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Wanking in front of a girl when they don't want to have sex?
March 23 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Until they go to Sleep.. Then I do it.. and blow over their face and hair. *shrugs*
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playfulminx
12 years ago
I think this depends on whether your partner doesn't want to have sex because she's tired (and presumably no longer turned on) and whether you've known her long enough to do that. If she's not in the zone anymore and you don't know her that well, I think one should wait :|If however you're with a woman who was up for everything else but actual intercourse and the only way you can get your end away is through solo love, then why not? There's lots of guys who can't actually orgasm through hand or oral relief from someone else so a good wank makes sense.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It just doesn't feel right if I keep going after they have passed out from the pleasure.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think its sexy watching a man wank. Maybe she will change her mind when she see's what your doing. I would :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think the polite thing to do would be to leave the room. I guess if anyone isn't in the mood that's the last thing they would want to witness. Differant story if she's happy enough watching you wank then that's hot.
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RHP User
12 years ago
i think its because the female genuinely just prefers the sleep over sex where as the male prefers sex over sleep assuming its night time and you both in bed to call it a night, males have two heads, the one on his neck and the one in his pants, plz dont be offended guys but the one in your pants controls the one on your neck, while the one on your neck is sleeping, the one in your pants wakes up at all hours and wants action so he wakes you up and probably expects his partner to wake up aswell!
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LemonDance
12 years ago
To an attractive, athletic 26 year old male? You've have women lay next to you who don't want sex? Maybe then, you're not doing enough to spark their interest, or hold their interest?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LemonDance'To an attractive, athletic 26 year old male? You've have women lay next to you who don't want sex? Maybe then, you're not doing enough to spark their interest, or hold their interest?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I mean when you've been out all night and you both go home to have sex and the girl all of the sudden can't be bothered and says lets just do it in the morning, which doesn't work for me because if I think we are having sex and don't I can't sleep properly untill I cum. More often then not it's a turn on and sex happens but the other night a girl I've been sleeping with asked if it was appropriate. That's why I asked.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When you're in a long term relationship, you aren't always turned on at the same time, you aren't always tired at the same time. We both do it from time to time, usually that gets the other one interested though.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't have an issue if someone wanted to do it but can't imagine just laying there.. what arr the situations when this would occur?- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
If its a constant thing, maybe it's time to consider the dynamic you have with this partner you currently have, don't know you, but she sounds bored as u. If its a one off and your venting, that's cool. But how did she take it when u pulled out and did yourself, most chicks find it disrespectful unless there the right sort that gets off seeing it.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hmmm that speaks volumes,this a fwb I assume.Perhaps next time when she is too pooped for passion OP ,you could indulge in some intimate holding,cuddling,and gentle kissing.That might put her in the mood .If that doesn't work then you need to respect her wishes and either go home to a personal wankfest or as someone suggested the bathroom.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hmmm that speaks volumes,this a fwb I assume.Perhaps next time when she is too pooped for passion OP ,you could indulge in some intimate holding,cuddling,and gentle kissing.That might put her in the mood .If that doesn't work then you need to respect her wishes and either go home to a personal wankfest or as someone suggested the bathroom.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Cock_Suckers'I think the polite thing to do would be to leave the room. I guess if anyone isn't in the mood that's the last thing they would want to witness. Differant story if she's happy enough watching you wank then that's hot. this is my take on it too....Shel doesnt mind if i play...or me her...but if shes not 'in the mood', its poor taste and manners to go ahead in the same room/bed.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hear what you're saying.. There is two choices. 1/ If its a one night thing NSA...just wank if its your bed..Your bed is your bed!!! If she doesn't like it..STIFF!!! Her bed...yep either leave and go home or go to bathroom and have a wank. either way you get a wank. 2/Long-Term partner...If a woman is "not" in the mood- she's NOT in the mood...sorry buddy-you have to respect her wishes...if not its going to ruin what you've got. ALSO have you in your head thinking space you want sex prior?? cause that's setting yourself up, if it doesn't happen, then you feel disappointed with yourself-high expectations not met..maybe??... :-( Now I love watching a man wank...when they cum even better...sometimes I join in and help clean up. ;-) All the best. Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
It can be a very intimate thing, when you're not in the mood for sex, to have your partner lie beside you and indulge in some self-loving. I think it's yummy if a couple can be that relaxed and comfortable with their sexuality with each other. I would never expect him to leave the room, unless I was desperate for sleep and the noise/movement was disturbing me. It's all about it being intimate and respectful though.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just stand at the end of the bed and show your independence lipquiver then wipe your cock on the sheets walk out into the lounge turn the TV on and crack open a beer. No guarantee that it will work and get you sex tho but may just get her attention LOL. if someone is not in the mood they are not in the mood easy as that. Don't take it to personal mate its all swings and roundabouts especially if you have been out half the night she may have had a big day and just wanted to have you cuddle up next to her for the night and wake up for a bit of morning glory ") It gets easier to accept as you get older mate.
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MissSarahCurious
12 years ago
Not something that would have ever occurred to me since I don't do sleepovers or drunk hookups, why would she go home with someone in the first place if she's planning to wait til morning?
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RHP User
12 years ago
No man would ever be around me wanking unless I was specifically asking to watch him wank (which I love!!!). If he was near me, with an erection - he would be devoured - day or night LOL. A hot cock attached to a sexy man is just unbearable.....yummmmmmmm If I wasn't into him he wouldn't be with me.
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erotictouch4u
12 years ago
When the wife was satisfied and then just rolled over leaving me to myself, I didn't do it. Thought the first time this happened was a little wierd but then it became more the norm...selfish. Now she don't get any from me first as I don't want it to happen again. Just go to sleep and the urge will subside until next time. ET xox
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RHP User
12 years ago
We have a hot sex life so my man does have to worry about having a wank even though I love watching him do so. On the other hand. Some mornings I'm up for it and he's not (not often) and I love to get my toy or he gets it for me and I have a play under the covers while he gives my bum a little rub. He love me masturbating with him and I love it as well.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'lipquiver'I mean when you've been out all night and you both go home to have sex and the girl all of the sudden can't be bothered and says lets just do it in the morning, which doesn't work for me because if I think we are having sex and don't I can't sleep properly untill I cum. More often then not it's a turn on and sex happens but the other night a girl I've been sleeping with asked if it was appropriate. That's why I asked. If a woman is tired and just wants to sleep, nothing worse than the bed jumping around and the guy having a frustration wank. It puts the guilts on the woman, says look you are not giving me what I want when I want. But that being said, you can always ask do you mind if I Have a wank, and can I cum on your tits, face or in my hand or what ever. If she says no then go in the shower or over to my place.... its the same for women, I was laying there naked having a wank as the guy had cum in ten seconds, and he got up and had a shower, before I had hardly started, put me right off my stroke. so I rolled over and ask the other guy how he was feeling
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RHP User
12 years ago
lol onya Tuscan
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
......contemplating the concepts of selfishness, lack of empathy, social intelligence..... Hmmmmmm DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love ya work! Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting 'lipquiver'I mean when you've been out all night and you both go home to have sex and the girl all of the sudden can't be bothered and says lets just do it in the morning, which doesn't work for me because if I think we are having sex and don't I can't sleep properly untill I cum. More often then not it's a turn on and sex happens but the other night a girl I've been sleeping with asked if it was appropriate. That's why I asked. If a woman is tired and just wants to sleep, nothing worse than the bed jumping around and the guy having a frustration wank. It puts the guilts on the woman, says look you are not giving me what I want when I want. But that being said, you can always ask do you mind if I Have a wank, and can I cum on your tits, face or in my hand or what ever. If she says no then go in the shower or over to my place.... its the same for women, I was laying there naked having a wank as the guy had cum in ten seconds, and he got up and had a shower, before I had hardly started, put me right off my stroke. so I rolled over and ask the other guy how he was feeling
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RHP User
12 years ago
In these circumstances, how is self pleasuring selfish? He's asked her if she wants sex, she has said no, he's taken the matter into his own hands. I'm sorry i don't think that's selfish. If he had kept trying to change her mind that would be selfish. I'm sure as she was so tired she had no problem rolling over and ignoring what he was up to. For me, it's a turn on to watch, and there is no way i'd be able to keep my hands to myself.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think what everyone here has forgot to mention is the practicality of the situation. The difference between light and hard is that I will eventually fall asleep with a light on......Better than keeping the poor woman awake tossing and turning.
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RHP User
12 years ago
TL mentioned frustration wank and I think that's the key here. If one partner isn't up for sex at the time and the other gets annoyed, frustrated, pissed off and then starts wanking, that's pretty childish and rude. But if the couple support and appreciate each other's sexuality and desires, then if one partner isn't interested in the moment, the other would - in a loving relationship - be free and welcome to satisfy themselves. There's nothing for either partner to feel guilty about. Have to say though, I've been with some men who fuck and wank like desperate teenage boys crossed with randy rabbits - if my partner wanked like that (fast, furious, like he had no control over his sexual urges) ... well, I suspect he wouldn't be my partner!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I see nothing wrong with it, if my man wants to wank next to me, its the most naturall thing in the world, I say go for it, I must admit to caving in and having sex, or finishing hjm off myself,..... hate to think of that cum going to waste! mmmmm...nice. I also like to masturbate as well....
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RHP User
12 years ago
There's no issue if one of us isn't in the mood and the other wants to enjoy a "wank". We have an open relationship in that area, that if for some reason one of us isn't in the mood, or when the "mouse is in da house" we can freely enjoy some "self indulgence" time without feeling that its a sin..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just do it. Who knows...you might just turn them on by doing it. They're missing out if they don't take it. :DI like watching but don't always want to do it....though lately, I do want to. nomnomnom
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love the apathy! I've never turned a guy down for sex (and I always make them blow) so this hasn't happened to me. But if I see a dude beating off, I beat off. ROLE REVERSAL!In many situations have I been unsatisfied; I go right on ahead and tinker my bell til it rings loud right in front of them. That's what sex is for. To orgasm. If your partner can't do it, you gotta step in and right the wrongs, soldier. Sure I get some weird I'm-a-failure-of-a-man crossed with what-the-fuck-are-you-doing,-you-freak? looks but meh. When you gotta cum, you gotta cum. While we're on the topic, I've even jacked off at work before. Fuck it!
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RHP User
12 years ago
It all comes down to respect and agreement. Trust me, I did a lot of 'flogging the willow' when I shouldn't have and now I've been kicked out of the marital home.If you respect your partner and he/she is simply tired the my advice would be to wait until the are in the mood - the sex will be so much better for it (consider it an aphrodisiac)If your partner is OK with you rubbing one out, go for itBut for god sake, trust me on this, COMMUNICATE!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been in this situation too many times! Where I was invited into their bed for the night (most used the old "come cuddle" line) and I've accepted. We may be lying together cuddling or kissing passionately but I don't want to take it further. On occasion my words have fallen on deaf ears and its such a turn-off when he continues his attempts to clumsily seduce me. What woman hasnt spent an evening playing goalie, wishing she was alone in bed?! Even worse is the ridiculous "well if you don't want sex, I'm going to have a wank" *CRINGE!!!!!* I think most women would find that worthy of a million eye rolls and its a situation that's been criticised and laughed at amongst my girlfriends hundreds of times. Although that doesn't seem to be the case with the women here. Don't be that guy! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I for 1 cant say that has ever happened to me I guess if it did I would feel horrid for leaving him in that state and remedy the prob.
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RHP User
11 years ago
if a guy is doing that in front of me it turns me on beyond belief....that would definitely get me back into the mood if i wasn't already! i don't know why there's such a negative stigma around men having a wank openly in front of a woman
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'z_i_a'ROLE REVERSAL!In many situations have I been unsatisfied; I go right on ahead and tinker my bell til it rings loud right in front of them. That's what sex is for. To orgasm. If your partner can't do it, you gotta step in and right the wrongs, soldier. Sure I get some weird I'm-a-failure-of-a-man crossed with what-the-fuck-are-you-doing,-you-freak? looks but meh. When you gotta cum, you gotta cum. While we're on the topic, I've even jacked off at work before. Fuck it! Zia you are now my favorite RHP forum user :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not afraid to give my whole honest opinion with a lot of my personality in my replies.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Lol done that too!! Hmm have been in that scenario, I simply used his hand to rub me to orgasm -.- that usually works!! I do enjoy a mutual session watching too. Who doesn't? Lady Tuscan you are awesome and Cavey that was hilarious, do that to me though and make sure you sleep with one eye open in future. Haha
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mmmmm ok this has me thinking, as lucky me. Have not come across this situation yet. Are Tuscan you devil.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do it if the lady can't satisfy me they seem to like it and I end up just bricking in their hair
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RHP User
11 years ago
If they start masturbating ill help get them off real nice. :p
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RHP User
11 years ago
INCOMING !
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've had a guy do that. Didn't bother me, I like watching a guy wank, chances are it'll get me in the mood!- Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
What do you think, we are thinking about when having a wank?Tara just has to walk past me, and I want to root her. Most times she lets me as she likes to cum. I can't root her every time she walks past, as she says nothing would get done. I may tell her that at least she gets done, and that has worked, though in many cases she suggests that I should do it myself. Tara knows that I am looking at her, plus thinking about the ways she gets me to cum, so she may just murmer and hmmmm, while getting things done, she is a passionate woman and letting off a shot in her honor is anything but frustrating.Mado
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
Busy baby - yep I agree with you 😉
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Splicey
11 years ago
If I am not interested in sex and Mr is, I really hope he takes care of himself rather than wait.We won't always be in sync and we can't always expect the other to wait. And I love love love it when he goes for it lying next to me
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hmm - I've never done this, but in my last serious relationship (which lasted 5 years), there were 4 occasions all up where she was tired and I was too horny to get to sleep.However instead of doing it in bed I went to the bathroom or downstairs. As men we don't really have the luxury of stealth/elegance when masturbating. Also I'd fear the message it would send to the woman. I'd imagine it would make her feel pressured, guilty and worried she can't satisfy you herself to the extent where you beat your meat in-front of her if she says no.So I'd say you'd have to be a little bit of a dick to do it without thinking about what you might really be doing to her. If she's 100% fine with it, than cool, next time she says no - masturbate till no tomorrow.
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RHP User
11 years ago
they always crack it when I do and demand they take care of me, I like making them feel guilty :P
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RHP User
11 years ago
Leave the room or if it's someone you know very well, have a convo about how they feel about it when you are both not horny. It could really upset and offend some people.
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RHP User
11 years ago
totally agree slickz!! Need to be thoughtful.
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madotara69
11 years ago
You all love it,some just do not know it yet. One day baby, when the river runs dry, you will carry that water of love for your guyMado
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MissSarahCurious' Not something that would have ever occurred to me since I don't do sleepovers or drunk hookups, why would she go home with someone in the first place if she's planning to wait til morning?
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RHP User
11 years ago
How about you come over and wank in front of me, and i'll see what I think then ;)hahabut really, I have never had that situation come up, unless I have suggested the guy play with himself while I watch and undoubtably join in!
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RHP User
11 years ago
for me, and who cares if so and so wants to have some shut eye, go to sleep - call it what you will. It's all about respect
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timeforacuppa67
11 years ago
You really have got it right... all the women I have known would not be able to resist once they see things being "taken in hand"... it would be the same if the sitation was reversed...... if I were "tired" and my woman started to pleasure herself next to me and the sounds and heat started to come from her... I would get so aroused I would have to help her get the most from the moment.
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