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What is romance to you?
June 29 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
Its not something that interests me. If a man wanted romance I would suggest he went elsewhere.
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RHP User
9 years ago
More mystery, more spontaneity, more intimacy. Doing something nice for each other. Less of the wham bam and more lovin. ;-)
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RHP User
9 years ago
You to pay more attention to them..spend more time ...not just physically with them but connecting with them..it's not about flowers or chocolates or all those stereotypical lazy gestures,...it's not being taken for granted xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
and I'd figure to mean them. To comment when they look good, to offer to cook to clean up rather than them possibly constantly doing that! I tell my wife I love her several times a day. Text her and tell her you're thinking of her. It's worked for me for 14 years lol, I think ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm a bit of a cynic on this one, but I guess it depends on the person in question. For most, it's cheesy gestures like gifts
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's being authentic, showing genuine affection and emotion
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madotara69
9 years ago
laugh, smile, shivers up the back and the hair standing up with goose bumps and all that jazz . They want their fancy tickled "Floating, falling, sweet intoxication! Touch; trust; savor each sensation! Let the dream begin, let your darker side give in to the power of the music that I write - the power of the music of the night" . ............./\./\ Mado /``\ (black ears and matching cape doing karaoke ) ........|...\.^./...| ......./....|.B |....\ ...../...../......\.....\ Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
God knows just be up front and tell him we are not good at mind games...women will say the lawn is getting a bit longa man needs and wants to hear clear precise directioncan you mow the fucking grass.
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RHP User
9 years ago
we don't mind a please thrown in every now and then either
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RHP User
9 years ago
I assumed it was the man asking actually. They do get bored of the wham bam and often want more. Staying over cuddling and all that .... Stuff!
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RHP User
9 years ago
with Freya and Fit73. More affection and emotion and not being taken for granted. Oh, and I find that guys do like cuddles, too.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Not sure where boring came from? Def shouldnt be in there
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RHP User
9 years ago
i think its the little things more attention, not taking the other person for granted - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Taking the time to kiss her, touch her, listen to her, cuddle, caress and hold her. Giving her a full long sensual massage. Running a bath for her complete with aromas and bubbles. Romance is about showing affection and appreciating every moment with her. Keeping her warm on these cold nights. Falling asleep together. Taking the time to cook her favourite meal. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
..... thoughtfulness .... originality ..... lust .....
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'll just buy her a Danielle steel box set....that way she can enjoy her romance; and I can enjoy the serenity 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You can have romance without fucking.You can't have romance without a connection. Personally, I just love romantic fucking. I'll caress and kiss your ass before I fuck it...
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RHP User
9 years ago
To me it is very personal - since what drives someone giddy is different to what another loves. But to me it would be getting back under someone's skin and finding and tweaking about with all the things that they love and how they like to feel appreciated. Might be writing something on their back when they're cooking; scrawling lipstick message across the mirror, tucking knickers into their pocket, make a surprise booking for their favourite massage or restaurant ... spending time getting into their head and making them squirm.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Exactly what it is they would really like?? that way you can really hit the so called nail on the head.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Romance is flowers and candlelit dinners....and stuff.... I used to want all that but it never happened and now the thought of it makes me awkward!
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Said it before.... received some.... interesting... responses. Romance...The socially acceptable (PC) way of describing seduction.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Giving up the TV remote when ur footy teams playing. Not much romance in this house I'm sorry to say ;) The remote stays firmly hidden from her prying hands.
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madotara69
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Said it before.... received some.... interesting... responses. Romance...The socially acceptable (PC) way of describing seduction. I think romance/ seduction helps to develop the PC, purely based on passion.... so probably up for being generalised again.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Flowers, fancy restaurants and mini-breaks that are a credit card and phone call away, in our modern day consumerist world, where society tells us the appropriate days of the year to celebrate romance. Romance is about connection. It's an invisible piece of the ether that cannot be seen, only felt. I've been in relationships with men over the years, proclaiming their love, and so called adoration for me. Anyone can say they love you, adore you, find you attractive, can't wait to spend time with you again. It's a man's actions that are a true indication of his feelings toward you. Words are cheap and easy to come by. The way a person acts and treats you speaks volumes. As the saying goes, "Actions are louder than words." I've ended every single relationship I've ever been in, because ultimately I felt I was the one being left as the constant decision maker about absolutely everything. I felt utterly unappreciated, and a doormat. I've ended up on a few dates from here and 'vanilla' sites with men who have turned out to be married. As I've patiently listened to their laments of being in loveless marriages, it's almost as if a veil is lifted for them when you ask, "When was the last time you shipped your kids to a baby sitter for the night to just be together." "When was the last time, you ran your wife a bath, lit a candle for her and poured her a glass of wine, to go with it." "When was the last time, you lay on the couch together and massaged her feet, and just talked." "When was the last time you had sex, and thought about just giving time to your wife rather than worrying about your own fulfillment." Every single one of them answered never. It was a revelation to all of them that the women in their life, perhaps just wanted their time, and attention. The man who is present to actually being with you, and who conveys that, rather than just being there in the same room as you, is a rare breed indeed.
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RHP User
9 years ago
DG,the origins of romantic love lie in chivalry where the object was not to have sex with the chosen lady..Romance and seduction are not synonymous.. no matter what the pick up artist fraternity believe.😁xxFreya
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Miss Freya........point out where I ever mentioned sex....... ?! To reference chivalry as the origin for romance is to suggest that women are not romantic. Or that animals are incapable of gestures which we humans perceive as romantic. Not sure why you've chosen to reference pick up artists..... I guess you have some issues there...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'The_3somes' Giving up the TV remote when ur footy teams playing. Not much romance in this house I'm sorry to say ;) The remote stays firmly hidden from her prying hands. ...there isn't a better way of showing you care about someone than by making a sacrifice. And I'm not talking about a lamb at the next full moon. Even a little bit of self-sacrifice shows conviction in your intentions.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think the important thing is that we all shouldn't get complacent. Regularly seduce your lovers. :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Romance is a smile and saying I love you. Romance is not slashing her tiers so she will not leave.Romance is not tracking down her exs and letting them know how much she loves me.Romance is not always being late, and arriving just before she gives up and leaves.Romance is not always sending a sexual inappropriate emails and photod, so she will never show anyone what I say.Romance is not making a big deal over her birthday on the date of your ex's birthday.Romance is not always reminding her that if she keep trying one day she may give head as well as the ex.Romance is not making her pay for all the bills.Romance is not reminding her every day that condoms stop filthy whores spreading disease and that's why I use them.Romance is not stories about what a cow my ex was, and how much you remind me of her.Romance is not always taking the lions share of food to make sure she does not get fat.Romance is not telling her that the dress makes her look awful what were you thinking, when on the way home.Romance is not always getting her name wrong during sex.Romance is not insisting that she comes along when stalking my ex.Romance is not having only the most unflattering images of her on all my screen saversRomance is not not adding her as a face book friend and keeping my status as single.Romance is not telling her how lucky she is as nobody else would ever want her.Romance is not always noticing pretty women and saying i would drop you in a heart beat for someone hot like that.Romance is not never lying about anything ever.Romance is not making her walk behind me in case anyone sees me and thinks she is with me.Romance is not telling her I only went out with her because I was told she was an good root, and my mate is a lying sack of shit.Romance is not telling her, you will never meet my parents, They have standards you know.Romance is not reminding her how great life was before we met.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Dicktionary definitions of seduction are about sex...what Is your definition of seduction,oh the non vanilla one that is..seducing a woman to do..? 😘xxFreya
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' Dicktionary definitions of seduction are about sex...what Is your definition of seduction,oh the non vanilla one that is..seducing a woman to do..? 😘xxFreya Was that a Freudian slip? Maybe I see why you're hung up on Seduction being purely sexual. However.... have you ever been Romantic... with a non sexual partner? Or was that merely thoughtful behaviour.
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RHP User
9 years ago
DG that yo don't answer my question 😌xxFreya
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Missb4u
9 years ago
of someone asked me for more romance I would think they wanted to be treated special, to know I was thinking of them at different times throughout the day, that I cared enough to do things for them that I knew they liked or were into. To me it's about not taking them for granted and making an effort.
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' DG that yo don't answer my question 😌xxFreya Given that the topic asks "what does romance mean to you"... I kinda did already.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes you said seduction,but what do you mean by seduction...wiggle,wiggle 😀😀😀xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
Great answers and some funny comments. Ive never heard a man ask for it before so it kind of threw me but I understand now.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Have we met? 😀
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Freya...... its open to interpretation by the individual. To me.... seduction is the process to create interest, to entice, to attract..... And a slice of cake can do all that..... but Ive never felt like having sex with cake.
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RHP User
9 years ago
When I was a lot younger........16 my boyfriend bought me 1 red rose on our 1st month anniversary. Then 2 on my 2 nd, then 3......you get the drift. The 1 st rose he thought was really romantic and I had tears streaming down my face. That happened ever time. I finally had the heart after 8 months to tell him that, although the gesture was really appreciated and very romantic, I did have hay fever!!!!! Yep, the tears were a reaction of the worse kind. And although I out grew my hay fever I have never outgrown my hatred of red roses.I lived with a guy when I was older and he always forgot my birthday and Christmas ( don't ask!) So my idea of romance was remembering them!!!! As I've grown older my idea of romance is now the small touches. Letting me have a lie in while he sorts the kids for school, sharing the household chores, old fashion chivalry like opening the door, pulling out a chair. Brief touches while at home. A soft carress while passing each other. Simple really.
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RHP User
9 years ago
but it seems to be a race to the bottom Sometimes if a question needs to be asked then an explanation can not be given
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RHP User
9 years ago
... causes me to blush when it comes to romance If I didn't know him well enough to know what that meant to him, I'd just ask him.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' ...there isn't a better way of showing you care about someone than by making a sacrifice. And I'm not talking about a lamb at the next full moon. Even a little bit of self-sacrifice shows conviction in your intentions. What an awful shame. I have a spit here, along with copious amounts of oregano, garlic and red wine....... The lamb is sounding good. Ba Ba Ba.....
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Rubenesque_Red' Have we met? 😀 Ghost of boyfriends past, maybe... LOL
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RHP User
9 years ago
True. The lamb roast might not be traditionally romantic...but it could still win a few hearts. Especially the boys...
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RHP User
9 years ago
I love a good roast, even better when its being cooked for me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Forget the boys! Lambs my favourite meat.......apart from the obvious!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Tom Cruise or a lamb roast? A young Naomi Watts knew the answer to that one.. But yes, I'm not cooking for the boys. Mint sauce ladies...?
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tylannister
9 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' True. The lamb roast might not be traditionally romantic...but it could still win a few hearts. Especially the boys... I was thinking that the spit roast might not be traditionally romantic...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Tell her/him how she/he makes you feel Prioritise them Honesty And fuck the living day lights out them regularly 😁
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Freya...... its open to interpretation by the individual. To me.... seduction is the process to create interest, to entice, to attract..... And a slice of cake can do all that..... but Ive never felt like having sex with cake. is the time to lick the cream off the top of the cake in front of your partner, share the remaining cake with them, seductively, then begin the slow feast on other things . If you've already indulged her in the bubble bath with wine and candles burning, with soft music playing, and given her a shoulder rub this could probably be called a romantic seduction . Note: hogging the blankets after this and snoring is not a good ending to the romantic interlude and serving her breakfast in bed the following morning, and cleaning up the kitchen afterwards will make a lasting impression so be sure to do this regularly, lol.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I guess it is a personal thing, so it varies from individual to individual. Again, after getting to know each other, I think romance is doing the things she likes and appreciates...being thoughtful of her. I know winter is nearly done, but an example would be to offer her a jumper or coat without being asked when she is cold. Also, I believe that being romantic often explores the deeper side to a person and the connection shared. So things like being open and being able to talk with her about things that are close to your heart and for her to do the same. To have that feeling of mutual trust and respect. Also on the fun side I do believe in being able to share laughs and adventures. It's I guess being able to be cheeky in and out of the bedroom too on that level.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It can mean simple things like - holding hands - whispering sweet nothings into their ear - buying them a small gift that shows you were thinking them (something sexy you can both have fun with) - an unexpected sexy sms during the day to put a smile on their face - a sincere compliment - cook them a meal, set the table with candles, some good wine, nice music and a slow dance after dinner - hugs and cuddles. Really its anything that you know will make them feel special and stand apart from how you treat everyone else. LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'mylordstoy1' Tell her/him how she/he makes you feel Prioritise them Honesty And fuck the living day lights out them regularly 😁 I like your work, keep it up (pun intended, though sorry, don't know whether I'm replying to he or she here, not to worry)
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