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We'll Find You

June 01 2013

We all know lots of couples state clearly NO SINGLE GUYS (usually followed by an excessive amount of exclamation marks). Of those who are open to the option, many still state words to the effect of Single Guys - If We're Looking For One - We'll Find You. We're still fresh to opening up our play to include single guys, it's only one aspect of the experiences we're seeking out. I (MrsParadise) have several traits and preferences in a playmate which narrow down the pool quite considerably. So 3 questions - Couples who do the finding how much do you play attention to what the guys are looking for? Some profiles which I've found through looking at friends lists are looking for a younger age range, or just women, this has put me off reaching out. Guys, how would you feel about being contacted by a couple when you've not listed that way, or what about the age range? And besides basic searches couples-who-do-the-finding where do you look? I would imagine some of the guys listed as women only are open to couples but maybe worry about putting the girls off by changing their listings to include couples & groups. On the flip side we'd prefer a guy who is experienced in mfm play because it's so important that the laid back, comfortable with it vibe is there, although it would be cool too I suppose to be someone's first... And because it seems single women drive the forums, here's a question for you, does seeing a guy is open to couples put you off? And while I'm being inclusive couples who only seek couples, are you put off by seeing a potential playmate couple is open to single guys?

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RHP User

12 years ago

I don't have a problem with single guys who play with / are open to playing with couples. But I have read a few single guy profiles in which they have single women listed up the top as an interest group, but in their blurb all they talk about is wanting to find and play with couples, and I do steer clear of those. I guess to me it gives the impression that for those guys, I'm going to be some sort of 'consolation prize' or 'backup' if they can't find themselves a couple to play with, and I'm not willing to be anybody's consolation prize.

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RHP User

12 years ago

We have no problems catching up with couples who desire a single guy in their play as its their choice really, as it doesn't change who they are as people..Different stokes for different folks, we say..

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WhispersAndMoans

12 years ago

Finding anyone who matches is always bloody hard work....Plenty of fish out there, finding the catch that becomes memorable is the trick. We have had some luck but it is not as easy as it should be.We have never really done much pursuing, probably too much responding? So your questions are not really relevant. I suspect most couples if they decided to search for a singly male would change their profile to reflect and then respond to the tidal wave of flirts / messages and see how they go!Not adverse to finding a better way though - will follow this thread with interest!

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RHP User

12 years ago

One of the things that gets me is when couples have selected men in the 'Seeking' category and then proceed to state that they are not looking for single men. Simple solution...fill out your profile correctly and then you won't show up on searches by single men! Now I feel better...lol. In regards to the age range or listing I don't think guys are too concerned about receiving such contact. Unlike women or couples we don't frustratingly receive 100's of messages from non matching profiles.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Hi op, I think most single guys who aren't seeking couples will tend to be pretty straight hetro types, and if that's what you are seeking then I think you'll have plenty (most not all) of choice. These guys will normally be happy to receive an invitation. The bisexual male side gets a bit trickier, because of the stigma of being a bi male. So lots of guys won't list themselves as bi curious, bi sexual etc. Personally I stick to my age and body type preferences as per everyday play... I mean there is no point being there if you'd rather be somewhere else, so I want to want you. If a couple has a couple of looks at my profile, I'll often send them a message, introducing myself. I sometimes also open my pg straight up on first message too (not that theres anything startling in there lol) most couples, particularly the non newbies don't play message pingpong, when they are looking... Well they are hunting :) But please couples, have your stuff sorted re each other... Hp xo

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Paradisepair

12 years ago

MrP is straight so I guess we're safe to reach out.

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RHP User

12 years ago

No problem with single guys who are looking for couples to play with, or vice versa. I think it's kinda hot actually. What really turns me off is the "NO SINGLE GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" as stated in the OP. Especially when it's written in the profile more than once. Any couple that feels the need to shout and have a negative attitude in their profile is not for me. (This also goes for "No time wasters!!!!!!!!!!!!"). The profiles that simply say "We are not looking for single guys at this point, thank you for respecting our choice" are so much more attractive.

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RHP User

12 years ago

The most memorable "no single guys!!!" Comment on a couples profile I ever saw was along the lines of....."and single guys, your mother may think you are special but we don't". That couple may be very nice, the comment may have been added after many frustrating and unwanted contacts, but I still remember reading it and mentally crossing them off the list to play with either as a single or a couple.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'justforfunisall'The most memorable "no single guys!!!" Comment on a couples profile I ever saw was along the lines of....."and single guys, your mother may think you are special but we don't". Instant no from me too.

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RHP User

12 years ago

I'm with Luckdragon on this one... While I don't have anything against guys looking for couples (I've done that myself after all), I do find that if the predominant gist of their profile is advertising solely for the threesome dynamic and a single girl is a 'consolation prize' or 'time filler', it's very much a turn off.

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RHP User

12 years ago

we state clearly that we don't seek married or attached men but it doesn't deter them...not for a second....so we totally understand the frustrations people show in what they have written in their profiles....people see photos and think...'that's for me', and its a done deal in their eyes...... we get particularly annoyed when people ask us over and over if we'll reconsider.... how is it guys don't understand that 'no' means 'no'?

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RHP User

12 years ago

We're lazy. Come find us. x Ms Shout.

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RHP User

11 years ago

I think if any man is put off by a couple or lady contacting them would have to be nuts...even if they aren't what you want, unsolicited contact is always a compliment.

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