F50
Weight loss and beauty
June 27 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Frack,First up, your boobs look great in your pic And second and more importantly, the choice you have made to lose weight (whatever your motivation) will be your life blood from now on - if you let it. Regardless of whether you love what you see in the mirror or not (and let's face it, few of us do), your journey has made you stronger and healthier - and that has to be a happy thing.There are cosmetic procedures available to help reduce the excess skin, but no doubt you've already done the research.To answer your questions :1) Are guys expectations anything like girls? I think yes - for SOME men. But there are plenty who are happy to find and please a woman regardless of how many saggy bits she has.2) How can you be proud of your efforts? I think the answer to that is to embrace your choice to live a healthier lifestyle. What you've done is shown a huge amount of personal willpower and dedication - it's the spirit that makes a personal beautiful. You just have to find a way to believe that. But I get that it's hard when we are surrounded by the body beautiful. Well done and good luck!Mrs
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ruby_blossum
11 years ago
If there is too much of it, tan it. lolSeriously Frack_Me, I have a few friends who find themselves in your sitution after loosing weight, a couple of them have looked into surgery to remove the excess skin.Both of them decided not to for various reasons, one being the cost and the other is the down time after each surgery (up to 6 weeks)One of them started using Bio-oil and was happy with the results (can be bought at Aldi for less than half the price at chemists) Even daily use of a vegetable base , not sorbalene cream, moisturiser will do wonders keeping your skin nourised.The rubbing in of the cream also acts as a stimulant to the skin.At 54, soon to be 55, I no longer care what another thinks of my body.Its the only one I have, its nowhere near perfect, I do what I can so that I am happy in it.You have put in the time and effort to lose the weight, good on you!Just keep working on yourself and your acceptance for now.
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RHP User
11 years ago
wow i think your boobs look great!! If you think they're flat id hate to think what you'd say about mine!! Its hard when you lose a big amount of weight, sounds like you are trying to tone which is great...and surgery is always an option.... I dont like lots of my body parts, but am often pleasantly surprised that guys like them!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Look fine to me Don't stress, often with rapid weight loss the skin lags behind a bit, the bigger improvements to your health and longevity are what really count.Just work on muscle tone, stay hydrated and things will firm up over time.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That you are inspirational!!! I went through a similar change and have great admiration for people who have made such a large change, knowing just long and hard a journey it can be.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Need to do whatever makes you feel good in your own skin... the rest will take care of itself... And if the boys don't like it, find a man. Btw... nice boobs!- Posted from rhpmobile
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lovman8
11 years ago
Let me start by saying those boobs look perfect to me, (excuse me while I mop up the drool) and when its all said and down when I'm with a naked lady her confidence, attitude and wit are far more important in convincing me she is sexy than her looks. Most of us average guys just feel honoured that a woman is willing to get naked for us. Be proud of your weight loss and most men worth their salt will celebrate with you, naked or clothed.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We all have our physical imperfections :) be good to yourself, your pic definitely looks appealing and plus......I love the new BSG. frack it! Don't worrrrrryy....be happy now...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Babe you got a a great set. dont stress!
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sweetgem
11 years ago
Perhaps stop all the hardcore exercises or trainings from now on, and take on regular swimming (3-4 times a week) instead. Swimming helps to tone your body up, so it might be good for you in your case. If you meet a man and he doesn't appreciate who you are, you know he's not the right company or match for you and move on :-) nothing personal, it's just everyone's taste is different :-) Always be proud of your own efforts no matter what! Because there are so many people (male and female) out there who want to lose weight and get fit, but never really do it and some even end up developing depression because of their lack of efforts! I have some friends who are wanners instead of doers, and they said I was nuts when I signed up to a 12-session hardcore PT class, but when they saw the results I achieved, they talked with admiration for my dedication! So, I guess my point is, do a bit of mind meditation and learn to love your new body, plus remember that you can now buy clothes pretty much from any fashion stores instead of the big size shops :-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am an 80 year old...oh no,forgot I'm 82...damn. Frackie,your boobies are not pancakes,they are gorgeous melons.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are from 6 months ago. Boobs look very different now, but I'm embarrassed by my once ample d cups going to a b. This hasn't ever happened before when I've lost weight. I wasn't prepared for it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Good reading (mostly) folks :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' Well I should shut my mouth When you let yourself go and gain weight there's 3 ways to go. Stay fat get surgery date wrinkled 80 year olds and that comment is helpful how exactly??? read your opening line and remember it
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RHP User
11 years ago
Frack , you're a legend Can I ask how much you have lost? I too have been through a huge transformation losing close to 35 kg in the last couple years. The weights training has really helped tone things up but beware!! I now find I have bigger biceps than a lot of men!! I found by changing things up a bit and doing zumba and boot camp as well as the weights really had an effect on my body shape. I know how hard it is, when fully clothed even I can admire my reflection but still lack self confidence when butt naked!! I lay down and my boobs disappear!! don't even have side boob! But I would never go back! I'd rather live another 30 years with saggy bits than only 10 years with big bits . Remember confidence is sexy. you will meet a man that sees you for the beautiful strong woman that you are
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Splicey
11 years ago
Everyone has issues with their appearance. I'm yet to meet one person who doesn't.What you look at and think is perfection, the person sees faults in.What you look at and see faults, other people look at and see perfection.It takes all types and if you're worried about what you look like or how your body moves you can do everything you can, and want to, to fix it, or you can just own it. Then even then some times you can do everything and still not be 'perfect'Perfection is judged by the person passing comment - what you think about your body is pretty irrelevantMrsSplicey
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RHP User
11 years ago
You're no spring chicken yourself. Maybe stop thinking everyone else has the problem and realise your attitude is. I looked at your profile and it made me shudder. I might not be perfect but I know I'd run a mile if someone with your outlook came near me... As for the advice... Gee thanks.... I think I'll take it under advisement and disregard it. At least I have got the guts to admit I'm feeling less than wonderful about my body. Talk about your chauvanistic attitude.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've lost over 50kgs. I've worked hard but a botched lap band saw me having to have 75% of my stomach removed to repair the damage left by a stupid surgeon who wouldn't believe me when I said something was wrong. Note to all young players... Grab doctors by nuts if needs be to get their attention. I just guess I'm feeling like.... I've done all this hard work, sacrificed my time, effort. And I'm still no closer to being, for want of a better word, happy. I thought this would make me happy. I thought being thinner would help me to find me and the person in supposed to be. Maybe a Year just isn't enough time yet. Finding myself a hot lover would have been nice as well.
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RHP User
11 years ago
losing weight can of course make you feel good but it aint gonna make ya happy.A penis can be a part of ha-ppiness but if its the wrong one,that aint gonna make ya happy. Personally, in my never humble opinion,I think happiness is highly over rated...strive for contentment instead,none of us are perfect,women...and some men....twitter on endlessly about self love....self confidence yadda yadda,but they have either never experienced serious self doubt or they are born again self lovers....the worst offenders are often, the once were seriously fat. How do you arrive at this self excepting state?....well not comparing your gorgeous self to others is a start....and recognise your gifts and talents.....celebrate you,not in an egomaniacl way ...but just in a gentle excepting way. I recently fell down the rabbit hole,I couldn't bare the looking glass,but a gorgeous man came back into my life and now I see me through his eyes....take one moment,then one minute,then an hour to savour you,surround yourself with people who love and appreciate you,get rid of the negative fools and grow strong,x Hugs R.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Over 50 killo's wow, that is a massive achievement. Most of the guys I've met through the site are here because they love women, in all shapes and form, have photo's that show what you believe to be your flaws in a flattering way of course. That way when you get a message from a guy you know he's keen even after seeing photo's. Self image can be a nightmare, what you see, others don't, be proud of what you've acheived, drink loads of water, take vitamin e and use bio oil and know that beauty comes from the inside. Don't be so hard on yourself, find the things that you love about the new you and focus on them. You have so many opportunities to buy all the gorgeous bra's now that your in a b cup, get a few waspies and corsets that flatter and tuck and lift and embrace the new you!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Truly is only early days !! I actually had the gastric sleeve done where 2 thirds of my stomach have been removed, that was over 3 years ago now and I only just got back on the horse so to speak about 6 months ago.Changing the physical appearance is only a small part of the transformation. For years I still kept thinking like a bigger person with all this self loathing every time I looked at myself. Its so hard to explain but one day you will wake up and something will just click but the rest now has to come from within. Tell me though Frack , and this frustrates the f**k out of me, I literally cant drink enough alcohol to get past slightly tipsy!! Do you find that?
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RHP User
11 years ago
join an Aqua Aerobics class, as an Instructor i cant tell you how well it tones you!! You are working every muscle in your body 800 x more efficiently than on land!! if no class near you, just go swimming, or message me and i can give you some exercises to do in the water.Congratulations on a fantastic weight loss!!! :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
...also yoga works wonders for body image. It makes you feel good from the inside and also helps you to become the objective observer. Hard putting words to that kind of stuff as it's conceptual with yoga so you have to experience it for yourself. I have a friend who had the gastric sleeve 2yrs ago. She gradually came down from a size 24 to a size 10. She had to deal with the psychological changes that followed one day at time. Her feelings of happiness and well being didn't suddenly return overnight and you have to remember that it is a major surgery of which you have had a complication. Sometimes there can be an emotional fallout afterwards. My friend did eventually notice her good feelings and sexual interest return after being buried, shut down or temporarily sat upon for so long. She just needed time and some plumping up a bit. Everyone is different with regards to recovery and the physical is just half the battle. Good on you for having the courage to do it and keep on keeping on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Good job for losing all the weight!!! It will take abit to adjust ! Remeber to get used to your new self first! People who judge solely on looks or bag your flaws are not who you will do well with!!!! I am fitter than I have been for last 20 years! I have been off a 8 year addiction for about 2 years.now and find people don't say wow you've done well or looking good or whatever! ! I'm cycling 100ks aweek and feel awesome !!! When u lose weight or get fit or whatever ! Most people are jelaous or pissed they can't improve their life so they look for something to pick on! Cheer up and meet as people as you can, you'll click with someone!
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RHP User
11 years ago
The excess skin was bulging out of the sides of the bra, I couldn't buy. I'm a thin chick now, in a fat suit, literally. I already work my arse off. Now I have to do more? Why is there so much pressure on women to "look" amazing... I don't put that much emphasis on men looking perfect... I don't get it. Now I'm just waffling..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Frack, it takes a while for the skin to catch up with the weight loss, I shed about 6 kilos rather quickly, mainly off the tummy and it took quite a few months for the slack skin to catch up. And be proud. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
if itus that bad in your eyes hun, maybe you will need to look at surgery to remove the excess skin that is irritating you. You're right only so much will tone, the skin wont just shrink if its been stretched for a long time. Get a professional opinion on what will make YOU feel better about YOURSELF
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RHP User
11 years ago
Correction....I LOVE b'cups. Breast size is often over-rated :)
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Splicey
11 years ago
Quoting 'Frack_Me' The excess skin was bulging out of the sides of the bra, I couldn't buy. I'm a thin chick now, in a fat suit, literally. I already work my arse off. Now I have to do more? Why is there so much pressure on women to "look" amazing... I don't put that much emphasis on men looking perfect... I don't get it. Now I'm just waffling.. Currently the only person putting pressure on you.. is you
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RHP User
11 years ago
What I am is what I am. I'm happy, years ago I had a serious injury that limited the use of a couple of limbs. I use to be concerned with what people thought, Those who knew me weren't concerned and the people Ive befriended after aren't so I was putting pressure on myself. As for a naked lady standing in front of me well before she was naked she was clothed so the attraction was already present and part of the enjoyment is unwrapping the gift.
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RHP User
11 years ago
All dressed up, nice skinny jeans, sheer but demure top, good hair, not slutty but definitely nice to look at. Went to see the male Strippers at a local club. Not one of the blokes in the place came near me. Maybe it's because I had bigger muscles than them, or maybe it was the "don't fucking hurt me" attitude I still carry with me, everywhere I go, simply cause I don't want to be rejected. Anyway, I'd been messaging someone through the night who's invited me to share a night with him in a penthouse room. I am brave and decide to go. I drive into Darwin... His "mate" has turned up and is sharing the room with him. I say, we can go back to my place. He suggests he pays for a room at the best western motel. So it's gone from a penthouse to a best western. I say, no, we can go back to mine, no need to spend more money. He comes in, has a shower, asks me to put on some lingerie, we get into bed, kiss and all of a sudden, he's not in the mood. He has been at me all afternoon telling me I'm sexy and he wants me and now... I get up, get dressed and drive him back into Darwin cause I cannot get rid of this bloke quick enough. He see me naked and all of a sudden, he's not feeling it. Now if that's not enough to make a girl despair.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Firstly "WAY TO GO GIRLFRIEND!!" I lost 20kg a while back and was looking great for a couple of years then put about 30kg back on. Am in the process dropping weight again now and have dropped 10kg in the last 5/6wks from 94 to 84kg asat this morning. The weight training is good but yes the swimming will help you tone better I think, maybe try some light pilates as well. The rolls from losing back fat is going to be my challenge, any suggestions!!! As for your appearance Frackme......men love us all shapes and sizes and as quite a few have pointed out to me in recent weeks, most are at an age where they can appreciate that a woman's body when it gets to a certain age is going to show the rigours of life, childbirth, weightgain/weightloss, sun damage, surgeries and a shitload of other life experiences and trials. Ultimately if you got a good one or two or three....they're going to value you for you and just love all that your body has to offer, even with it's overhang, saggy boobies, wrinkles, smile lines and crows feet. We are our own worst critics, time to just go woth it and love the skin you're in. Lol Now, JayJay I've got a gastric lapband, thing's only just starting to work now after nearly 9mths. Did your scarring from the keyholes eventually fade out? The smaller ones have but the implant area is about an inch long and a little red been using bio oil on them when I remember, just curious to know. Also, overall from a woman's perspective......growing old, flabby, skinny or fat I don't mind. I mean if my muscles ache, it's because I've used 'em. It's hard for me to walk up them steps now, its 'cuz I walked up 'em every night to lay next to a man who loved me. I got a few wrinkles here and there, but I've lain under thousands of skies with sunny days. I look and feel this way, well cuz I drank and I smoked. I lived and I loved, danced, sang, sweat and screwed my way thorough a pretty damn good life if you ask me ands till doing it!! Getting old ain't bad. Getting old, that's earned. Cheers all Indy
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On_Safari
11 years ago
"He comes in, has a shower, asks me to put on some lingerie, we get into bed, kiss and all of a sudden, he's not in the mood. He has been at me all afternoon telling me I'm sexy and he wants me and now... I get up, get dressed and drive him back into Darwin cause I cannot get rid of this bloke quick enough. He see me naked and all of a sudden, he's not feeling it. Now if that's not enough to make a girl despair." Nuf said....
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RHP User
11 years ago
oh thats just rude! sorry that happened to you, but hes a minority arsehole, not the majority!!!
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MsBunny
11 years ago
Well done on your weight loss!! It's hard work and I know what it's like living with a lap band. I was in a bad relationship, ate myself fat, woke up one morning and changed my life! Got a lap band, kicked his ass to the street and moved on! I too had problems with my band, I had it out last year and got gastric bypass, best move ever! But like you after loosing 87 kilos, I'm left with a lot of skin and its never going to snap back. My body is my history, it makes me who I am. I used to look in the mirror and see all this skin and think how ugly. Now I see a confident woman, who took charge of her life and made a change. My body has housed three babies and birthed them. My body was my emotional hide out. Confidence is the most sexiest thing about yourself! Let it shine because you are beautiful xx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Firstly congratulations on your weight loss Frack! I've lost 30kgs with a bit more to go. Someone once said 'your body is your temple'. It's true. It shows how you've lived your life and the successes you've had to get through everything so far in your life. Just my thought but if a guy doesn't accept you exactly how you are they aren't worth your time or worry. I lost my fwb because he didn't like me losing weight but I am doing it for me not him. My body is far from perfect and my stomach is now covered in scars after a recent surgery that didn't go to plan but I have recently met someone that accepted me with all my issues and still made me feel sexy. These men are out there! Don't give up. :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Be confident in your own body Frack Me, thats what creates sexy, everyone doesnt have to be perfect, the little creases that curves, it all adds up to make you unique and sensual. Empower yourself woman, you'll have men dropping like flies :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
My wife is in the same situation. ( open marriage) yet I still find her very appealing even without all those wonderful curves, g cup breasts etc You will find that many guys will not like your post weight loss body. Fools. However, a brief chat online should be enough to know who they are. There are plenty of guys who find women sexy for other reasons. Your post weight loss body is a badge of honour, and the very fact that you had the strength to lose the weight is sexy in itself- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just stick to a healthy weight and the correct BMI and you will be lovely.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Frack_Me, congratulations on your success. THE most important thing is: you are healthier now than you were. I am in the same boat. I am "larger than an E cup" and am in the process of losing weight. Not looking forward to having smaller tits...but if it means I will be healthier, fitter and be able to wear nicer clothes (yeah, we are all superficial, don't deny it) then all I can say is "bring it on" If guys are going to be critical of your body post weight loss.......then they aren't the guys you wanna be with
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RHP User
11 years ago
My wife is the same as you Frack me, she has lost a total of 45kg a she looks stunning for it too, but she i very self conscious bout her figure as she has lost her voluptuous breasts & has gained the pouch around her waste so i make sure when ever or where ever we are together i tell her how beautiful she is & when in the bedroom i pay extra attention to those areas she's not comfortable with & tell her how gorgeous she is. - Posted from rhpmobile
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tw0plustw0
11 years ago
Frack - good for you girl. You might find that after such a rapid transformation that your mind takes a little bit of time to catch up to your new body image. My better half is in much the same as the situation you find yourself, but as I remind her the caeser scars and wobbly bits are battle scars of life that she should be proud of. She has a busy life with a career and has brought two great kids into the world. There is a price to pay for that physically. Personally, I love every bit of her as she is and would'nt want her to change a thing. I think it is the attitude and confidence (which she has in spades) that is the most appealling - the body is only the wrapping. If others dont like it then tough shit.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I too have lost 38 kgs feel great but have few same isssues however my DD boobies havent changed at all in the 12 twelves months ive taken to lose it ive decided we are who we are its whats inside that is important so they can either take it or leave it think its there loss we are all beautiful in our own way
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Frack_Me' You're no spring chicken yourself. Maybe stop thinking everyone else has the problem and realise your attitude is. I looked at your profile and it made me shudder. I might not be perfect but I know I'd run a mile if someone with your outlook came near me... As for the advice... Gee thanks.... I think I'll take it under advisement and disregard it. At least I have got the guts to admit I'm feeling less than wonderful about my body. Talk about your chauvanistic attitude. Congratulations on achieving your goal weight & showing amazing willpower & fortitude to carry it through, honey!With all that work you are doing you will be bound to tone up nicely & perhaps swimming would help you with that too!Congrats on putting Chevtrek in his place too! Maybe he was TRYING to be funny in his own weird way but don't think anyone found it very amusing!? SO NOT HELPFUL!!? You can learn to accept yourself & don't think that anyone will reject you for having some loose skin as you put in a magnificent effort to lose that weight to stay healthy & live longer! You truly are an inspiration & should be applauded & loved for who you are INSIDE!? Stay away from shallow people & seek out your friends & people that admire you & love you for all the right reasons. xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
No one is perfect frack you go girl... Xoxo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Losing weight is a major change in your life style, we are all creatures of habit and I take my hat off to those who change their habit for the better.As far as body size goes, I don't really care too much mrs3d is a chubby woman and I am basically a walking skeleton but we still shag more than rabbits do. If a person is really into you they won't care what you look like all they would be interested in is giving you the time of your life.Besides "skinny" is a construct of modern society look back 60 years and you will see the opposite chubby was the in thing and skinny was laughed at. How ever theres a difference between staying healthy and just letting go, keep up your hard work you've done an amazing thing by losing that much weight and even more so keeping it off. Be proud of yourself
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RHP User
11 years ago
I too have lost a massive 38 kgs and feel great you know wot beauty is skin deep its wots inside that counts beauty is within so just feel good about your acheivement and enjoy your new body well done
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jensta
11 years ago
Well done ... Confidence is Sexy ... Thats what most Men Like Its not about being Perfect As for your excess skin Hunny exercise only helps so much then there is the option of surgery But considérer this ... Surgeons are good but not magic I had a tummy tuck after having big babies not massive weight loss but had sagging tummy anyways still not perfect infact they going to do liposuction as they took more from one side and of course a scar from hip to hip "Big Surgery" which has faded but me being Me has a gorgeous vine tattoo picked out to have done over my scar ... so what I am saying is think about how far you want to go with it & what makes you happy ... & with your boobs easy fixed implants or even just a lift or embrace them and love them just as they are ... Do it for yourself ... not for anyone else and also do not worry about everyones opinions ... Beauty comes from within let it shine out ...
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TeeDeez
11 years ago
Frack and Anniepet - Amazing achievement!!! Requires lots of dedication. YOu are both foxy, fabulous women. From a guys perspective - I find women who are confident in themselves the most sexy. But this is where us guys come in... we should always compliment a woman on her appearance and tell her how hot and sexy she is.. Just my two-cents to the convo.
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danger_mouse79
11 years ago
I think men do think differently to women when it comes to appearances. Most women seem to look in the mirror and pick out only their perceived flaws. Men on the other hand will look in the mirror and look past the not so great bits, give themselves a nod and a wink and say ' yeah, not too bad! ' the plus side of this is that we do the same with women. So don't stress, the majority of men will look straight past the not so great bits and find the things they do find sexy. However, as always there will be exceptions to the rule, you will have to weed them out.... Good luck! And congratulations. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Everyone! Newby here! Great effort Frack. Congratulations!! Please just remember that looking good is just a bonus when you loose weight. It's about how you feel. Unfortunately a lot of people join gyms and health clubs expecting that they will look good without realizing that the main reason for working out and dieting is for health. If you feel energetic to be out there living then you are above those who think they look good but are too weak or too sickly to enjoy life. Once again congratulations. Keep it up.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My goodness Frack well done. It is hard work to lose weight and yes the body will re-tone itself fully but have confidence and your sexiness will shine through. Never had to lose weight but I had the opposite problem. After being told for ages by my now ex-wife that I was too skinny I decided to put on weight. Not easy either. Got myself a personal trainer / nutritionist and now 2 years later have put on 6kg. Still do not have the pecs and abs I once had but at my age am feeling great and who cares. Have the confidence again to do many things again I did not do before. May not be some lady's cuddly bear but as my father always said a good rooster is not fat.So Frack do not worry confidence will come as well in showing your self butt naked and if a guy doesnt like it tough luck for him. Its the sexiness inside that counts.
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RHP User
11 years ago
so many of you have lost huge amounts of weight-amazing!!! Such willpower, good on you all!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
congratulations on loosing all that weight thats an amazing accomplishment. my gf is currently trying to do the same and loose some wight. i love her as she is and dont want her to change but worry about her health. all i can say is if u feel healthier screw what ppl think its all about how u feel.quick story bec and i were at a shop one day standing at the counter. we were talking to an older lady roughly in her 70s id say and she was buying a whole heap of wool. now this lady was erm rather homely to the eye. she came outright and said she was knitting a bikini to model it for her husband and to this day i was literally stunned and found that to be the most amazing attitude ive ever came across in a lady in regards to her physical looks. moral of the story if you feel good about your body screw society u will find someone who loves looking at you as you are.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Beauty isn't about size or weight it's the beauty of the person inside ! there caring , unselfish love is worth more than anything else . Woman have to much social pressure thinking they need to fit into a certain type and shape . Life is to short not to enjoy everyday be happy for who you are and find the right partner/partners to suit you .
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you to everyone for your encouraging comments and advice Someone mentioned BMI. BMI is an antiquated method of measuring fitness. It classes extremely fit men and woman as obese as muscle weighs more than fat. I've never subscribed to it not will I ever. The problem is the excess skin. Yes, there is surgery available but it costs money to have it done. This skin is taking its toll on my mental health now. What's the point of losing weight if it just presents a brand new set of body issues to deal with. To all the men who are ensuring their ladies feel beautiful, good on you. I don't have a man in my life to make me feel beautiful... Hence this post. Easy to be complimentary when you have someone in your corner. I don't. I have me, that's it. Only had me for ten years and most of that time spent fat makes it hard to accept you for you. Sometimes me is not enough to curb the emotional toll this has taken. Being that I live in one of the most judgemental places in Australia, guess more cool me for coming here. But I just don't get it. Other posts me took how scared men are of being taken to the cleaners and being hurt. I figured I'm one of the good girls. The nice ones. A catch. Have my own life and money and just want someone to love and be loved by. Yes I know what this site is portrayed to be... Go on RSVP, some will moan, but right now I'm venting... So shut up!
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On_Safari
11 years ago
and still going strong.....
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subgal_gc
11 years ago
You should be proud of what you have achieved, I know first hand how hard it is to lose weight....I have lost 26kg at my best effort thou lately due to circumstances I have allowed a few kgs to creep back on. There is no quick fix short of surgery to fix the excess skin that is left over for such significant weight loss however I urge you to not be so hard on yourself about your looks. I know that cost is often prohibitive when it comes to plastic surgery, but have you considered seeing a plastic surgeon privately and asking to be put on their public surgery list. Some surgeons will do this especially in light of how it is affecting your mental well being. But remember beauty comes from within first and foremost, and obviously the guys up your way are simply blind!!! The right person that will appreciate you body and soul is out there....I have to believe that or there is no hope for me either.
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subgal_gc
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' and still going strong..... Time for a shopping trip yet....?
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RHP User
11 years ago
well done!!!I myself have lost 60 kegs and i have found the hardest part is getting my head around the fact that i am not big anymore! I know exactly how you feel, it seems that it doesn't matter how many people tell you, that you look great, your head is telling you otherwise.... but you need to be proud of yourself, proud of what you have achieved, surround yourself with positive people and enjoy your new life.... because i guarantee, what your seeing wouldn't half as bad as you imagine! it took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that i might even be half desirable to another person, and i still have my days, where i have to tell myself to "snap out of it" but slowly and surely i am learning to be proud of myself, and show small glimpses of confidence and the response has been surprising in a good way.i am finding that people, find confidence (not cocky) is the sexiest part of a persons body... if you can learn to love yourself you will find that people will start lining up.... everyone has body issues to some degree, people that would make you feel anything less then special, aren't worth knowing!!!head up, good luck and don't waste another minute beating yourself up :)
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Quoting 'submissivegalgc' Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' and still going strong..... Time for a shopping trip yet....? AND do you think I should get that outfit for hellfire I showed you? I love it BUT wondering if I can pull it off.....
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subgal_gc
11 years ago
Indy I reckon you can rock the outfit you showed me.... so definitely go for it. Can't wait to see what else you buy in celebration of your weight loss... yay!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well done on your weight loss Frack Me :) That's a bloody good effort ! The loose skin problem may or may not get better with time. It depends on the elasticity of your skin and this is something that is genetic ie: it either will or it won't, your born that way. I would say there are two alternatives .... A) surgery to remove excess skin ... Expensive yes, worth it ... probably. It depends on the surgeons skill and your bodies ability to recover from it and improve on your problem. Breast enhancement surgery. B) serious muscle gain. This may help areas such as buttocks, thighs, arms and anywhere there is muscle that can grow. Unfortunately this won't help your breasts or abdomen as the former are nearly all fat tissue and the latter wil not grow to fill out the excess skin problem. Talk to your GP about options, there may well be more and absolutely all the best with !
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm a firm believer in the best way to avoid flabby skin is to not get overweight in the first place. If you take up lifting and serious exercise from a young age, along with a great diet you don't even need to worry about weight as it comes naturally.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am definately going to put the effort into eating and drinking healthy now. Seems a lot easier than trying to reverse years of over indulgence with medical procedures.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why the hell didn't I think of that.... Just not get fat!!!! Shit.... Thanks for stating the bloody obvious benjy. At 26, you've for it all figured out. Good for you... Just in case you didn't catch it... I'm being sarcastic... You troll! You have no reason why I gained weight... So don't presume to preach to me about how I should have lived my life. This was simply asking question on what men think of women with, yes this extra bits and pieces left over from some excess weight... And to help me overcome some pretty serious demons regarding my body issues. But thanks heaps for making it that little bit harder to get my head in a better place, with your one size fits all advice. Clearly... Knowing what I know about health, fitness and weightless, clearly you don't get that everyone is different and reacts differently to exercise and diet. What works for me won't work for others... Don't presume to give advice... When you have no clue who the person you're talking to is... Ohhhhh I'm ticked off again.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well said Frack_Me!
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RHP User
11 years ago
You're no supermodel mate so take your hand off it and gain some perspective. It's arseholes with attitudes like yours that give blokes the bad reputation they have. Pffft.
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RHP User
11 years ago
What an ass.... Well done frack_me that is simething to be proud of. Keep up the healthy lifestyle - and be confident in yourself.
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RHP User
11 years ago
but is your profile pic recent, cause they don't look like empty pancakes?Keep up with the excellent work at the gym. I respect that as a fellow gym junkie. Every rep is gonna make you look even finer girl. Tits aren't everything and it depends on the guy you're just gonna have to take a chance. Most guys looking to gun and run aren't gonna care anyway and the ones that do won't be around for long.I think you should be confident, like the way a guy should be confident when he approaches a girl. It's all in the head. If you think you're hot, that's gonna come out and show like some sort of aura. Just think this man wants me! "I'M FINE AS HELL!". Keep the man engaged with some sexy talk and you'll be feeling good and busting some ovaries.Sometimes shit is just out of your control and I'm sure they aren't hella perfect either.I heard some good advice the other that stopped someone from getting a man's typical fantasy, "Try not to let insecurities ruin you".
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'll guarentee you, you look a WHOLE lot better than you YOU think you do. Us guys (well most)like happy and sexy over model type perfection... I promise you.. . is that profile photo your current?B
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RHP User
11 years ago
The photo is about 8 months old. As I've explained previously, I'm so embarrassed by how my breasts have shrunk, I cannot take another photo. My breasts were my best feature. Now they are not.
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RHP User
11 years ago
how those fitness girls have such bit tits if their body fat percentage is on the lower end of the scale or do they all just get implants? Or are some just blessed?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Implants. Only way they can. I'm living proof, I had dd's before I lost my weight. My body fats dropped and my boobs just disappeared since I started weights seriously again. Problem with having confidence in ones self is when no one else compliments, and that sorta kicks self confidence in the head, you don't have confidence in yourself. To have confidence, sometimes you need people to actually compliment you as well.
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
My hubby and I have both lost a lot of weight over the past several months. 23 Kg for him and almost 30 Kg for me.My boobs were a C cup and now are an A going on a B and I admit that at the age of 34, almost 35, my skin after losing all this weight is not as elastic as it used to be. And yes there are a few stretch marks from having kids .... but thats all about being a woman I suppose.Our new slimmer bodies have meant more confidence for us, more energy and vitality and so much more sex. Its like we have turned back the clock 15 years and are enjoying one another again, enjoying our sexuality, hence becoming "swingers" this year.Another plus side to all of this is being able to wear sexy clothes again .... and its means a whole new wardrobe and in this regard hubby has spoilt me rotten .... And so the rewards of losing weight, both physical and mental, have been worth it.
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sples2
11 years ago
Frackie, I too have lost a lot of weight and I know exactly what you mean. I am looking into plastic surgery to fix the bits that I no longer want to see like the belly skin and my boobs which were once awesome now look and feel to me like stress balls with nipples. We are hard on ourselves but it's about how we feel and when you go through the journey of weight loss you want to feel like the hard work has paid off. Stick to it and don't give up. There are ways to move that stuff if you can get there. Great work
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RHP User
11 years ago
Those boobs are gorgeous Hun, don't stress, I think you'll find men aren't as hung up on a women's actual size, as you might think, but more into happy and healthy, even if carrying a few more kilos or even quite a few LOL) than we'd all like....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Benjy is 100% right and possibly didn't deserve the spray FrackMe. I've always struggled with my weight and at 40 I'm acutely aware it's going to get much harder to keep it in check from here on, unless I put more effort in. I've also always been surrounded with fit people and while they'll face challenges as they age as well, their body reacts much more quickly and effectively to exercise and good diet now than mine does. They've laid excellent fitness and health foundations over the last 20 years, which I didn't. A little bit of exercise goes a long way with them, whereas it takes a lot of exercise to make a dent in me. And of course this then demotivates me the whole thing becomes a vicious cycle. I deeply admire people who have a grip on their health and fitness. I admire you FrackMe - such an awesome achievement and a real inspiration. I didn't read Benjy's comments as insensitive to you or an attempt to devalue what you've achieved, and as I said I also believe them to be true. But, being very sensitive about my weight and looks generally, I get how it might have felt like an attack on you. I don't think it was (maybe I'm wrong?). As for surgery, I'd absolutely go for it. Good luck with it all x
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