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Vanilla sex?
February 10 2019
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Is perfectly ok. I think sometimes we need to stop giving it a bad rap. Sometimes people want that, other times they want extras. Sometimes vanilla sex can be amazing or times not. IMO Vanilla Sex does not include BDSM, Kinks, fetishes, toys, prompts, costumes, bondage, extra people (3somes + more). It doesn't matter what we call sex, the best sex in my eyes is soul fucking. If one has had that, they'll know exactly what I'm talking about. Ms Foxy
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MsJonesy
6 years ago
With vanilla sex. Great vanilla sex is better than average kinky sex. 🙃 Maybe some people equate vanilla sex with what happened for 10-20 years with their ex, where minimal effort was made to keep it fresh...and sensual. Everyone's idea of what constitutes vanilla will be different, so it is worth exploring what they mean. For some a bi threesome may be vanilla, for others that would be anything but vanilla. Personally, I would prefer a meet with a first time partner is more along vanilla lines rather than straight into kink. I like to know they have mastered the basic techniques before introducing other interests to the mix. 😁
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OkeyDoke45
6 years ago
To quote the best line from their classic song, ''I like vanilla it's the finest of the flavors''. My interpretation (of vanilla sex) is not that it's limited to missionary ''lay back and think of England'' style, it can incorporate all different positions, but aside from that it's fairly straightforward. Kiss, fondle, oral then sex. To me, even anal sex (which I can't stand) is not vanilla.
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Mischeviouslad
6 years ago
Here’s food for thought (three in a little vanilla pun there) One persons vanilla.... Is another persons Bavarian chocolate with pralines and marshmallow pieces So my view is if someone has chosen via the deliberate act of writing a complaint about being bored with their sex life in their profile, they’re looking to others to save them from a situation they’ve created for themselves It’s a potential red flag to me.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Mischievous that is a very valid point. I will keep it in mind when choosing the profiles to read and do nothing about...
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House_of_Fun
6 years ago
Quoting 'MsJonesy' With vanilla sex. Great vanilla sex is better than average kinky sex. 🙃 Maybe some people equate vanilla sex with what happened for 10-20 years with their ex, where minimal effort was made to keep it fresh...and sensual. In my opinion if a person says they are tired of vanilla, they are referring to what they have been having that they are now sick of. When I think of vanilla, I imagine slow and sensual lovemaking with lingering touches and endless kissing. Something I adore. And missionary will always be one of my favourite positions.
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RHP User
6 years ago
The word vanilla does seem to have negative connotations- but what doesn’t tick someone’s boxes blows another’s mind. And yes an individuals past history (I feel) weighs in on the negativity given to term vanilla.. vanilla can be wicked and tasty and vivacious and erotic and exploratory as can caramel and chocolate and blueberry and cookies n cream etc etc - words are open to interpretation depending on the people using them... and remember vanilla can always have any flavour added to it to enhance its taste
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RHP User
6 years ago
Trying different flavours but ultimately come back to vanilla for my comfort sex
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RHP User
6 years ago
I agree with Solitary missionary has always been my favorite.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Vanilla sex can be amazing lots of caresses, kissing, licking who wouldn't love it. I like kink as well but not for the first few meets with a guy he needs to gain my trust. So if a guys profile says he doesn't like vanilla sex I move to the next profile I love the kissing and caressing of vanilla. As a few posters have commented vanilla sex means different things to different people.
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
I love Vanilla sex. Its underrated. There's alot to be said for getting the fundamentals right. I feel too many people skip over it in favour of kink/taboo sex. And like Solitary and Yolo.... missionary will always be my fave, such a versatile position for sensual passionate sex.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Is an exotic and beautiful orchid..vanilla sex can be the same but sometimes it's good to have vanilla with a twist. Hugs Q
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RHP User
6 years ago
You know, I've heard the ingredient "natural vanilla flavouring" is derived from a gland in a beaver's anus... If it smells like vanilla, tastes like vanilla............?
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tall60
6 years ago
The vanilla plant is native to Mexico...but Madagascar and Indonesia are the major producers of vanilla beans, from which vanilla is extracted. Perhaps u r mixing with the wrong information sources.
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RHP User
6 years ago
...your jocks or panties are still hanging off of your feet and both of you are wearing your little white cotton socks, right? Vanilla is a good place to start...pass the hot fudge chocolate and red cherry topping! ʗɱ
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deepestpurple
6 years ago
Often people who write that do make it clear what sort of sex they are looking for and they're asserting they aren't interested in anything else which is their right and I'm sure a lot of them are just being genuinely specific in what they are seeking here. It's a red flag for me too though, it's naive and incompetent. How many guys are going to read it and think "oh well, that's not me, I won't waste this woman's* time by pursuing her". Almost zero, most guys think they're the kink master, very few will admit they're pure vanilla. Balance that against how many guys see it along the same lines as M'lad. It's a losing proposition that selects for wannabes. * I only read women's profiles so can only speak from that experience.
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RHP User
6 years ago
The vanilla flower is an orchid,which I consider to be exotic..and yes vanilla pods are the source of the flavour I notice that you have indicated on your profile that you have an aversion to vanilla sex. Q
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House_of_Fun
6 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' The vanilla flower is an orchid,which I consider to be exotic.. And what a sensual sexy flower it is. Maybe the people who dislike vanilla have only had the pleasure of tasting the synthetic variety?
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House_of_Fun
6 years ago
Quoting 'pepe_le_moko' You know, I've heard the ingredient "natural vanilla flavouring" is derived from a gland in a beaver's anus... If it smells like vanilla, tastes like vanilla............? Forget synthetic... "Just in time for holiday cookie season, we’ve discovered that the vanilla flavoring in your baked goods and candy could come from the anal excretions of beavers. Beaver butts secrete a goo called castoreum, which the animals use to mark their territory. The U.S. Food and Drug Administration lists castoreum as a “generally regarded as safe” additive, and manufacturers have been using it extensively in perfumes and foods for at least 80 years, according to a 2007 study in the International Journal of Toxicology. “I lift up the animal’s tail,” said Joanne Crawford, a wildlife ecologist at Southern Illinois University, “and I’m like, ‘Get down there, and stick your nose near its bum.'”“People think I’m nuts,” she added. “I tell them, ‘Oh, but it’s beavers; it smells really good.'” Castoreum is a chemical compound that mostly comes from a beaver’s castor sacs, which are located between the pelvis and the base of the tail. Because of its close proximity to the anal glands, castoreum is often a combination of castor gland secretions, anal gland secretions, and urine. The fragrant, brown slime is about the consistency of molasses, though not quite as thick, Crawford said. While most anal secretions stink—due to odor-producing bacteria in the gut—this chemical compound is a product of the beaver’s unique diet of leaves and bark, Crawford added.Instead of smelling icky, castoreum has a musky, vanilla scent, which is why food scientists like to incorporate it in recipes." Source: National Geographic, October 1 2013 Now back to your regular programming. p.s. Tall, if you're going to mansplain, remember your audience.
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RHP User
6 years ago
What can I say ?.So many unsaid puns spring to mind.:) Hugs Q
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bluem00n
6 years ago
..without reading too much into it, I think those referring to vanilla sex aren't so much talking about sex, but about being intimate with someone who reciprocates energy and engagement whilst being intimate.. .. or that could be just me 🤷♂️😅
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RHP User
6 years ago
Vanilla means plain.. Basically... So boring. Obviously different for different people. I guess doing the same thing over and over will make the sex vanilla? To me sex is fkn awesome though.. I havnt had much of it so nothing is vanilla haha!
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Mischeviouslad
6 years ago
Miss Solitary..... pause, for some food for thought. “Mansplaining” is a condescending and sexist word, used by women to deride men. Any man deliberately referencing sexist language is rightyfully criticised for it. I see no difference in this instance on the basis of exercising equality Please be better X DG
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RHP User
6 years ago
Is a word to describe a man's condescending behaviour towards a woman Actually calling out misogynist behaviour Hugs Q
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RHP User
6 years ago
Could e applied to your condescending attitude ML ""could be better" Phttt.
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House_of_Fun
6 years ago
Thank you for your opinion. I respectfully disagree.
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RHP User
6 years ago
...mansplained
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RHP User
6 years ago
We call Vanilla sex, our Love sex, it's were we meet together in comfort. Love making is meaningful in that we exchange, give and receive pleasure, slowly, and sensually, exploring our whole bodies equally. It takes hours, involves, holding up the process of cumming until we are both ready to explode and it's beautiful, it's the meeting of our souls and it's bonding. Then there's Mi Sex, sorry for pun lol (for him) which involves another Bi-Guy then it's Randy sex for me, which includes anal, but of course that only starts with Vanilla sex lol. It's a bit quicker than love sex, coz of more careful preparation. Then there's Kinky sex that involves a bit of everything but not bukake, but piss is ok. It's usually the quickest as it's tiring lol. So it depends on the mood, the mind set, the time restraints etc etc. I never knock back Vanilla sex, ever, coz sometimes you need to connect on a deeper level and not be selfish.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Repetitive, zero budgin from ‘routine’ Ex hubby.... Missionary to get him going, Doggy to finish him off (repeat every two months) 😂 for 22 years The mere suggestion of anything outside of that was quickly judged by him...and shot down in flames I love missionary but not when they’re just on a mission to end it LOL (Ironically he’s now in a loving relationship with a prostitute)
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