Virgin male looking for advice

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  Mischeviouslad

  6 years ago

  My advice..... forget about sex as a goal and put your energy into talking to people. BE interested in others and BE interesting by sharing what you enjoy in your life with others Sex is just a part of life that happens when others find you interesting, and being interesting makes you appealing and attractive to others..... but you do have to be a little bit bold about it. Some say fake it until you make it, and that can help a little to realise some social successes. Just don’t take “rejections” personally as they’re a great opportunity to learn After saying all that..... if you want to cast off the virgin status for your own reasons, sure, see an escort... but use that opportunity to learn too - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Rlee552

  6 years ago

  If you are looking to hook up on this site, you need to be prepared to be rejected -sometimes brutallly. If that is something you will struggle with, then perhaps this is stage 2 of your journey, not stage 1. Best of luck with it all. Don’t let it worry or concern you. Don’t waste the opportunity for something special because you want to get it out of your system - so don’t do anything you think you may regret.

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  OkeyDoke45

  6 years ago

  I know where you are coming from. I decided at the age of 21 that I was tired of being a virgin (you always feel like everybody else is at a party to which you have never be invited) so sought professional help. It really was the best way to do it, took all the stress out of the situation totally. None of the usual anxieties that come with seduction. She was a top chick too, really talkative and genuinely liked her profession. I really lucked out. As far as the whole picking up women thing goes, it really does come down to confidence. I lacked this essential quality for most of my adult life. Until my early thirties I had only had sex a handful of times, it really was quite pathetic. Or, should I say, I look back at myself then and think that it was me that was quite pathetic. I only had one girlfriend in all of my twenties, and let's just say that she did nothing to boost my confidence in myself at all. In my thirties I met my ex, and despite her flaws she really did boost my confidence and made me feel attractive and sexy. That was on the good days, mind. A fucking monster on the bad days that specialized in doing the exact opposite, but anyway. I have had way more success on the pickup front since separating from my ex - and me a man in his forties. Long story short - you need, somehow, to work on your confidence. There are eleventy thousand ways you can do this, but a word of advice - seeking to do so on here or in a pub is almost guaranteed to not be successful.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Thank you for your post and sharing your experience. I do need to focus on confidence and making myself happy. I tend to rely too much on external factors to make me happy. I understand that this isn't the best place to look, but to be honest I am here partly because sex positive people tend to be more accepting, have useful advice and there's a nice community feel here. It feels comfortable talking in this space, especially with how Western society sees and acts in regards to sex.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Showing a virgin all the fun! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  It definitely could be. I may be hearing impaired, but I'm a good listener. Haha.

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  curiousmrs

  6 years ago

  Was thinking the same thing curiousity lol

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Working on your profile a bit. There's really no information and no pics. It would help your sales pitch to reveal more about yourself. The virgin side is fine, and people like us think its kinda fun to play with a virgin :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  FeistyFatty

  6 years ago

  Might be worth a try dude - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Don't pop your cherry when you're drunk...

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Thanks curiosity, I'll take that advice on board. I'll spruce it up one day. @fatfunfiesty - I've been looking into it, bit nervous about it. @MrMojo - Good advice. I don't like excessive drinking (do it sometimes). I'd like to remember it. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Do you know Auslan? Because there's at least one other deaf lady here you might get along well with :P

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Unfortunately, I haven't learned to sign yet. I'll have to learn soon though. - Posted from rhpmobile

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