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What does it take to score a root
June 04 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
You forget that we all have personal tastes that come into play here, it is not so much about the six pack, but more about a specific combination of features that do it for most people, and my George Clooney could be someone elses Iggy Pop... We are all so different in what we like, I like brown eyed/blue eyed, dark haired men with olivey skin, but not all men who have these attributes are going to be attractive to me... Attraction is a personal thing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Personally even though I have had ample opportunity, I have never slept with anyone I was not attracted to because he had money. Alcohol... Hmmm that is a different story, think it could quite possibly have happened when I was a lot younger, those beer goggles sure are powerful... And personality definitely makes a so-so man more attractive, on the whole though I need to feel an attraction to the person, and he has to have a good attitude and personality, otherwise I would probably not get off on the sex... It's very much a mind and body experience for me. Having said that though... I've not often had sex with unattractive (in my eyes) people, maybe I need to don a blindfold and have random sex with someone who looks like Iggy Pop to see if I can get off... Then have a massive OMFG! Moment when all is revealed... That would be quite funny...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hahahahaha...
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RHP User
12 years ago
that intelligence, wit, charm, manners, style and the ability to make a girl laugh are not even on the list :)Of course perhaps not everyone is trying to 'score a root' :)
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Sorry OP..... cant agree with your comments.Sure, 1,2 & 4 "CAN" assist..... but they will never overcome a fatal personality flaw.Money, looks and the consumption of alcohol can actually be detrimental to ones attraction towards others... and I could cite as many examples as anyone would ever need to back the statement.And I would even go so far as to say that the drafting of the topic, with a focus on "scoring a root" .... has a story to tell on why your experiences, are yours.DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Get a paring knife and, say, a parsnip. Score away, but watch your fingers.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's why my fingers are sore, I thought it was the heat from the hot photos I see on here burning my fingertips.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's wonderful to see you have a refreshing attitude and are filled with light, love & positivity
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RHP User
12 years ago
You guys are 100% correct - My post is a classic example of why one should never post when a) In a pretty messed up mental state and b) drunk Part of me is so embarrased that I would love for that post to be deleted, and another part of me wants it to remain as a stark reminder for me to get my &#%$ together...To set the record straight, I was always painfully socially clumsy growing up. I was isolated (on a farm) and it wasn't until uni that I really started to get socially active. My first sexual experience with a partner was not until I was 20 and a few weeks later she cheated on me with one of my friends. So yes, Mischeviouslad, my posting is a very sad reflection of my experiences.There is a deeper story to tell, all in good time, but sufice to say, I feel like a right tool for starting this topic. It does debase what really should be a beautiful thing - and no matter how and when I have 'scored a root', it has always been beautiful. Even the one time I unwittingly had a one night stand (turns out she was confused about if she still wanted to be with the boyfriend she neglected to mention) was a really nice experience.So yes, as my profile states, I am seeking sex. But not at the expense of making it meaninglessP.S. Thanks to whoever added the 'self esteem' tag - it is very appropriate indeed.
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RHP User
12 years ago
3 types of peoplethose that watch things happenthose that make things happenthose that make things happenlol
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RHP User
12 years ago
those that wonder what happened, my bad
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RHP User
12 years ago
but got the gist ...You have forgotten the most important factor ... You must make sure the moons, stars and planets align .... good luck with that ... If that doesn't work for you then you need to start measuring how long a piece of string is .... As for your initial question - What does it take to score a root? Sound like you've had plenty so just go with that yeah?
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Get a paring knife and, say, a parsnip. Score away, but watch your fingers. Was ging to say something similar but you beat me to it 1) Money wont get you meaningful relationships2) Alcohol one to help things along if your shy but going overboard isn't going to help.4) Yeah will help but after a while if there is nothing in the between the ears its just going to end in frustrationSo if I had to choose one f them then for me its personality every day of the week
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RHP User
12 years ago
If that's the way you think the no wonder your probably not getting much. Don't be so closed minded I like a guy with a great smile who is open and is not afraid to make a new friend. Wow I always make sure I pay my way so as not to make a guy feel so cheapened. Of course there needs to be some kind of attraction and thats on the inside too. No alcohol or I hope very little........and physical can go both ways......I think sometimes men need to broaden their horizons on what they are seeking also.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If that's the way you think the no wonder your probably not getting much. Don't be so closed minded I like a guy with a great smile who is open and is not afraid to make a new friend. Wow I always make sure I pay my way so as not to make a guy feel so cheapened. Of course there needs to be some kind of attraction and thats on the inside too. No alcohol or I hope very little........and physical can go both ways......I think sometimes men need to broaden their horizons on what they are seeking also.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It only takes a smile in my experience. But it's the story that smile tells that's what is important.Scoring the root is pretty easy actually. Getting to a space where both of you are looking forward to seconds, that's the challenge..
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RHP User
12 years ago
well dear,after this little effort I am sure you will be well and truly rooted...one way or the other
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ChinesenIrish
12 years ago
Quoting 'livinglifenow74'You guys are 100% correct - My post is a classic example of why one should never post when a) In a pretty messed up mental state and b) drunk Part of me is so embarrased that I would love for that post to be deleted, and another part of me wants it to remain as a stark reminder for me to get my &#%$ together... To set the record straight, I was always painfully socially clumsy growing up. I was isolated (on a farm) and it wasn't until uni that I really started to get socially active. My first sexual experience with a partner was not until I was 20 and a few weeks later she cheated on me with one of my friends. So yes, Mischeviouslad, my posting is a very sad reflection of my experiences. There is a deeper story to tell, all in good time, but sufice to say, I feel like a right tool for starting this topic. It does debase what really should be a beautiful thing - and no matter how and when I have 'scored a root', it has always been beautiful. Even the one time I unwittingly had a one night stand (turns out she was confused about if she still wanted to be with the boyfriend she neglected to mention) was a really nice experience. So yes, as my profile states, I am seeking sex. But not at the expense of making it meaningless P.S. Thanks to whoever added the 'self esteem' tag - it is very appropriate indeed.See we can all have bad days!!! at least you saw the light...
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Im going to go on the record and openly state that as a result of his additional comments, the OP now has my FULL respect.Rather than start a topic that sought only sympathetic and sycophantic replies... he has offered his thoughts, and rightly accepted, and swallowed the bitter medicine dished up as a result.He offered a synopsis of his history..... and we knew there WAS one behind his topic.But there were no pissweak arguments, no pissweak excuses, and no pissweak passive aggressive defence to position his argument as right above other people. Dude....... I salute you for being a MAN!If I can assist in any way, you have my attention. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Or something like that ... GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
If money,looks and body is the be all, then the person you are looking at is somewhat shallow, there are so many more redeeming attributes than that.Intelligence,sincerity, wit, being yourself, consideration and respect of others and of course chemistry, you will find being yourself will attract the right person you. Looking for more than a notch on your belt, not necessarily a relationship but a fwb can be more fulfilling
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RHP User
12 years ago
I started writing this in response to an message from Mischeviouslad, but I figure it's worth me putting it out there for all to see - Call it 'Cathartic Therapy' As far as learning about myself, I've done a lot of that in the last nine months - and a hell of a lot in the last 2. I now realise that there are fundamental things about myself that I should accept and embrace. Keeping them hidden only results in pain and suffering for everyone.When I got married, I thought I could change myself. I had a pretty full on porn addiction (straight porn, no real kinky/violent/young/old stuff). I was watching and masturbating up to three times a day even when my ex-wife and I were having smoking hot sex. Turn out it had a lot more to do with my depression and anxiety. My ex knew about it when we met (I told her about it, and that I had regularly been to brothels, etc.) and I promised to change (just like when I quit smoking for a previous ex.). Turns out, porn is more addictive than nicotine.So nine months ago when I finally revealed it, shit went down big time - I nearly ended up jumping off King Edward park cliff. I remember the date because it was just after fathers day. The only thing that stopped me from jumping was reading a fathers day card someone's child had written - I have three kids (5, 3, and 1). Reading that totally destroyed me. So a night in the psych ward and a pretty angry wife later (who proceeded to tell EVERYONE all the intimate details of what went down) I start seeing a psych. All my ex wanted was for me to be 'cured' of my porn addiction. My psych saw deeper issues - and a lot of them had to do with my ex (not that I'm shifting blame - she had every right in the world to be mad at me and for me to stop watching porn)So three months later, I relapse into porn again - shit hits the fan and I leave home (to where I am now staying). I just wanted to get out and clear my head. My ex took it as me deciding to leave for good. My focus was to sort my crap out and get back home to by with my wife and kids - to be a good husband, a good father, and a good human being. Over the next four months I managed to not watch any porn at all (assisted by the fact that my wife would not let me near the study). I could have easily accessed porn (on my tablet for starters) but managed to keep it under control. I'm sure the anti-depressants helped. In addition to the no-porn, I was putting in huge efforts generally. My boss at work noticed it big time (he has been very supportive) and all of my friends and co-workers have also noticed it (they are pretty much all up to speed with what was going on at the time - just not the details)But over the last couple of months, things started to get more stressful. It was obvious my wife was not moving towards accepting what had happened and 'move on'. I understand people need time to get over things this big, but I also know my ex - she is never going to get over what happened. I'm not going into the details - there is no need.As a result, I started watching a bit of porn again - 6 times in two-and-a-half weeks - just before Mother's Day. So Mother's Day comes around and I cook my ex a beautiful fried breakfast with Champagne (I had been bringing her breakfast in bed after getting up to the children each night for the last 7 months - that's the kind of effort I was putting in). We get to relaxing and talking, and pretty soon the conversation wandered towards our marriage and how much of a bad state it was in... That's when I reveal I had watched porn again. To say my ex went ballistic is an understatement. To quote her "Your a fucking c@#nt and if I never see you again I'll be happy".Since then I have been living with a really good friend and moving on with life. I get to see the kids on weekends and one night a week I have them over for dinner which is great. I'm not in a routine so I keep forgetting to phone them at night - That has led to some explosive "you don't care about your kids at all you self centred prick" conversations.Right now, I need to accept what has happened and move on with my life as honestly as possible while still making sure I'm 100% there for my kids.So where does that leave me and sites like RedHotPie...Well, I have a pretty high libido - I crave not just the sex, but the sensual company of sharing sex with another person. Porn is a cheap second cousin to one-on-one intimacy. While I'm online here, pouring my heart out or chatting with people, I don't feel the need for porn - I'm getting the social interaction which I crave.But to be perfectly honest - I'm here to meet people I can share intimate encounters with. But as I said before, not at the expense of cheapening the experience.I now know that RedHotPie et. al. are not (as they claim) 'instant hook-up' sites. No female here is going to read the profile of a new guy and jump his bones in the next 24 hours. It's all about developing a true and honest reputation of who you are - warts and all. If nobody here can accept me with my all my flaws (some of which I can fix, others which are permanently a part of me) then so be it. Have I wasted my money - no way. I'm learning more and more about myself every time I come here and chat to people.I've been chatting to a bi-sexual guy on another site (I think I accidentally hot-listed him and he had a look at my profile). Turns out that was a pretty good mistake to make (and not because it's going to lead to any type of sexual encounter). We've been bouncing light-hearted banter of each other for a few days. I hope we meet up for a drink because he is a seriously interesting guy. I can tell he's completely comfortable with who he is and is happy to share in that comfort.Although I have had far less involvement with him, I feel that Mischeviouslad is the same - He knows who and what he is and whatever flaws he has, he has embraced them. Maybe I'll be lucky enough to meet him one day, but suffice to say, I am thankful for his advice and support.And thank you all for giving me a well deserved swift kick up the rear and letting me pour my heart out as a result.
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Respect. And good luck on the road ahead. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
You already appear more attractive than your first post. I had a partner who was very into porn. After a few bad experiences it was quite demoralising... We had been apart for a couple of days and it was my birthday, we were due to see each other that night (I was house sitting for a friend) I was really looking forward to seeing him, so called in at our house to find him 'rubbing one out' to one of his MANY magazines (pre internet times) Another time I got a really good porn movie from a friend, we were getting into the swing of things (doggy style lol), he pushed my head down into the bed and said "move, I can't see the TV", big deal, you may say, but it made me feel like I might as well have been a hole for him to fuck while watching the porn. I had previously shared porn with boyfriends, and it had never made me feel this way, it had always been an enhancement to our sex life and usually forgotten about once we started getting it on, then perhaps watched afterwards, had never really felt like the main course... Thank you again for the insight to your struggles
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