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What are your thoughts on first meet.
August 05 2019
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RHP User
5 years ago
No thanks, I'd be very wary of that one. No, never... I once had a married woman want to come to my place for a first meeting, I did meet her and I'm glad she never knew my address.
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RHP User
5 years ago
NO ITS NOT. It never was and never is. In this day and age one has to be mad or naive to trust a total stranger and walk into an address without knowing who is waiting in there. People get robbed or jumped on after going to something as ordinary as gumtree exchanges as it is, why would I walk into total strangers house? Any first meets are done in public in a popular location with other people are around. I have a paramedic friend who has some crazy stories about people who are found at locations they have never been to before. You don’t want to be one of them.
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RHP User
5 years ago
And... Many people I met/dated, looked nothing like their photos, except my Mrs, who was always honest and photos didn’t do her justice. People lie. I like to have the option to have a short and friendly chat and move on if the person I am meeting looks very different than her photoshopped pictures. Coffee dates outside are perfect for this.
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OkeyDoke45
5 years ago
This would be the craziest thing to do. It would be the craziest thing to ask to do, the craziest thing to agree to. I remember from past forums that asked similar though, there are people that have. As MandC have said, they can rock up on your doorstep only for you to find that their profile pics were of them several years and many kilograms ago. That's one of the least worst situations you could find yourself in.
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loveYOURpleasure
5 years ago
"No." "If I need to explain why, it's not going to work out."
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Mask_007
5 years ago
I so far agree with all the above. And would prefer to meet firs in a public place, to get to know you then if something happens go to a hotel, then one of us be stuck in a uncomfortable situation. Meet and greet first than if is all in favour go play in a nice hotel room.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I’d never ask this, just no, beyond inconsiderate. But I have been invited after prolonged conversation and it was fine. That said those women where pretty confident savvy worldly and capable but it’s not something I would recommend women do. And in this #metoo world I would probably exercise more caution today than I have in the past.
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
I am curious too. There are many many women who do invite men over for first meets. I have also been told by men, that some have accepted because the sex is just handed out to them on a platter (no chase) . In a way I can see understand why some (not all men) do push for this and their point of view. What I don't like is when afterwards the female carries on about it (says untrue statements for attention), when in fact she placed herself in that position and most times is so wasted. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
5 years ago
Ive lost count in how many times I've been asked this. When I answer No they offer public meet but by then it just leaves me a negative feeling and I'm no longer interested in chatting further. Looks like no one is going to admit they ask. I won't name and shame but they know who they are.
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3someparties
5 years ago
That’s why it’s called a request. You can always say no I prefer to meet in a public place first. We’ve invited many people to our house for a first meet, men and women. Each to their own. A guy can be charming in public and a creep in private.
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FeistyFatty
5 years ago
I meet at my home 90 percent of the time. Difference being I offer (when weve both established wed like to proceed beyond chat). Ive never requested or initiated a meet with another so can't comment. I wouldn't ever request to go to someone elses home though, just not me. I have met men in their hotel suites before for first meets/plays etc. I feel more comfortable and safe in my own home so maybe that's why its my first choice. I have a handful of times had a man arrive and its clear that they have misrepresented themselves or there's just something i do gel with. I simply say I'm not interested in continuing the meet and would they please leave. All have. Might be more luck than anything yes, but I've been around long enough to filter through most people's bullshit.
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RHP User
5 years ago
3some but u and your lovely wife have each other for support and safety. Yes and indeed I do say no at the request. I can't help feel like it sets a standard for no consideration given for my own privacy or safety. Surely it's common sense so why ask it.
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pussywillow26
5 years ago
I've done both coffee meets that have ended at my huse An I invited men to my huse for a 1st time meet an I've gone to mens houses for a 1st time meet in all the years ive played on rhp ive had one scary meet an that was a meet at a hotel I have been very lucky that most of the men I've had the pleasure of meeting have ending up with multiple meets In my experience if u chat long enough u will sense the crazzy no matter how good u r at hiden crazzy always shows up one way or another I feel theres more real ppl here looking for friends an fun an good times thats just my experience I always listen to my gut an its noarmally bang on the money
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RHP User
5 years ago
Our home is our castle RHP, dates, BDSM plays etc, they all belong to a world of their own, we do what we do for fun then at the end we come back “home”, where we are by ourselves again. For someone to get invited to our house, they have to earn our trust and friendship. Obviously some people prefer to bring pleasure home, each to their own. Whatever works for you. But we never went to anyone’s place for first meet and would never invite someone we know nothing about to our home.
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RHP User
5 years ago
...and her house, my house, the dog house is always with the full understanding of the right of first reject, her or me. That said, it's a bit difficult to leave your own home, isn't it...so double check your radar before committing. There are those instances where all hello has broken loose if someone is treated reasonably then told it's time to go home. Don't be one of them! My motis operondi generally has been to meet on neutral turf where the remains the option to stay and play or the option to give it the flick. I usually don't meet for coffee or drinks with an absolute "no" as an option as I am looking by then to make a selection in rather than a selection out. I think if we're honest, we know a no without even meeting...at least I do most of the time and that right of first reject with the option to run like hell is on the table. I'm happy to say that most stick around and we run the other way. Good luck, have fun and be safe! ʗɱ
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3someparties
5 years ago
We do play seperately as you well know. I don’t think it’s common sense at all. As I stated before people can easily put on fake niceties at a public meet and turn into a creep behind closed doors. Some people prefer to play in the comfort of their own home. If that’s not your thing so be it.
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Sawadee
5 years ago
... over a coffee or drink where the lady feels safe and can see for herself im no lunatic... Mind you ' works both ways...
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countrytouch82
5 years ago
No I would never ask that or expect it. However, because of my nature and including other types of contact beforehand like phone conversations, I have actually met for the first time at a woman's house on a number of occasions, under various sexual mutual intentions or just friends/dating.
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
When i was living by myself or even mentioned it in exchange of messages thats when I would get the "subtle hints" inviting themselves over. I totally stopped informing people my living arrangements and would redirct to public places. Subtle hints of invites turn me off. I personally think it is rude and people should wait for invites and not give subtle hints. I'll do it when I am ready and make the choice, not when they want too. My place, I make the rules. Ms Foxy
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Mischeviouslad
5 years ago
I will ALWAYS suggest to meet in a wine bar or similar location for first meeting I have no issues being seen in public with another consenting, mature minded adult.... I don’t ever consider sexual activity is on offer.... but then I have deliberately NOT raised talk of a sexual tone in messaging before I’ve even met someone. It’s illogical to me to do that, and just loads pressure and expectations which is probably one reason why people cancel or no-show on guys in here. To answer the question implicitly, my thoughts will simply be to confirm how well we engage, laugh and get on with each other in person, which our messaging suggested we might and that led to me choosing to meet in the first place.
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MsJonesy
5 years ago
If I have not met them before in public, is no. My house is my sanctuary and I am very conscious of my personal security and safety. I had a bad experience in my early days on this site, when a man who I had met 3 times in public came to my house for the first time. Within 10 minutes my gut screamed get him out, immediately! ..... because his behaviours were those of someone casing the joint. Fortunately I have some pretty high tech security measures.. or perhaps enough security measures to put him off. I heard from him once after that; when I dropped certain information into the coversation which made him aware I knew what I bekieved his motives really were, he decided he "wasn't really in the right head space" to continue our contact. Uh huh. 😎
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Starfish0
5 years ago
I get asked all the time for them to come to my house for a first meet. My answer to that is Next.......
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RHP User
5 years ago
If these guys have daughters of their own, would they like to think of them compromising their safety in this way with a complete stranger? I dont think so. Even when I said that I lived with my son, Id get the sleazy "Ill sneak in and be quiet, hehe"...... I like to meet for a coffee or drink first
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MsBrunette
5 years ago
I get it all the time too. As I’m not always able to get out to meet people on there demand. They suggest to come over to my place while the kids are sleeping” we can be quiet” oh I don’t think so!!!! Block!. Hence why I stop meeting people from here now. I rather go to clubs events and private parties and play in a safe environment.have my fun and go home.
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EarthQueen
5 years ago
I’ve done it all. His house, my house, hotels. It’s a calculated risk but I acknowledge it could turn out badly. At the time wasn’t thinking with logical brain. Could it come under a kink or just a lack of good judgement ? I’ve tried to pull apart what it is about this that I like. All I’ve come up with is that when it turns out well it’s the biggest dopamine rush. Just being honest. Just clarifying. It’s not like I do this every week either. It’s an occasional thing. I thought I was done with it but about 2 months ago I did it and it was possibly one of the best sexual experiences I’ve ever had . I probably need to see a therapist . You all can analyse me instead . It’s cheaper. Probably more insightful as well. In defence I think I do have reasonably good intuition.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Some people are risk takers,others are risk averse ...you can take an online test to determine which one you tend to be..but you are probably more of a risk taker.So am I.There is something quite thrilling about having sex with a complete stranger whether it is at your house or his..and be quite addictive. But life is a risk we take every day..nowhere is safe..just some places are perhaps safer than others.People who are risk averse will never understand risk takers but its people who are prepared to take risks that have changed the world. Hugs Q
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RHP User
5 years ago
Some of you girls and guys have really valid points which swing both ways. I personally do not have issues with meets at a house the first time but if someone is adamant not for me to meet first time at their house and rather go for a coffee somewhere or meet at a swingers bar first then I will always respect that.
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
The good ol ""I'll sneak in and be quiet, hehe". The "hehe" on the end just makes it even more creepier. Do men who say that, not understand that?? It is very concerning knowing that "some" women do follow through with that action, especially with their young children there. Ms Foxy
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mrnorti69
5 years ago
1st meet should be out at a pub or coffee then see wot happens lots of weird ppl out there safety comes 1st ladys
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FeistyFatty
5 years ago
Oh lordy, the "I'll be quiet, sneak me in when your kids are asleep hehehe"...... just pisses me right off. The complete and utter disregard for my children gets an immediate seeya douche. I've even had offers to meet in public toilets/behind the stands/in his Car at junior sporting events... prefaced of course with the irresistible "I'll be quick"..... 🙄🤔🤣 I'm totally down with the meet and fuck at my house or yours on first meet (after chatting and initial attractions piqued), it is exciting and some of the best experiences I've ever had, and all bar 4 or 5 I've enjoyed multiple times. But I do draw a line in the sand when my children are involved.
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Most of my first is at meets are at my place. But l use the public meet suggestion as a filter first. Two reasons. To see if they accept that if I'm good enough to have sex with, l should be good enough to be seen in public with. The 2nd is they are married/attached and posing as single, they are unlikely to risk a public meet. So a useful tool. Still, I'm more able to look after myself than cis women. There does seem to be the belief that if a guy looks ok at a public meet, he's safe to take home. Nothing further than the truth. It may filter out some dick heads, guys lying about their age and generally inept personalities which will only save you from awkward moments. People that want to do you harm, will look and act in a charming manner. Ted Bundy(at least 30), Rodney Alcala (up to 130 victims) The only way to stay safe is abstain from this risky lifestyle all you fuckers persist in. Repent l say....
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RHP User
5 years ago
NO!! Too dangerous for her especially!! And for men.
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Greedyal66
5 years ago
Hell no. Not right on any level. First and sometimes second on neutral ground. When comfortable move on. Motel is fine from the get go.
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Quoting 'Greedyal66' Hell no. Not right on any level. First and sometimes second on neutral ground. When comfortable move on. Motel is fine from the get go. So......motel is fine? So unbalanced people are balanced in a motel room?. Explain how that makes any logic
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kisslids
5 years ago
Yes it’s fine. I live at my local coffee shop. Everyone can come to my place, byo paint brush.
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MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
Heard of Bates Motel.... 😁 Ms Foxy
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Treborandevad
5 years ago
The apartment where we extend hospitality, has a courtyard opening to the street. This has been agreeable to some of our guests who after enjoying a drink and chat outdoors, can take the party indoors if it all appeals, or leave unhindered if the magic isn't there. For a more public meet and greet, a café an easy walking distance away or one of the local bars also works well and for later entertainment of a more intimate kind, the apartment is close by. As we both live on acreage, invitations to our homes follow after initial meet and greet, when a greater level of trust is established. And then we can enjoy the Hills lifestyle and fun in the great outdoors.
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RHP User
5 years ago
It's simple if the lady comes to your place you are not about to be a twat she knows where U live and if you're just an idiot well in my opinion f-off and find another site don't tarnish our perfect little slice of heaven
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RHP User
5 years ago
But if it happens to be someone I've been talking to for sometime and the stars never seem to align every other day for a meet, then why not take a chance and go to their house, or even invite them to come to mine. At the end of the day, it's no more dangerous than crossing a busy road. Besides, I never carry cash anyway. Hahahaha
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RHP User
5 years ago
I've had people invite themselves over when we've just chatted platonically online, when I always suggest coffee/pub - instant turnoff, can't believe the disrespectful entitlement of inviting yourself, a stranger, over to someone's place. Besides not having the situation to allow this, I don't invite strangers over to my place because it's fucking dangerous, basic common sense around my safety boundaries. If they try this or won't meet in a public space - I get turned off and reprimand them, and that concludes ourinteraction. That's also why I've again reworded my profile. I have noticed this with some younger people - what happened to manners?
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RHP User
5 years ago
Nope, safety first, I think it’s simply being a gentleman to respect another’s safety and just not ask. If she invites after, that’s a different story and she clearly feels comfortable. You know you, she doesn’t know you, and she shouldn’t feel any sort of pressure - in my opinion.
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RHP User
5 years ago
How is it different from meeting someone at a pub, club or even a coffee shop then going home with them? The vulnerability is much greater for a lady i understand
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RHP User
5 years ago
Yes have had and been to someone's place for first meet, it can be super intense and amazing! In saying that i totally gauge by conversation first and would never agree after 7mins chatting like some men try 🤣 instant block! If im still not sure i will make a coffee date first and go from there. but if a guy has the right attitude and can hold a naughty conversation without being an ass for more than afew days then bring it on i say 😈 my pet hate is reading a kik msg, ignoring me for a week or 2 then a msg saying are you free today without a hello... how does get nicked sound lol #block
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teamaj2
5 years ago
Ce la vie Our response is like most on this chat . RHP has a very large demographic and we are all seeking like minded people. If some people feel it’s ok to ask to come meet at your home , we suppose that’s what they seek but we ( or anyone ) dont have to find that acceptable . As with any request it’s totally alright to decline the request . Like most , we go with our gut instinct but you truly never know someone . Obviously that takes time . We prefer to meet in a bar , have a drink and go from there. Yes , we have met some people that don’t look like their profile but so far we have dodged the ‘crazy bullet ‘ and only met respectful , wonderful people thru RHP . Like most , our home is our sanctuary. Inviting someone to our home - let alone our bedroom , is for us a decision not to be taken lightly .
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sweetnsensual
5 years ago
We always meet publicly first A bar or coffee shop We have only been to one couples house ever but had met them publicly first
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ajaussie
5 years ago
I have been to one couples and one women house for fun. I was lucky that both the experience were very Good and we all had fun. Cant say anything about the future ....you have to be at the bad place at the bad time.Cheers AJ
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RHP User
5 years ago
No,no and just no. Meeting in a public place puts the mood at ease. Both parties can relax and chat comfortably. Why would any woman put herself in that situation anyway? To many wrong people out there these days, you would have no clue who you’re inviting over. 🤷🏻♂️
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brokenhands
5 years ago
For me.. where you live on the first meet is completely out of the question unless your 100% certain after AT LEAST being convinced via phone call.. even still.. need a mutual public location to give both parties option.. Lets be real.. its the fuckwits with fake accounts, fake pictures and the people with fuckloads of unsorted baggage they havnt dealt with are the reason it needs to be this way.. As a PARENT.. would i have strangers ive never met come into mine and my childrens home so they can fuck?.. Fuck no.. would you?
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RHP User
5 years ago
As a couple we just get stood up more than actually get to meet people. When we have met we have both met in public and gone to thier home at thier request but even as a couple we are cautious going to a strangers house and keep our eyes peeled until we are sure there arent any nasty surprises. Safety first but sometimes you need to have a little faith.
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RHP User
5 years ago
@mischeviouslad....I like your style, it's a shame that more people didn't have the same approach.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Always meet in public first. Have a coffee or a drink see if their is a connection. If there is then your both adults. If not you can pass and not worry about if some stranger know where you live. Might be old fashioned, but we need safety in our lives
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RHP User
5 years ago
I've met at their home or mine. Would never be unless we skyped first or had been chatting for weeks.
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Oldie1954
5 years ago
It has happened to me, the lady invited me to her place for coffee and it was with some trepidation I accepted. We met and whilst having the coffee she looked me up and down, said you will do, and carted me off to her bedroom. Found out later she was married so I guess I was lucky he did not come home. Personally I always ask the lady to meet for a coffee at a public place, the main reasons are 1: It sorts out the fakes (eg: blokes posing as women) because they always come up with some lame excuse.2: You both get to see if there is any chemistry between you. 3: You get to see if the profile pic is them or not and they get to see you in person.4: I usually check the ring finger for a ring or evidence of one - after the above episode.5: You get to discuss aspects of what type of relationship you are both looking for. The best thing is you can discuss more in 30 minutes over a coffee than you can in weeks of swapping messages that do not convey any emotion. Body language speaks volumes to those who know how to use it.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I don't think it's appropriate to ask anything like that, anything other than asking what and how a woman is comfortable doing or where to meet is below par. My approach is showing my interests and going with what ever is preferable by the person I'm chatting to. End of the day I don't want to be with someone unless they want it completely to and are comfortable... But I am 32 years old and prefer 40+ woman I tend to have very little luck even having a good conversation let alone anything more because I feel I'm not taking seriously or seem odd because of my attractions to older bigger woman being uncommon, the more easy going I get I feel the more I seem "to easy to good to be true".
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RHP User
5 years ago
I haven’t met anyone on here yet but have met many from other sites always at my house I’ve met few at there’s and have never had any problems. Once someone joined me that looked nothing like her pictures and off her head on drugs... I sent her away and never heard from her again. I only attract good people and have remained good friends with many of them
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Samnite
5 years ago
My preference will always be to meet a stranger in public for the first time. I feel that I get a better sense of what they're like in person. Having said that, in the past, I have met ladies at their place and in hotel rooms after having a bit of a chat and having seen each other on cam. Let's face it, most of the time I am able to get a good sense of what they're like from chatting and camming. Besides, I am always trustworthy and respectful even if I do say so myself.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I like to think before I decide to meet anyone, I’ve done enough ground work to know the vibe. I host first meets 90% of the time and I have never had anyone behave disrespectfully. I’d rather get comfy with a gin and stockings on that a coffee at 10am 🙄
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Playful2looking
5 years ago
Meet for coffee with singles.male or female a lot of bi guys.are married and of course wife doesn't know their bi side so coffee meets quickly sort out .the ones that just want a blow and go never meet a single female but would still do coffee ...couples can do their place or ours
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ImNoAngel
5 years ago
I can’t recall having a man request to come to my house on the first meet, however I have invited many to my house for a first meet and the intention of playing. I do expect several pics and decent chat before that, which depending on how busy life is for all can extend over a few weeks or more. I consider myself a good judge of character and while I have had a small number of disappointments I have never felt unsafe. And yes, I am well aware that pics and what someone says can be completely fake. Don’t shoot me, I know it’s risky. Maybe I’m playing Russian roulette, I don’t know but I’ve never had an issue. I generally let a friend or 2 know when I am meeting someone for the first time wherever that may be. If I am going out or to someone’s house I make sure someone knows where I am and when they can expect me to check in with them.. always sooner rather than later..
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RHP User
5 years ago
The quickest way to see if they are fakes is to request a public meet. The quickest way to find out if someone has anger issues..... say no. To find out if they are creepy, trust your gut. It usually becomes obvious in the first three sentences or less.
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RHP User
5 years ago
@babydoll Jane. So true!!!
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Dennison123
5 years ago
No Always safty first for both parties A nice coffee shop in a public place where both can feel safe is always better & more comfortable
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noeleena
5 years ago
Hi. I quess for a single female and at 72 I have many lovely friends and , my very close female friends and I let them know what I,m doing yes we talk about every detail and nothing bared plus of cause I,m very well known, I,ll spend from 2 to 3 months talking with other,s who I think maybe interested in myself as a person what I,m like and get to know who I ...would... like to spend time with if a person does not wont to take time talking with me then I will cut short any communications so end of simple as . I have invited a few lovely guys to my house / home and was worth the waiting time and I then had a connection with the person if I don't have that connection with some one then point blank don't bother to ask to meet me ...EVER... Some guys only see sex as the main meal as for pudding it will not be given sex is only the miner detail if theres nothing more than that , then don't ask for it, men ...NEED … to get to know us first , you see I,m not after sex, yes can be nice, just what goes before for myself is far more importaint , at 72 I know what I need , do guys know that. try me and find out. ...noeleena...
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DinnerDateFirst
5 years ago
No.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I'd only accept the invitation if I know I'll be looked after well and getting the gentleman treatment such as, back wash, dinner and good night story time.
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littlemissj
5 years ago
I’m not intereeted in spending time meeting in public and chatting. If I wanted that, I’d be on a dating app. I know what I want and am happy to host if I want to play with the person. I feel much safer in my own home and would always find some way of ensuring they are who they say they are through asking them to send a face video in Snapchat to prove they are legit or some other way. If they rocked up and weren’t who they said they were, I wouldn’t unlock the security door and would report them immediately. I don’t like the idea of going to a strangers house, as statistically women are far more in danger of assault than men so I would never go to their environment if I could avoid it, and if I were to do that, it wouldn’t be without meeting and getting to know them first. And I would always let a friend know where I am and who I was meeting. It’s important to be safe and cautious.
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SeekingSensual
5 years ago
My goodness.....I think I must the screening queen......,online connection, then phone chat, to real time face pic swap to video chat......then public date or his place if the video chats have me completely convinced....and THEN only after meeting, will I consider offering to host.... I can assure you, this process really does weasel out the undesirables and time wasters.......... SOUND LIKE HARD WORK FELLAS?YEP! YOU BET!!.......but it most definitely attracts people of substance, those who enjoy the journey and build up as much as the destination, those who are respectful and communicable and those prepared to creatively enhance the play meet experience......
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RHP User
5 years ago
I’d never invite anyone I don’t know to my home Safety first, public places or swingers events and parties that allow single men
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honkytonk
5 years ago
public place, lots of natural lighting, preferably north facing outdoor area. plenty of cctv retina scan on entry preferable but not a deal breaker
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cheekky
5 years ago
Honkytonk. 😂
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RHP User
5 years ago
I only ever do first meetings in public, who knows what your walking into. Safety first I say, that goes for guys and girls.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I/We always like a public meet first, it just makes sense to meet on neutral ground and see how we all get along. Inviting to our home is only for those who are trusted and earned that privilege. I've had some ladies invite me to their homes when I play solo and I've always suggested we meet somewhere safe and public, it shows potential partners that you're not some creep looking for a quick flick and forget.
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86Jasindy
5 years ago
Had a similar conversation with my better half the other day actually. Before we met he was on tinder and met girls, I however have never (before rhp) done the internet dating thing. He mentioned a few girls he had met at their houses the first time they met. I found that strange, I think I would feel very vulnerable on my own. So far we have met others in public not our home, more because my mother lives in a granny flat where we are. I guess we could potentially invite here, only after long conversations seems feeling comfortable?
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Acucullophiliac
5 years ago
Ahhh, yes.... It's a no from me. For many reasons, up to and including that I live with my family. That said, Ive got a unit in another city, and I've had a few guys come over to there. Only once have I just handed out the address, and that time everything was fine. A few other times I met guys locally and took them back there, but I don't live there. If I did live there, even if I lived there alone I doubt I'd take ppl back there for hook ups. Maybe if I had an established relationship with a FWB or casual lover I'd see them in my home, but definitely not with someone new. My concerns are probably pretty stock standard:. I don't want someone turning up (drunk or otherwise) at 3am wanting to see me; I don't want to discover that they are crazy and/or a stalker axe murderer etc. Even when I go to meet someone for the first time I have a security protocol which includes only going to an apartment or hotel room and not going to a stand alone suburban home, always telling a friend the address of where I'm going and getting in touch with them within the first 20min or so to let them know I'm safe, and again when I leave, as well as vetting them over the phone/ message app prior. It's a sad reality that as women we need to take steps to ensure that we won't get murdered on a hook up. My male friend says that his concern isn't getting murdered, but being falsely accused. So I guess guys cop it too. I think that it's best to meet somewhere public at first, and to play in hotel rooms at first.
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Acucullophiliac
5 years ago
I had a kink guy I met on tinder once give me a super weird proposal:. He was into kink and sensory depravation. He wanted me to turn up at his home in lingerie covered with a trench coat and nothing else. On his porch (it was a big stand alone place in Huntingdale, Melbourne) I was to put on the blindfold he would leave there, and ring the bell. He would let me into his home, blindfolded and proceed to tie me up, and fuk me senseless. Then I'd leave, still wearing the blindfold and I'd leave the blindfold on the porch on my way home. What an offer! But it gets even better:. At no point would he share a picture of his face, nor would I see it in person. And he would fuk me bareback. Keep in mind, he wanted me blindfolded the whole time so I wouldn't even see his cock. I'd never had a proposal such as this put to me, and was not intrigued so much as flabbergasted, and questioned him regarding my own personal safety. He went on to send me 'testamonials' from probably 15 women. Idk if these testimonials were genuine or faked, and I never met the guy, but according to the women's testimonials it was a great experience. I didn't meet him. I'm not sure I'd hav been able to relax enough in such a risky situation. The bareback aspect for me was just another level of dodgy.
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freefourall
5 years ago
What is this “first meet” you are talking about?????
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northernheat
5 years ago
Cpl
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RHP User
5 years ago
I have invited someone recently to my home for first meeting after chatting and knowing I felt safe. Being a person who suffers from anxiety I think I felt more comfortable meeting in my own home than i have done meeting in public places in the past. Meet was great fun and no pressure put on me at any time. Honestly if you think someone seems ideal in messages they are probably going to give you the same impression in a public meeting also and end up in same scenario. I think its ok to ask- so long as you respect the choice if someone says no. Its the people who continue to ask after views stated that set off my creepy radar.
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RHP User
5 years ago
This is a tough one because common sense will tell you never ever should you have a stranger come to a woman's house for sex and never having met. It screams naivety, recklessness and danger. YET, it is some of the hottest sex I've ever had. I've been lucky enough to do this a few times and I've never had a bad experience ever. I've turned up at a single woman's house, married woman's house, hotel room, you name it. I'm always surprised how many women find it a fantasy, and I'm glad they do, it is serious hot and I'm honoured by their trust in me and I've never given cause for them to be disappointed. So what's the verdict? Yes it is okay, trust your gut, rely on your instincts and sieze the day
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cute_and_fit
5 years ago
Even being a guy the answer is still no ... even after chatting online for however long. Find somewhere chilled, relaxing, and where you can see if who you are meeting is who they say they are, then if you are both interested take it from there.
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RHP User
5 years ago
No, because: - unsafe/threatening- invasion of privacy- disrespectful (assumes you let strangers into your home)- weird power play (is he gonna judge your home? It's just weird)
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Playful2looking
5 years ago
Has anyone seen that movie with Clint Eastward..." Play Misty For Me" He was a DJ being stalked. I would meet for Coffee first...especially if you live alone
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LetsFrolic
5 years ago
Usually please don't be a catfish or ghost.. and hope they're as good as they're pics and have a good night and good sex
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compressor
5 years ago
Well not that lucky to be a problem for me but the lady needs to feel safe. There should be no pressure from anyone
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