M46
What is or isn't cheating ???
July 14 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you honestly think any of what you describe is not cheating OP.Of course there is the Bill Clinton defence re bjs and Monica....it wasn't really sex so it didn't really count. Why not talk to your fiance about your proclivities before you marry,if you don't and she finds out ,then you are both heading for a whole lot of pain I imagine.x Hugs H
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not get married. You don't have the maturity to make a decision like marriage. As long as you don't mind if your Mrs gives some random guy a blowjob then no you're not cheating. I think you're trolling. No-one, but no-one is this stupid.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There's a very simple test to tell if something is cheating or not.Ask yourself: Do I need to hide this from my partner?If the answer is yes, then it is cheating.Is it cheating if you have cam sex or get a blowjob from somebody else, and keep it a secret from your fiance? Hell yes!!Think for a moment how your fiance would react if she found out. Would she scream and cry? Would she leave you? Is that really worth the risk?Why don't you instead try talking to your fiance and see if she wants to be involved. Maybe not right away, but over time she might come around to the idea of the two of you going on cam together, or even swinging with others.
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
Dan Savage. What you've described is cheating. How you chose to proceed at this crossroads will define who you are. If you truly love your fiancé your number one concern should be her not your dick. Only true honesty and trust will result in having cake and eating it with no-one getting hurt.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ask your fiance........if any of what you have written is "crossing the line" in her eyes..then its cheating...and after all, its her eyes that matter......rite ?? And also turn the tables and ask yourself would you consider it cheating by your girl on you , if your fiance was having naughty sex chats with guys online, shared raunchy pics of herself and was webcamming - and then every so often she hooked up with a guy to receive ONLY oral sex from him and NOTHING else went down (as if) , that inNO WAY would she reciprocate the act (Good luck finding a guy open to that happening.......NOT) What should you do ????, you already know the answer but it would appear that you doing what you want to do anyway....the best person to give you advice on this issue is your fiance who "you love like crazy"...the real question is do you ??
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RHP User
12 years ago
cheating is deception, having your cake and eating it too will eventually ruin what you have a at home. Yes all of the above is cheating .
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
Quoting 'MsVelvetblue' Ask your fiance........if any of what you have written is "crossing the line" in her eyes..then its cheating...and after all, its her eyes that matter......rite ?? And also turn the tables and ask yourself would you consider it cheating by your girl on you , if your fiance was having naughty sex chats with guys online, shared raunchy pics of herself and was webcamming - and then every so often she hooked up with a guy to receive ONLY oral sex from him and NOTHING else went down (as if) , that inNO WAY would she reciprocate the act (Good luck finding a guy open to that happening.......NOT) What should you do ????, you already know the answer but it would appear that you doing what you want to do anyway....the best person to give you advice on this issue is your fiance who "you love like crazy"...the real question is do you ?? VB...I have actually met a few guys in my lifetime that have given me oral ONLY and never wanted anything back! It was great...I had on the lingerie and they kept all their clothes on and stayed zipped up! You should find a guy like that out there....there are heaps of them that LOVE it!! Hugs...xFunlovingx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with Del - it is deception and therefore cheating. No grey area here, if you're hiding it then there's a reason. MsVelvet also makes a very good point - how would you feel?
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RHP User
12 years ago
If your partner doesn't know, then yes its cheating. Can anyone really argue that copping a blowjob via an internet hookup while your fiance is in the dark about it does not constitute a complete betrayal?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Here's the deal I make for you Dazza: I work in NSW.. you live in NSW.. I catch up with your fiance and give her a couple of mind blowing orgasms with my mouth eh? you send me her phone number, and I go to work seducing her. You lay there,while you are getting your head.. thinking of me down between your girls thighs.. Licking, sucking, kissing, nibbling.. fingering.. Then, you be at work one day.. thinking about me doing her all over again.. on your bed.. while you work.. Nah mate: that isnt cheating at all... Lets do it eh? shit man.. I will take the deal up.. wife-unseen I am not judging you Dazza: I am ALL FOR equality... that girl who wants to blow you?? when she Fcks you?? I will be driving cock into your fiance... Cool eh.. I LOVE non cheating couples :) caveman
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RHP User
12 years ago
I haven't responded to the forums for a while but this one has me wading in. Your response to cagey will be interesting - I'm curious to see how you react to the thought of her doing the same as you and if you would think she is cheating. Your profile makes me wonder if you are not as 'in love' as you are trying to convince us you are! It appears that you are saying I'm single and if someone good comes along I won't be single anymore .... Well I don't feel that engaged to be married is single, but perhaps you wish you were. I think you might need to step back and reassess where you are in your relationship. married life is tough enough without embarking into it with a serious dishonesty and desire for a 'secret life' between you. The cheating that's your choice....l. My advice for watts worth ... Be honest with yourself first ! Sassyme xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
anything that makes you ponder "Is this Cheating?" - is DEFINTITELY cheating.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Gold Cavey... Pure gold!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I once read somewhere, if you dont get caught its not cheating. If you get caught, thats cheating. Thats what I read, anyway. What do I know about these things. I'm just a horny toad.
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RHP User
12 years ago
VB...I have actually met a few guys in my lifetime that have given me oral ONLY and never wanted anything back! It was great...I had on the lingerie and they kept all their clothes on and stayed zipped up! You should find a guy like that out there....there are heaps of them that LOVE it!! Hugs...xFunlovingx Yeah look there probably is but I still think its rare (although Id love to find a tongue that I could slip and slide all over during my lunch break and give my knees a break !!! ) but I still think most blokes would like some sort of reciprocation (what do you think boys ??) but have to say so far, in answer to the OP's question...I think Cavey summed it up better than we all did !!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I didnt read past "without my fiance knowing" . Thats already "cheating"
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think everyone resonates that your are cheating... Might not be what you want to hear... but it is the truth
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RHP User
12 years ago
A couple of years ago I found out my husband of then 10 years had been cheating on me for about 6 out of the 10 years. It was not the fact that he had been having sex with other people that hurt, but the fact that he had been hiding it and lying for so long. We are still married, have a very open relationship, and all is much better. Is it cheating? Such a subjective area....Is it lying and deceiving by not telling her about it? Most definitely.
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RHP User
12 years ago
makes me think that you know the answer already.
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RHP User
12 years ago
you already have cheated by what you are doing, so two options keep doing your thing and living in fantasy land and spoil this relationship or bring her in on it, who knows it may be just the thing to put that spark back in your relationship, have you asked her if she wants to play? its lots more fun when you play together I don't even think about being with another girl without my partner
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ahhh you poor fool, yes its tempting the old blow job with no strings. Its just the tip that goes in and if you don’t really look, and your blow over the pot plant. Yeah could be a ummm yeah ok let me consult my huge book of " I did not really have sex with that woman" volume 25 along with " But it meant nothing honey" book two. "The chronicles of its just oral its not sex" and finally " She made me do it honey" and my all time fave " I was pissed at the time" On line sexy stuff is a real trap, and if your on here looking for some slap and tickle then you will get some slap across the ear hole if you get found out. To be honest hon, if your looking around already then its time to think about what your doing , unless you aim to have an open relationship. Though I also do get men that have needs outside of their marriage as not everyone’s life is black and white. Just call me Mrs Shades of Grey. Cavey hon, can you use me as a crash dummy, just to see if that works. If its in a cave is it really sex?
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RHP User
12 years ago
My view ... it's cheatingCheating on an emotional level and a physical level as well. But here's the thing about cheating ... either you make a choice to cheat or others view it as cheating like everyone here,now as for you ... I have friend's who will happily go to their local and pay ... is this cheating, too me yes ... too them no if their wives did the same my friends would say they are cheating. You could be like them you believe that what your doing isn't cheating.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Amazing how some MERE/MALES come up with stupid/ idiotic questions.R...
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RHP User
12 years ago
funny.. MereMales... wasn't there like a weekly page of MM stories in one of the Women's weekly magazines years ago? is that still there? They were DAMNED funny :) ANYWAY.. Dazza: You are the hot topic here... Don't worry about these lovely people... I am still dead keen to explore your Fiance and see IF we can find YOUR boundaries on "Not Cheating..." (I am such a neanderthal.... how do I get that little THINGY over my "e" like you did Dazza?) caveman..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are you HOME yet????? I am keen to chat... (What happens in a cave.. will STAY in a cave) and my new place looks like i might find one in amoungst those HUGE rock outcrops :)
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
I think that is a resounding yes from everyoneQuoting 'cavey50' funny.. MereMales... wasn't there like a weekly page of MM stories in one of the Women's weekly magazines years ago? is that still there? They were DAMNED funny :) ANYWAY.. Dazza: You are the hot topic here... Don't worry about these lovely people... I am still dead keen to explore your Fiance and see IF we can find YOUR boundaries on "Not Cheating..." (I am such a neanderthal.... how do I get that little THINGY over my "e" like you did Dazza?) caveman.. Caveman, Couldn't help but crack up over your generous offer of assistance
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RHP User
12 years ago
"yes I fucked her. I fucked her, yes I did! But baby, I make love to you."
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Zsuza69
12 years ago
Quoting 'ToyWithMe' There's a very simple test to tell if something is cheating or not.Ask yourself: Do I need to hide this from my partner?If the answer is yes, then it is cheating.Is it cheating if you have cam sex or get a blowjob from somebody else, and keep it a secret from your fiance? Hell yes!!Think for a moment how your fiance would react if she found out. Would she scream and cry? Would she leave you? Is that really worth the risk?Why don't you instead try talking to your fiance and see if she wants to be involved. Maybe not right away, but over time she might come around to the idea of the two of you going on cam together, or even swinging with others. I think doing anything behind your partners back is cheating even web chatting.Be honest with your partner and tell her everything you been up to if she is the woman for you she will be excited with the idea of you getting off with another woman especially if she can watch and join in once you have fullfilled your fantasy. if she says anything different dont marry her.been there done that and it wasnt fun for 13 years. then i met Mrs Zsuza and we tell each other everything and try to accomadate each others fantasies. and thing couldnt be better. Oh and we are not married and we will never get married again.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Posting something like that on this forum...havent you been around long enough? Havent you been paying attention? You is gonna get crucified....... ANYTHING YOU DO WITHOUT THE KNOWLEDGE OF YOUR FIANCE...THAT SHE WOULD NOT LIKE YOU TO DO IS CHEATING! If you can not tell her about it...dont do it...simple really! Ask her if you are crossing the line because some of us have different lines....Now I dont care where my partner gets his appetitie from...so long as he eats at home. The line for me gets crossed when he starts thinking about meeting someone else. When he actively starts ringing and texting them with the veiw to meeting...but in another persons eyes...that may not be cheating at all because he has done nothing physical or sexual. Like Cavey said...how would you feel if it was her on line, her chatting to guys, her thinking of having oral sex with another? Are you okay with that? Really?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why are you thinking of getting a blowjob from someone else? Does you fiance not give you what you want? You like the attention you get from other girls when you are online so it sounds like something huge is missing in your relationship. Why are you even thinking of marriage if she doesnt make you happy and satisfied in the bedroom?Either stop cheating with the online stuff or dont get married. I dont think you want to get married anyway or you wouldnt be doing this in the first place.
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
Really save this poor women that is about to marry you and have kids a break save her 15 years of hell putting up with you. YES ... your already cheating and before you take another women down your cheating path comunicate talk say what you want and fantises... not just in a chat room or on cam... keep it real mate...GGGRRRR i fucking hate post like this 2nd one today to get me angry
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RHP User
12 years ago
Most people are okay with a perve or attraction to someone it seems- perhaps even fantasising about someone. Porn is generally accepted but not by all. When it becomes physical there seems to be an issue and that is in any form including touching and kissing let alone oral!!! Cam chat is a bit grey- you are communicating on an ongoing basis with another- it crosses a line if your partner is unaware.That is why I practise an open relationship- because to me attraction and connection to others is natural- and so is honesty to my partner... deception is unnatural to me.Cass xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ah mate, there is no vanilla here - our minds are open to 3sums, swinging, sex parties and well, just look at the forum topics. Does your fiance have an open mind, or is that why you feel the need to hide yours from her? . Pivotal times young dazza....choose wisely, now.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Cheating implies, hiding or secrets of some sort. Whether it be hiding information like phone numbers, or emails or physical aspects like looks, smiles or other aspects. Stepping past that boundary from knowing to not knowing is the ultimate step of cheating, whether we choose to do that with intention is another point of issue. Hiding anything from a partner, and anything is a loose term of negotiable means, hiding your feelings is the ultimate betrayal, hiding reactions to another person appears trivial but has deeper meaning.Candy :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
for me im very loyal cheating is chatting to a person yr partner doesnt know about or talking to on phone or chat sites etc or meeting for a cuppa handing yr number out if yr partner doesnt know and u havent informed them or asked them yr intention isnt honest watching porn or looking at mags etc i dont think is cheating but if yr hiding it from yr partner again why are u if u cant b open and tell yr partner everything then yr doomed to failur secrets bring nothing but bad things in a relaionship but this is my view if yr partner isnt given u affection or sex or is away or is disabled or isnt into what u r or whatever the million excuses u give why u think its ok and justified to see talk to chat up txt phone sex cam sex even just masterbating whatever the person cheating thinks isnt cheating if yr yr doing it behind yr partners back knowing they would b hurtand betrayed then u have cheated or attempting to or doing it again this is my view
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
See communicating and honesty can and will work,,, but you have passed the point of no return for your poor girl Dazza... btw your profile says single .... oopppsss i forget gggrrr Quoting 'multiples_xxx' Most people are okay with a perve or attraction to someone it seems- perhaps even fantasising about someone. Porn is generally accepted but not by all. When it becomes physical there seems to be an issue and that is in any form including touching and kissing let alone oral!!! Cam chat is a bit grey- you are communicating on an ongoing basis with another- it crosses a line if your partner is unaware. That is why I practise an open relationship- because to me attraction and connection to others is natural- and so is honesty to my partner... deception is unnatural to me. Cass xxx
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YoungOne91
12 years ago
How i see it is if its something your embarrassed or scared to tell her about then yes. I got no problem with doing stuff as long as the other side knows about it. And as a lot of people are saying if you have to ask about it you probably already know the answer.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yep, that's cheating alright! If you're hiding it from your partner then you shouldn't be doing it. How would she react if she knew about what you were doing? Even camming with someone could be considered cheating if your GF doesn't know about it or is ok with it. If you're hiding it because you know that she will be heartbroken by the information, that's really low and you shouldn't be doing that. BJ's are still a form of sex and once you do that, then you definitely are cheating.
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RHP User
12 years ago
.... decide what's more important to you. A blowjob from a random woman, or your fiance, you know, the one your crazy in love with.of course it's cheating... but you already knew that
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RHP User
12 years ago
i have read this and all comments... i think if you are chatting on line and looking at naughty pics...this is not cheating...in my book...no different to looking at porn... how ever stepping over to the touching side of things ... THIS IS CHEATING...if you truley love her do not do it!!!!!! be honest with your feelings of enjoyment, when looking at naughty pics... let her know, try it together, you both may enjoy the out come...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I could be WRONG But your going to do it anyway and it isnt any of our business ...Until you asked and now you will be brow bashed for asking...I mean fuck me come on Is it Cheating .... it is when your cock is buried deep in her Gob... Yes doesnt it matter to us NO... will it matter to your wife to be ....If she finds out I would suspect YES ...But Cavey will help you there by having fucked your wife before you cop a Blow and Go Suck it up princess Go do what ever you want to do and accept the penalty if you get caught like a man.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Go for it, and when your Mrs finds out she can come be consoled by us :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'wowwow11' I could be WRONG But your going to do it anyway and it isnt any of our business ...Until you asked and now you will be brow bashed for asking...I mean fuck me come on Is it Cheating .... it is when your cock is buried deep in her Gob... Yes doesnt it matter to us NO... will it matter to your wife to be ....If she finds out I would suspect YES ...But Cavey will help you there by having fucked your wife before you cop a Blow and Go Suck it up princess Go do what ever you want to do and accept the penalty if you get caught like a man. But the bride to be is gonna get badly hurt.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with you Candy - hiding your feelings from your partner is the ultimate form of dishonesty and undermines the relationship. I think it forms true closeness and trust to disclose who you (generally speaking) are perving on, fantasising about, express who you have attraction and feelings for ;) as well as what you do virtually and in reality :) No secrets with the one or so that you love ;)Cass xxxQuoting 'candyman76' Cheating implies, hiding or secrets of some sort. Whether it be hiding information like phone numbers, or emails or physical aspects like looks, smiles or other aspects. Stepping past that boundary from knowing to not knowing is the ultimate step of cheating, whether we choose to do that with intention is another point of issue. Hiding anything from a partner, and anything is a loose term of negotiable means, hiding your feelings is the ultimate betrayal, hiding reactions to another person appears trivial but has deeper meaning.Candy :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yeah it's cheating.Asking whether it is or not seems odd, as its so clearly the case I have to wonder on what planet we'd find someone who said "nah mate, totally legit".Now if you are one who is inclined to cheat (and I'm not judging, go for it if you want to) then you have already made the mistake of posting about it publicly, whereas any cheat worth their salt knows full well to keep that sort of caper right off the public radar; the only people who should be any the wiser are you and your intended hook-up.So what you are going to do, just have the basic decency not to get caught, as not only do you compromise yourself by posting here, if yuo get busted you will also possibly compromise the other person too, and thats uncool.
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RHP User
12 years ago
My wife and I have a very open relationship. We have had fun with others a lot of times. We play alone and together. Alone play is ok with us if we tell each other before and after! One time just before christmas, she left her phone with me while she went to the shops, a message came so I opened it, mistake??? Well we have no secrets!!??The message was from a guy called HONEYPLUM> I had never heard of him, the message " was sorry sexy but I will not be able to meet tonight and my wife isnt going to work...sorry I will make it upp too you soon!!! XXXX and many licks.reg" I looked at some of the many messages they had sent to each other over the past 6 months, things like I want to suck your cock tonight, he is at work so come over if you can, there were many more like that. I asked her about these messages when she came home, and I was the one in the wrong for looking through her phone!!!! She called the cops and got me kicked out of my house!!! I went back several days later to find this Reg bloke in my bed!!!!!! we broke up over this....so yes I think you are cheating!!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
How do the cops kick you out for looking at her phone messages. There has to be lots more to this story.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
12 years ago
no more to the story, she was pissed i caught her out, cops always take woman's side!! No violence involved
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'feloniusfossil' How do the cops kick you out for looking at her phone messages. There has to be lots more to this story. Cheers FeloniusAgree fossil, that's a weird post by one8one. Would love to here to here the "real" story to this one! lol
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justforthefun44
12 years ago
Why are you on this site ??does she know you are on here???
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RogueGeek
12 years ago
cheat verb (used with object) 1. to defraud; swindle: He cheated her out of her inheritance. 2. to deceive; influence by fraud: He cheated us into believing him a hero. 3. to elude; deprive of something expected: He cheated the law by suicide.verb (used without object) 4. to practice fraud or deceit: She cheats without regrets. 5. to violate rules or regulations: He cheats at cards. 6. to take an examination or test in a dishonest way, as by improper access to answers. 7. Informal . to be sexually unfaithful (often followed by on ): Her husband knew she had been cheating all along. He cheated on his wife. noun 8. a person who acts dishonestly, deceives, or defrauds: He is a cheat and a liar. 9. a fraud; swindle; deception: The game was a cheat. 10. Law . the fraudulent obtaining of another's property by a pretense or trick. 11. an impostor: The man who passed as an earl was a cheat. Cheers,MS
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RHP User
12 years ago
heres a clue...if it upsets her in any way.... you are doing the wrong thing.......... oh, and whose pictures are you sharing? yours? or hers? either way, if its without your loved ones explicit permission and consent, its a breach of trust. there should never be anything you do on your own...that you cant or couldnt do with and in front of your fiance. what would i do? not get married to begin with...... Mike.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Spanke'Those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. exactly..... and those who have nothing to lie about.....tell no lies. M
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you don't think you will be satisfied and happy with this girl, whether you believe you love her or not, don't get married. It would be unfair to you and to her. Better to end it sooner than to have it disintergrate later when there will likely be more complications (children, mortgage etc.).
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DonnaBrett
12 years ago
Haha...the song " Eatin' aint Cheatin' " by Steel Panther comes to mind here...Youtube it !!
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
Quoting 'DonnaBrett'Haha...the song " Eatin' aint Cheatin' " by Steel Panther comes to mind here...Youtube it !! Haha... i was thinking the same thing Donna... did you get tickets for SP? I always ask are you single always get the answer yes, then a couple more messages i work them out. I just found something by accident last week that with one thing about them i see there real face book page. The last few weeks ive got a just engaged guy?? another one has two new kids and a wife ... and some how im meeting up with an indian guy as well..... so many fakes on here Im not into being a 3rd wheel in someones hassles at home, play together or dont reply to me one day i might just get pissed off enough to tell the unknowing partners....Keepin in real i say
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RHP User
12 years ago
yes cavey , I think ... he likes to play ? me too !!! my hubby ( first ) was a player , it doesnt feel nice , put yourself in the other shoes,how do you feel if she does the same . if she is ok with it , go ahead .cheating is cheating .but again are you cheating if you are not in a relationship ? means if you only have a boyfriend coming every weekend ? if you dont live togetheR ? WHERe THE COMMITMENT START / when you live together? when you are married ? when you see someone in regular basis ? thats my conflict... I Im in essence a loyal person , I expect the same.you wanna play ? I play too.FAIR ENOUGH.iI told my recent boyfriend that I was still going in to the site and talking to other people , love the forums, and is my right to exercise my freedom, as he knows dont feel I am cheating.love to exchange thoughts and have erotic conversations , at the end I go home and he sleeps with me... is just like reading an erotic novel...and never go out with married man ... being in the other side....not nice at all
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nortiesecret
12 years ago
cheating is everything and anything intimate or personal you do with a person without your 'primary' partner knowing (and that includes those who enjoy an open relationship...) cheating is also the greatest sexual taboo, enjoyed by millions ever since church and state conspired to mould a social paradigm that dictates we humans be monagamous for life :) - a social equation that urges compliance and meets many fundmental requirements.. but not all ;) some people seek to be tied up, others dominated. some like orgies, while others play on both teams. some only play in the bedroom in the dark, yet many will enjoy carnal joys in a public park.... these are all sexual taboos. Different sections of society frown or smile upon them... just don't hurt the unknowing and everyone is happy :)
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nortiesecret
12 years ago
Quoting 'ApolloThirteen'"yes I fucked her. I fucked her, yes I did! But baby, I make love to you." I would argue there is indeed a difference :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear'People who have posted about the pain their partner's cheating has caused them in the past, yet they have no compunction about moving on and doing it to some one else. No matter the reason given to us by the cheater for cheating, how much are they to be believed under the circumstances? Yes, some reasons are sincere I'm sure but it must be considered there are always at least two sides to every story. I don't get the people who get all moralistic on other people about imagined sins as they see it, yet are blissfully ignorant and even proud of their behaviour of sleeping with married men (bearing in mind the two sides to every story scenario). This includes the people who look down on people in open relationships (who are at least doing it with each other knowledge and approval). Late night thoughts after the freakiest day I've lived in a while. am with you here on this one....why would anyone 'cheat' after being cheated upon....and experiencing everything one goes through???.... i find that pretty...amazing, to be honest...
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RHP User
12 years ago
So you think it is not cheating? If you put the shoe on the other foot would you then think it was being dishonest and cheating? Should your fiance do exactly what you are doing would you think it ok? Would you not be hurt? Quite frankly you may not be ready to settle down and need to be absolutely honest with her, better to hurt her now than after you get married and you still get these urges. It is emotional cheating and the fact you want to meet this other chick says heaps In the heat of the moment there is no turning back and whilst you say it is seemingly innocent and you would not go any further, I do not believe you as you already have the intention of meeting this person and getting turned on by it all. YOu either grow up quickly and appreciate what you have got or call the whole thing off. It is cheating whether you have had sex or not. Again, would you think it was cheating if the shoe was on the other foot and your fiance was doing exactly the same thing as you are doing to her right now? she does not deserve this and you need to be honest with her now.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Curiosity piqued ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't know a single person that does not agree that, even in a relationship, you should be able to keep some things private. Actually I don't agree with that. But I talk a lot and shit comes out.. But most people do agree with it?So here's the shizzle.fun4dazza is getting his rocks off with a few randoms on the net. Why can this not be one of those things he's allowed to keep private? In a relationship, the most important thing is weather both people want to be there. You hear people bang on about trust. But I actually think trust is something many couples put quietly to one side and wheel out as a road block to communication when a disagreement occurs.Look dazza, If I were you I'd talk about sexual liberties with your most important woman. But I'm not about to jump on the "Look at this immature troll" band waggon.
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RHP User
12 years ago
HELL YES!!i've been in this situation and it is more the fact that he felt he couldnt talk about it to me. I know now he is still on "dating" websites. He states its not the act but the trill of the thought.In my opinion it comes down to respect. You are hiding it from her and THAT alone is cheating. I agree with others on here " how would you feel if you found out she was doing the same?"
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RHP User
12 years ago
You know the answer to your own question already. The reason your asking is because you think if you get support and acceptance from others, You won't feel so bad about yourself if you do do it. Take it from a married man with children my friend, your not ready for marriage mate. Secrets
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sex does not define love, being truthful, open, unconditionally accepting, emotionally faithful, kind and respectful of each others needs, desires and feelings (and seriously intending to be there throughout your partners life) is love. Therefore no sex act is really classified as cheating if you are 100% open and honest with each other. Experience and share your kinky little lives together and gossip about the bits you spend apart, she may be open to experiencing a new sexual freedom together
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are you serious OP. Mister let's get married because that seems the done thing at my age??? As sick as Cave man's idea is, he is spot on. What's good for the goose..... I bet we all wish we had your poor fiance's contact details so should could be made aware of the betrayal she's getting herself in for. No worries if she's aware and totally cool with it, but if you thought she would be okay about it you would have spoken to her. Grow up and take a cold hard look at yourself....for your sake and hers. Quoting 'cavey50' Here's the deal I make for you Dazza: I work in NSW.. you live in NSW.. I catch up with your fiance and give her a couple of mind blowing orgasms with my mouth eh? you send me her phone number, and I go to work seducing her. You lay there,while you are getting your head.. thinking of me down between your girls thighs.. Licking, sucking, kissing, nibbling.. fingering.. Then, you be at work one day.. thinking about me doing her all over again.. on your bed.. while you work.. Nah mate: that isnt cheating at all... Lets do it eh? shit man.. I will take the deal up.. wife-unseen I am not judging you Dazza: I am ALL FOR equality... that girl who wants to blow you?? when she Fcks you?? I will be driving cock into your fiance... Cool eh.. I LOVE non cheating couples :) caveman
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RHP User
12 years ago
You are engaged and on your profile state you are single!!!Lies and deceit.....it's CHEATING not only to your fiancée but yourself as well!!If you don't believe in KARMA - NOW YOU SHOULD!!!!Next bite you get won't be off your fiancée - IT WILL BE KARMA, IT BITES HARD!!! Does you Fiancée know you're even on this site?? SUPERFOXAKA_- SUPER TURNED OFF by men who are in relationships that lie, cheat and deceive their partners to get what they want.
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