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What do you do - when you have a high school crush?
August 26 2013
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
G'day mate, Actually can speak from experience here. A mate n myself at work when we were around you're age got to know 2 girls that ran a local hairdressers. We used to go there reasonably frequently, but it helped that there were other shops nearby that we also frequented (lunch shops etc) and we'd go n stick our nose in and say hi to the 2 of them. Over a period of time we got to know the girls a bit better - asking them general 'life' questions, and putting out feelers about any possible relationships and the occasional 'leading' questions. Once we got enough info to determine their status (ie both single and not in a relationship), we asked them out. They actually didn't mind and think were quite flattered, only trouble is their work schedule just generally stuffed things up. We both tried finding suitable times to take them out, but as they were the only 2 in the shop they really had little time to spare outside of work hours. Unfortunately we never got to take them out, but we did end up as good friends with them and continued to go there without any hassles. My advice, do your homework first. Check all possible avenues for any sort of relationship first, and then find out how busy she is kept. Throw in the odd leading question when you talk to her when you're getting a cut. Then use your noggin to see if there is a real possibility to move forward. Might take a little bit of time and effort, but you'll be better off for it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
She's a hairdresser. The local gossiper, the local gal who's friends with everyone.....but most of all, she knows how to keep YOUR custom. Go for it, who cares if you need to find a new hairdresser ?? It's just hair, it'll grow back. But your happiness and countless possible orgasms are priceless if you regret sharing them. - Posted from rhpmobile
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chevtrek
11 years ago
2 rules the more you try the more knocks but the more success. Nothing ventured nothing gained
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madotara69
11 years ago
I reckon go for it. There is pretending to be nice and no adventure, the lady is probably being nice because she likes your company.I still remember having butterflies when asking Tara if I could kiss her, I have them now thinking about that. There is nothing logic when it comes to these moments, just a leap with faith.Her saying no, may feel awkward even hurt a little, though if she says yes. It could be the best thing you ever did.Maybe not while she is cutting your hair. You need your ears.Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I had of, at your age, then I would have had a hell of alot more fun back then. No is not a bad thing. It actually helps you determine better ways of reading situations and ways of asking ladies out. Good grief, am I starting to sound like DG ;)
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Ok.... Two things to consider...... she's attracted, or not. 1. Shes not attracted..... either because she isn't attracted to you, or, because she's occupying a role as a service provider to you in that time and place. Flirting type behaviour is therefore only role play to her Or... 2. If she is attracted, I'd say it's minimal because of the service 'role' she is currently occupying. If she spent the same amount if time talking to you away from her role as service provider.... different story. See my point? So you need to first determine her level of attraction by escalating your flirting up, and also dropping comment about cool places you know that she'd love, but without actually inviting her. IE...(paraphrasing) "We're going to this ultra cool wine bar that does cocktails in jam jars, the flavours of some are amazing.... Youd love it..... too bad you have to work so much" Gauge her interest level by her response. Then you can determine if you should man up, or shut up. Not so difficult is it ;-) DG
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Forgive the bunched format.... iPhone's have no respect for formatting!!!! DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Never fear the Fox is here!Welcome to my world darling!Happens to me all the time..Dammed if you do and dammed if you don't. FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
But find the common ground. Say , you talk about music and you may have an extra ticket for something she may like, next time you get your hair cutoryour a hunk, so when she cuts you hair look in the mirror right at her and say , do you have a partner?then that look of ,I am about to undo your top buttononly works for hot smoking guys, anything under a ten will be ask to leave the salon for being a perverted pest.so fear not kiddo, she will either say, yes i do have a partner or no, why do you ask.and you sayI find you to be an interesting woman and would like to find out more about you over a coffee?Funny how guys are so shy with women they like, but will get brave enough to say how about a root to a woman they dont care one way or the other for.tis the test, to find the bride, those nice girls that they worship from afar.I am one of those,but whoda thunk it that I would then take the butter from my mouth and go stick that mouth with something else?nothing ventured nothing gained and she may furn out to be some very kinky girl, or you might have that relationship and then she finds you on RHP and then she gives you a number 1 down one side of your head, for your next hair cutgood luck, James DeanLadyT
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RHP User
11 years ago
Never let an Opportunity pass you by . Don't put Women on a Pedestal , they're just like you and me . You've got nothing to lose but plenty to gain . GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
When they take the lead and make a direct, confident, not cocky, not cheesy approach. Give it a go - it might get her attention in a way you haven't so far. Even if she isn't attracted she'll have a whole new respect for you, and what's not good about that ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
But here is the problem..If your are like me , I get my hair cut every 5 weeks or so. But if your only contact is on the haircut appointment , then my friend get on to it , or over it..because those voices in your head will only get LOUDER .. Ask for a trim and a phone number !! Next..
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RHP User
11 years ago
yes, i know what you mean i get the same with someone i really like...and really hate it! good advice from Lady Tuscan, just try to suss things out and ask her out for a coffee and a chat, pick on something she mentioned she liked during the "hair cutting" conversation and say you would like to talk more about "that", whatever "that" happens to be and you would like to do it outside of the work environment. if she agrees to iti she likes you and wants to have a real conversation with you, if she doesn't it means she is just friendly because she wants to keep your custom, but does not want to know more about you. my 2 c worth...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Haha ok. Thanks for the advice. So I will take your advice and just go balls deep and ask. The one thing that scares me - is chasing has never worked for me. I am better am better at waiting. But waiting doesn't get the girl you want. Will drop by tomorrow when walking the dog - and ask her to coffee. Will let you know the outcome. Thnx again for the responses - was a bit embarrassed about this post when I realized how lame I sounded.
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RHP User
11 years ago
boss would frown upon the 'dating the clients' thing. Easy way to find out though. Ask. And may the force be with you. (Now THAT is appropriate reference to Star Wars, just sayin')
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is always the chance that she is wishing you would hurry up and ask her out! It is almost guaranteed that you won't be the first guy to ask her out while she is working, and if you are really concerned you can always open it with... "I hope you don't think this is inappropriate but... " If you really want to do your homework, pretend you got the time wrong for your next appointment and get there early so you can casually observe what she is like with her other clients. The only thing you have got to lose is the wondering "what if's". Life is too short, and from reading your previous posts if she declines, then she is missing out on a great guy. Good luck!
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RHP User
11 years ago
You've more guts than me!You're a Brave man.Foxy is behind you...*sits and waits for outcome*Foxy
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Plain
11 years ago
asking someone you fancy is still one of lifes challenges even at 53 years of age.I used to curse this affliction when I was younger now I embrace it, romance aint dead yet.it lives in us all.Just be honest and be brave if you do get a knock back and if she does a good haircut return you never know in life, things change.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'morganafata09' yes, i know what you mean i get the same with someone i really like...and really hate it! good advice from Lady Tuscan, just try to suss things out and ask her out for a coffee and a chat, pick on something she mentioned she liked during the "hair cutting" conversation and say you would like to talk more about "that", whatever "that" happens to be and you would like to do it outside of the work environment. if she agrees to iti she likes you and wants to have a real conversation with you, if she doesn't it means she is just friendly because she wants to keep your custom, but does not want to know more about you. my 2 c worth... "that" its a thing.Mado, Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ok - gonna do it now.Thnx for the advice!
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RHP User
11 years ago
"then she finds you on RHP and then she gives you a number 1 down one side of your head, for your next hair cut"Haha, yeh... complications that arise in life due to being a member of RHP. Ah well. On the bright side - I have stopped being active on the searching side of this site. But - the friends I have made, would be impossible to cut off... hmmm, Oh well, I will deal with it later.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'slickz' "then she finds you on RHP and then she gives you a number 1 down one side of your head, for your next hair cut"Haha, yeh... complications that arise in life due to being a member of RHP. Ah well. On the bright side - I have stopped being active on the searching side of this site. But - the friends I have made, would be impossible to cut off... hmmm, Oh well, I will deal with it later. Is that a ............OOPS a daisy moment??She found you on RHP - is that right?Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Walked into hair dresser - ended up rescheduling appointment and tripping over shoe laces on the way out. lol :( Might as well cut off my dick and walk around with it in my mouth. I am going to try again tomorrow.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We've all had those moments slickz, don't beat yourself up
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' Quoting 'morganafata09' yes, i know what you mean i get the same with someone i really like...and really hate it! good advice from Lady Tuscan, just try to suss things out and ask her out for a coffee and a chat, pick on something she mentioned she liked during the "hair cutting" conversation and say you would like to talk more about "that", whatever "that" happens to be and you would like to do it outside of the work environment. if she agrees to iti she likes you and wants to have a real conversation with you, if she doesn't it means she is just friendly because she wants to keep your custom, but does not want to know more about you. my 2 c worth... "that" its a thing.Mado, Tara xx well one, has to work with anything they can get their hand on ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'slickz' Walked into hair dresser - ended up rescheduling appointment and tripping over shoe laces on the way out. lol :( Might as well cut off my dick and walk around with it in my mouth. I am going to try again tomorrow.- Posted from rhpmobile lol better luck tomorrow ;)
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Today was her day off...... DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sounds like you are adorable, and human... Fingers crossed that it works out for you x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not so slick though eh??? Lmfao ya poor bastard. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't be putting the pussy on a pedestal. Cut that pedestal down from underneath her, but catch her before she falls face first. Figuratively speaking.....ish..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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BrightBubbly
11 years ago
Looks like we will all be checking back in tomorrow night to see how you went !!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' Quoting 'slickz' "then she finds you on RHP and then she gives you a number 1 down one side of your head, for your next hair cut"Haha, yeh... complications that arise in life due to being a member of RHP. Ah well. On the bright side - I have stopped being active on the searching side of this site. But - the friends I have made, would be impossible to cut off... hmmm, Oh well, I will deal with it later. Is that a ............OOPS a daisy moment??She found you on RHP - is that right?Foxy No - haha, she does not know."Today was her day off......"and, she was there - I was just too much of a pansy to ask her out. I ended up rescheduling my next hair cut. I think she knew what was going on though as she had a smile on her face the whole time.I'm going to try once more after lunch. I am Seriously kicking myself for chickening out at the last second.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey slickz, what's the update????
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RHP User
11 years ago
Come on....give us an update!I batting for you remember!!!!!!!LMAO Nothing like the RHP Forums, so are the days of our lives! FOXYPlease don't tell me you chickened out AGAIN???
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Duuuuuuuuuuuuude........ step into the Man-Cave for some well intended advice.DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Youth oh poor youth it is so wasted on the young. I was young once and what a waste that was. The maddening crushes, the girl at the newsagent, my mates sister, and a long list of unreachable everyday normal women that my desire turned into goddesses of perfection, with nothing more then brief exchanges.Advice. Young man that is not what you can get, its too late you have built her up so much in your mind that any possibility of a relaxed date is close to zero. Nothing worse then an uncomfortable date, for both parties and then you may never see her again. Best is you console your self to at best being friends. Love starts with friendship, not the other way around. You stuffed it, but don't feel bad its not your fault, it happens all the time, sometime still to us old bastards. Next time you see her know in your mind, heart, and soul that she will not be yours. Next time you talk to her and let her know you used to have a crush on her. How a cynical old man told you that there was not a chance, and that you realized that there are plenty of fish in the deep blue sea.At least you can continue to see her for your cuts.She will be flattered, and will be thinking of you during the day, and maybe other days. She will also from time to time wonder, is he not due for another cut. In the mean time look for another girl that takes your fancy. Next time you return for a cut and as you have broken the ice to your emotional self you will have someone to talk to about affairs of the heart. Women are such wonderful talkers and listeners.Advice is not what this is, just cold hard truth. You fucked up by falling in love before becoming friends. Sorry but lifes a bitch.Best a long turn friendship than a forgotten crush.Oh and when you do find love, well there is a whole new adventure, but we will look forward to hearing those in the future.And to the others here, naughty naughty boys and girls. But yes cant wait for the next report in... LOLLook slickz there is a lovely list of hungry cougars hanging on your word... What do you have to worry about.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I disagree If he is capable of developing an emotional crush...... he can also learn to rationalise it, and re-frame it.... (and potentially take that girl out for the best first date of her life). And I know this because we have all done that in our lives.....and we've done it in spite of our often rampant irrational emotions. So Slickz..... do you want to see what's on the other side of that crush? She might not be what you hope for... and yes, what youve elevated her to be.... but she just might. And the same applies to any woman in your future. Are you gonna waste more time wondering, tearing yourself up inside... or will you take hold of your own masculine destiny and get this aspect of your life sorted? She is just a human with her own insecurity issues too ;-) DG
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