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What happened to phone calls
January 09 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
... nothing can replace the effect that looking straight into the eyes of the chosen other... and feeling the effect.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree a call or video message to begin with definitely 😄 I hate to admit it but I'm a texter. I can read messages when I feel like it. The fact that I don't know how long a phone call might take turns me off answering it. Usually I'm in the middle of something even if it's a train of thought. My phone is mostly on silent, but I'm using it most of the time... 😬😋 If it got anymore serious than FWB, then definitely calls are better because I usually have lots to catch up on with an actual bf. Haha the sound of their voice does matter then! A lot goes on for me in one day, mostly inside my head lol I decide what to share. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
...the subject of radio...I occasionally listen to commercial stations whilst working and they advertise some interesting stats for its marketing appeal in Australia. I won't search for all of them, but apparently 78% of Australians listen to radio each week...for an average of 19 and a half hours each. No other advertising medium comes close. And 80% of listeners then visit the website pertinent to the add.That's huge! And off topic. Sorry. I will text a person, but preferably not for long. I don't believe it was intended for that. I prefer to talk on the phone...there's something clinical about texting and icons that misses nuance and detail. Besides, I'm confident enough in my ability to hold the flow of a conversation. Texting gives an excuse for unnatural pauses and thinking over a reply before sending it. Real life's not like that.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I dont like texting but love talking on the phone. Its more personal and I like hearing the sounds of my families or friend voices. My man and I talk on the phone most nights when he is away, usually for a couple of hours.
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Wickedmiss
8 years ago
I must admit I love giving and and receiving a dirt text in the middle of a somewhat ordinary day ... the excitement and tension that builds from there can be exhilarating or disappointing depending on the response. And this is the problem with texting it can so often be misinterpreted or misunderstood... I have found that those who choose texting as their main source of communication, lack depth and willingness to have open and honest communication. There is nothing to compare with the sounds of your lovers voice ...
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VillainNVixen
8 years ago
Text/messages are best for initial contact. No requirment to be fully involved at all times when other things are on or risk of saying anything inappropriate with workmates/public around. Id generally keep using it for sex only meets. Where there is a connection though nothing beats talking, hearing the impact of your voice and words on the person on the other side of the conversation. It also avoids interpretation and missing cintext which as we can sometimes see in forums can be quite important
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RHP User
8 years ago
I second everything she said, and then add that I find phones very difficult to relate to. I need to be able to see someone to have a real conversation, so if face to face isn't an option I prefer text or Kik. For me, talking on the phone doesn't add intimacy, just accentuates distance. I'm happy to do it if a partner really wants to though.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'keentoflirt' Id generally keep using it for sex only meets. Where there is a connection though nothing beats talking, hearing the impact of your voice and words on the person on the other side of the conversation. I don't feel this differentiation, but also, I don't really fuck anyone if there isn't a connection.
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lovman8
8 years ago
But , for me, a phone call and actually hearing a voice with all it inflections, nuances and tones is a much better way to communicate. And prior to meeting a person it is much more easy to sense there may be some of that mysterious "chemistry" with a phone call. Smoke signals may be good , especially if a woman is really HOT!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is lost in text. Those exquisite subtleties that let you know that the chemistry is there. You can't aquire that in a text. The sharp intake of breath when you say something deliberately perverse or the music of laughter at a well delivered pun or joke. I've had some seriously hot phone sex while living in London and my lover was in Melbourne. The sigh of longing, the groan or growl of orgasm. I think it's much easier to get a feel for someone in a call. If there's no phone chemistry is going to be a fizzer over drinks. That said, I wouldn't want to get tired up on the phone talking indefinitely either. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
8 years ago
Love to talk to people face to face, getting to know them and their story. I have mastered the art of conversation, I can talk about anything, I ask a lot questions and I am an open book. I also don't mind talking on the phone if I know the person, I don't do it often tho. I really am quite terrible at staying in touch with family and friends, (so much so I had to set an alarm on my phone to call my son once a week). I seem to text more than talk on the phone, but I am still pretty shit at staying in touch even with text. 💋
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RHP User
8 years ago
i like it when a guy want to call me because i will not meet if he only txt me
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_in_Sydney' Texting. I really dislike talking on the phone as I'm both a complete introvert (and it seems to come with the territory), and I need visual cues to go with words. I'm not a phone talker, only do it when I really have to. I don't talk on the phone prior to meeting someone for the first time (and have never had any problems using my particular screening methods), and don't do it with FWBs. Face to face, text, or email / messaging on here.
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MrPlayful
8 years ago
Rarely? I'd beg to differ, but that's only what I'd think.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Generally speaking, most of the time I prefer text, for reasons highlighted above, I'm too busy to be talking on the phone and find it intrusive, sometimes annoying. A text I can reply when I'm able, or flick a quick reply saying I can't talk now, maybe later. I particularly dislike them calling straight up, without texting first. I have to answer my phone and I find it sometimes comes across as pushy when they keep calling. Different if a connection is already made and on the flip side, this is where mixed feelings come in, phone calls can be all revealing, dodged a bullet a few times with what followed after they opened their mouth 😉 some funny stories there but won't embarrass them by putting it on here. So I still text but aware that it is advisable to hear their voice at least once before meeting. And then there are sexy accents 😊 mmm
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sweetgem
8 years ago
Texting briefly with someone new, then arranged to meet in person, if mutual attraction was there. Then would have no issue with continuing to communicate via text messages if things were still good after we have met. Therefore, for me, meeting face to face, and then texting, would float my boat more :) but now I am no longer doing that. There's no need for me to do that as I'm off the market :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
8 years ago
I reserve phone calls for really close friends. For some strange reason, I find phone calls intimate. The more I like a person, the more I want to hear their voice. Sadly, I had an ol' FWB that I really wasn't too keen on, but who wanted to talk on the phone whilst I didn't. I wanted to keep a distance, ie. no phone calls, only msgs, but he wanted to call and talk to me all the time. Sometimes, he'd call more than once in a day. I really did not like that especially since phone calls can come when I'm in the middle of doing something or thinking about something. When I'm at work, I absolutely cannot take / make any personal phone calls because of no mobile reception in one job, and being on the move all the time in the other job. I found phone calls from people whom I'm not close to really disruptive. My mobile is on perpetual silent / vibrate mode so I often miss calls anyway. I love my peace! I have to deal with large numbers of people constantly when I'm at work and my jobs require me to talk a lot and be extroverted and sanguine, so when I'm off work, I relish not having to talk much and being able to unwind and be back to my introverted self. Msg'ing also allows you to multitask. I often have long, chatty msg'ing with my friends on Whatsapp. Sometimes we record our voices to send to each other, plus you can share photos of whatever you are talking about. In a way, Whatsapp'ing can be kewl.
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inspirit
8 years ago
I dont speak to family after hours unless I'm feeling guilty for not answering their calls so its txt messages for me and I'm one of those shit head people who generally doesn't txt back straight away. 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
A hopeless texter..and I always want to talk on the phone before meeting anyone. The sound of someone's voice,their ability to hold a conversation ,these are the things that are to me,far more important than what someone looks like. And some voices ,whether they are male or female can put me in an almost orgasmic state...:)Q
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Mischeviouslad
8 years ago
To me, especially in here, voice call verification is a must. However in the more traditional world of meet/obtain number...... text serves a very real and handy purpose...Text can do what a call can't.... and that is cut through someone's busy and distraction filled day.... IF you know how to use it. Most don't. And end up wondering why they get ignored or ghosted. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Coz I'm a bit slow and texting gives me time to be a smart arse. Or a sexy arse.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'wickedmiss'I have found that those who choose texting as their main source of communication, lack depth and willingness to have open and honest communication.how wide outside your own experience would you apply that though? and did you mean people who "text" as in "txtspk kthxbye"? I and a lot of people prefer text because it isn't a requirement to be immediately attended to in order to have communication. I don't want to speak for others, but I include email, forum posts, etc with "text" since they're similar in terms of the requirement for immediacy. I find an in-depth conversation can be on any medium - though some suit it better than others (e.g. twitter can be tough if you don't want to link outside your tweets). I think better use of emoji symbols within text makes up for a lot of missing interpretation cues that you would be more likely to get in a face to face conversation. e.g. ;) :) :p (I don't get much extra value when the emoji is showing a 'thing' versus when it shows a modifier like a wink so I know something should be read in a certain way - I think that has been lost in all the recent additions to emojis) My phone is always on silent, I only like phone for something that requires an immediate response. kool: since switching to podcasts almost exclusively, not hearing that advert is something I've quite enjoyed!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I find texting can be so misconstrued, what comes out of your head, into the text, I have found can be so easily contorted, but then when that happens I start to think maybe it's some dude playing games instead of the woman in the photos. I was watching one of those "Catfish" shows the other day, whilst chatting to a "girl" that really opened my eyes. I suppose it's so hard for a lot of guys to get any attention, that they turn to posing as a girl to get the attention that they crave (even if it is from a guy) I seem to be getting off topic don't I. Back on topic, I'll try to strike up a conversation, then I'll be replied to with a string of acronyms and some kind of half assed English text. I don't know, txt sux but you have to start with txt before you get someone's number.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I was meeting guys off here, after chatting for a while and they found out I was Scottish they always wanted to talk on the phone to hear my accent! It seemed to do the trick though
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
Either way. But phone calls aren't that common anymore. Texting seems to be the norm. And as other's have said..sometimes I don't have the time to just sit and chat/talk. But I do I have one friend I look forward to talking to now and then. And I will comfortably sit back and talk to them, sometimes for hours. - Posted from rhpmobile
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
I'm an introvert, and feel enormous pressure talking to someone on the phone without the opportunity to think about what I'm going to say. I'm far more comfortable talking to people I know, but when I'm starting to get to know people I prefer messaging or texting. I get that there can often be misunderstandings due to the lack of facial expression, intonation, etc, but for me it's worth it for the peace of mind I get from not feeling rushed in an interaction.
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
I missed your comment before my post above ... I don't know, you'd have to ask the people I communicate with, but for me, the time afforded me in a text based communication allows me to be more present in the communication, allowing for honest and open interactions. The people I'm closest to in my life, I have in depth ongoing text based communications with. It's not the only way I communicate with them, but it's a valuable way of me maintaining and developing relationships with people. If i had to rely on voice conversations, many of my relationships would flounder before they started, due to my lack of confidence in new interpersonal relationship.
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RHP User
8 years ago
..in an instant can reveal more than hopeless 1000 letter texting. LOL ... of course I have been told a few times that I have one of ''those voices'' and do speak at least one other language that is supposed to be a panty dropper. Oh well. As a conjunctive, I quit texting and if we can't talk after a few messages back and forth simply blow it off for an experience to add to what we learn along the way. I've already written a couple of books.... just not on this subject. Best... Midnight
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ladies ur wish is my concern beautiful colours God nature - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I also like word salad. Purple Monkey Dishwasher
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RHP User
8 years ago
A banana this colour
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RHP User
8 years ago
Unfortunately I recently lost my phone and along with it all my phone numbers. So to those who have my number, sorry to say I've lost yours.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I must agree I hate texting, much rather have a voice...how tedious is texting plus you can't convey inflection via text
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Obi1kenietzsche
8 years ago
I love text in the morning, text at lunch time, and text in the afternoon. I also love tinging in the tower, and just titting about in the hot tun. On a side note however, you CAN invoke inflection, and nuance, and tone with text if you take the time and you have some sort of connection or relationship with the recipient. It's also about time and context, many people just don't have the patience. Xx Obi1
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RHP User
8 years ago
Great topic Op. I to agree that a sexy voice and intelligent funny conversation will have more impact on someone then continual txt. After all txt if dragged on to long can become tedious and boring. Most people am sure get free talk time these days? but how much do we actually use. ? Much prefer to actually meet in person regardless if it's just a coffee with a friend. You can't fuck your mobile or computer ? Unless I've missed some new technology lately. ? So when your out of luck with no more answer's. Phone a friend. lol p.s Just txt them beforehand to check they can chat. lol 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
I find it funny how some are saying talking takes time lol I personally hate texting normally and prefer a phone call . It doesn't allow people to contrive an answer and you get immediate results both in question and answer .On saying that , I always text first asking if I can call or supplying phone number (bit hard to call without it) as it may be more intrusive than a text .
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RHP User
8 years ago
What are they? Haha I only ever call my mother and my boyfriend (sometimes) All my communication is via social media and text. And at work via email although I do received calls from others. :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree that phoning can take less time and is more to the point than endless texting back and forth. But not everyone understands that a quick call is a good call and they I have to spend ages listening to someone talk. Ain't nobody got time for dat!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I much prefer voice calls over texting and messaging... It just takes up so much of your time otherwise.. And I just prefer to hear someone's voice, especially if it's someone I care about..
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