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What am i doing wrong?
August 03 2011
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RHP User
13 years ago
Totally agree with you up to mischief It really pisses me off when they dont even reply to your flirtsI guess there are people out there that are not very well manneredand considerate if someone flirts i reply,I even had one chick who said she wont reply to people if they have bad grammarget a life people
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RHP User
13 years ago
So be patient. We've been on RHP for about 3 years now and have learnt the matching game is not as straight forward as one would like to think. Yes' we have meet a few couples in our time, but by the time you work out who you're attracted to and who you're not , it cuts back the positive matches to half of who may be left.Being a single male puts you behind the eight ball straight away, in the 5/6 weeks you've been here you probally unaware of the many threads relating to how annoying single and not so single males can make your life a misery. Not saying all single males are bad, but the annoying idiot who have no idea have definately spoilt it for the rest.Its quite on the cards the females you contacted have also been effected by these wanks which leaves them guarded and weary when you send your message. Plus, if they are a particularly attractive female' they are bombarded with messages so they get to pick and choose who they reply to and who they dont.This is the truth, but dont let it deter you, compose a decent description about yourself on your profile without a oversell, find a decent pic of yourself ( not a bathroom shot with your mobile) and be patient.. Mr JJ
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RHP User
13 years ago
For me the only issue with your profile is that you are smoking in the photo. I know that many people wouldn't have an issue with that but I really don't like it. Other than that
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just had a quick look at your profile, and the things that I didn't like about it were: 1) smoking in the photo - seriously ick! 2)bad grammar and lack of punctuation ( yes rich33- I need to get a life lol) 3)nothing unique in your descriptions, this site has so many cliches...try and be original! Your profile is advertising who you are, maybe put in a little more effort. Having said that, I 'try' and respond to all the messages i get, but I ended up getting so overwhelmed that I had to change my profile to no longer looking for men. Maybe the women you are messaging are feeling the same way... xxx Cherry
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RHP User
13 years ago
In respect to flirts, most women receive hundreds of flirts a week. It is virtually impossible to look through the flirts, never mind read profiles and reply to them..I would have thought that most would respond to messages if the messages are respectfully worded and you're sending them to people who's criteria you match...
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RHP User
13 years ago
okay , as has already been said you are smoking in the photo which definitely would put me right off. And I think you should put more than one photo up.. in that photo your not even really looking at the camera so its hard to tell what you really look like and your not even smiling!!! So I would start with putting a few more pics up..ones where you are looking at the camera and smiling! And rich33 maybe I need to get a life too because bad grammar is something I CANNOT stand... I don't have it in my profile but if someone writes to me and that can't tell the difference between "no" and "know" I am going to assume that they have no intelligence... so not a turn on for me... typos are completetly forgivable but come on someone that spells "what" like "wat" no chance! And I actually usually point that out when I write back to them... sorry but they need to know! Hope that helps xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'rich33' Totally agree with you up to mischief It really pisses me off when they dont even reply to your flirtsI guess there are people out there that are not very well manneredand considerate if someone flirts i reply,I even had one chick who said she wont reply to people if they have bad grammarget a life people Flirts are the cyber equivalent of standing on a street corner handing printed pamphlets saying "will you go out with me?" to every woman that walks past. They get scrunched up and tossed in the bin sight unseen, as they should.If you want to catch a girl's eye, at least write her a bloody letter!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Mishief I had a read through your profile too. You sound to me a bit agressive, I wouldnt write to you at all, maybe thats what needs changing. But thats maybe because I am not an Australian and read your profile wrong.
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xFunlovingx
13 years ago
I tend to skip over the guys profiles that say they are seeking "people" in their main text! To me that is any sex even if you do put down that you are straight and only seeking women! Alot of men on these sites hide the fact that they are bi or bi-curious as they find it harder to find women! Plus you come across as way too serious! The Uni bit is longer than the rest of what you have written on your profile! < Also I am wondering which flirts you are sending? If I get a flirt that says "I think you're hot what do you think of me"...or..."I just wanted to say I loved your profile"...I delete them as I find that there is no answer for them at all! The "hot" flirts to me suggest that you rated me as "hot" in "hot or what"! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks everyone who's replied to this thread i do appreciate it..you don't know if you doing something wrong unless you ask..so thanks..but i just want to clear up a couple of things. Firstly i'm not talking about sending flirts, i'm sending actual messages and not hearing back anything..i realize flirts are waste of time so i just don't do them.Secondly i will work on my description again thanksMy pic...so if i was sitting behind the wheel of a Porsche that makes me wealthy?...think about itAs for the grammar i'll work on it, but i didn't know the world was so full English teachers...Again Thanks everyone appreciate the feedback
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xFunlovingx
13 years ago
I read somewhere along the posts as flirts...my bad! If the girls don't bother answering I wouldn't worry about them. Probably too up themselves to even bother! I do believe that the ones that don't reply are on an ego trip and have no thought to meeting anyone! I reply to all messages...I just sit down with a cuppa in hand and go through them at least once a week...while I might not reply straight away...I do reply! It's just manners! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
One comment picked up a quick tip and had another thought , it happens about once a week although it hurts. | As there have been frequent and numerous what I can only call invasions of privacy of friends list...and some to the extent, I think a few of the ladies here have had issues although quite limited to a few specific serial offenders. Not nice at all...and not pleasant when you know it's going on, so I have now deleted and won't further add anyone to my friends list....and make it a point to say that as well as not being a fan of the validations as an "NB" in my profile. | Do you ladies think that throws any kind of a negative spin on anything or am I just looking for false positives to vaccinate? | Thanks.
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RHP User
13 years ago
not getting too many replies either, tell me where i am going wrong please ladies
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'jomar777'not getting too many replies either, tell me where i am going wrong please ladies I usually love to pick apart a profile, but my laptop battery's flat. . So erm... grammar could do with a tweak. Anal? Nope... I mean a typo or missed word in a text isn't a crime, but this is your first impression. It pays if you don't have to read it three times to make sense of it. . Your interests are varied and you enjoy anything.... You can just leave that out because it tells people nothing. Oh... or you could actually list what those varied interests are.. Unless they are tying up and burying hitchikers of course... that's a second date kinda conversation.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'jomar777'not getting too many replies either, tell me where i am going wrong please ladies OK, here's my 2c on your profile jomar, 1) the first line 'seeking a beautiful woman' is incredibly intimidating!!! There aren't many women who don't have some insecurities about their appearance and a line like that would immediately make me think...'I'm probably not beautiful enough...' and move on 2) Although you look pretty good for your age, you aren't exactly a supermodel...yet you only want beautiful women? Maybe you are punching above your weight a bit? 3)There are some lines in your profile from the RHP build-a-profile tool...get rid of them altogether! I have read the same sentances on dozens of other profiles! Hope this helps :) xxx Cherry
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RHP User
13 years ago
As a relatively new user of Red Hot Pie, I have found myself inundated with flirts and messages. Although it is exciting and complimentary, finding time to respond to all of them is an issue. I have actually edited my profile to apologize to anyone I havent responded to yet.......hope I am covering the etiquette side of things. Not all women are the same tho...
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RHP User
13 years ago
*chuckles* I am a neanderthal in a world of metrosexuals. You think you have a problem?? I DO not send flirts. I PAY to get ignored!!! :) Having said that, every now and again, I MIGHT get the odd girl or couple nibble at my profile... Mind you, I get more males doing that. *smiles* (except stalky doesnt do it) So fella, be respectful of the fact that these girls are getting literally hundreds of flirts and messages a week, and if you wish to compete, you had best come up with a damned good edge :) I see someone I like, and I will make comments on WHY I like them, and understand I am NOT everyones cup of tea. Most times, I get a "Thank you" back, but dont get bent out of shape if I dont. SOMETIMES, I may get a girl, or couple who nibble at, or suggest things go further. BUT, even when the males send me a message, I will reply in respect. OK, that may not be reciprocated, BUT I feel better about it, and that is always good for a better attitude. Have fun and be patient. THE caveman
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