We're really lucky

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  Hottie1

  9 years ago

  I am married to an incredible man! He is my greatest advocate yet my biggest critic (I value his opinion). He nurtures, supports, understands and guides me when needed, and hopefully he would say the same about me! We both work towards ensuring the other has the sexual freedom to explore, all within a supportive relationship. It is from this viewpoint that I look at all other relationships and unfortunately, relationships like yours and ours exist, but there are many relationships in this scene that are tenuously hanging by a thread. I have yet to go to a swingers event where one of the couple hasn't 'cracked it' with their partner, where a couple hasn't argued, where one member of the couple is limited by their partner, and it's obvious for all to see. But I'm loving your attitude and your reflection. I came to this situation much older than you guys and my only one 'regret' is why didn't I do this sooner? I say 'I' coz hubby had initiated all the discussions decades ago ;) , I was hesitant! I don't know why, those who know me would understand ! All the best you gorgeous two, Mary xx

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Wouldn't it be an amazing world if what you have was seen as the "perfect marriage" rather than the straightjacket fits mono marriage idealised now ?

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  As a single woman, it's easy to become jaded on this site where there are so many cheaters, or people looking to get their partner to swing when the said partner isn't keen, or guys just looking for a quick f*%k. Then I read a post like yours OP, and Mary's, and it reminds me that there ARE wonderful relationships out there, and I'm encouraged again :). Thank you.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  We have so many friends who are unhappy in their relationships and whilst our relationship hasn't always been a bed of roses, we have arrived where we are now (in an open marriage) and are stronger than ever. We trust each other, accept each other for who they are and aren't trying to change each other to suit our own needs. All of this has come about by having a strong understanding of what makes each other tick and being able to communicate with each other knowing that what we are saying is truly being heard.

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  Hawt1

  9 years ago

  Some good reading here, I hope one day to have such a relationship supportive loving and with freedom as seen here. Past my breeding years here so it should be less problematic. Good stuff, great post

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Hi my man and I are looking to meet like minded couples interested in foursome play. We live in country Victoria so it's very hard to find couples, but willing to go to melbourne for some fun, any suggestions? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  chevtrek

  9 years ago

  But as a guy who attracts younger women it is not socool.You deal with jealousy of other guys and women can still be big prudes.Do it visa versa and a woman is a MILF yet any older womancan get a younger guy.Within sexual community's things are ok to most but you still have to deal with the prudes outside of RHP.

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  Curious1965

  9 years ago

  Life is an ever changing process, at the age of 50 when you are younger (won't say I am old) you feel that there is always time in the future to explore and therefore you concentrate on immediate requirements which are far more mundane. As time passes you realize that the opportunity to fulfill your life is getting crunched. So in my marriage I was not getting satisfied but that is not as simple as sex, it's the intimacy and he sense of expectation, etc. So I left but I also have a son so it becomes a balance between your own needs and being able to live with yourself and fulfilling your responsibilities to ensure that your son is not burdened so now I am at back. So where am I heading, to me an open relationship is the better outcome so there has been discussions about swingers, etc. But it would seem to me that I am not the minority and therefore the swingers percentage, etc is probably higher than people think. What does everyone else think?

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  chevtrek

  9 years ago

  I though did hit a down side when at 53 my partnerand was 21.There was so much jealousy from other couples whenwe did swing and after a year it went to hell.Some couples we did swing with were in there 20sand that was OK.There is no room for jealousy when being a swingerso if your the jealous type stay out of it.

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  madotara69

  9 years ago

  The idea of seeking an open relationship sounds roses with spice, what a life, living the dream, oh what a feeling, until feelings show by nature, they go both ways for want or need, give or take, for or sake, like this or like that, who wears the hat, love when there's hate, partner and best mate, party or date, yer mate in her date visa versa, work rest and play, hours in a day, he gets more pay, she gets more play, who is to say, where are you today, troubles or bubbles, rattle or shake, I did or blame, care to or shame, pleasure for pain, don't or again, possession or suggestion, beauty or the beast, open and honest and communicate, daily roster , The Green Eyed Monster, take for granted or appreciated, boundaries and rules, he says, she says even and all, rough and ready, top or tail, pass or fail, excited or stale, but plug for a tail, work it or bail.. 'Takes two to Tango' Relationships are special Mado Mado Tara xx

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