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What do we want?

November 11 2011

A lot of posts on the forum are based on people having a good winge about there experiences while trying to find that ultimate play friend or couple. We all do our best to convey what we are looking for though our profile's. Yet it seems when it comes to finding the people that fit what we are ultimately looking for. We end up with something to complain about or talk about how people don't fit ones needs.I was starting to think a lot of the issues could be that people just have trouble communicating exactly what they are looking for in the first place. Do a lot of us know what we want but just have trouble laying it out? I feel we are all good at saying what we don't want, don't like and don't understand on the forum. When it comes time to list what we are looking for in our profile. A lot of us keep it brief, simple. More of a generic ramble that covers a vague idea. We then leave it up to people to come along and expect them to fit what we are looking for. Perhaps we do it just to cast a bigger net. Then pick through the catch. I wanted to put this question to people. Rather than just going with the flow. If you were given the ability to pick exactly what your looking for in a person or couple. Who would they be, how would they interact with you and what would happen? Treat it as a chance to say what you should have said in the what we are looking for section of your profile but might of sounded to demanding, specific or unrealistic....dream world scenario I guess.Tim

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RHP User

13 years ago

This is a very hard thing to answer an impossible task for me. Its like building a fire, you put all the sticks up its constructed in a certain way and it can be perfect but it needs that match to spark it up. I can say I like tall men as I am a tall woman. I can say I like artistic well educated articulate men I can say I want someone to lay in bed with after they have had their fill and actually want to stay in the sheets for little while after sex or even want a second helpings of me. The physical things are clean, they must make me want to burly my lips and nose in their neck, and kiss that hallow under the Adams apple. To linger at their mouth,to brush my lips so slight to theirs and feel that tingle in my belly ,like a thousand butterflies unleashed. I can draw a mental picture ,have an image of that person. But it will be an outline and someone has to colour in the substance of the man. He has to bring that to the table that “je ne sais quoi” All my pre conceived ideas may just as easy go when I am within three feet of him, and he may be nothing like I thought. I get caught in the orbit of the sexual gravity of a man. Fantasy and reality can be poles apart at times. The left had side of the brain makes a blue print of our desire,the right takes it out of of logical, and creates a tapestry of erotic desire. What do I want. I want it all.

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RHP User

13 years ago

People our age, who are not insane, who like to get busy, GSOH, local, like to meet repeatedly, who don't get all clingy and finally aren't full of shit to be as blunt as possible. Lol sorry there's no better terminology for it.. Heh. Mind you after roughly 8 years on and off on sites like these ones.... Well finding more than the odd few is doubtful.

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RHP User

13 years ago

The vague parameters may attract more curiosity? The exacting descriptions along with omitted types and dislikes may put a prospective liaison beyond reach. Some of the better arranged profiles are known as Power Profiles and are comprehensive, punchy and inspiring. There was a post about this a while back. The individuals owning these power profiles must have wondered why every Tom dick and Mary was viewing them suddenly. We like people to be themselves, who else can they be? Except frauds and ghosts who eventually come undone.

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RHP User

13 years ago

But I wont know for sure until I see it, touch it, taste it, play with it. If I listed ALL I was looking for people may need to pack a snack just to settle in and read my profile.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Both with a great smile and nice faces. Both intelligent with the perception of being great in bed. Pippa with the look of those legs that open easily, with a butt / figure that probably deals with my spooning cock as well as a butt that opens easily to allow me to doggy mmm. Helen looks to have sensitive boobs another favourite. Finally a woman who has a big pussy for my oral and my cocks pleasure. Simple requests.

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CrackUp

13 years ago

The 'my science experiment' sounds a little too analytical to me. I prefer to meet people (often irrespective of what they say in their profile) and see how it develops from there. Not everyone has the ability to capture the magic of 'them' in a few words on a profile. It's like driving down that unassuming little back country road and coming upon a spellbounding vista missed by the vast majority, because - that little road, on first glance was unappealing and gave no hint of what lay beyond. Life is an adventure, if you let it be.

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RHP User

13 years ago

When we occasionly have the itch for MFM 3 some ...like once a year and make this profile visible. We find out of 15-25 winks messages recieved etc in a week, only 2-3 have read what our profile and then to really impress us they try to negoitiate our wishes we stated in our profile. We reckon it takes 30-50 winks / messages to find the right guy.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Totally agree CrackUp, life really can be an adventure. Personally, I'm finding the longer I'm on here the more I'm definitely figuring out what I don't want or like, so yes, that's the easy part. But it does help you decide what you want and I tend to edit my profile a little more as each discovery develops around what I want...and what I'm looking for. Profile write ups are part of the initial attraction for me...detail and humour, but ultimately, it's whether the click is there or not when you chat and meet..

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RHP User

13 years ago

Well done timandjane, great post. I agree with CrackUp that not everybody has the ability to express themselves in a few words, me especially. I often read profiles and think that this lady ticks all the boxes as far as I am concerned, and from what I have read, I tick all the boxes as far as she is concerned. I then send a message introducing myself and asking if she wants to meet. I either gat a no thanks you are not who I am looking for or no reply at all, and I think, what have I said or done? The problem is, there is not enough written in profiles to say who the person does not want to meet which gives people the wrong impression. I once read a profile from a woman that said "no blacks or Asians, no one from the Middle East, no overweight or hairy guys". I thought, what a bitch, then I thought about it again, good on her, at least she was honest.

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RHP User

13 years ago

If only it was that simple...Well...there's what we WANT, and there's what we will ACCEPT.If we said what we WANT, then either a) we'd never get any responses or b) we'd be accused of being hypocrites lolWhat we will ACCEPT are people who don't need to smoke when they are with us, who are a similar size to us (a little bigger or smaller), who we consider attractive (now that is virtually impossible to describe as there are so many different variables), and, most importantly, someone/a couple who find that we BOTH tick their boxes too :)

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Insomnian

13 years ago

For me personally, I've left a rather open ended, what do I want specifically because it's not just one or two qualities, traits, personalities.I find if you list exactly what you want ppl try to act that way or be that way. I much prefer ppl just be themselves... Secondly, I don't really think any of us really know what we want, until we find it, or it finds us. Even then it's usually after time spent talking and being around other ppl that we work it out.

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rupamohan

13 years ago

yes we can..lol who will read it? I am just wondering after each poor exp how much time it takes to learn from it and update your profile? Not really much...but PPL are not bothered to amend. We take pride to keep our profile up to date and we simply mean what we say...as a result we are having very good time here..profiles at adult site are like traffic signs..need to be short but precise. Can be only vague when you are really comfortable with diversity...

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