatting and dancing. When you walk into the right place or party - you will know it.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I tend to find people are friendlier at swingers parties -inhibitions are lower and no topic is off the table in general like it is in vanilla settings .

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Interesting...on the contrary, I do know what turns me on, doesn't mean I'm not curious or don't like something more than something else. I can have multiple orgasm or no orgasms... I know I can satisfy that area or switch it off anytime I want. I don't put equal weighting on most things - they are just different. That's how I keep up my curiosity and know myself. Again, I don't think Vanilla/muggle party lovers will comment on a swinger site (except me haha), but a few single guys that are on/off on RHP, don't like the thought of the swing scene or being in the same room with another naked guy. I know I have a very addictive personality. I put a lot of energy into something until i burn out. I don't know why I do this. I wouldn't be half the person I am today, if I didn't do this. I guess it's what I'm used to. Can't let the flame die. I don't need sex with multiple people or at a party to have fun - I guess that's the main reason why I do enjoy vanilla/muggle parties because we do different things and know that sex is not on the plate, but channelling the energy into a variety of other physical, social, spiritual and/or cerebral activities. Life's happiness depends on balance. @ITMNo malice taken - but thanks :) I think it takes a lot for me to be offended :) I don't want to be bored at normal things in life. Some normal things are pretty special if you put it on the magical pedestal. Those things can be the sunshine in my darkness, but I have a different perspective I guess. I'd forget how to connect with true myself and other muggles lol there's so much potential to develop so many areas of your life. It's great to read your points of view, but I think I will just be me. @Candy, your mind intrigues me - how your bf can be in a bi-polyamorous relationship. That's pretty admirable, something I couldn't do. @Summer - true, also something I can't do, but still fun to hear why you love swinger/fet parties after so long. But you've known the people - that is the difference :) I have joined here only 2.5 month and didn't even realise it was a swinger site as well when I joined haha

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I have more hot friends at vanilla parties hahaha and we have a lot of laughs which makes our times even more fun. @PoisonIV - fair call. Each to their own I guess :)

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  What does vanilla mean? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I think one can attend the most vanilla of vanilla parties and end up having the best fun ever. One can attend the hottest swinger party and not have as much fun. I truly believe it's up to the people you go with/meet at the party. They're the ones who will make it or break it. I once attended a friend's birthday party where I would have never ever imagined anyone even considering playing. I was surprised to find myself in a sexy, comfortable environment where two couples, especially, were open about their preferences and nobody judged them. Ended up being an amazing experience. Not sure if it was the lack of expectations, which I find to be the case at swingers parties. I find in these everyone has expectations to find chemistry with someone and have some fun, if it doesn't happen often people feel let down or disappointed. Having said that, nothing better than an open environment where people are free to be open about their lifestyle and finding people who reciprocate those preferences and have chemistry with. Interesting nonetheless... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I don't remember ever getting contact details off a potential lady suitor at a vanilla party... Just saying... :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  at each and every swinger party becomes boring when there is nobody else attractive. It's about getting unwanted attention. When you feel you have to be the life of the party to entertain yourself and others, I guess you've never felt that way...? It is the people around you and what you make of it. I can entertain people with my personality and that takes less energy, I can flit between topics, but when naked, nobody talks much about anything else. It gives off a completely different vibe. Also being one of the youngest there, it's like being fresh meat. This is probably why you don't get too many vulnerable under 30s at parties. I can dance naked no problem. But you can't undo what people see. Nothing is left to the imagination. It's why some prefer the unveiling of flesh so sexy. Some don't go all the way. I think that can be sexy... to have a variety and leave some things to the imagination. Should try body paint one day... hmmm that would be fun :D - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  has always been hot... leave people wishing I would take this or that off.... but no, I'm gonna make them wait for however long it takes for me to want to take it off...this is the only game I play and love others playing along. The control is the best part, when others lose it hahaha I've only done that 1-1. I guess I answered my own question - find different ways to take your clothes off with 1 or more people watching. You should all get your strip tease on at your next swingers!!! Get it on! Nobody cares about your brain hahaha - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Youngest at 35? We've been out of the scene for a while now but Couples Club used to have a theme night called Angels and Demons and it was usually a good night with a large majority of people in their 20s and 30s. I never ever felt like I was getting lots of unwanted attention nor did I nude up all the time. There is a bar area and a pool table which is very social area with dancing too - and people are not nude. I often went with a group of friends which was awesome fun. True we were not discussing the economy, political science or our jobs. Haha I have assumed you are from Sydney? Think I read that somewhere.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Should have read your profile. You are from Brissy. Sorry. Scratch my comment above ^

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I'm a little confused why you'd be taking your clothes off if you're not attracted to anyone, into them so to speak. If that were me, my clothes would be staying put, it sounds like you feel you need to be the entertainment, compelled to nude up? You shouldn't ever feel compelled to do anything for the entertainment of others. Why not leave and go somewhere else to potentially find more suitable company or go back another night and try again. I'm a very sexual creature and love being watched but it's also the most intimate thing, whether in a club, party or whatever, with a few or lots of people, it still has to have that intimacy, you have to be into the people you're nuding up for, surely?

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  important I add that the reason I don't go to clubs is because I know creepos go there, and that just makes my skin crawl. I will always have control over who sees me in action, at a club, yes you go to a closed room, but I'm not into that, I'd rather play openly, can't see the point in going to a club and having sex in a room, may as well just stay at home and do it. But they are at the end of the day, running a business and will let anyone in, all the people who you don't see on here, fuzzy's, and disgusting men, who go there for a perve yew yeah not for me. Don't care how popular that comment is, it's the truth. I don't doubt there are nice guys who go, but there's no way I'd just lob up, some of the creeps on here talk about going to the clubs and that's a major turn off for me. Would I get naked for them, not on your sweet life

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Wow they must be awful. Lucky you have gone to all the clubs numerous times ITM so you can tell us all about it. So Perth is a no go zone ???

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I've now realised is that I don't have close friends in the swinger community - only started intensely going to parties and learning etiquette of swinger lifestyle in last 2 months. A bit burnt out already. Vanilla parties - no clothes come off and you talk and do other things. I can be more of myself. I go here with friends. There can be creeps and cheaters at vanilla clubs. I have found more hot people here. Swinger parties - I take my clothes off, not fully naked but enough to see 97% skin. Mostly, I was dancing naked when I was there as a "couple". I do this here because I can. (If I stay clothed, I may as well be at a vanilla party where I can have more fun chatting, doing things, dancing with other armoured up people.) The crowds at swinger parties is well... random, mediocre, hit n miss. It's just the way it is. I don't go here with friends. I don't invite randoms to my home, hence the closed doors work for me. I've never found creeps and hopefully less cheaters (but who knows) at swingers. I put all into my nights out. I don't go half hearted, there's no point. If I go to a party, I wanna have as good a time as possible, that is my choice, whatever happens. I dance at both parties. A party to me is not a party if there is no dancing. I will dance on my own, with or without alcohol. @Candy - "one of the youngest" but thanks for your perspective. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Unless youve been, then dont assume you know what goes on or what kind of guys go there. Ive seen people being refused entry and guys being told to leave who were making a pest of themselves. Also, the clubs have private rooms with sex swings. There are dungeons. Spas. Most people dont have these things at home. To spout off about things you know nothing about is just pointless. Ive been to vanilla and swinger parties. Each has their own ambience and mix of people. Its always the people who make a party.

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