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What is sex ?????
August 04 2011
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RHP User
13 years ago
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xFunlovingx
13 years ago
I suppose everyone has their own interpretation! I used to see a married guy for about 4 years (on and off) and all he ever did was go down on me and me go down on him....he never saw it as "cheating" unless we had sex! We had sex once in the whole time we were seeing each other! Go figure! But shit he was good with his tongue!!! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
yes
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RHP User
13 years ago
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ruby_blossum
13 years ago
....just ask Bill Clinton.
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RHP User
13 years ago
really?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Skippy78'What is sex??? | If you have the chance to meet a woman from New Zealand...get her to start counting and right after five, you'll have the answer. | Sorry, my bad...back to the topic.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' Quoting 'Skippy78'What is sex??? | If you have the chance to meet a woman from New Zealand...get her to start counting and right after five, you'll have the answer. | Sorry, my bad...back to the topic. We all know that after five there is half a dozen ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' Quoting 'Skippy78'What is sex??? | If you have the chance to meet a woman from New Zealand...get her to start counting and right after five, you'll have the answer. | Sorry, my bad...back to the topic. We all know that after five there is half a dozen ... OK so wrong post but Fi, that's a very smart posting :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
...so I probably could only have 6 with half of them at once. | Quoting 'fionabee'We all know that after five there is half a dozen ... | And I think you owe a lot of Kiwi women an apology....I've been there and there are a way more than just a half a dozen very hot looking women there. | Here it comes....there 66,666 of them.
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Skippy78
13 years ago
same say No and some say yes iam by the looks of what i read its seems we all have a diffent idea on sex as for charles defined in the Oxford that makes no cents only there are the sex orangs but it dont really say if playing with them is sex
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RHP User
13 years ago
They all are so if u cant tell your partner u want more bail out and dont mess with peoples head
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' Quoting 'Skippy78'What is sex??? | If you have the chance to meet a woman from New Zealand...get her to start counting and right after five, you'll have the answer. | Sorry, my bad...back to the topic. gets me going like a NZ accent!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Actually.... your descriptions are about physical acts.... if you go around groping ladies breasts behind your partner's back, I'd say the broader community is going to immediately agree that you've been cheating.The tricky bit come with other forms of gratification.... is wanking cheating for instance? Some women think so... that to think that their husbands or boyfriends wank, believing that they're all that is necessary to soothe their man.What about looking at porno? Well, some women think looking at porn is cheating for much the same reasons... how dare he look at another woman... what's up with me? she thinks.... What about going to a strip club and watching girls dance naked... maybe play with their own pussy a little bit... rub their own tits.... same again... some women think that's cheating.What if one of them gives you a lap dance? Oh god yes. That's definitely cheating!! They'll say.What if you go out for drinks with the pretty girl from the office? Oh yes. That's cheating she'll think.What if you watch that pretty girl have sex with her friend? damn, that's cheating.. you bastard!What if she shows you her leg and flirts? cheating.What if she smiles at you when you walk passed? cheating.What if she flicks her hair in your direction on the bus..Pisses on your foot...lets you fuck her elbow....so on and so forth....I think you can assume that cheating is when your partner will feel distressed by your actions with respect to some other person... so this reveals two important things... 1: if you feel bad, it's probably wrong. 2: if she cannot ever know about it... it cannot hurt her. So read your porn in private.Hugsstalky
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Skippy78
13 years ago
thank u that mad a lot of cents but in my eyes its dont go in its not cheating
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RHP User
13 years ago
Do not contact women who have stated they are not interested in married or attached men. We prefer to sleep soundly at night and leave our self esteem intact. We also do not want to hurt other women.
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xFunlovingx
13 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Actually.... your descriptions are about physical acts.... if you go around groping ladies breasts behind your partner's back, I'd say the broader community is going to immediately agree that you've been cheating.The tricky bit come with other forms of gratification.... is wanking cheating for instance? Some women think so... that to think that their husbands or boyfriends wank, believing that they're all that is necessary to soothe their man.What about looking at porno? Well, some women think looking at porn is cheating for much the same reasons... how dare he look at another woman... what's up with me? she thinks.... What about going to a strip club and watching girls dance naked... maybe play with their own pussy a little bit... rub their own tits.... same again... some women think that's cheating.What if one of them gives you a lap dance? Oh god yes. That's definitely cheating!! They'll say.What if you go out for drinks with the pretty girl from the office? Oh yes. That's cheating she'll think.What if you watch that pretty girl have sex with her friend? damn, that's cheating.. you bastard!What if she shows you her leg and flirts? cheating.What if she smiles at you when you walk passed? cheating.What if she flicks her hair in your direction on the bus..Pisses on your foot...lets you fuck her elbow....so on and so forth....I think you can assume that cheating is when your partner will feel distressed by your actions with respect to some other person... so this reveals two important things... 1: if you feel bad, it's probably wrong. 2: if she cannot ever know about it... it cannot hurt her. So read your porn in private.HugsstalkySo true...I was watching a show on Foxtel the other day that had guys hooked up to lie detectors to see if they had been cheating on wives/girlfriends! One poor guy actually passed that he had never cheated on her at all!! BUT....when asked the question "Hypothetically, if you could cheat on your girlfriend and get away with it, would you?" Now this poor guy said No and the result was...."The lie detector test detected You were telling a lie"...Well, his girlfriend went over and bashed the absolute shit out him! I was shocked at the way she took this....If it was me, I would've laughed and said "Yeah me too"! Are you kidding me? He passed that he loved her, he passed that he never had sex with anyone else nor any sexual contact at all! And this woman went off her head????? Yet she wanted to call off the wedding over that stupid question! Some women do take it to the extreme and I think you are right Stalky...be careful you don't stand too close to that 90 year old woman in the crowded elevator...you might be cheating!!!!!! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks. It is a standard answer us Kiwi girls give when asked to count to 6. l l In answer to the OP. Cheating is anything that is gonna cause your partner angst. However, it is hard to define as if she knew you had laviscious thoughts about her younger sister and masturbated frequently with the next door neighbour in mind she may not be happy either and yet technically it is not cheating. It is...but only in thought and we all have the odd naughty thoughty...they are what fantasies spring from. l So tell us...did you get caught shoving another woman up against a wall, getting into a passionate kiss and fondling her breasts and now are saying you did not have sex with her because you did not get to play hide the sausage? You're trying to justify your drunken behaviour and say you didnt cheat arent you? You sly dog you.... Sorry but that reasoning wouldnt work with me either.
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RHP User
13 years ago
...do it in front of your partner. He/she will let you know.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think anything involving touch that's intended sexually is definitely going to be cheating. As someone said earlier, the Bill Clintonesque hiding behind definitions doesn't cut it. Besides, assuming for a moment that only intercourse counts as cheating, how long can people draw the line at oral before they jump to intercourse anyway? A couple of meets, maybe. Then it's going to be full steam ahead. . So the way I see it is anything where I touch someone else that's not a handshake, platonic hug or otherwise socially acceptable form of touch is going to be cheating - I don't even have to ask. The examples Stalky raised are good talking points and the key is to do just that - talk with your partner. I asked my most recent gf if she was okay with me reading fictional erotica. Yes. Okay with me reading true erotic confessions of people I could never possibly meet? Yes. Okay with me watching porn, again, people I could never possibly meet? Yes. What about cybersex online? No. She drew the line at that because I was an active participant, even if I could never meet them physically, and I agreed with that and thought that was very fair. I don't go to strip clubs but I think she would have been okay if I did for a special occaison, like a buck's night or something, so long as I didn't touch anybody. So no lap dance. (Besides, I've heard the bouncers kick you out in a none too gentle manner if you touch the strippers anyway. So what's the point? ) . So Skippy, if you're asking because you're in a relationship, either you have to pull your head in a heck of a lot (leaving RHP might be a good start) or you need to leave her before you hurt her and have a relationship with someone who can do the open relationship thing instead. Either playing the field is more important to you or she is. You can't have your cake and fuck the jelly too.
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xFunlovingx
13 years ago
Quoting 'Eatplaylove'Do not contact women who have stated they are not interested in married or attached men. We prefer to sleep soundly at night and leave our self esteem intact. We also do not want to hurt other women. My self esteem is very much intact and I sleep like a baby after I have sex with married/attached men! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Whatever makes you happy is good for you xFunlovingx.
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Skippy78
13 years ago
Girls/Guys If i had of know this would start a big debate i may not of ask the question. Its a forum to ask a question iam Single and have been to sex and swingers partys Iam also a cabby i was asked the question from a chick the other night and i said nope only if it goes in it is but iam o so wrong by the looks of this
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Actually.... your descriptions are about physical acts.... if you go around groping ladies breasts behind your partner's back, I'd say the broader community is going to immediately agree that you've been cheating.The tricky bit come with other forms of gratification.... is wanking cheating for instance? Some women think so... that to think that their husbands or boyfriends wank, believing that they're all that is necessary to soothe their man.What about looking at porno? Well, some women think looking at porn is cheating for much the same reasons... how dare he look at another woman... what's up with me? she thinks.... What about going to a strip club and watching girls dance naked... maybe play with their own pussy a little bit... rub their own tits.... same again... some women think that's cheating.What if one of them gives you a lap dance? Oh god yes. That's definitely cheating!! They'll say.What if you go out for drinks with the pretty girl from the office? Oh yes. That's cheating she'll think.What if you watch that pretty girl have sex with her friend? damn, that's cheating.. you bastard!What if she shows you her leg and flirts? cheating.What if she smiles at you when you walk passed? cheating.What if she flicks her hair in your direction on the bus..Pisses on your foot...lets you fuck her elbow....so on and so forth....I think you can assume that cheating is when your partner will feel distressed by your actions with respect to some other person... so this reveals two important things... 1: if you feel bad, it's probably wrong. 2: if she cannot ever know about it... it cannot hurt her. So read your porn in private.Hugsstalky Stalky, I think your post really highlights the difficulty with this question because we will all have differing opinions about what constitutes cheating and even for one person, he or she may believe something is cheating one day and not the next depending on who its with and the circumstances surrounding it. The interesting thing for me is how many people, when entering a relationship, actually discuss where this boundary is? I'm sure that there is discussion around 'are we in a relationship' and 'are we exclusive' etc but what really interests me is if that is ever defined. So a couple meet. The have a few dates and things move on. At some stage they decide they are in a relationship. They discuss their interaction with others and may decide that its fine, anything goes. No problem. But what about when the decision is "We're exclusive"? What happens then? Is going for coffee with someone cheating? Dinner? Movies? Holding hands? Kissing? The OPs 1,2 and 3? We can all have our opinions but I think so often in relationships, its never defined. And because of that lack of definition, we don't know where we stand until invariably we overstep the line and things turn to rat droppings. And after all that, if anyone is interested, I'd define cheating as anything that's done that I wouldn't tell my partner about. And I mean anything. So if I go for coffee with a woman and hide it from my partner, I'm cheating. Why else would I hide it from her?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Dont get your shorts in a bunch over a little debate. It is what makes the forums go round. A cabby hey...boy I bet you have some wild tales to tell.....
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Skippy78
13 years ago
I no but to me to me some people are giving me a hard time thats all it a good debate on a question people may no think about and yes being a cabby u hear a lot a see a lot eg people having a quicky in the back seat and so on
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uneventful
13 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Quoting 'Eatplaylove'Do not contact women who have stated they are not interested in married or attached men. We prefer to sleep soundly at night and leave our self esteem intact. We also do not want to hurt other women. My self esteem is very much intact and I sleep like a baby after I have sex with married/attached men! xFunlovingx Im with you xfunlovingx if they have no objection who am i to complain, provided their partner knows about it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think i just peed a little from laughter...Possibly the funniest line I've heard in a while! Oh and that other stuff you mentioned was spot on as well...!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Stalky I need to know about this elbow sex, is it gratifying, can you get tennis elbow from it, what is the best elbow- hairy or waxed. WIll an elbow thankyou in the morning and finally are there any Elbow related STIs Mr 2 a well known knee fetish lover
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks for clarifying Skippy. You're ok in my books then. Not that you need my approval. And trust me dude, the debates get more... intense. Although it looks like there are some posts which have been clipped, so I may be seeing the sanitised version. Hehe. Thanks for starting a topic and gettin' things going.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Let's hope the passengers don't leave too much mess on the back seat :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
why why why ??? i am a gay guy...my partner of 7.5 yrs decided to cheat on me while i was at work... is this just a gay thing or is over the board that it happins... makes it hard to trust again...or i am i just being silly... PLEASE HELP.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Skippy78, what is your perseption of cheating, if your partner was seeking pleasure sucking other cocks is she cheating or just having a fine time?
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Skippy78
13 years ago
i am going answer a few question from u all miss sub i dont care its fun in my eyes she can do what she wants at the end of the day she will come back to me and haveing fun with other guys. They maybe giveing her what i cant. A lot of brake ups happend because the sex lifes fails do we have to that point whats the point sex is a part of love and that stops that someting going happend for the worest not better urban he mate it happends to all as i said to mis sub we all have an opain u have have to ask why what am i doing wrong what can i do to make things better I happend to no a nz chick and showed her this and they say sex instead of 6 Girl tue I can see where u are coming from it would be betaryal so u saying that it would be cheating Eatplaylove i have to coplules at on the back seat when i catch them out they seem to stop real quick. One night i was told that a chick was giveing head he said u better not make a mess so she stoped Yes please What did u mean by your comments ???
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RHP User
13 years ago
Would u really think it was ok if ur partner did tht behind ur back? Theres ur answer.. If u wouldnt want ur partner 2 do it behind ur bk then dnt do it 2 them. N if it is ok.. Call me;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'd tell ya but I honestly can't remember. Isn't it some kind of perfume?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Rather than defining sex, perhaps Skippy should be seeking a definition of cheating. Can a person have sex (whatever the definition) and it not be cheating. I had an interesting discussion several year ago with a woman who was working as a prostitute (no I was not a client) and she commented about her boyfriend cheating on her. At first I could not help but chuckle. She quite rightly and sharply, pointed out that for her the two things were different. There is no emotional side with her clients, it was a simple physical act. With her boyfriend it was about passion and emotion. For her cheating was the state of mind, the intention, the mens rea for those who like it Latin. Perhaps Skippy it is not so much what you are doing, rather why you are doing it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
And after all that, if anyone is interested, I'd define cheating as anything that's done that I wouldn't tell my partner about. And I mean anything. So if I go for coffee with a woman and hide it from my partner, I'm cheating. Why else would I hide it from her? Well said ... I have to agree "anything" that you would not share with your partner would be considered cheating to me :) "Elle"
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RHP User
13 years ago
But Skippy I think Stalky's right Read your porn in private
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RHP User
13 years ago
"Eating ain't cheating, And don't you know that suckin' ain't fuckin'!"Great song! Tho I disagree entirely with what it says.. I too agree with MrPollux in regard that, if you are trying to hide something, You probably shouldn't have done it..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ive just come out of a 4 1/2 year relationship.. And its funny.. I would have been more upset if I found out he had another girl on the back of his motorbike than if he f*cked her... I can see everyones point of view on this... But cheating isnt about groping, licking and f*cking... Or even about meeting for coffee.. Its about lying.. And lying is what destroys alot of things in life.. Not just relationships..
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RHP User
13 years ago
ok so if you dont think THAT is technically cheating, what IF your husband/wife has sex with another of the SAME SEX, some dont consider that cheating....where do we draw the line, my theory is, if your interested in having sex with someone other than your partner, DONT have a partner..... vicki
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RHP User
13 years ago
All of those things are sex acts. What do you think queer girls/bi girls/lesbian girls do? We play with each others tits, eat each other out, and finger each other. ...unless you reckon those things aren't sex....in which case I'm practically a virgin...!!
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Skippy78
13 years ago
narrgirl 22 iam sigle by the way good times 22 i agreed wth u 100% the vikster i had a bi gf and i had a 3 some with her and another chick at a swingers party one night we had an open relationship guys thank u again for your in put to this may i add to me sex is like a cup off fine coffee somthing to enjoy till i find mrs right till then i keep haveing my coffee going back if i like or they will have me back
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RHP User
13 years ago
SKIPPY78........"the vikster i had a bi gf and i had a 3 some with her and another chick at a swingers party one night we had an open relationship".....THIS is different to cheating, if you do it together then its between consenting adults....you know FULL WELL thats what i meant.....lol vicki
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RHP User
13 years ago
How did it get to cheating wasnt it supposed to be bout wat is sex!/ lot of guilty/ burned people on here..Sex is the best n the worst things that have ever happened to me!, n its wat u want to make of it Sex makes us feel F@$#%*g unreall or if your not doin it right thing, make u feel like a dirty dog !!!its really up to the person but in my book ur always learning new things or ur definately not doin it right!!!!Mr Cheekycouple69s
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