Wanting vs Needing in a relationship

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  couplecourious

  2 years ago

  Having a healthy dose of both seems to sustain us pretty well. Different phases of life can tilt either one of us more heavily in either direction though from time to time

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  MrandMrsEss

  2 years ago

  I want her, I yearn and lust for her and I don’t want a life without her so surely I need her. We have much in common but it’s the differences that really make it work, we compliment each other and we perform better together. We are far from perfect but we understand each other’s short comings and accept them. But life is never stationary so our relationship evolves as our experiences influence it. It’s great to have someone to share it all with.

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  SimplyUs

  2 years ago

  I need my wife, She completes me… 😉

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  nightingale8

  2 years ago

  Need is a funny word but I get where you’re coming from, OP. I would cope in the long run without him, maybe even find someone else, but I think I would have lost my heart. Life isn’t just to survive. When I first met my partner I didn’t know I needed him as he showed me a level of connection, understanding and intimacy I never had experienced before. I think that’s pretty special and I’m still learning. I like to think that it goes both ways (I hope!) and we are discovering each other as we grow with each year that passes. He’s my anchor but we both understand that love isn’t finite and connection is our ultimate aim. I think ‘independence’ has been oversold. Taken to an extreme it sucks and it’s lonely. Interdependence is a nice balance…

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  Rising_Phoenix

  2 years ago

  Funnily enough I actually function better as a single woman it seems, I want a nice relationship but am yet to find one that makes me a better person or benefits me in a way other than sex and a bit of companionship, hence my profile that seeks LT sex and companionship but not necessarily what people would call a relationship. It’s a want, definitely not a need. Marriage drained me, it was rarely a two way street..It’s nice to have me looking after me these days and that includes taking care of my want for good, regular sex, lol 🙂

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  deepestpurple

  2 years ago

  Anxious avoidant attachment style gang represent. I do not and will not need anyone ever, I am fully capable of serving my own needs and I do not understand relying on other people for needs, my life experience is that only leads to pain and suffering.

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  Sawadee

  2 years ago

  In a relationship ' everyone has wants , but its rarely a 50 / 50 union as one personality is usually stronger than the other and get to call most the shots.. Not all ' is suits some relationships to be that way. But that doesnt diminishe the need... Needs can be met or put up with.. l think if the relationship is comfortable and they are content they will accept things the way they are..

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  Ms_silk

  2 years ago

  I could only hope that in a relationship that I always felt wanted and also felt the same way to my partner. I'm independent and wish to keep my home and my finances seperate. So I don't need or worry about being dependant on another in a financial aspect. However being able to support each other in times of sickness or emotional support are always a necessary need. Divorced twice so I know what I want and need in the future.

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  Zippycactus

  2 years ago

  I don’t want or need anyone, emotionally. I want sex, I don’t need it. Two completely different desires. I’d rather be in a cabin on a hill surrounded by fresh air and sunshine with not a soul in sight for the rest of my life, but I want sex. It’s a bastard of a dilemma

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  Zippycactus

  2 years ago

  And unfortunately that comes with some emotional attachment. I feel very lucky to be where I am at the moment with the few people in my life that get that. Emotions are bastards

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  madotara69

  2 years ago

  So many, too many, maybe all the lead they wiped away in a day, swept for why and for when under the carpet and for years blamed things for young men to adolescent men later than 25yr, average age men’s brains have fully developed, to 30’s some even older, many many problems related to anger, aggressive behaviour , violent attacks, extreme violent rage causing serious bodily harm, near death and to death, all in common , little to no control managing the monster, unpredictable from cool calm collected, any time and oh no not now how and rage out of no clue for cause, women, lots of women , kids or no kids, by all means meant to be in happiest least stressful, good health and medicine support and thousands if not millions of people living in a world where mental health is low for illness, kids play in parks, go to school, poeple play sports and sun ale on a beach. Got cars and trains and bicycle lanes, air con and heater food cloths, yet extreme acts of violent aggressive out of nowhere , also the traits of deception, secrets, betrayal of fundamental needs to living and sharing and in the dreams love and the man protects cares to and Carrie’s a sense with pride he is in love, in return he is loved and most men I truly believe and count on for the needs most pined for when lonely, simply want to and be loved and share time in bed having sex a lot, but even a laugh and a hug and feelings stable, communicated in calm waters, better understandings, meanings to put emotions in place, some hurt and meant to hurt, any time going to the emotion and all what the emotion has means, if you miss mum she passed away, you need her, it’s going to hurt, you know understand and it’s exactly right for all, decent, if no hurt feeling numb and anxious, avoid at all cost, then something is wrong, trauma and suppressed feelings. But lots of hurtful, betrayal, to keep you is to own and control and think and choose best for to keep you is an insecurity, guilt self forgiving and it always is her fault he lost his mind and she made him feel what for, So many hurt, betrayed, needed became vulnerable and weaponised and Truama suffered by fear, no answer clear nor why, no place to put, no way to understand, headmiles in circles, emotions suppressed, feelings fly on right over one’s head, someone now is left cold, needing empathy if nothing for any good, so many and no not a Panadol or no doze or shot of whisky drug fuelled epidemic, all the good ones.. no none of them. The effects and causes of the rage and violent into extremes are the effects associated and cause by heavy metal poisoning in the bloodstream and the past few years have been the timing on time with the generations of the children, born into the heaviest heavy metals in history’s pages, over night it was removed from all so much and not because it was like Brussel sprouts banned dom existance because they taste yuk puke omg the world is so so much better and smells nicer since saved by minted peas and new juicy corn on cob got squirting in in with Miley Cyrus hot horny and twirking hit the roof, girls all uploading the updating progress as works in progress, showing off all the hard work and focus self discipline with how they will fuck a dick and milk it dry and that’s cool, more power to them, Now that the generation suffered I’ll the most are victims of cruel experiments like asbestos, so many hurt and Trauma has it seemingly normal to feel bitter, never risk feelings and emotions in care, love, lust, trust in sharing soulmate friendship to feel what is meant to hurt and with meanings, better understanding, empathy and oxytocin. All the needs have a place to be put, never again needed, no need, ‘No Woman, No Cry’ ..Bob Marly and the Whalers’ ‘You can fool some people all the time, but you can’t fool all the people all the time, get up stand up’ Mado Mado Tara xx

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