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What are women really looking for on RHP ?

November 28 2011

More than a few times now I have been turned down with either a "sorry but your too nice/innocent looking" or "you are a nice guy but not what I'm looking for", yet I notice validations from these women and their friends list and they are dotted with people my parents age or whose genetic makeup has given them as much hair (and intelligence judging by their profiles) as homo erectus (get your mind out of the gutter and google it if your giggling away).   So the question I ask is, are the majority of women on RHP after someone more primal and alpha male to satisfy their basic urges instead of guys who might have some intellect and depth to them ?

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    This is another question whereby everyone can not be lumbered into the one handbasket. What I may want is totally different from what someone else may want. Please do not think that everyone on someones friends list are people that they are intimate with as this is not the case. It is a friends list as they are our friends. Some I have met and some I have not. I prefer intellect and depth than alpha male qualities yes but there again your profile will let you down. Your pics on public display are restricted so I can not see them. That does not add to a claim of intellect. Your profile is also very sketchy. It would not give me much to go on if I were to look at it. On sites like this we all know there are way more women than men. What have you got that is special? Sell yourself a bit instead of complaining. You may think you are intellegent and have depth......show it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Your name would also put me off a great deal if I were looking for a play mate. Not because you are a dad at all but because I find it just a little tasteless to mention that in your profile name. JMO.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Your name would also put me off a great deal if I were looking for a play mate. Not because you are a dad at all but because I find it just a little tasteless to mention that in your profile name. JMO.

  • uneventful

    uneventful

    13 years ago

    intellect and depth to them , every time .. Fionebee .... you really need a paid membership ... the Calvin Kline are oh so nice .... pity about the distance ..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I'll definitely put some effort into the "marketing" of my profile, selling myself has never been a strong point though, maybe that's what is bringing me unstuck.   Sometimes its a shame you can't delete a post you created when you were upset and having a rant ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Yeah I was just saying to a couple of friends the other day , if only RHP let you delete your own posts ;) . I am with Fiona on one point here, and not because it puts me off, but if I was looking at your profile name it would send my mind in a different direction and it may be doing this to other women also. When us ladies are on here looking for , ohhh ermmm lets say SEX we are not thinking about our own or someone elses children, it has a reaction in our brain and we go from Rumpy Pumpy mode to Mummy mode in about 1.37 seconds flat. DO.....change your rhp name, but DON'T omit the fact that you have children in your profile. You don't want to hide it but you don't want it to be someone's first impression of you either. You are a man here looking for an encounter of some sort, first and foremost. I can only imagine the response I would get if I mentioned the word Mum in my name lol. Best of luck

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    House work's done, the hubbiy's at work and the kid's are at school, lol.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'D_G_T' Yeah I was just saying to a couple of friends the other day , if only RHP let you delete your own posts ;) . I am with Fiona on one point here, and not because it puts me off, but if I was looking at your profile name it would send my mind in a different direction and it may be doing this to other women also. When us ladies are on here looking for , ohhh ermmm lets say SEX we are not thinking about our own or someone elses children, it has a reaction in our brain and we go from Rumpy Pumpy mode to Mummy mode in about 1.37 seconds flat. DO.....change your rhp name, but DON'T omit the fact that you have children in your profile. You don't want to hide it but you don't want it to be someone's first impression of you either. You are a man here looking for an encounter of some sort, first and foremost. I can only imagine the response I would get if I mentioned the word Mum in my name lol. Best of luckThanks DGT, definitely take it on board. I believe in honesty and openess which is why I chose it but maybe not the best profile name now I think about it hehe

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Yep , get them thinking about sex PTD or those cute lil butt cheeks

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Why should I have to choose? there are definitely guys on here that are the "aplha" male type that also have intellect and depth though they are few and far between. I definitely agree with what Fiona and DGT said you need to change your profile name. I also agree with Fiona that just because someone is on your "friends" list it does not necessarily mean you have played with them.... some of my friends on my friends list are "real life" friends that are also on rhp... others are ppl I have met but not played with and a few I have played with..si it really is a mixed bag. Also I hate to say it but guys that are TOO nice... well it does kinda put me off, I'm a strong independant woman and if I find that I can walk all over a guy I probably will... and thats just not sexy. hope that makes sense, good luck :) x

  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    13 years ago

    At all...seems you have me on block for some reason....Oh well. Anyway I agree with the girls..the nic is an instant turn off. It really depends on what you are after as well....just be honest in what you want. xFunlovingx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    fionabe, how's my name? Also dont tread on me fleurtatious81:)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    ... therefore, profile locked...I love my son, don't get me wrong, but to refer to him in any way in my profile name or even contents would make me feel like I was using him to pull and that's just SO MANY levels of wrong! Anyone who messaged me on that basis.... *shudders* I totally just icked myself out...If it needs to be stated that I have a child, this is something that can be passed on during conversation rather than as a... selling point? *ew*Sorry, but whilst kids may become relevant when determining meet times or location, it is NOT the business of every Dick in the street (pun intended) and is offputting for many reasons, including those stated by others.My apologies if my post offends anyone, this was in fact promptd by a conversation with a close friend, not just me being a bigot :PPersonally, whether someone has kids or not makes no difference to my decision making process... but their *attitude* certainly does ;)Gimme some attitude and I'll give you some lip lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Oh women do like Hunks. They'll get it over you most times if your a dweeb or a weed or zoom dweebie. Muscle up, harden up and get their juices flowing. Macho is never out of fashion completely. Nerds are ever useful...but a whole lotta man is going to get the download. You could amp up your charisma and develop a power personality...but then again you don't 'Shtump' a personality do you.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    whats with all the guys who mesage us then dont ever get around to meeting up with us. or i reply but never get a second. we wanna fuck! thats what we want LOL. we get so many emails but not often enough do then eventuate into anything good. to much flirting not enough courage to meet. all we are asking for is age similar and not over weight with a personality would be nice. open to couples or single men. but not someone called parttimedad :P .... try full time sex-bomb! goodluck xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    As Mr and Mrs Erotic said, i will rephrase it in a usual TOP GEAR manner.Its like cars, that are placed on teh COOL WALL. The sort of cars that anybody would go for.Now, men are like cars. Some a economical, some a muscled, some a powerful, some are fast, some a nimble, some are tiny, huge, wide, and so on and so on.Which cars would women go for?The muscled-car DODGE CHALLENGERor the powerful, but elegant ASTON MARTIN DB9?or perhaps the TOYOTA PRIUS? O.ohmm..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Not much wrong with that as a name.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'Bratzilla'... therefore, profile locked...I love my son, don't get me wrong, but to refer to him in any way in my profile name or even contents would make me feel like I was using him to pull and that's just SO MANY levels of wrong! Anyone who messaged me on that basis.... *shudders* I totally just icked myself out...If it needs to be stated that I have a child, this is something that can be passed on during conversation rather than as a... selling point? *ew*Sorry, but whilst kids may become relevant when determining meet times or location, it is NOT the business of every Dick in the street (pun intended) and is offputting for many reasons, including those stated by others.My apologies if my post offends anyone, this was in fact promptd by a conversation with a close friend, not just me being a bigot :PPersonally, whether someone has kids or not makes no difference to my decision making process... but their *attitude* certainly does ;)Gimme some attitude and I'll give you some lip lolI certainly didnt take offence and appreciate the feedback. I certainly dont want to use my kids or position as a dad to try and seek sympathy or as a pulling factor so have changed my handle (whether its an improvement or not we will see haha).

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I'm still waiting for reply -.-

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I like the new name, best of luck !!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting '2naughtygirlz' whats with all the guys who mesage us then dont ever get around to meeting up with us. or i reply but never get a second. we wanna fuck! thats what we want LOL. we get so many emails but not often enough do then eventuate into anything good. to much flirting not enough courage to meet. all we are asking for is age similar and not over weight with a personality would be nice. open to couples or single men. but not someone called parttimedad :P .... try full time sex-bomb! goodluck xx Unfortunately you hit on another of my pet peeves, the people who are here just to flirt with the excitement of maybe meeting someone but never actually following through with it. Bad manners and a waste of people's time if you ask me. Luckily I have met some very nice people who aren't here just to waste others time which is why I come back :-)   p.s. unfortunately fulltimesexbomb was too many characters :-P

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Maybe many of the ladies are overwhelmed by contact, but a simple "not what I'm looking for" reply would be great if the bloke/lady takes the time to contact you. I've been pretty clear in my profile what I'm after and many ladies are too. Sometimes, I will drop an email even if there is not an exact match on age or preferences because you never know what people are currently looking for...updating the profile all the time is a bit of a pain, so I would prefer a yes/no/maybe via reply to know where I stand quickly... What do the ladies think?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Much better :P shame the other handle was too long, it woulda been a corker, lol. As for questions from ppl about replying to messages.... in my first month I think I got about 400 messages? I don't have a secretary but I do have a life, including 2 jobs, so I had enough trouble maintaining correspondence with the ones I was interested in, never mind the ones I wasn't! I've since rewritten my profile I dunno how many times, trying to be as clear as possible regarding what I'm looking for, so if I do get a message from someone clearly outside my preferences, I don't see how I'm obligated to reply? It's kinda like saying I'm obligated to put out if a guy buys me a drink? :P I understand the frustration of not getting a reply (yep it happens to us girls, too) but I'm not egotistical enough to believe that the sun shines out of my arse and all whom I deign to acknowledge should give thanks for being worthy of my attention... just sayin. :)