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What GIRLS think about sex? (real girls, I mean)

June 14 2013

What a very intelligent thread Innerwest123 started about What Guys Think About Sex. You know, I think the reason I like the forums here is that men and women can actually chat intelligently and equally about things - which seems simple, but seems to be missing more and more out there in the Real World. So, in the interests of equality, how about the girls here talk about what YOU think about sex? Not what you think other girls think. But what you think. For me, I'm always vaguely aware that, although I'm a female, I seem to think about sex 'like a man'. I have had FWBs with no strings and no harm done and we remain friends without benefits today. Looks and pretty compliments don't mean that much to me, although I have to admit, intelligence and a way with words probably do. Sex pretty much comes into everything I do. I think about it every day, watch or read hardcore porn most days and love the idea, and the act, of turning up in a hotel room and shagging a complete stranger, then walking away. Now that I have a very significant other who feels much the same way, and is as much of a self-proclaimed slut as I am, the only difference is, we do it together. The couples thing where we all have to dance around each other and talk on the phone, etc etc toys with my patience, when I'd prefer to meet them in a park, strip off my panties and bury my face in whomever is closest. When slutting around with likeminded individuals (or teams, as the case may be), I rather enjoy discussing all of this afterwards over a nice cigar, or whiskey, or kebab, or bath, or follow-up blowjob, and it seems to me that all of us on this site, gender notwithstanding, seem to approach sex in a similar way. Of course, or we wouldn't be here. But then, out in the Real World, I am fairly open about my lifestyle with my close friends. The males generally keep mum or laugh. The girls look wistful. Always. And say, almost every time, with a sigh,"Wow, I wish I could do that." Which makes me cranky, because they could, if only they would get past all the girls-shouldn't-give-it-away, pedestal, slut-shaming, we-are-different-in-our-biological-urges crap. Ladies, do you really think that differently about sex than men?

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    In general I am kind of the same except that it takes me a while to warm up To people and bonking strangers doesn't do much for me usually either. Usually the men don't make much effort so I get bored. As for strangers in the park, well I do that occasionally when I am with my partner in crime. When I go to sex clubs and parties I tend to stick with the people I am with as I prefer smaller group play rather than just diving into a mosh pit and being covered in pink bits. Although usually others are invited to play with the group I am in. As for bi-sexuality. I have and do play with girls in a group situation occasionally but it isn't really my thing. Mind you I have fallen for a woman before so I am not straight ... Just have a particular type I am attracted too. Sex is fun, adventurous, I love to talk about it and explore it. I am over porn at the moment but yes I love hardcore porn and will never just watch men and women fucking as that is a bit boring. Sex is to be enjoyed with lovers and does not have to be an exclusive thing. Sex doesn't equal love,it's just a fun dirty naughty kinky activity that you share with others. I am not a slut though, well not in comparison to some... That is more my nature than anything else. I am reserved with people at first.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    By the way, the park bit - I was half-joking. Well, half. :)

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I do not need an emotional connection to have sex with someone although sex is much better with that connection. Sexual chemistry is a must. Unlike men & maybe some women I have no interested in bonk lots of people or as many people as possible. I enjoy sex more when it is hard to get or if I am being dominated. I just love to beg! Lol.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I have indulge maybe 2-3 times at the nude beach or should I say the bush behind the beach with other bi guy and my lover. So not really a park I guess and they have to be cute! Lol

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    is all about timing and inclination

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    You all love it gals, process the moment not the dream :))- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    What do you mean real girls? As opposed to ?

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I was just about to post the same thought..for a tic, I forgot I was older than Methusela....

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Ooh, fair point! I guess I meant opinions from real, actual girls here as opposed to what clichés or movies would have us think that girls want. Is that even grammatical? Bah! Back to my saketini...

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    This last year has certainly changed a lot when it comes to my sex life. I went from a long-term relationship where the sex was less than desirable, to making a Fucket List and fornicating my way through it. I too have friends who think I'm insane, as well as ones that are in awe and want to hear every dirty detail. And sometimes I do find it hard not to brag a little... When it comes to sex itself, I'm a fan of many different things (just check my profile), though I generally prefer to meet socially first. Having a mental connection with someone is not optional for me. Only once did I meet a couple I was so impressed with right away, that I found myself in a fancy hotel room with them that same night. (With thickened cream, whiskey and dates, oh my!) Sigh, I love my life. *Skips off to find some more DP porn*

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    RHP got so excited, it messed up my writing again.

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    12 years ago

    Sex is all about: 1) Balancing my hormone and having orderly physical circulation. 2) Living life and enjoying what adult life has to offer, i.e. exploring my sexual fantasies and curiosity, and fulfilling them. 3) Making deeper mental connection with the partner I'm with. 4) Sharing the joy of learning each other's bodies. 5) Living life with no regrets. 6) Gaining life experiences, so that I have something to talk about with my friends, and stories to tell to my next generations when I'm old and can't move lol My list can go on forever, but these are the main ones that I can think of right now as my head throbs badly from a long day work and the flu virus that is still hugging me!- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Firstly, there has to be attraction and chemistry... It has to be meaningful and treated as sacred, sexy and euphoric, sex to me is enjoyable and bizzare and beautiful... Sex is intimate and special... Sex is a drug, definitely addictive.... But sex is so much more special when shared with someone or someones special to you. And that's what sex is to me...that's just me, each to their own...- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    To me, sex is this critically important, thought consuming, magical thing! I find you so interesting and a complex creature for having zero inhibitions. I cannot shake my self-deprivation and judgemental opinions of myself when it comes to sex. The whole "what's your number?" comparisons used to occupy a large space in my mind and possibly still do. I am a freak of the week, experimental, passionate fan of sex and yet I obstain from having it between relationships.....wha??? I'm an intelligent female and can fully identify with the obserdity of being guilt-ridden by my desires to be a deviant. What is really stopping me? And so many girls like me? I concluded that whilst sex is the most exciting and satisfying thing in my world..... "Does each additional man I fulfill my sexual desires with consequently make me less desirable?" x x x - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I suspect the audience here will give a slightly skewed response, compared to say a random poll down the street. Or maybe not ;) What I think about sex has never really changed - I've been highly sexual since I was a little girl, always crave it, think about it daily, love it. What I'm willing to do in terms of sex has changed a LOT over the years. When I was younger it was all about one-night stands with no emotional connection. God forbid any guy got to really know me, no thanks! Then I had a very long, sexless marriage, which destroyed my confidence. I honestly thought it was because I was undesirable, and admit I still struggle with that a bit. Deep down I always knew sex had the potential to be extraordinary, to offer that true mind, body, heart, spirit experience. I'm a fairly spiritual girl, in a pragmatic esoteric science kind of way, and I've always known that there is a layer of magic available in life, which we rarely connect to. But I also knew sex was one of the ways to connect to it. About 4 years ago I had just that kind of sex, often, with an incredible partner. These days I physically crave a fuck but anytime I've gone with that it's been an empty, hollow mess. I find it a bit ironic because 15 years ago that was all I wanted and I was good at getting it. I've crossed a bunch of things off a fucket list - not my list, I never had one - but the kind of list people talk about. Those sexual adventures have been crap without connection and extraordinary with connection. So these days, sex is all about heart, spirit, connection, vulnerability, depth for me. And really hard to find, obviously! Thank gawd for my trusty toys :) And who knows, in another decade I could be all about fucking for fuck's sake. Anything's possible.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Is sex sacred?

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100'Is sex sacred? Good and wanted sex is. And so is every sperm.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I found it hilariously funny the other week when a girlfriend was telling me about the guy she just started seeing and asked me: 'How long should I hold off having sex with him for?'It's disappointing that many women still use sex as the 'bait' to lure a man or are reluctant to 'put out' too soon so that they aren't seen as 'easy'. I'll readily admit that a few years ago I also was subscribed to this notion before I adopted a 'fuck it' frame of mind and decided to do as I like, when I liked. Despite this, I still require a mental connection before there is any remotely intimate contact and for this reason I haven't had sex for half a year (until recently) because I haven't found people that I click with.As for discussing my experiences, I have some friends off here where no conversation topics are off-limits, otherwise with my 'real-life' friends I tend to discuss things very openly with my mates over a few beers - all of whom are eager listeners, laugh at the right moments or even offer suggestions. While some girlfriends are in on my antics, they're still monogamous-minded and there's nothing more awkward than describing going down on another girl with a girlfriend who's completely straight :/

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    because now I have more time to do so. Just me, and no children. Everything around me is sexual and somehow sensual. Also now I am older and all the crap I was told in my younger years is gone, as well the fear of not being sexy because I am not looking like a playboy woman. Yes still some things make me retreat a bit, however I am asking for it when I am attracted to someone and I can get the timing right. I think we are not different in our sexuality( men and women) but I think our bodies are not so much under pressure then the males. You can tell me otherwise. A men produces semen which need release we don’t have this fullness in us, our urges come from a different place so to speak. I don’t care anymore not to be in a relationship to have sex; however I still care with whom I share this with. I can’t just have sex with everyone; it has to be some sort of a connection. I don’t care the male is not coming back, but I care how it starts. I am honest, I like to bond a bit with the men I have sex with, and in my opinion it is otherwise not worth my while, cold sex is not for me. I am always open about this side of me, I will chat a lot with the men and so we find out what both want. I think some get very scared of me, I am direct and open about how I feel. I also will not change this, because I am not in a race to perform sexual acts which mean nothing to me. Sex is still a wow experience and giving and taking for me. Sex is also an exchange of mind and this is a very important part of mine. And yes, I think about sex a lot, it makes me tingle all over, it give me shivers when I am in the car, I look at workmen on the street, I listen to the voice on the phone. When I can hear the voice change I know he thinks about sex like me, I am happy, it’s like a fix even I have not seen this person. To think about sex is a wonderful aphrodisiac……..I can’t get enough.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Ms_Direct'   Only once did I meet a couple I was so impressed with right away, that I found myself in a fancy hotel room with them that same night. (With thickened cream, whiskey and dates, oh my!)   Sigh, I love my life.   *Skips off to find some more DP porn*         *giggle* Well, I bet that couple feels pretty chuffed that they managed to seduce you into their date and cream-filled lair the very same night. I wonder what fruit and dairy products they can provide the next time to top that?

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Litonya' because now I have more time to do so. Just me, and no children. Everything around me is sexual and somehow sensual. Also now I am older and all the crap I was told in my younger years is gone, as well the fear of not being sexy because I am not looking like a playboy woman. Yes still some things make me retreat a bit, however I am asking for it when I am attracted to someone and I can get the timing right. I think we are not different in our sexuality( men and women) but I think our bodies are not so much under pressure then the males. You can tell me otherwise. A men produces semen which need release we don’t have this fullness in us, our urges come from a different place so to speak. I don’t care anymore not to be in a relationship to have sex; however I still care with whom I share this with. I can’t just have sex with everyone; it has to be some sort of a connection. I don’t care the male is not coming back, but I care how it starts. I am honest, I like to bond a bit with the men I have sex with, and in my opinion it is otherwise not worth my while, cold sex is not for me. I am always open about this side of me, I will chat a lot with the men and so we find out what both want. I think some get very scared of me, I am direct and open about how I feel. I also will not change this, because I am not in a race to perform sexual acts which mean nothing to me. Sex is still a wow experience and giving and taking for me. Sex is also an exchange of mind and this is a very important part of mine. And yes, I think about sex a lot, it makes me tingle all over, it give me shivers when I am in the car, I look at workmen on the street, I listen to the voice on the phone. When I can hear the voice change I know he thinks about sex like me, I am happy, it’s like a fix even I have not seen this person. To think about sex is a wonderful aphrodisiac……..I can’t get enough. Litonya, you paint a gorgeous, honest and sexy picture of your sexuality further down the track. I'm looking forward to a future of perving at workmen on the street (well, continuing to perve at workmen on the street) :) Thanks everyone. What a cool bunch of people we all are, really. MsK x

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I think I'm a little bit the same in some ways. Me? I like men, I like sex with them. For me to sleep with someone I need to be attracted to something about them AND for there not to be anything that really turns me off about him. The something that I'm attracted to can be anything really, looks, a look, personality... the body, whatever. I don't usually fuck on the first date. I had one that I kinda regretted so made it a rule. I have broken this rule in the heat of the moment... and it has been fine...lol. but usually I don't and prefer not to. I like to have a think on whether I really want to or if I'm just getting carried away. I wont fall for someone just because I've slept with them or even because I'm sleeping with them regularly. If I've written the possibility of a relationship with you off then I wont fall in love. I think about sex a lot too, even when I meet someone new (just anybody anywhere) I check them out fully and assess their potential as a bonk. Seriously! Like would I fuck this person. I'm a perve, I love to look at beautiful people, beautiful bodies. When I'm at the gym I mentally undress nearly everyone. In bed I think I'm a pretty passionate lover, I like to kiss, I like to touch, I really like to make my partner happy, I'm warm and generous and very horny. I like to have looonnggg lazy lovemaking sessions. I love it when I just cant keep my hands off someone and the feeling is obviously mutual. I love it when my lover shocks me with the strength of his passion. sooo for me sex is about self expression. It's like singing or dancing or cooking. It's being who you are in a very primal way. Thanks OP for the chance to express how I feel about sex, great thread. Loving the responses.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Beautiful people so nothing for me at all. In fact I am only attracted to people that have a particularly naughty glint in their eyes. I can never tell who I will be attracted too, although I can say I have only had the bazinga I must have you moment only a handful of times in my life.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    That is supposed say. Beautiful people do nothing for me in general.

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100'Beautiful people so nothing for me at all. In fact I am only attracted to people that have a particularly naughty glint in their eyes. I can never tell who I will be attracted too, although I can say I have only had the bazinga I must have you moment only a handful of times in my life. for example? hahahaha

  • Playful2looking

    Playful2looking

    11 years ago

    Cool postings. Thanks for sharing wish more girls thought about sex in this way ... cheers Des

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    1. I need to be physically attracted, and not just to a cock pic but the whole package2. When I meet a guy from rhp, I need to engage in enough conversation to figure out if I want to fuck him, usually around the two minute mark, sometimes more3. Is only sought out on rhp for sexual gratification on my behalf. Its tough feeling horny all the time4. Is always a one night thing, with an exception or two. 5. I ALWAYS fuck on the first meet if I am attracted.6. Will always only be a one night thing in future due to complications from the exception7. Does not connect emotion and love and sex. A root is a root. Simple.

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Beautiful you Honky or that glint in your eye?? Hahaha And Meeka, what about beautiful people who have a naughty glint in their eye?? I'm not attracted to really plastic fantastic beautiful, just attractive. Hyperbole on my part. Lol

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    Txt thinking the number was someone from here and requested a hard core porn style exorcism type fuck only to get silence, which made me feel totally like I should've been my usual tactful self. While writing something more tasteful the person I thought I was txting rang. Said my name is Rob, I said no it's not it's Ken lol only to realise it was my old Union Rep and housemate who thought I was hitting him up for sex then figured he better call and see if I was drunk!!! Hahahahaha fckg hilarious!!!! Now as for the topic at hand. I look at men and think about them hopefully the same and with the frank appraisal that I think they look at women. Yep I'd tap that. As for sex, I can be as dirty as the next person but I need the right stimulation and I guess incentive to be that way. Porn can only inspire so much. Compared to most of you though I am so totally virginal I need a mentor or two to help shed my inhibitions. Sux to be in regional Queensland though!!! And Freya YOU ARE NOT OLD ENOUGH TO BE METHUSULA!!! xx

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    Maybe that was my Guardian Angel stepping in and making sure I didn't DO something I would regret later. Ho hum better have a drink.

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    I don't believe I think of sex like a man. I love to pleasure my man, to be pleasured by him. Ultimately we both want to achieve the same thing.. an orgasm. - Posted from rhpmobile